But why must a lady hit a man first shmmmmmm

EggovinMma:
It is better à man ask me to leave his home than beat me up.up.Just jejely pack my things go drop for mama papa house, say you no marry again .

I have a question for you. Its a bit personal so pls don't be embarrassed.
The question goes thus:
This eggovin, is it sweet or does it taste like raw egg? And what does it do to the body?
Sorry for derailing.

5minsmadness:

I have a question for you. Its a bit personal so pls don't be embarrassed.
The question goes thus:
This eggovin, is it sweet or does it taste like raw egg? And what does it do to the body?
Sorry for derailing.

It tastes like lynpetra.

EggovinMma:





It tastes like lynpetra.

Av never tasted lynpetra b4 either though I heard she is exceptionally sweet especially when she [edited] smiles just right...
Am rambling.
Seriously Na, am curious. What does it taste like?

kilokeys:
i imagine a scenario where she overpowers u.. beats u to pulp, dislocates ur knee with pestle remove two teeth with frying pan..

u would still never admit ur wife beat u, would u?


u go form accident

I guess this happened to you hahhahahajaha ohhh poor u

5minsmadness:

Av never tasted lynpetra b4 either though I heard she is exceptionally sweet especially when she [edited] smiles just right...
Am rambling.
Seriously Na, am curious. What does it taste like?

IRU.

My dear there is noway a woman can over power a man. Push her aside and leave.

EggovinMma:



IRU.

What does IRU mean?

gofyourself:


I guess this happened to you hahhahahajaha ohhh poor u

i am nt married. the only weapon a lady used on me were her eyes. ..

kestolove95:
If my wife. Raise ha hands. On me...I will just leav d house and come back at nyt...by den d devil go don leav her..may. God not let me raise on on ma wife

Well said!!! Period!!!

kilokeys:


i am nt married. the only weapon a lady used on me were her eyes. ..

I dont remember asking u your marital status

gofyourself:


I dont remember asking u your marital status

silly you.. the keywords to d above thread are "wife", "beat wife", "marital abuse" and so on..

u quoted me and inferred i had experienced such.

to a degree we are all expected to have grey matters in our brain.. i guess urs is pure white (blank)

kilokeys:


silly you.. the keywords to d above thread are "wife", "beat wife", "marital abuse" and so on..

u quoted me and inferred i had experienced such.

to a degree we are all expected to have grey matters in our brain.. i guess urs is pure white (blank)

Ahhh irrelevent. Different topic was quoting than saw its u. doesnt matter u stupidd shitt muahjahhahahaj.nobody cares what u think of me anyway. Just die in ditch

gofyourself:


Ahhh irrelevent. Different topic was quoting than saw its u. doesnt matter u stupidd shitt muahjahhahahaj.nobody cares what u think of me anyway. Just die in ditch

the only ditch i see here is ur foul mouth. and i am to big to be eaten by u..
u haven't heard of Amadioha, right?

whitey keep ranting

KoloOyinbo:


Certainly equal in rights. But each behave in certain ways. A gentleman gives a seat to a lady on a bus and holds door open for her etc.

This is in recognition of her femininity and does not detract from her equality.

To strike a woman like some coward or a gay (scratch her eyes out, pull each others hair and have a cat fight ) does not diminish anyone's equality but destroys that half-mans masculinity!

If my Father (God rest his soul) ever thought that I had struck a woman he would turn in his grave and wonder what kind of sick creature he had sired!

You must think because you call yourself oyinbo you must be some special human being that's perfect or something...... Go and tell your hogwash to unexposed people..... The issue of battery in any relationship cuts across cultures, race, tradition and even individual. You being Irish does not make you any more or less a "batterer"..... Unless you are trying to claim that in Ireland there has never been a case of battery reported before in its history...... That will be interesting to hear.

Again I repeat, nobody, man or woman has the right to violently hit anyone and expect not to get a response. I get it if some of the feminists and youngsters shout blue murder over the fact that I will beat a woman blue-black that first hit me, most of them are just starting out in life, the other ones are angry women. I don't believe in herd mentality. Pray you don't get into an abusive relationship, it is not as easy as working away or stopping her, there is no prescribed gentle man way of reacting to violence

kilokeys:


the only ditch i see here is ur foul mouth. and i am to big to be eaten by u..
u haven't heard of Amadioha, right?

whitey keep ranting

yh i actually can see how big u r its not a compliment jeez u r delusional with your amadioha. u think u r him ?:DDDDD u need mental health help darling

gofyourself:


yh i actually can see how big u r its not a compliment jeez u r delusional with your amadioha. u think u r him ?:DDDDD u need mental health help darling

if u r bored and need to talk to somebody.. just ask.. is that too hard?

kilokeys:
if u r bored and need to talk to somebody.. just ask.. is that too hard?

what? to you? pleaseeee

A lady once slapped me in sec school, i waited for two hours after she had apologised, snuck up behind her and returned the favor, when she started crying and i saw my finger marks from the side of her neck to her cheek, my heart melted and i started begging her to stop crying. Lol i was even begging her to slap me again because her cry was just too much. Lol. The girl just dey cry dey go.

