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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by gbaskiboy: 4:09pm On Dec 15, 2014

i have similar issue

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by tiswell(m): 4:09pm On Dec 15, 2014

Age factor is a big deal my opinion though

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by sexylogan(m): 4:09pm On Dec 15, 2014

JeffreyJamez:
Africans will be carrying age on their head like what I don't know......if he doesn't want he should leave the girl alone and stop wasting her time. MATURITY NO BE BY AGE. if there is love and respect and mutual understanding this shouldn't be an issue.....but the ego of "African man" would let them see road... mchew
.

PS:I dey vex this morning

Very very true.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Ade5(m): 4:09pm On Dec 15, 2014

Contrary to popular lingo, age is NOT just a number.

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by OLUJOSHINS(m): 4:10pm On Dec 15, 2014

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by UjSizzle(f): 4:12pm On Dec 15, 2014

I'm confused. Isn't age one of the preliminary things people interested in a relationship should know about each other?
How is it that just few weeks to the introduction, the guy finds out

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by kepal99(m): 4:12pm On Dec 15, 2014

Indifferent

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:12pm On Dec 15, 2014

Tell your friend to go and marry the girl.

Because, he will be full of regrets if he does not.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by kamez(m): 4:14pm On Dec 15, 2014

OP two yrs difference is not much.. If he loves her, he should go ahead..

As long as the lady in question is ready to respect and submit herself to the the guy.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Dec 15, 2014

Well everyone has got his or her choice to make, but if you ask me; i can't marry a girl older than me. I must be older than my wife with like 5-8 years gap...arrest my case... cry

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by 2scorehigh(m): 4:20pm On Dec 15, 2014

Well, well, well, I'd say it depends.

Speaking as a guy, I'll say it's better a guy marries a younger woman so that he would enjoy her youthfulness and she will enjoy his maturity.

But on a second thought, marrying an older woman will most likely guarantee a more stable and happier marriage free of turbulence because by then, the woman must have really and truly 'settled'.

But all the same, I still prefer a younger woman, though wink

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Koptala: 4:23pm On Dec 15, 2014

dudemax:
... But the problem now b say he found out dat the girl is 2yrs older Dan him. nd judgin from wia he is comin from I tink dia mite b wahala if he decides to let his pipol knw abt it. His question now is, should he go ahead marrying her? Does age really matter? Nd d funny tin is dat dis my guy has always being a strong critic of the above topic. He has always believed dat guys should be older Dan dia ladies. Now d tin don dey happen to am... Ur advise is urgently needed weda good or bad. Uncle seun pls help push dis topic. It's urgent!!!

Guy, if the above is correct and true about him and his people then there is only one thing to do;
He should forget about her and look for: (1). The one that his people will be okay with.
(2). The one that is younger than him since he believes in it.
Do not force or try to force him to marry against his principle and that of his people. Lest, the lady (and or the guy) will live to regret the all their lives.

Move on, guy!

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by dudemax: 4:33pm On Dec 15, 2014

thanks Guys for the advise. Well the lady in question is not looking her age presently now, in fact she looks way younger than her age. She looks like a girl in her early 20s sef. As for love, I believe she loves the guy sooo much that she might want to commit suicide if the guy says no. As bad as e be, I know say she dey very respectful and also very well read and sound. So as for disrespecting, I strongly doubt if she will do dat unless say devil come enta her in future. The only problem is that my guy feels its very abnormal which might keep him thinking for the rest of his life....

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:33pm On Dec 15, 2014

Seun:
It my might not be a problem for many other guys, but it is obviously very important to him, so I don't think the marriage will work. Every time she does something that seems disrespectful to him, he will think it's because of her age. Marriage is "forever", so don't settle for "less"

So on point!

But, age shouldn't be a problem. Africans only take that too important. I went on a family lunch yesterday, and the Canadian family that hosted me, while playing the game "qwirkle" together, I got to know the wife is 4 years older than the husband.

They're such a cute, lovely, and adorable family with 2 kids. It's not all about age.

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by adedayourt(m): 4:34pm On Dec 15, 2014

IDEALLY the guy sud be older than d babe, As this wud giv the both parties a sense of who masters who.

But in Reality it matters less givin the following. . .

