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/ Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by zizman: 3:56pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
Marriage is the dream of every woman, and every man. Finding a good partner, for life, is like finding your divine blessing, that can last you for a lifetime. In this part of the world, we are more idealists than realists. If we face setbacks in our businesses, we are always comfortable with reciting the famous words: “it is well”. If rain soaks you on the way to the office, it’s “showers of blessings” and a promotion is probably on the way. If our right palm itches, it means some long lost relative will send cash soon. It is no wonder that for many ladies, marriage seems to be the escape route from society’s pressures. Many of us fantasize, dream or even start planning a wedding before meeting “the right one”. Worse still, the romantic movies of heroes falling in love with less than perfect women and sweeping them off their feet in a proposal at the airport, add fuel to our flame of fantasy. The truth is: idealism is great, but the idealist never knows what to do when the real situation hits hard like a deadly punch from a wrestler’s fist. The Most Glamorous Part Of A Marriage Is The Wedding A gorgeous cake, fresh flowers, wedding gown by Vera Wang, the exotic honeymoon, the paparazzi – all these come into play at the wedding. From the moment the bride wakes up on her wedding day to the moment she spends her first official night as a married woman, she feels on top of the world. Too bad, the party can’t last forever. When you see an elderly couple retaking their marriage vows, with tears in their eyes, please note that those tears are not just tears of happiness; there are tears of a story well told – of joy, pain, courage, sadness and victory against all odds. If you’re not ready to deal with these, it’s not a sin to wait a little. Marriage is hard work and sacrifice. The Word ‘Sacrifice’ Will Suddenly Come Up More Often In Your Dictionary This word, we all dread – sacrifice. From the first day, you would find out that you may have to place the needs of others before yours, and if you are blessed with children, get ready for more sacrifices. Will there be times you wish you were single? Yes! Will there be times you wish for one minute to yourself? Definitely! If given the opportunity, would you do it all over again? For most people, YES – especially if you are with the right person. Marriage Is Not For Pretenses Or Show-Off Whether you cook with diamonds in your Egusi soup, or look like a goddess, or even know a thousand styles in bed, a man always knows to whom his heart belongs. The meaning is simple: Be yourself before marriage, and don’t try to portray what you are not. Let him fall in love with the essence of you, not with an image you have created. It’s difficult to fall out of such love, except either of you change sometime during the marriage. You Never Really Know A Man/Woman Until You Get Married Forget that you two lived in the same house for a few years before marriage, as far as there is no contract binding the two of you together in matrimony, you have not started. People tend to let down their hair when they are married, and like an onion, the real us we have kept to ourselves start to unravel. The only thing to do is adjust and move on – you’re in it for real this time. Marriage Is Team Work Like a job, if you like team work, this role is for you. Just kidding. What I am saying here is that if you don’t work together as a team, you are heading for a major disaster. The unfortunate thing is that you can’t control the other person’s mind, and vice versa. So, one just has to respect the other person’s boundaries, and it’s difficult if both of you are always bent on having your way. Like A Rollercoaster, There Are Ups And Downs Don’t think that in marriage, every day will be a holiday. You are kidding yourself. In fact, the most ecstatic moments in marriage come after a low period. Like every good story, you will be faced with challenges and tests. Even if you fail one, life will give you an opportunity to repeat the test. But when you pass one, the rewards are priceless. Marriage Is The Ultimate Gamble Sometimes, marriage leads to happily ever after. Sometimes, it doesn’t. All is fair in love and war. If it doesn’t, dust your feet, learn from past mistakes, and start painting a rosy future without giving in to society’s pressures. Many times, society looks down on divorced women. We are quick to point fingers that it is a woman’s fault that things did not work out. The fact is, it could be anybody’s fault. Either man or woman. In the end, marriage is about two selfless people living together to achieve each other’s goals. If you find the right person to make that sacrifice with you, you are extremely lucky 2 Likes |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by motherlode: 3:58pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
And I wait till 2020 |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Nobody: 4:00pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
motherlode:dis ur vision 2020 na wa o. U knw weda rapture go take place befor den? |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by alberto2k(m): 4:06pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
What if I decide to be a priest? |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by motherlode: 7:30pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
Cutehector4u:just wait and see but with one prayer Oh lord make me fulfil my purpose on earth! |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Nobody: 8:36pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
i think all normal and sensible people know that without saying... there is no secret |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Sarimah(f): 9:04pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
its not a new thing |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Xadore: 9:28pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
Marriage isn't easy the thought of it scares me sometimes, but like most things in life i believe it has its ups and downs |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mytime24(f): 9:30pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
alberto2k:nt too late 2start nw..... |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by alberto2k(m): 9:39pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
mytime24: After checking ur profile... Bae, am not returning to seminary school anymore Iyanmi!! You're very beautiful Iswear |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mytime24(f): 10:17pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
alberto2k:hahaha, no way u must finish wat u startd |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Nobody: 10:36pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
motherlode:lmao. Husband scarce die |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by passionate88: 11:07pm On Feb 01, 2015 |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by alberto2k(m): 3:43am On Feb 02, 2015 |
mytime24: What I just started is ..…...............you And I must finish it |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mytime24(f): 2:42pm On Feb 02, 2015 |
alberto2k:beg go uR seminary sch jooR, d choice is ok nA |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by cutieberie1(f): 5:25pm On Feb 02, 2015 |
op how did u know |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by jaybee3(m): 5:26pm On Feb 02, 2015 |
You are entitled to guilt free sex |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by icebebe(f): 7:42pm On Feb 02, 2015 |
Re: / Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Crocz(m): 8:01pm On Feb 02, 2015 |
alberto2k: Then it will be one more free girl for the men |
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