fem29:


Chaiii diaris Godu ooo, where did you see in the bible or anywhere else that man is above woman.

Sadly you choose to come at me for mentioning and making reference to the bible when someone actually was the first.

I do not want to go into religion and Christianity and bible verses. This is because this is not just about it. If we do, we'd be doing a great disservice to the lady in need here.

So, I'll let it slide.

kaboninc:


It appears you don't even know what your question is. It is a pity indeed.

Oga u get time o aswear. The msg has been passed its left for the OP to take it or leave it. All d best to her. I stil stand by this

mrssho:
My advice to OP is if he is remorseful and he is ready to tell you the truth pls forgive him and take him back if not abeg do what you have to do

EOD!!!

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kaboninc:


Sadly you choose to come at me for mentioning and making reference to the bible when someone actually was the first.

I do not want to go into religion and Christianity and bible verses. This is because this is not just about it. If we do, we'd be doing a great disservice to the lady in need here.

So, I'll let it slide.

Please let go of the notion that man is above woman. This is the mindset that let white people believe it is ok to enclave people of Color. They believed they are lesser beings

I doubt d originality of this story...Well while I will not support d man and her sis act..cos ds act is a punishable offence but d op shu learn hw to forgive and forget.

My first advice wl b to the op herself,hw ar wl sure u ar playing ur role as d wife?While ds may not b enof rson fo ur hubby to sleep wt ur sis but I felt there is also the need fo u to examine ursef and c whr u av short coming nd correct it.

secondly I wl advice u to go home behave as if u av not seen anything,act well to ur hubby and start d trap journey its not going to b easy but I think u need more evidence I mean d physical one not jus d fone and whatsapp stuff. Set a trap fo them and c if they wl fall fo it...u may decide to announce a trip from ur office fo two days to a near by state; as u ar telling dem ds watch d rxn on their faces.

Or u can decide to come home any of d afternoon if ur hubby is d type dt eat at home.

if u making a journey make sure u av d spare keys to all d doors in ur home.

My dear we all av our individual cross to bear ds is urs carry it wt all ur might even wen u kno d crucifixion is closer dn u think but d truth is after d death u wl rise soon wt tears of gain so stay and watch ur home rebuilt tru ur own sweat.

cococandy:
You're still not making your point clear.
It is a man's world because the bible permits him to sin and the woman is not?
What's your point?
You said the bible cursed women. In the contest of this scenario,what does that mean?

You're trying so hard to make sense but failing woefully. At least stand by your opinion no matter how disgusting it is?

Are men permitted to sin and women are not by virtue of the 'curse' God placed on women?

I can see why some people leave Christianity(topic for another say sha)

Does men being above women mean that women are logs if wood and should be fine sucking up whatever the man throws their way because God wants it so? Just an emphatic yes would make your point clear (it would be irritating but your point will be clear) or if your answer is no, why bringing up the phrase "it's a man's world in this kind of scenario?'
It's a man's world means what exactly in this scenario? It is ok for him to what he did?

You've always been one sided with your views and you try so hard to remain one-sided. That's too bad!
Firstly you should spend your time reading my comment before responding.

Secondly, maybe you read the bible but you don't read it properly. I do not want to be dragged into bible verses and things like that. I want to respect the lady in need here. I never said "the bible cursed the woman but God did!" The verse is an assignment for you.

You also turned a blind eye to where I said Kings and Lords make huge mistakes and they not only pay with their lives but that of their generations. Does "sin" in this context not translate to "huge mistakes"?

I am sure you're married. Maybe you tell your husband that you're equal with him. Yes you are. But still tell others (and even yourself) that he's your leader and the head of your family? Ohh, you can give us your own definition of a leader/head.

Such a terrible hypocrite you are!

fem29:
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Please let go of the notion that man is above woman. This is the mindset that let white people believe it is ok to enclave people of Color. They believed they are lesser beings

It is not a mindset. It is a fact. And refusing to acknowledge it is your own business. The whites enslaved both men and women. Powerful kingdoms did same. So because it is 'a man's world', why were the men not liberated?

