Could their be much obstacleS in terms of religion,language,culture and racism.pls some 1 shld educate us on this.

The only obstacle could be Religion, since most of Indians are Hindi. But there's no barrier in marraige.

Thanx Afam. Hindus religion is it as bad as one worshipping an idol.

rita.i:

Thanx Afam. Hindus religion is it as bad as one worshipping an idol.

To Other religions especially Xtians it's as bad as worshipping an idol, but to them it's the Budha is the one and only god.

ok. but how do you see the union.

It's not bad, especially if the both parties are truly in love.

yeah, love matters most wen the 2 parties understands each other.but in a situation whereby the family members of the guy disagrees and the guy decided to take his own decision.

The only thing i hate about indians is their racist traits, they are very much into their culture, that they don't want an outside to interfere.

warning: indians and pakistanis are world class wife beaters

afam4eva:

To Other religions especially Xtians it's as bad as worshipping an idol, but to them it's the Budha is the one and only god.

hindus don't worship budda. they worship a host of gods. i remeber shiva. . there are others.

why do you have to go as India to get a guy? Enough guys plenty in Nigeria . Think twince before you make a life mistake.

reservoir:

why do you have to go as India to get a guy? Enough guys plenty in Nigeria .

where are/were you when Naija guys are marrying non-Nigerian women?

with the way i see it,d poster only wants d answers she wants

rita.i:

Thanx Afam. Hindus religion is it as bad as one worshipping an idol.

rita.i:

yeah, love matters most wen the 2 parties understands each other.but in a situation whereby the family members of the guy  disagrees and the guy decided to take his own decision.

lol karma

afam4eva:

It's not bad, especially if the both parties are truly in love.

True!!!!

Hi,



Warning number two:

In India, there is the caste system.  The darker the colour of your skin, the lower down the social ladder you are.  Indians, especially the Hindus practise this.  Please don't forget.  I've been to their country and saw it all with my eyes.  Absolute disgrace if you ask me - an absolute disgrace. 

The parents of my Indian female friend agreed to my marrying their daughter.  My friend wanted me to marry her and so approached her parents about it and they agreed to it.  Sadly, I backed out of it after careful consideration.  I felt sad about it but I knew that I made the right decision.

The first word that I learnt while in India was 'kala' - meaning black.  I kept hearing that word everywhere that I went in New Delhi.  I then asked the hoteliers and so they told me what the word meant. 

In the UK, the Asians (strictly meaning Indians, Pakistanis and Bangladeshis) suffer the most racism as compared with the blacks, yet they, the Asians would discriminate against you more than the whites.  If they ever see you with one of their girls, they would never stop staring at you.  I experienced this whilst going out with Azra who was Pakistani.  I finished the relationship 'cos I got sick of the stares.

Maybe he wants to marry you because he'd like to go and settle in Nigeria or he is after some paper.  Let one Asian into your village and his Indian family and friends would use all the tricks in the book to come and settle in Nigeria.  Trust me, I know the Asians very well 'cos I have many of them as friends.  I've lived in their houses as well, whilst living in student digs.

The Asians are very materialistic and the men are put under a lot of pressure by their family members.  You won't see his salary at the end of the month because it would go into the family coffers.  His parents would keep the money.  They are very crafty people as well.  They like to act daft but they aren't.

Oh yeah, you'll be treated like a slave or even worse.  The whole family would move in with you and you'll cook for everyone of them all the time. 

Hope I've not rained on your parade.  Sorry about that, if I have.  I was only trying to open your eyes to what the Asians are like.  Experience is the best teacher they say but you don't have to wait and experience it yourself.  Learn from others' experience.

You've been warned as a fellow-Nigerian. 




kiwi992.

they are nigerians first cousins when it comes to being evil to women and using peopl eunjustly. exchange cast for nigerians tribalism

There's nofin wrong, if that's what you want, n you're willing to put up with whatever comes along.

tanx guys for ur contributions and advice.Really kiwi i xperienced xactly wot u re wrote in money,paper and cooking aspect of it.my only problem is the religion.the guy is quite different 4m his cousins.wot attracted him most to me is that he said i look like an indian gal but the mom is d obstacle in the sense that the father is late and being the only son to marry a black.
am planning of travelling to indian to spend 1month with his family but am scared.i never knew he was serious till the day he introduced me to his cousins.i was thinking of playing along with him as friends but you know the WHITES they re always open when it comes to Love.plz hope they re not fetish incase if i decided to back off though i love him and my family members do but then RACISM,

I remember one indian actress that was asked how she felt about one particular movie director. This is what she said:
"The director is so good that he can make a black african beautiful".

kiwi992:

Hi,



Warning number two:

In India, there is the caste system.  The darker the colour of your skin, the lower down the social ladder you are.  Indians, especially the Hindus practise this.  Please don't forget.  I've been to their country and saw it all with my eyes.  Absolute disgrace if you ask me - an absolute disgrace. 