I know that was mean but if that kind of situation comes up, i will still act thesame way. They called assembly to flog us that time oo. I hapily received my 12 strokes.

IF YOU CAN GIVE A SLAP, YOU CAN TAKE ONE, LIFE IS GIVE AND TAKE.
A SLAP IS A LOAN THAT SHOULD BE RETURNED WITH OR WITHOUT INTEREST.

Some bolts have to be loose for any man to hit any woman

Justfollowit:


You are just contradicting yourself

In simple terms,

You will not lay a hand in a female because she is fragile.

If I were a man and a lady hits me. I will teach her the lesion her parents have failed to instill in her. If she thinks she can raise her hands anyhow because we are equal or because it would be demeaning to my sex to retaliate, she is in for a shocker . She should be ready to understand one fact- you do not hit someone who is naturally stronger than you and expect him to ignore it because he is a man.

I do not get how you being Irish makes you a perfect gentleman. Like Oyinbos o not hit their wives or what...

if u are a lady, u too correct. A woman feels its her right to hit a man, but considers a man hitting her back as cowardice. Mere lookin at my face alone will make any lady think twice before raisin her hands to hit me, and it for any reason the slap lands on my cheek, I won't touch her there if its in public so I don't embarrass myself, but u better not follow me home with ur two left legs else na TKO. But if u are my wife, u better start beggin me from there with ur two kneels on the floor or better still get ur parents to come beg. I am too large to be disrespected by a woman

Amynature:
My dear there is noway a woman can over power a man. Push her aside and leave.

madam do u know that to some women, pushin her aside is domestic abuse and they will even say u pushed them like u beat them. How can a woman make u get annoyed and when u want to leave the house to get some fresh air outside or to chill, she will still block ur way?

Some ladies here will still say, sit her down and talk to her or stay inside the house and receive all the insult and abuse...

chibic:
are you insinuating that men are desperate for marriage more than women? Stop decieving yourself!! If any man sent you a pm or promises marriage,he's only trying to take advantage of the fact that women are easily decieved with marriage talks to get you laid.you think men are really that desperate about commitments? Pfft! What they want is your p.uss.sy and after that,you'll start opening threads to complain that you were used and dumped.

[b]Even at 40 or 50,a man, whether a widow or divorcee can still marry a young and beautiful girl of his choic[/b]e.so, that marriage thing no dey worry men.the only thing that worries men is how to make a good money.as for women,we can get them any time.but you cannot say the same for women,once you are above 30,problem don start and desperation will set in.she'll start making mistakes and falling for the wrong people.if she reach 40,smh case closed.just don't make mockery of men when it comes to marriage issue because we have it under control.we marries when we wishes but you cannot marry when you wish,except when a man proposes.

Stop deceiving yourself. Since we are being superficial, i hope you are not talking about nigeria, With all the stuff you say about nigerian women? Unless you have money you won't breathe the same air as a young and beautiful woman. And don't come bullshyting us because the likelihood of being a rich man in nigerian is like 0.00001. The thing is many nigerian men have nothing to offer at that age, it's not like they look like George Clooney, all they have going on is a pot belly and very strong BO( maybe an exaggeration but trying to prove a point here)

Case example: what exactly has this man got to offer this woman? Money


This? Good genes maybe? Naah, money!
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Now, a young woman can marry will Smith or George Clooney even without their money because they are good looking older men that don't make their stomach churn.

Same way, a young man can marry jada pinkett, lola omotayo etc.

many of those who live in poverty do so because there is no other way out and the only way is to marry an older man to help them, uneducated women or those forced into marriages.

No, you cannot get a good and beautiful woman with good genes at anytime. you can only get a 50 naira ashawo you won't want to be seen with in public at anytime.

It is easier for women to get a younger stronger good looking man because they can do so without money. They are on average more attractive than men. Our society hasn't really opened up to older women dating younger men that is why you don't see many cases of it. It's not because they cannot get them. Check back at secondary school even, the amount of guys that reminisce about having a crush on a teacher and many still carry on. With men, you guys aren't so lucky, not everyone is blessed with huge pockets.

