raumdeuter:


Buying the food, WHo compensates him for this?

Giving money for the babies needs who refunds him for this

Rent paid who pays him for these.

And the other duties the man performs in the house, mow the lawn, who pays him for this(Landscapers cost a fortune)?
Changing car oil or fixing both cars when having minor faults (mechanic would have cost a fortune)
Fixing minor electrical and mechanical work at home - Being the handyman - (Have you checked how much they charge on Angieslist)

raumdeuter:


Buying the food, WHo compensates him for this?

Giving money for the babies needs who refunds him for this

Rent paid who pays him for these.

And the other duties the man performs in the house, mow the lawn, who pays him for this(Landscapers cost a fortune)?
Changing car oil or fixing both cars when having minor faults (mechanic would have cost a fortune)
Fixing minor electrical and mechanical work at home - Being the handyman - (Have you checked how much they charge on Angieslist)

carefreewannabe:


Raumdeuter,

I have to quote you here.

I live in the West and the truth is that many Nigerian men complain about Nigerian women and about foreign women. I don'T know what went wrong but there are many who have serious problems with women, no matter where these women come from.

Fhemmmy:


Being handy, he is rewarded by residing in the house with light that he fixed.
Changing car oil - He is rewarded by not having to pay more money when the engine eventually knock
Mow the lawn, he doesn't have to, he could get someone to do it, if you think it is too much.
Rent paid, either the woman is in the house or not, he would pay rent

coogar:


but according to this thread, nigerian men are....

criminals
beasts
unruly
monsters
wife murderers
abusers
drug addicts
fraudsters
priggish
obnoxious

leave them alone, try the caucasian males or the highly polygynous carribbean men. that's what the ever-innocent nigerian men deserve.

raumdeuter:


From your time abroad, I am sure you see more Nigerian men marrying foreigners than Nigerian women. If these Nigerian men are bad the women should leave them and marry non Nigerians

Something tells me Nigerian women know they cant try their stuff with Non Nigerians

One NLander female who used to be on here had to separate from her foreign BF because that one told her that her sister cant stay with them and the money she makes is for the family and not for any sister.

babyosisi:


Then don't marry
It's not by force
Don't marry or stay poor when you do so that a dime doesn't go to the wife at divorce since you will have nothing worth dividing
Na wa

Ewuro4:
Besides.. Babyosisi are you really 50+ and a grandmother??

Oropesije

Hello ma, how are you ma, on ma knees ma

Nonso23:


That is a lame excuse.
If she wants to be paid for having children then we should rather not have them at all or apply as a surrogate.
If she wants to be a wife then she should love taking care of her children.

Fhemmmy:


Go and check well that thread and you will see my comment there . . . I still blame that man for what happen in that case, cos he had been stabbed before and yet remain there . . . MInd you, i am not saying women dont have their share of the issues, as a matter of fact, anyone called human is not perfect and we are all work in progress . . . . And a man that is abused and ashamed of reporting it is NOT a man, no need to even report it, if you know you cant handle it - WALK AWAY . . . Marriage is a NOT a do or DIE.

raumdeuter:


Taking care of the baby - SHe is rewarded by having a child who bears her DNA and love her

Cooking food- SHe is rewarded by eating part of it

Cleaning the house - SHe is rewarded by living in a clean environment

So why would she still seek to be compensated after both parties did their part

Nonso23:


No that is not a solution.
I want kids, I want to work. I can get both with a surrogate. Then what use is a wife?

Dragonking:


Like I said...stop deceiving yourself...take for example, I am married and my wife always slap me...if I go to report that my wife slaps me and hits me in the face, what do you think the police will say or do especially from this part of world we are in?

I need a truthful and honest answer from you.

carefreewannabe:


Your choice. Enjoy.

Fhemmmy:


[b]I could see you dont get it . . . The woman is a career woman, that could have left the house and come back at night too while she is making money and doing what she MIGHT have enjoy more BUT cos of the love she has for her home, she put all that on HOLD and take care of the home . . . Are you married and have kids? if you are, take a week off when the kids are on holiday and stay with them, while you allow your wife to go out all day and be back at night while you make sure:
1. You wake up the kids in the morning
2. Clean them up
3. Cook and feed them
4. Make sure they read and not just watching TV all day
5. Clean the house
6. Cook before your wife is back from work to make sure she is good
7. When she is done eating, make sure you give her some good bed time

After ONE week, and you see that it is NOTHING, then, we could agree that she has contributed NOTHING . . . Till then my brother, i will assume you are single and yet to see what LIFE is really and truly all about. . . .
I remain loyal and humble, Sir[/b]

raumdeuter:


I am married and I can take care of my child, I have done this and no joy surpasses this

And the day I ask to be financially compensated for taking care of my own DNA, then I would cease to be human and wear a fur

raumdeuter:


I am married and I can take care of my child, I have done this and no joy surpasses this

And the day I ask to be financially compensated for taking care of my own DNA, then I would cease to be human and wear a fur

raumdeuter:


I am married and I can take care of my child, clean after him, take him to daycare, take him to the park and feed him, I have done this and no joy surpasses this

And the day I ask to be financially compensated for taking care of my own DNA, then I would cease to be human and wear a fur

Nonso23:


As usual, most women cannot handle the truth.

Fhemmmy:


Is your wife working?
Chairman, doing it when it is convenient to you is not what we talking about, i means your wife decide to take a week off the house and you do it alone while you cater for her need too.

carefreewannabe:


Then you should be the FIRST to want to be a stay at home dad.

What a pity, you are already married. I need a man like you, who stays at home when I change the world out there and by doing so make my account fat and shapeless.

Fhemmmy:


If your wife always slaps you on a daily basis . . . Pal, there is something wrong somewhere for you to have remain there, NO need to go to police, go to court and tore the marriage license into 2