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Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Amjustme: 6:11pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Dont knw y am nt even moved by dis. D guy was married, u went ahead to marry him nw ur ranting dat u didnt snatch sm1's husband? U tink d wife wld jst fold her hands n watch u steal her husband away frm her simply cos she no get children? Ur d wicked 1 my sister and dnt even bring GOD into dis cos na u HE go punish. And to ladies, grow up jor! Get ur own man n stop settling for 'crumps'. NEXT? rolling my eyes. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by freezyprinzy(m): 6:14pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove:funny but true if not y both of em have both 2 and y afta 4 month of her getting hers d oda wife get pregnant don't even know wat 2 type again 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 6:17pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Wendy80: The complainant stance has been an age long trick that works for mischievous married men, greedy ladies keeps falling for it and many more will fall. i really don't feel anything for a lady that decides to put herself in such precarious situation, i don't believe in a single girl being friends with a married man, most often it doesn't end well. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 6:19pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
double dating is one thing, using and dumping someone is another this which is fvcking painful not to talk of being married to just for gains and then dumped.... Why are some people soo fvcking wicked and stone hearted??.. To the lady in questions, there are still people who will accept love and happily marry you with your kids and love them like their own.... My uncle is an example..... His wife had kids b4 he met and married her nd I just knew 2 of his kids arent his cos U'll never believe they re someone else's kids.... Just move on.... Someone is waiting for you.... |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Defcon1(m): 6:21pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Guess she married for money 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Xerum(m): 6:21pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
I felt really sad for him and tried to cheer him up the best I could till my Industrial attachment came to an end and I left. About a year after our paths crossed again, he told me he was single and asked me for a relationship which I obliged. Everything was fast, he came with his family to meet my parents and ask for my hand in marriage, we got married and the kids came in quick succession, his job took him away a lot of times, sometimes for weeks or even a month , he isn't around. Some babes and their desperation for marriage. hmmmm.. Now it's looking like you will be rushing out of it the same way you rushed into it. 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 6:23pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
jingh:It's about her comment on the couple using her star. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by maclatunji: 6:24pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove: Star? Don't believe in that. Otherwise, there won't any couples without children left. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by UjSizzle(f): 6:24pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets:The emboldened had me in stitches Doesn't seem like such a bad idea though....hmmmm..... |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 6:26pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
byvan:thank u. U hit d nail on d head. If d man was broke and single, she won't look at him twice. She went for gold not minding if d man was properly divorce. She had single toaster but because dose ones were still struggling she went for already made. Well done oooo 2 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 6:26pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove:How u take get sense like this sef? On point!! 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Wendy80(f): 6:37pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
duduhemit36:Yes oh. She has even stopped gisting me abt her relationship cos she can't stand d truth I tell her. How can a man be telling u I wanto divorce my wife so I can marry U and u believe him. And she'll even be asking him how far with d divorce thing now.. so disgusting. I give up on some girls 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by evea: 6:41pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove: Wat I will say is let go. God will surely intervene n fight for you. men re deceivers. He brought fake parents. His parents re dead. God knows all. don't wait for him. get urself employed n train ur children. u will travel rud d world wen God opens the way. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 6:45pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets:YOU WERE SIMPLY STUPID AND GREEDY... 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by sholikay(m): 6:45pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
What soever you sow,thou shalt reap..dnt worry ma'am,karma wil come on them.. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by JuanDeDios: 6:46pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
protegesol:In Lagos State, yes. But law enforcement isn't anyone's strong point in Nigeria's. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 6:48pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: ONLY GOD KNOWS WHO SHE DUMPED AND SMASHED HIS HEART INTO A GAZILLION PIECES, MAKING HIM A MONSTER TO OTHER GIRLS. CRAP!!! 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 6:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nobody use you and dump you, you actually did not use ur brain at the right time HOW CAN SOMEONE THAT HAVE BEING MARRIED FOR 10YEARS WITHOUT CHILDREN SUDDENLY TOLD YOU HE WAS SINGLE AND REQUESTED A RELATIONSHIP? OKAY. PLS ANSWER THIS SIMPLE QUESTION O. DID YOU ASK HIM FOR THE DIVORCE LETTER BEFORE PUTTING YOUR HEAD? OR YOU WERE SIMPLY CARRIED AWAY WITH HIS WEALTH? 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by anthoniaz(f): 6:52pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: You are very correct. There is this lady who was my roommate in the university...nice, kind and cool headed.She met a guy sometime two years ago, the guy claimed he was single.Along the line, she got pregnant, the guy told her they can't get married because he's a good Christian and can't marry a pregnant lady. (Shebi dem force am sleep with d gal abi) I met her recently and she narrated how the guy deceived her.She only got to know the guy was married when she was about to put to birth.Now she is a single mum and she isn't happy. Some men are just out to deceive ladies, ladies should be more careful. 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by link2jude(m): 6:52pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove: Nollywood.... I have watched the movie, title is; BROKEN HOME 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by sweetgala(m): 6:53pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Since he came with his family to come seek your hand in marriage what steps has your family head taken to resolve this matter OP |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 6:55pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
