You're the one doing that, stop projecting.

I simply gave my opinion, you do the same without fixating on my post because you certainly cannot intimidate me?

freecocoa:
As in eh, I was just marveled at the woman, she was then telling whoever was inside with her, that the man was going to the girl's place, for my mind I was like and you are here wasting credit untop the mistress whom he's prolly going to be bedding that night.

Confronting the mistress never ends well for the wife.

I no wan even talk about girls wey dey confront another girl atop boyfriend matter.

Now that she was screaming her life out, has it stopped her hubby from going back to the mistress? Has it stopped the cheating? NO!! you see why most nigerian women are taken to be stup1d?

beeevan:




Love the program.

You like Women who kill?

Nashville:


I said earlier, that confrontation does not necessarily mean physical fight. It could be a phone call. It could be calling her parents. It could be reporting in her office or pastor. Something to try to get back at her.

But the surprissing thing is that our Nairaland women sincerely think only the man is cheating. They want equality but not equal responsibility.

Actually I saw where you said that, I only reiterated it by asking again so the ladies commenting can see it and be sure - it was deliberate.

Going by the comments, the general perception is leaning towards 'a physical throw-down' as the only form of confrontation.

Sophyrocks:


Now that she was screaming her life out, has it stopped her hubby from going back to the mistress? Has it stopped the cheating? NO!! you see why most nigerian women are taken to be stup1d?

That will most likely push him farther away, if only our women will learn.

EfemenaXY:


For an affair between a married man and a single girl to take place, that man must be a willing partner. He must be willing to risk his marriage and health for it to occur.

A mature married woman would understand that the root cause of such a problem lies with the man. Chasing after his endless mistresses is akin to searching for the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It never exists - same way as running after / confronting his girlfriends is never going to resolve the issue. The piece of skirts he runs after aren't the problem, just the symptoms. The real problem lies with the man himself, wanting to get his leg over them.

If a man wishes to be snatched by a small girl young enough to be his daughter / granddaughter, then that in itself says a lot about the state of the union between him and his wife. Parting ways / divorcing should be considered, irrespective of whether they have kids or not.

As you know, it's so much better to be an alive, fit, and well divorcee than to be a dead Mrs sent to an early grave either through depression or her husband's promiscuity or even both.

Spot on!!

EfemenaXY:


For an affair between a married man and a single girl to take place, that man must be a willing partner. He must be willing to risk his marriage and health for it to occur.

A mature married woman would understand that the root cause of such a problem lies with the man. Chasing after his endless mistresses is akin to searching for the proverbial pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It never exists - same way as running after / confronting his girlfriends never going to resolve the issue. The piece of skirts he runs after aren't the problem, just the symptoms. The real problem lies with the man himself, wanting to get his leg over them.

If a man wishes to be snatched by a small girl young enough to be his daughter / granddaughter, then that in itself says a lot about the state of the union between him and his wife. Parting ways / divorcing should be considered, irrespective of whether they have kids or not.

As you know, it's so much better to be an alive, fit, and well divorcee than to be a dead Mrs sent to an early grave either through depression or her husband's promiscuity or even both.

Not necessarily. Love and sex are entirely different things. Love is enduring. Sex is momentary pleasure. A lot of women storm out of their matrimonial homes only to find that 'all men are the same'. They end up living and dying in solitude, frustration and misery because being too old, no man would have them. It is a lot easier for women in the west to make this decision because of financial independence which is why divorce rate is highest among them.

Sophyrocks:


Now that she was screaming her life out, has it stopped her hubby from going back to the mistress? Has it stopped the cheating? NO!! you see why most nigerian women are taken to be stup1d?

So while the husband is inserting his penis into the mistress, his wife's screaming will not be reverberating through his head?

What kind of sex is that where you are sweating like person wey see his dead great grandparents looking at him with ghostly eyes while he's having sex?


You folks have no experience of what you're talking about, you just want to keep your " dignity" while your husband is humping various women all over the place.

Or just say you do not have interest in fighting and the man is inconsequential to you anyway.

crackhaus:

Actually I saw where you said that, I only reiterated it by asking again so the ladies commenting can see it and be sure - it was deliberate.

Going by the comments, the general perception is leaning towards 'a physical throw-down' as the only form of confrontation.

So what if the girl then tells you ' madam get off my phone where did you get my no are you ok do I know you what's my business with you ' amongst other tongue lashings.

How has that helped anything or helped the marriage.Not saying she will but she is well within her rights to cos you called her .

freecocoa:
That will most likely push him farther away, if only our women will learn.

Nigerian women will remain learners sorry to say. When they are tired, you will see them cheating too. lol.

As you see me so, me i gat Ego too o. I got to boost it every now and then abeg. No time to check time.

tpia6:


So while the husband is inserting his penis into the mistress, his wife's screaming will not be reverberating through his head?

What kind of sex is that where you are sweating like person wey see his dead great grandparents looking at him with ghostly eyes while he's having sex?