The parents of my Indian female friend agreed to my marrying their daughter.  My friend wanted me to marry her and so approached her parents about it and they agreed to it.  Sadly, I backed out of it after careful consideration.  I felt sad about it but I knew that I made the right decision.

The first word that I learnt while in India was 'kala' - meaning black.  I kept hearing that word everywhere that I went in New Delhi.  I then asked the hoteliers and so they told me what the word meant. 

In the UK, the Asians (strictly meaning Indians, Pakistanis and Bangladeshis) suffer the most racism as compared with the blacks, yet they, the Asians would discriminate against you more than the whites.  If they ever see you with one of their girls, they would never stop staring at you.  I experienced this whilst going out with Azra who was Pakistani.  I finished the relationship 'cos I got sick of the stares.

Maybe he wants to marry you because he'd like to go and settle in Nigeria or he is after some paper.  Let one Asian into your village and his Indian family and friends would use all the tricks in the book to come and settle in Nigeria.  Trust me, I know the Asians very well 'cos I have many of them as friends.  I've lived in their houses as well, whilst living in student digs.

The Asians are very materialistic and the men are put under a lot of pressure by their family members. You won't see his salary at the end of the month because it would go into the family coffers.  His parents would keep the money.  They are very crafty people as well.  They like to act daft but they aren't.

Oh yeah, you'll be treated like a slave or even worse.  The whole family would move in with you and you'll cook for everyone of them all the time. 

Hope I've not rained on your parade.  Sorry about that, if I have.  I was only trying to open your eyes to what the Asians are like.  Experience is the best teacher they say but you don't have to wait and experience it yourself.  Learn from others' experience.

You've been warned as a fellow-Nigerian. 




kiwi992.     

I can say the same thing about some Nigerian families too, seeing that we are all third world countries.

Anyway, to the poster. I think your best move would be that visit to his country/folks to see what you are getting yourself into.

kiwi992:

Hi,



Warning number two:

In India, there is the caste system. The darker the colour of your skin, the lower down the social ladder you are. Indians, especially the Hindus practise this. Please don't forget. I've been to their country and saw it all with my eyes. Absolute disgrace if you ask me - an absolute disgrace.

The parents of my Indian female friend agreed to my marrying their daughter. My friend wanted me to marry her and so approached her parents about it and they agreed to it. Sadly, I backed out of it after careful consideration. I felt sad about it but I knew that I made the right decision.

The first word that I learnt while in India was 'kala' - meaning black. I kept hearing that word everywhere that I went in New Delhi. I then asked the hoteliers and so they told me what the word meant.

In the UK, the Asians (strictly meaning Indians, Pakistanis and Bangladeshis) suffer the most racism as compared with the blacks, yet they, the Asians would discriminate against you more than the whites. If they ever see you with one of their girls, they would never stop staring at you. I experienced this whilst going out with Azra who was Pakistani. I finished the relationship 'cos I got sick of the stares.

Maybe he wants to marry you because he'd like to go and settle in Nigeria or he is after some paper. Let one Asian into your village and his Indian family and friends would use all the tricks in the book to come and settle in Nigeria. Trust me, I know the Asians very well 'cos I have many of them as friends. I've lived in their houses as well, whilst living in student digs.

The Asians are very materialistic and the men are put under a lot of pressure by their family members. You won't see his salary at the end of the month because it would go into the family coffers. His parents would keep the money. They are very crafty people as well. They like to act daft but they aren't.

Oh yeah, you'll be treated like a slave or even worse. The whole family would move in with you and you'll cook for everyone of them all the time.

Hope I've not rained on your parade. Sorry about that, if I have. I was only trying to open your eyes to what the Asians are like. Experience is the best teacher they say but you don't have to wait and experience it yourself. Learn from others' experience.

You've been warned as a fellow-Nigerian.




kiwi992.

