coogar:
the 6th item on the mother's list is cracking me up. so a groom is expected to buy undies for his potential mother-in-law in nigeria?

freecocoa:
Not everything on a list is mandatory, buy the ones you can and forget the ones you can't shior! imagine 'costly shoe' mscheww.

The people who write those lists see the marriage as an opportunity to get what they have wanted/want but can't afford, so it's all up to you and their daughter, if she's not ready for marriage then she should stay with her parents till someone who is ready to shoulder all her family's responsibilities comes along.

Btw OP, which one be say the parents of a girl should be happy someone is finally coming to marry their daughter? Are you doing them a favor or what?

SAMBARRY:

Na that one you go see

oniranu

2sexi:
dis mama never disppoint.

coogar:


why won't i see it?
i have to spend on such things to buy you like a piece of foodstuff while you are on NL claiming to be a feminist. can you not see the hypocrisy you immerse yourself into? costly shoe for FIL, undies for MIL. you better stay in the kitchen 24/7 after i manage to pay that kind of brideprice. if i hear the letter "f" before you even pronounce feminism, i would give you a dirty slap. your feminism should be paying your brideprice, not me.

coogar:


why won't i see it?
i have to spend on such things to buy you like a piece of foodstuff while you are on NL claiming to be a feminist. can you not see the hypocrisy you immerse yourself into? costly shoe for FIL, undies for MIL. what kinda MIL drinks 3 cartons of beer, a carton of hot drink & snuff? you better stay in the kitchen 24/7 after i manage to pay that kind of brideprice. if i hear the letter "f" before you even pronounce feminism, i would give you a dirty slap. your feminism should be paying your brideprice, not me.

SAMBARRY:
You and who?
sho wa mentally ok sha?
check next bus stop. Osharo Monday

freecocoa:
Lmao
The "carteen" of beer is not for the MIL alone, they use it to entertain their age grade or whatever union, you know you have to call a meeting to inform them your daughter's getting married.

coogar:


why won't i see it?
i have to spend on such things to buy you like a piece of foodstuff while you are on NL claiming to be a feminist. can you not see the hypocrisy you immerse yourself into? costly shoe for FIL, undies for MIL. what kinda MIL drinks 3 cartons of beer, a carton of hot drink & snuff? you better stay in the kitchen 24/7 after i manage to pay that kind of brideprice. if i hear the letter "f" before you even pronounce feminism, i would give you a dirty slap. your feminism should be paying your brideprice, not me.

coogar:


who started it or is your memory infected with ebola?



what kinda MILs drink beer & get high on snuff?
by their list, you shall know them. i don't mind buying ram, clothing items, tubers of yam, soft drinks for MIL. however, the moment i see beer, snuff, indian hemp, paraga, etc then the marriage is off. an old man once told me if you want to know what a wife would become, check out her mother.

freecocoa:
I agree that a girl's mum influences her life but that's not always the case you know, a bad mother can have a good daughter and vice versa so one shouldn't rush to conclusions.

Adults drink beer na, that one no mean anything jor .

coogar:


what about snuff?
isn't that the brown powder people sniff like cocaine?

freecocoa:
I honestly don't understand what that thing is all about, I hear it's tobacco, tried it once when a friend and I visited her grandma and almost died, Omo the thing do me like say them put pepper for my brain via my nose, come see sneezing na, my eyes come red like person wey them spray tear gas,highness I no kuku feel, that snuff of a thing na rubbish abeg .

freecocoa:

Btw OP, which one be say the parents of a girl should be happy someone is finally coming to marry their daughter? Are you doing them a favor or what?

freshdude2:
They can only be happy when someone is doing them a favour? Marrying of a daughter is not cause enough for happiness?

freecocoa:
Didn't you read the way it was phrased? Or you just want to quote me?

freshdude2:
You can choose to see what you want but you have to be sure before you credit people with your suspicions.

I did read what he wrote.

Are you saying there's a blessing that comes with quoting you? What am I missing?

freecocoa:

1. You are deliberately refusing to see what he wrote because it's very obvious, that's why I asked if you didn't see it or just wanted to quote me.

2. Before nko? There's a blessing that comes with quoting me na.

3. OP wrote "that finally someone is ready to settle down with their daughter" what does finally mean to you?

freshdude2:

1 & 3. Nope, I'd rather not jump into conclusion about something laden with meaning. You may suspect but give that suspicion life till it's reasonably proven. There's no logic to that conclusion of yours.
Finally could just that, finally, without any negative meaning, it could also mean that he thinks he's doing them a favour but we don't know that's what he meant for sure. Giving people the benefit of the doubt is a good habit, cultivate it.

2. Lucky me. What have I won?

freecocoa:
Not everything on a list is mandatory, buy the ones you can and forget the ones you can't shior! imagine 'costly shoe' mscheww.

The people who write those lists see the marriage as an opportunity to get what they have wanted/want but can't afford, so it's all up to you and their daughter, if she's not ready for marriage then she should stay with her parents till someone who is ready to shoulder all her family's responsibilities comes along.

[size=18pt]Btw OP, which one be say the parents of a girl should be happy someone is finally coming to marry their daughter? Are you doing them a favor or what?[/size]

2buff:


You better believe he is.
YOU are the one stuck in that situation. He as a man can simply go marry a different woman, from even a different culture or country that doesn't practice these archaic things and where parents actually have shame and aren't requesting for things like "3 WHITE PANTS/Underwear".

If he does that, na you go siddown remain for your papa house dey old dey go as you watch your friends getting married and giving birth to their 2nd and 3rd babies.
So you better get it right, he IS doing you all a favor.
You may say whatever you want to say to make it sound otherwise to save face, but you know it's true.

freecocoa:
You dey craze well well, like she can't decide to marry another man dumping your yeye a$$.

The same way you feel you can get another woman is the same way she can get another man, that's for women whose lives depend on marriage anyway, see this o, gone are those days o .