You folks have no experience of what you're talking about, you just want to keep your " dignity" while your husband is humping various women all over the place.

Or just say you do not have interest in fighting and the man is inconsequential to you anyway.

What is wrong in the wife keeping her dignity while the husband runs around town in heat?
Tpia if you want to fight your husband's mistress, nobody is stopping you.

pickabeau1:



You like Women who kill?

Very lovely program,always watch it till they switch to psychic investigators. I usually hate the ones that feature women killing their husbands just to cover their cheating ways and get the trust fund. I love " who on earth did I marry" too. There is this one about a man murdering his who*re after trying unsuccessfully to break loose from her and save his marriage, the bit*ch presented a foetus to trap the dude, not knowing she just touched a life wire, you know the rest....


You love the program too?

tpia6:


So while the husband is inserting his penis into the mistress, his wife's screaming will not be reverberating through his head?

What kind of sex is that where you are sweating like person wey see his dead great grandparents looking at him with ghostly eyes while he's having sex?


You folks have no experience of what you're talking about, you just want to keep your " dignity" while your husband is humping various women all over the place.

Or just say you do not have interest in fighting and the man is inconsequential to you anyway.

Be very honest with yourself, has confronting/fighting mistresses ever stopped men from cheating? i dnt know where you are driving at.

damiso:


So what if the girl then tells you ' madam get off my phone where did you get my no are you ok do I know you what's my business with you ' amongst other tongue lashings.

How has that helped anything or helped the marriage.Not saying she will but she is well within her rights to cos you called her .

Lol, they keep on downplaying the confrontation to mere phone call or reporting to 'her' parents. lol As if a manic lover has any decency to respect a wife's phone call.

If the wife doesn't deal with the mistress..The mistress will deal with the wife..... They know these men are married n they are dating them majorly because of money..but somehow along d line they start to believe another woman's man is their final bustop..Sooo u advice the wife to just sit there n do nothing while some useless chic wage war against her..lai lai
I say Confront the bitch...she deserves more than a few slaps..but there are other creative ways of doing that n showing maturity wisdom n in control of the situation

Sophyrocks:


Nigerian women will remain learners sorry to say. When they are tired, you will see them cheating too. lol.

As you see me so, me i gat Ego too o. I got to boost it every now and then abeg. No time to check time.

I dey tell you walai. I've come to realize that, that ego of a thing is very important in one's life o.

I can't remember how many times it has saved me from certain things as regards relationships, it's done me more good than harm.

I must say though, one should always know where to draw the line.

But come to think of it, why do so many naija women have none? Ego that is.

freecocoa:
As in eh, I was just marveled at the woman, she was then telling whoever was inside with her, that the man was going to the girl's place, for my mind I was like and you are here wasting credit untop the mistress whom he's prolly going to be bedding that night.
Confronting the mistress never ends well for the wife.
I no wan even talk about girls wey dey confront another girl atop boyfriend matter.

The man will probably say to the mistress "You see the mad woman I have to put up with abi?" and the mistress will rub his big stomach and say "Sorry Baby I can imagine" while the wife is home going crazy dialing mistresses number calling pastor and sending text messages

aisha2:


The man will probably say to the mistress "You see the mad woman I have to put up with abi?" and the mistress will rub his big stomach and say "Sorry Baby I can imagine" while the wife is home going crazy dialing mistresses number calling pastor and sending text messages

Buhahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aisha2:


The man will probably say to the mistress "You see the mad woman I have to put up with abi?" and the mistress will rub his big stomach and say "Sorry Baby I can imagine" while the wife is home going crazy dialing mistresses number calling pastor and sending text messages

Hahahahahahahahahaha. The stup1dity of women!!! Apalling!!! Chai!!

damiso:


So what if the girl then tells you ' madam get off my phone where did you get my no are you ok do I know you what's my business with you ' amongst other tongue lashings.

How has that helped anything or helped the marriage. Not saying she will but she is well within her rights to cos you called her .

I'm just saying, a confrontation doesn't have to be a physical fight.

What happens, or how the other woman reacts, or the efficacy of 'confrontations' in general, is not where I'm driving at…but I get your point though.

And you can bet pastor and mama and whoever she calls will say "Ignore him, pray for him, when he gets back make sure his dinner is ready, do not question him, dress sex-y, if he asks for se-x give him" lmao, so she switches off her pain and betrayal enters zombie mode, cheating continues with husband getting rewarded on both ends.
While the women jazz, fight and fire each other

beeevan:




Very lovely program,always watch it till they switch to psychic investigators. I usually hate the ones that feature women killing their husbands just to cover their cheating ways and get the trust fund. I love " who on earth did I marry" too. There is this one about a man murdering his who*re after trying unsuccessfully to break loose from her and save his marriage, the bit*ch presented a foetus to trap the dude, not knowing she just touched a life wire, you know the rest....


You love the program too?