I am not trying to dampen anyone's spirit or make this a guy vs woman issue but people should be honest with themselves. An average older man won't just go out and pick up an attractive young woman just like that. Obviously, you won't understand until you get to that age But before then I hope you find a woman that you will be spending your life with at that age and not you trying to cradle rob.

kestolove95:
If my wife. Raise ha hands. On me...I will just leav d house and come back at nyt...by den d devil go don leav her..may. God not let me raise on on ma wife

. You will leave the house and come back at nyt? What if you want to leave the house she still stand at the door,and block u from going out,?

pomsky:


............madam, i don't know you, neither do i know your marital status. I don't believe in b***sh-t advice. I hv been with my wife for 14yrs now. I have seen different marriages at work and one of the evils i have seen is wives who ride their husbands. I thank God that this issue of discussion is a non issue in my home, because from the begining the right foundation was laid.
What many women don't see and realize is the battering of a man's esteem, respect and all that qualifies him as a man, is what a woman's tongue does when she lashes him with it. The scars on the outside are easier to heal than those on the inside! Have you seen a thoroughly beaten woman before? That is just a little representation of how a man looks on the inside after being battered by his wife!
I think there was a post less than a month ago on the.NL about a wife who stabbed her husband to death after less than a year of marriage. It was said she had stabbed him before. There was no reporting he was beating her, she simply felt she was in charge! So he's gone, and she's in prison. I guess if she was on this forum, she would be ranting: " No real man will beat his wife and that's the simple truth...instead he'll hold her off from beating him[/b]". Infact if i might add, "[b] he should even allow her to stab him!"
I don't beat my wife, but one look from me is enough!
Many of the single ladies, try to bring the control they had as spinsters into marriage. It might work for a while, but watch it, your husband is not just the head of the home, but your head!
If this is too much to accept, then i advice you don't get married!
You are here on a forum everybody talking their own, enter the marriage first and then know how far.....hmmm,.....i dey laugh!
God help us all.
***...by the way, a slap is not a gift to be kept, but one to be returned with profit........***

Ma niqqa! I see you. These kids here just rant about, as far as I'm concerned, there are no absolute situations in life. It is because of the wusses we see here on NL that these girls are becoming more daring by the day. Women sef! They want gender equality only when it favors them, at other times, they remember they are the weaker sex.

Beat not and you shall not be beaten. I may tolerate it once, but with serious reprimand/consequences. But if it happens again, oh blood of maggi! I will restore her to factory settings.

incrediblestev:
You must think because you call yourself oyinbo you must be some special human being that's perfect or something...... Go and tell your hogwash to unexposed people..... The issue of battery in any relationship cuts across cultures, race, tradition and even individual. You being Irish does not make you any more or less a "batterer"..... Unless you are trying to claim that in Ireland there has never been a case of battery reported before in its history...... That will be interesting to hear.

Again I repeat, nobody, man or woman has the right to violently hit anyone and expect not to get a response. I get it if some of the feminists and youngsters shout blue murder over the fact that I will beat a woman blue-black that first hit me, most of them are just starting out in life, the other ones are angry women. I don't believe in herd mentality. Pray you don't get into an abusive relationship, it is not as easy as working away or stopping her, there is no prescribed gentle man way of reacting to violence

I never called myself special don't know why you brought that up. I just contrasted two approaches in differing cultures. I described accurately my cultures approach to this issue sorry If that makes you feel a need to insult and rant. It doesn't mean that there has never been a case in Ireland, of course there has, these are the exceptions and frowned upon by the vast majority. To use that argument is most disingenuous and usually indicates a failure to support your own point of view.

A real man does not need violence against those physically weaker than him! And I repeat that I would consider any man I saw beating a woman as a latent homosexual or bully or only half a man. Just as there are many cultures where woman beating is accepted there are many where it is abhorred we clearly belong to differing camps! (Thankfully)

rationalmind:

Rationalmind, don't just smile dere. Tell us the truth. Abi you be the second MaziOmenuko

Justfollowit:


You are just contradicting yourself

In simple terms,

You will not lay a hand in a female because she is fragile.

If I were a man and a lady hits me. I will teach her the lesion her parents have failed to instill in her. If she thinks she can raise her hands anyhow because we are equal or because it would be demeaning to my sex to retaliate, she is in for a shocker . She should be ready to understand one fact- you do not hit someone who is naturally stronger than you and expect him to ignore it because he is a man.

I do not get how you being Irish makes you a perfect gentleman. Like Oyinbos o not hit their wives or what...