Man u sure laid it on thick.My first real close friend in the UK was a truly Asian queen,precisely from India, and oh dear If only looks cld kill i'd be dead by now.Some where so bitter they cldn't hide their disdain.I was reminded of honor killings by my friends, and in spite of my feelings towards her, eventually i had to step on the brakes. Afterall self preservation is the first law of nature.

Why should anyone have a problem with that? Whatever floats their boat is fine with me.

Yes.am greatful 4 all your wonderful contributions and advice.am taking the bold step to travel to india and see it myself.marriage is not what one can jump in2,since they ve known my family.

rita.i did you just refer to indians as white? u r f ucking hilarious. u r more white than dey r.

Really, am more of white than dem ?Lauretta.u guys have demoralised me and am trying to convince my mum over this.lauretta pls if u re in my shoes wot can u do?.i would ve love us to settle in Nigeria but his idea of me traveling dere to stay with the mom is giving me a sleepless nite.honestly i luv him but then i need to consider the -ve aspect of it and learn 4m my brothers experience.

Laurnetta:

rita.i did you just refer to indians as white? u r f ucking hilarious. u r more white than dey r.

Really?? The majority of races in india have features that classify them as caucasian. Stop running around with your ignorance.
You started a thread saying Nigerians should leave your South Africa. https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-221943.0.html
I've already told you nigerians are there to fill the educational void blacks in your country cannot fill.
There are a lot of indians in SA and you do not even know their racial classification. Now check the internet and educate yourself.

Poster, do not pay attention to this individual.

The Indian culture as a whole is highly prejudicial against any dark skinned person. Marrying an Indian when you are not one can be very dangerous. A few have done it and have lasted the test of time but majority fail because as a foreigner, you are most likely never to be accepted, in the UK for e.g, you or your partner will be subject to a lot of embarrasments, even in the public. In my case, someone spat on my GF and I h ad to smack the hell out of him. This goes on and on, It makes you question if its really worth it.

My point is, it is not impossible but it is an extremely difficult situation to walk into.

Any relationship that has more cons than pros should be seriously reviewed. You will find that the stress and embarrassment you both get from being together would make your eventual marriage a candidate for doom.

rita

I object. Hell i just finished watching a video of some indian man killing his daughter-in-law because she was black.
Please abeg, this Caste system decieves them.
Abeg, please don't marry. If you have to, make sure you married him in Naija or USA or UK. Do not go to India.

Hi Rita,



The idea your intended wants you to stay with his mum is because that's the culture in India.  It would give his mum the opportunity to assess you as a potential daughter-in-law.  More like sussing you out, if you see what I mean.  Guaranteed, you won't go down well in her eyes as a possible wife to her only son, to think that there are at least 600 million Indian girls for him to pick as a wife, out of a population of 1.2 billion.

Just remember that you won't eat meat.  It'd all be vegetables.  I lost so much weight when I was in India such that my friends here noticed it.  One even asked as to whether I wasn't fed in India.   

Just be careful when you go to India, you hear?

Here's why:   

Whilst I was in New Delhi, the hotelier asked to take me to the River Ganges (about two hundred miles away), at midnight.  Oh yes, at midnight!  It was going to be three of us - him, his wife and I.  Being a seasoned traveller, I quickly got the idea and declined the offer. 

A few thoughts came into my mind: 

   1.  Why me?  (I was only a guest in their hotel for Christ's sake).
   2.  Why midnight?  (At this stage, alarm bells started ringing in my ears - boin, boin!).
   3.  Did he have an ulterior motive?  (He must have, putting two and two together) 
   4.  Maybe to offer me as a sacrifice to their god.  (That couldn't be too far from the truth)


Another example:

I boarded an 'auto' (Indian three-wheeler taxi) and asked to go to the training centre.  Guess what?  The taxi driver decided to head somewhere else, instead.  Knowing me, I immediately asked him to stop the taxi, he did and I just got out, swearing at him until people gathered round.  They then asked what the problem was, so, I told them and they were kind enough to order me another auto.

The question is - where was he trying to take me?

Ye another example:

I went to Uttah Pradesh (UP) - the next state to New Delhi, and I was told-off by other trainees for having gone there.  I was told that I could easily have been kidnapped 'cos it was a common occurrence there.

You make what you like of my experience.  The rest is up to you.




kiwi992.

This is incredible.am really very very scared.Kiwi pls xplain more cos my parents are still doubting atleast we all are reading dis at home.

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