The guy commands repect
The lady has d mindset of he owns me nd not am older dan him
They both LOVE one anoda
The guy is financially older. (Make she older fr age nd moneywise aint a good combo @all)

(Nd dey ar both on NL so dey can alwas get advice frm NLers)

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:34pm On Dec 15, 2014

It its oo, i can't even think about it, not to talk of introducing her to my family. Na chase dem go first chase me, then i'll become a laughingstock. I trust my sisters. Op he shouldn't try it. BTW what was he thinking wen he approached her. E don chop rat reach tail na now e know say the rat dey smell.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:39pm On Dec 15, 2014

If age is more important to him than a healthy marriage (he wouldnt be considering marriage if the relationship isn't healthy) then he can just leave her for someone mature enough to appreciate and commit to her.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Gbengazzee(m): 4:43pm On Dec 15, 2014

@ OP. Ask yourself this question, "Is this Lady, really what I need". If your answer is Yes. Please go on and do the needful. Two years difference isn't much a gap. I have seen a marriage, where the woman is older than the hubby with 3 years and they are living happily. What matters in marriage is knowing and performing ones responsibilities, respect and mutual agreements.

Even if you have the same age with the lady or you are older than her, it is not a guarantee that the marriage will work.

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Dec 15, 2014

Since he has to ask others for their opinion he should leave her. I don't think he can handle the age difference.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by tempem: 4:53pm On Dec 15, 2014

JeffreyJamez:
Africans will be carrying age on their head like what I don't know......if he doesn't want he should leave the girl alone and stop wasting her time. MATURITY NO BE BY AGE. if there is love and respect and mutual understanding this shouldn't be an issue.....but the ego of "African man" would let them see road... mchew
.

PS:I dey vex this morning

Bros Jjjjjjjjj, quite an age..... Your face scarce wella oh..

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by OrlandoOwoh(m): 5:00pm On Dec 15, 2014

Those of you saying the age difference, which is just two years, could make the lady disrespect the man, have you not heard or seen in the past where a man marries a woman that has given birth to upto eight children whose husband has died? In most case the woman could be nothing less than ten years older than the new husband. I know of a family in which the child from the late husband had started having children.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 5:08pm On Dec 15, 2014

ignis:
Ideally, the guy should be about 5 years older than the lady. If the lady is older than the guy, the guy will risk always being asked if her wife is her aunt after 2 or 3 delivery.

Note : When you compare male and female of same age, the female always look older (especially without makeup).

Unfortunately (or fortunately), the ideal world doesn't exist and that's that.
Age is an issue to some but not to others. I'm 6 years younger than hubby but I know some wives who are over 5 years older than their husbands and they don't seem to be less happy. wink

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Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by JeffreyJamez(m): 5:10pm On Dec 15, 2014

tempem:

Bros Jjjjjjjjj, quite an age..... Your face scarce wella oh..

You find me wey you no see me lol

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Hero10001: 5:13pm On Dec 15, 2014

If today's ladies tell their real ages, asunder go yapa..
I had a gf that told me she was 22, on getting to her home, i found out that her li'l sister is 22, even her elder sister was claiming she's 22..

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 5:14pm On Dec 15, 2014

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Kanyol(m): 5:16pm On Dec 15, 2014

Seun:
It may not be a problem for many other guys, but it is obviously very important to him, so I don't think the marriage will work. Every time she does something that seems disrespectful to him, he will think it's because of her age. Marriage is "forever", so don't settle for "less"

True! Since he has problem with the age difference there must be a problem someday that would refer to this

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Kanyol(m): 5:18pm On Dec 15, 2014

UjSizzle:
I'm confused. Isn't age one of the preliminary things people interested in a relationship should know about each other?
How is it that just few weeks to the introduction, the guy finds out

Because u ladies have the habit of cutting down ur age without using machete. Naturally, when a girl tells me she's 20 I add 2 or 3 years to it

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by kemiola89(f): 5:23pm On Dec 15, 2014

But seriously, did they just met? How did he skip the age part before the relationship got this far?

@Op, tell your friend to listen to his heart.

Re: Is Age A Big Deal? by Nobody: 5:26pm On Dec 15, 2014

chai! aunty you did not waste your good head in school, na your type i go like marry even if say you senior me sef .....because e be like say you no go gree me waste money embarassed

are you an economist or accountant ?

UjSizzle:
I'm confused. Isn't age one of the preliminary things people interested in a relationship should know about each other?
How is it that just few weeks to the introduction, the guy finds out

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