Not really
More like on off

aisha2:


The man will probably say to the mistress "You see the mad woman I have to put up with abi?" and the mistress will rub his big stomach and say "Sorry Baby I can imagine" while the wife is home going crazy dialing mistresses number calling pastor and sending text messages

Kai! This woman you too funny but all you've said is true, hard as I try, I can't understand how you think the other woman is the problem.

Like if she goes away, he won't find a replacement.

Mariecakes:
If the wife doesn't deal with the mistress...The mistress will deal with the wife.. . . . . Sooo u advice the wife to just sit there n do nothing while some useless chic wage war against her..lai lai
I say Confront the bitch...she deserves more than a few slaps..but there are other creative ways of doing that n showing maturity wisdom n in control of the situation

eod.

even the law makes it a crime to be the receiver of stolen goods.

in this case, mr wandering prick is the stolen goods and the desperate hoochie is the receiver, yet some people are saying she should just get a pat on the back and go scot free.

life is not like that, sorry.

Stillfire:


Lol, they keep on downplaying the confrontation to mere phone call or reporting to 'her' parents. lol As if a manic lover has any decency to respect a wife's phone call.

Some girls don't send anybody you are talking parents or pastor I know a lot of people think most naija gals date married men alot don't. Most gals who date married men or don't mind being side chics don't send the wife or main chic in the first instance so why should her ranting get at them

Except we are talking more vicious attacks like getting thugs to beat her up , acid attacks, getting her kidnapped etc I don't think confrontation by mere verbal means can make much difference.

I never dated married men because I always put myself in the position of the wife always.As a typical naija wake up gal I had married men who wanted to date me and I always used to think of their wives as one of the reasons I could never date them.So to date them or like dating them the girl no send, you abuse she abuse you back.

Mariecakes:
If the wife doesn't deal with the mistress..The mistress will deal with the wife..... They know these men are married n they are dating them majorly because of money..but somehow along d line they start to believe another woman's man is their final bustop..Sooo u advice the wife to just sit there n do nothing while some useless chic wage war against her..lai lai
I say Confront the bitch...she deserves more than a few slaps..but there are other creative ways of doing that n showing maturity wisdom n in control of the situation

Hehehe.

Go confront girl wey her own no good, your body go tell you.

freecocoa:
I dey tell you walai. I've come to realize that, that ego of a thing is very important in one's life o.

I can't remember how many times it has saved me from certain things as regards relationships, it's done me more good than harm.

I must say though, one should always know where to draw the line.

But come to think of it, why do so many naija women have none? Ego that is.

Oooooohhh. you are just like me. we are alike. This my ego ehn. Very very very precious to me o. it has also saved me from very huge ridiculous mistakes with men.

Well, all women have ego. but you know the problem? nobody to massage it for them. it also has a lot to do with their upbringing. instead they are taught to massage that of men always. Nigerian women are veeeeeery gullible and have been taught to not have one. Infact its a sin to have one. It only takes a reaaaaaalllly strong willed quality and huge dose of self esteem to be capable of massaging your ego. Once you dnt have any of these qualities, it would appear you dnt have ego. Reminds me of this beyonce's song 'Ego'. I love that song. It boosts my ego. lol.

Me, i dey massage my ego if nobody dey there to massage am for me o. Lol.

Stillfire:


Lol, they keep on downplaying the confrontation to mere phone call or reporting to 'her' parents. lol As if a manic lover has any decency to respect a wife's phone call.

so its ok for the mistress to be manic but not the wife?

if the mistress is manic and your man is still humping her regardless, what does that say?

she used juju on him?

crackhaus:

I'm just saying, a confrontation doesn't have to be a physical fight.

What happens, or how the other woman reacts, or the efficacy of 'confrontations' in general, is not where I'm driving at…but I get your point though.

I get you and Nashville but someone who is dating your husband does not send you in the first place.if you abuse her she abuse you except we mean vicious attacks to teach her a lesson e.g acid baths, thugs beating her up kidnapping etc.Or the wife begging the woman to leave her husband alone which frankly is a bigger insult.

Stillfire:


What is wrong in the wife keeping her dignity while the husband runs around town in heat?

what most of you are not getting here is IF YOUR HUSBAND IS RUNNING AROUND TOWN FREELY DISTRIBUTING HIS SERVICES LIKE A PUBLIC TAP, your dignity is already gone.

which dignity are you looking for again when another woman is busy showing off what is supposed to belong to you?

your "dignity" has vamoosed long time, you are still acting the emperor who wears no clothes, saying you have it.

if I want to fight my husband's mistress, she will definitely win

your choice dear.

..tpia....nåked empress

tpia6:


what most of you are not getting here is IF YOUR HUSBAND IS RUNNING AROUND TOWN FREELY DISTRIBUTING HIS SERVICES, your dignity is already gone.

which dignity are you looking for again when another woman is busy showing off what is supposed to belong to you?

your "dignity" has vamoosed long time, you are still acting the emperor who wears no clothes, saying you have it.






your choice dear.

I get what you are trying to say. So you will confront the mistress then what next? will it stop your husband from cheating? you have answered my question.