Maybe you should check your own facts and history.

Westendel:
@babyosisi, I didn't ask my sis for her own version of d thruth,because .1. my sister is not living with me,second I can't bear sitting with her and discuss did issue for I now hate her.so I had to ask mum to do DAT for me.
Mum asked and threating her DAT she will swear with juju if she didn't say d truth.and she said she is ready to swear with any idol to prove her innocence.
This morning, Mum and Dad together with my sister left Umuahia my home town to PH where I reside for d meeting.

To those of you saying I called for a meeting, a wife does not have any right to call for a meeting in dis grievous issue,DAT is why my dad has to call and invite my in laws for a family meeting in my house.

When my sis was asked if she did it ,dis morning ,she said and I Quote,may I die bfor my 22nd birthday if indeed I slept with Aunty's husband.

Right now I have decided to go on a temporarily separation after which I will decide to divorce or continue with d marriage.

Hubby have been sending people to beg.
none of the two families agreed on divorce. one of them even quoted a Bible reference thatJacob married Two sisters and that d 12 tribe s of Is real came out of Racheal and Leah's loins. is very pathetic and terrible the way our people reason.

I wish you the best

You can't even answer a simple question.


Yes he's the head of the family. Just as OP's husband is the head of their family. Is there a reason why that is under discussion in this scenario?
Head-of-family's responsibility is not to chook his dyck into any available hole.
So why should that come up in a case like this?

Now back to the question. If you will answer. What does 'it's a man's world' mean in this context where the man is sleeping with another woman, worse, his sister-in-law.
Someone is sleeping with his wife's younger sis and all you can say is that It's a man's world And God cursed women to be under men.

Is that what being a leader means to you?
Is it not even worse that the leader who should be leading by example is the one setting bad example for the wife to follow?
Leadership is not a license to behave badly. It is a responsibility to set good examples.

Anyway what has it being a man's world got to do with op's case? Does that make it ok? Yes or no? Simple answer. Not all this insincere beating about the bush.

Answer the damn question and stop dragging my husband into matters that don't concern him.

kaboninc:


You've always been one sided with your views and you try so hard to remain one-sided. That's too bad!
Firstly you should spend your time reading my comment before responding.

Secondly, maybe you read the bible but you don't read it properly. I do not want to be dragged into bible verses and things like that. I want to respect the lady in need here. I never said "the bible cursed the woman but God did!" The verse is an assignment for you.

You also turned a blind eye to where I said Kings and Lords make huge mistakes and they not only pay with their lives but that of their generations. Does "sin" in this context not translate to "huge mistakes"?

I am sure you're married. Maybe you tell your husband that you're equal with him. Yes you are. But still tell others (and even yourself) that he's your leader and the head of your family? Ohh, you can give us your own definition of a leader/head.

Such a terrible hypocrite you are!

smsshola:
I doubt d originality of this story...Well while I will not support d man and her sis act..cos ds act is a punishable offence but d op shu learn hw to forgive and forget.

My first advice wl b to the op herself,hw ar wl sure u ar playing ur role as d wife?While ds may not b enof rson fo ur hubby to sleep wt ur sis but I felt there is also the need fo u to examine ursef and c whr u av short coming nd correct it.

secondly I wl advice u to go home behave as if u av not seen anything,act well to ur hubby and start d trap journey its not going to b easy but I think u need more evidence I mean d physical one not jus d fone and whatsapp stuff. Set a trap fo them and c if they wl fall fo it...u may decide to announce a trip from ur office fo two days to a near by state; as u ar telling dem ds watch d rxn on their faces.

Or u can decide to come home any of d afternoon if ur hubby is d type dt eat at home.

if u making a journey make sure u av d spare keys to all d doors in ur home.

My dear we all av our individual cross to bear ds is urs carry it wt all ur might even wen u kno d crucifixion is closer dn u think but d truth is after d death u wl rise soon wt tears of gain so stay and watch ur home rebuilt tru ur own sweat.

