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About To Divorce Him, Please I Need Your Advise / I Need Your Advise (2) (3) (4)
Re: Please, Your Advise by mutter(f): 2:18am On Aug 07, 2010 |
I have never advised anyone to stay at all costs. Maybe at high costs but definitely not at all costs |
Re: Please, Your Advise by 0hsisi: 2:32am On Aug 07, 2010 |
You teach people how to treat you If you give an impression that you are worthless,you will be treated that way. @ the poster,pull yourself up and have the courage to walk out on a non existent marriage The marriage died when a strange woman/women laid on your bed you are better than that don't cheapen yourself by trying to win the love of a f00l love doesn't hurt That man doesn't love you In fact he can kill you the weapon of choice being his sexual organ You could die of AIDS and leave your kids motherless Or become a mental case and leave your children motherless or you could decide that you're better than that and save yourself and your children He's not worth it The marriage bed is defiled The ball is now in your court He has shown you who he is It's up to you to accept him as is or turn around,lift your head high and walk on He's not worth it He's not worth it he's not worth it Go get an HIV test and if it's negative ,give thanks Then Get this picture in your subconscious and you may finally have the courage to leave [size=24pt]He has AIDS and is bent on infecting you[/size] I wish you the best |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 6:26am On Aug 07, 2010 |
Re: Please, Your Advise by chika98: 7:12am On Aug 07, 2010 |
^^^ So true! You have to watch how he treats others as well. A cousin of mine ran away from a girl after she fought in Nigeria over who took the water she put in the bathroom to take a shower with. He said if she is fighting now then I wonder what she'll do when we eventually get married. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 7:26am On Aug 07, 2010 |
A cheating man will always cheat - he just becomes more versed in concealing it. I would ditch him, and get some self-respect! It's best to be divorced than be thought a fool by all and sundry, when you choose to remain with a serial cheat, all in the name of remaining "married". Your husband wasn't sorry the first time, he was only sorry he was caught. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by mutter(f): 10:26am On Aug 07, 2010 |
Thanks Chaircover. That is exactly how it works out. When you leave the first marriage, the story goes on . Even this issue of leave him before he infects you wit HIV is not that simple. If you leave the man it only makes sense if you either abstain from sex or take adequate measures like testing with the new partner before going into a relationship and having the guarantee that the new partner is being faithful. Now honestly how any women stick to that? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by mylove4him(f): 10:29am On Aug 07, 2010 |
Siena: I concur, cheating men don't change. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 11:09am On Aug 07, 2010 |
0hsisi: Thank you. Stay with a man that for the rest of my life I wouldnt trust? Who is encouraging this kind of unhealthy relationship all in the name of staying married? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 12:04pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
Re: Please, Your Advise by mutter(f): 1:32pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
This is the sad reality about Nigeria. Many women in Nigeria are not even privileged to submit to their husbands. They are forced into obedience, because they have no choice |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Outstrip(f): 5:32pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
No man on earth is that good that his wife will not suspect that he is cheating. Nobody knows how to lie to themselves better than our women folks. They can be honest with everybody else and their Mama but will lie to themselves about their husbands. Even if you do not catch him red handed there are always signs |
Re: Please, Your Advise by IyaBasira: 6:40pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
mutter: This is ON POINT. Siena: mutter: Damn! That's messed up. And who told you that it was your fault? I feel like beating the crap out of people sometimes. How can they say that? Thats why I quoted Siena's post. I don't understand sometimes. If he was concealing something doesnt that mean you don't want your partner to know? So why conceal it when you already know? Sometimes we conceal things out of love but for him to marry a second wife and try ' concealing ' all his girlfriends ? I'm sorry to say this but he must have been pure evil. I really hope you are happy now. And as for him . . . |
Re: Please, Your Advise by 0hsisi: 10:11pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
jennykadry: The no 1 reason most women stay in abusive marriage is lack of finances This is the reason I hate the word "housewife" with a passion I believe in marriage I believe in making marriage work and it takes 2 one can't e in a marriage by themselves But I don't believe in abuse and mental torture just to stay married For those who must stay married come what may,oya I am not in that category |
Re: Please, Your Advise by 0hsisi: 10:23pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
mutter: As a woman who has chronicled her divorce from an abusive marriage,you sure do make some very scary statements. your defeatist attitude to issues may land you in the same ill you escaped from. [b]It's not simple to leave but it is still the reasonable thing to do. Yes dear,everyone in today's age should have an HIV test done or use a condom if you must sleep together before marriage and after marriage,if there is any confirmed cases of infidelity,both parties should repeat that test if they want to reconcile That is the world we currently live in. The same message that countless agencies have spent millions promoting. [size=24pt]If you knowingly stay with a man who cheats around and he infects you with whatever he gets,you bear 75% of the blame.[/size] Do you know how many women have died or currently live with HIV infected by their "loving husbands" Are you advocating that women should sleep with their husbands knowing they've been all over town because all men cheat? That is such a weird way to approach this issue when the outcome could be deadly. Throwing your hands in the air and saying "what will be will be" is not a good way to approach this issue not to talk of writing it down. In your position as a divorcee who was married to a philandering man,you risked being infected and if you haven't gotten tested,I suggest you do so ASAP and I hope it comes out OK. Signs and symptoms of AIDS may not show for years . You had the courage to leave a man that was cheating with everything in skirt and at the same time you sound like a helpless victim. Na wa |
Re: Please, Your Advise by invisible2(m): 11:38pm On Aug 07, 2010 |
Endure, forgive and be watchful, find out why he does it and see if you could stop it happeneing again. Go for tests with him and continue, if it happens again, let your heart lead you. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 1:40pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Lovemee:if you are disturbed,go back to your fathers house |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 3:34pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Outstrip:are you married yet? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 3:36pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:hlo 1 Like |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 3:37pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:hi...how are you? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 3:38pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:i am gud u |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 3:43pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:im not happy at all,I know someone is trying to take you away from me,but who ever he is pls becareful. I still love you. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 3:46pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:hm,xo dats y u ve bin ignorin me ryt? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 3:56pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:No im not ignoring,my action is called defence mechanism! I could remember the last time I mentioned you in so many posts,but you ignored all of it,I was wondering what I did wrong...which I asked you,and there was no clear answer,so I decided to lie low and observe...above all if I had wronged you in anyway,pls forgive me. |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:oops,am xorì dn'i av uploaded my pix |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 4:03pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:let me check...brb |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 4:05pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:ok |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 4:09pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:just what I expected...you are beautiful! Will you marry me? |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 4:10pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:anan tnx.Wait make i clear my throat |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 4:18pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:lol...im waiting |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Nobody: 4:21pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Youngpo413:.No vex |
Re: Please, Your Advise by Youngpo413: 4:33pm On Dec 17, 2014 |
Vikkyk10:no problemo |
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