FLYGERIAN91: I WISH YOU WERE THE GIRLS BOYFRIEND THEN WHEN HER BOSS CAME TO PROPOSE TO HER...I WOULD LOVE TO SEE THAT BULLSHIT LOOK ON YOUR FACE WHEN SHE CRASHES YOUR RELATIONSHIP. AS FOR THE GUYS THAT CAN MARRY HER AFTER THIS KINDDA CONTROVERSY...THEY LIKE TOKUNBO TINS. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by fisaylab: 7:00pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
I am deeply sorry for what happen to u. This reminds me of what happen years back,when my girlfriend got married with unknown man,cos of mundane things and at the end she regretted the action till today. I believed b4 u got married with this man,u might be in relationship with promising guy then,but na story for the gods now. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 7:00pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: The Gold has dug her out. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Sharksblow(m): 7:03pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi:and might have friend zoned the serious, single guys coming her way. 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by judajix(m): 7:04pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
the lady is obviously pisces born....she fell in love and married the man out of pity..... |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by smsdigito: 7:06pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Hmmmmm, this case is pathetic my dear poster. First, were you really desperate and so much in a hurry to make you not even to think of you and him visiting his own parents and even home town to know them first? I always advise ladies to insist on all these kind of minor visits and interactions , always take your time to make your investigation and be sure before you say i do. Having said that, all i make out of this issue is that , the man is such a callous and mean man. He doesn't imagine how you will feel. All you just need to do is to look for a professional on marriage issues to counsel you, and if you are a Christian, seek the face of God He will bring help your way. Stay strong and may God watch over you and your kids.
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Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by easy4beno(m): 7:08pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Well I have to say I'm quite sorry about your situation and I hope things would turn around for you real good and soon. From my analysis, you will permit me to say that you are part of the problem that befell you, what God has joined together..let no man put asunder, I'm sure the other time he came to you, you neglected the investigation you were supposed to diligently carry out about him and his family, leaving everything to hope, faith and fate..sometimes we just have to be responsible for our actions..well, this is not to make you feel bad but ofcos its just a reminder of d past because it is what gave birth to the present situation..mind you, this is not where we are going.. Now back to the matter at hand, I think the solution to this situation is not to start feeling piteous and miserable, it has happened yes, they say there's nothing new under the sun, so yours won't be the first or the last on earth, what I would advise you is to get yourself up, get a job, start a trade, keep fit and look happy, that way you can take stress off your sleeves and take proper care of your kids the way you want, who knows, another good suitor may come your way, that's for later though, your primary focus now should be yourself and the kids..and as for the man in question..trust me what goes around comes around, this is africa where you don't get away with some things, because they would end up hunting him some day, he would definitely come back someday and beg you for his misdeeds..he would shed tears lyk that is the only hope he's got..then you would have a choice to forgive or not..these are things that we see happen everyday.. In conclusion, this should serve as advice and lessons to all our ladies within the about to marry zone..never allow a man to push you in between his home so you won't befall such peril in future..and if there's anything unclear or too clear about a relationship likely heading to marriage, kindly pray diligently about it till you get answers and convictions..do your homework also..and why I said too clear about a relationship is because we men can act perfect for you..and they say if its too good to be true..its probably not true..so don't be carried away..mai fellow readers..be wise..marriage aint no joke..hope mai story no too mussh.. 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Sharksblow(m): 7:09pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi:goodies block normal functioning of the brain. it kills common sense 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by devour129: 7:12pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
dorlapoh20:she felt sorry for the man Singles girls stop feeling sorry for any guy both married and single .they just want to drill you with their pity stories . Which married man will not give you story that touch just to chop and run ? Close your legs umu ashawo . 2 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 7:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
stagger:hmmm. True talk. We have people wel dey reason well well here. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 7:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Nairalanders will always amaze me. See useless responses, some even calling her greedy. Do you people read at all or are your brains clogged up due to the amount of pollution in Nigeria. I will not be so quick to condemn the poor woman based on a few things. 1: Nigeria operates in both the physical and spiritual realm. ( Who knows maybe the guy was told that in order for his wife to bear children for him, he must mate with another woman) 2: We all know how Nigerian bosses are. They get really close to their employees and sometimes take advantage of them easily. 3: If you developed a friendship with a guy and after a while he informed you that his situation has changed(often times thru a sad, pathetic format), you would feel pity for him. If you like the guy a little before, the likeness will multiply times 100 and feelings develop. 4: It is possible the guy's family were in on it, this makes it very believable! My advice to any woman is to always insist on a court wedding. This way you can be rest assured of at least the possibility of a court settlement followed by a divorce. Also shey the woman no get family ni, if someone did this to my sis, na war o! 1 Like |
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