There are MANY different cultures in 'oyinbos'. I don't think refusing to hit a woman make me perfect? Please say where I stated this. Why do some folks here have to twist words to make a counter argument?

Sorry you cant follow my perfectly logical argument! There is little contradiction if you actually calm down and think about it. I do know your culture is very different from mine (one of my initial points) but you must accept that some cultures look at things this way.

I just cant hit a woman and still feel that I am any sort of a man at all.

KoloOyinbo:


There are MANY different cultures in 'oyinbos'. I don't think refusing to hit a woman make me perfect? Please say where I stated this. Why do some folks here have to twist words to make a counter argument?

Sorry you cant follow my perfectly logical argument! There is little contradiction if you actually calm down and think about it. I do know your culture is very different from mine (one of my initial points) but you must accept that some cultures look at things this way.

I just cant hit a woman and still feel that I am any sort of a man at all.

Lol

Your culture? Like you actually grew up in Europe

You can't hurt a woman and still feel like a man because you know deep inside you that they are physically weaker.

Simple.

Stop trying to complicate matters

When you know that there are different cultures in a society then I suggest you refrain from generalisation. People who are not aware that domestic abuse exist in Ireland would assume from your post that it has never even existed.

What part of Ireland, Northern or main?

lrguru:
if u are a lady, u too correct. A woman feels its her right to hit a man, but considers a man hitting her back as cowardice. Mere lookin at my face alone will make any lady think twice before raisin her hands to hit me, and it for any reason the slap lands on my cheek, I won't touch her there if its in public so I don't embarrass myself, but u better not follow me home with ur two left legs else na TKO. But if u are my wife, u better start beggin me from there with ur two kneels on the floor or better still get ur parents to come beg. I am too large to be disrespected by a woman

Begging you with her two legs. On top wetin? Say na to do your own and let her be

Justfollowit:

Lol
Your culture? Like you actually grew up in Europe
You can't hurt a woman and still feel like a man because you know deep inside you that they are physically weaker.
Simple.
Stop trying to complicate matters
When you know that there are different cultures in a society then I suggest you refrain from generalisation. People who are not aware that domestic abuse exist in Ireland would assume from your post that it has never even existed.
What part of Ireland, Northern or main?

Ireland (North and South) is in Europe (although we regard it as one and the North as British Occupied but that's a different issue) so of course I grew up in Europe.

I never said domestic abuse did not exist in Ireland (yet another case of people trying to support a weak attack by inventing something without actually reading what the poster says). Of course I generalise (we are dealing with cultures involving MILLIONS of people - how could you NOT generalise?).

My POINT is that in my culture it is considered abhorrent for a man to strike a woman! Now if that seems to annoy you so much I would be somewhat worried as to WHY?

On a related point - cultures all change and at differing rates. In Europe for example they now reject physical punishment of children in the home and at school. Fifty years ago it was perfectly acceptable. (YES I'M GENERALISING so because a few group still do it does not mean that this is the general trend in the entire western world. Perhaps instead of condemning change for the better you might actually try it?

KoloOyinbo:


Ireland (North and South) is in Europe (although we regard it as one and the North as British Occupied but that's a different issue) so of course I grew up in Europe.

I never said domestic abuse did not exist in Ireland (yet another case of people trying to support a weak attack by inventing something without actually reading what the poster says). Of course I generalise (we are dealing with cultures involving MILLIONS of people - how could you NOT generalise?).

My POINT is that in my culture it is considered abhorrent for a man to strike a woman! Now if that seems to annoy you so much I would be somewhat worried as to WHY?

On a related point - cultures all change and at differing rates. In Europe for example they now reject physical punishment of children in the home and at school. Fifty years ago it was perfectly acceptable. (YES I'M GENERALISING so because a few group still do it does not mean that this is the general trend in the entire western world. Perhaps instead of condemning change for the better you might actually try it?

It is not the culture, it is the law

If assault and battery (in the case of domestic abuse) is no longer punishable under the law today. It will amaze you how Irish hospitals would be overflowing with battered women within an hour. So therefore you should know this the abuse culture has been merely suppressed.

I already know enough history about Europe including UK.



I have this feeling that you are trying too hard to feel among in that society. It is good for migrants to integrate but it must not be at the risk of losing their identities. I know you are to appear refined you are to the uncivilised blacks on Nairaland, I understand your plight but it should on no way blindfold your every thought, perception and reasoning.

I understand the conflict within you but it would be in your own interest to resolve it very soon else you end up as confused as Chimamanda Adichie.