Ori mi o!!! what did I just read? typical guy always shifting the blame on the woman(who is the victim). if the case was reverse, would you advice your fellow man to "forgive and forget"? would you question if he was playing his role as the husband for his wife to go and sleep with his younger brother to see if she could get pregnant? Women in Nigeria have sufferred. I ache for all the women in Nigeria if this is truly how men in Nigeria reason

OmoAlata1:
Kaboninc, you are making this thread irritating. I bet if OP is a man stating his wife was sleeping with his younger brother cos she wanted to see if she could get pregnant. You will be telling the husband to run as far from that devilish woman ASAP. but when it is a wife dealing with cheating husband and you are saying "it is man's world" "men are above women" etc

She should not divorce if her husband is truly remorseful. Would you tell a fellow man to stay with a woman, who has had several sexual encounter with his younger brother that he is raising, if she is very remorseful of her behavior because she was looking for pregnancy?? I hate hypocrite with passion. The hypocrisy is this thread is killing me softly. Just like one idiiot was telling me "the success of a marriage falls on the woman ONLY and if it fails, it is all her fault"

Abeg I need panadol

He is a man what do you expect him to say
The more pathetic responses are the women saying the same
Sometimes I actually think people speak from their personal experiences

OmoAlata1:


Ori mi o!!! what did I just read? typical guy always shifting the blame on the woman(who is the victim). if the case was reverse, would you advice your fellow man to "forgive and forget"? would you question if he was playing his role as the husband for his wife to go and sleep with his younger brother to see if she could get pregnant? Women in Nigeria have sufferred. I ache for all the women in Nigeria if this is truly how men in Nigeria reason

I do know without a doubt that if I had been born during that okonkwo things fall apart era,I probably wouldn't be married
The typical nigerian idea of what a woman ought to be and do and tolerate and manage in the name of marriage is no where in my DNA
I am not an incomplete person looking for a man to complete me,I am a full and complete individual with a complete thinking faculty with or without a man.
That's how I see myself and how I have always seen myself.

OmoAlata1:


I believe it is you who do not comprehend my simple question. it is stated there crystal clear

For both paragraphs with respect to the bold part...

Kaboninc, you are making this thread irritating. I bet if OP is a man stating his wife was sleeping with his younger brother cos she wanted to see if she could get pregnant. You will be telling the husband to run as far from that devilish woman
ASAP. but when it is a wife dealing with cheating
husband and you are saying "it is man's world"
"men are above women" etc

She should not divorce if her husband is truly
remorseful. Would you tell a fellow man to stay
with a woman, who has had several sexual
encounter with his younger brother that he is
raising, if she is very remorseful of her behavior
because she was looking for pregnancy?? I hate
hypocrite with passion. The hypocrisy is this
thread is killing me softly. Just like one idiiot was
telling me "the success of a marriage falls on the
woman ONLY and if it fails, it is all her fault"

I said this....

If the woman should sleep with her husband's
brother, she better be wise. 'Good' if the brother can guaranty her security and financial satisfaction. Else, she is on a long thin. And if the man leaves her, I tell you, he has options because potential/possible and prospective ladies are just too many. Forgive me for bringing this...Oshiomole just got wedded to a young beautiful lady who is younger than most of his kids! How certain can you say about the opposite?

Hope you can read properly read and understand.

OmoAlata1:


Ori mi o!!! what did I just read? typical guy always shifting the blame on the woman(who is the victim). if the case was reverse, would you advice your fellow man to "forgive and forget"? would you question if he was playing his role as the husband for his wife to go and sleep with his younger brother to see if she could get pregnant? Women in Nigeria have sufferred. I ache for all the women in Nigeria if this is truly how men in Nigeria reason

My dear pls am not here to trade blame and am not blaming the lady in questions,if did not forgive and forget ar u advising her to leave her home?In my own opinion dts what I think it wl b better fo her...and dt is why I said let her set a trap fo them so she can av a physical evidence dt wl put both of them in misery fo d rest of their life. If u think leaving her home cos of ds is better toh dt is ur opinion but mind if she do d sis and d hubby wl continu their illicit act nd even end up in marriage:but why wl she loss her matrimonial home to anoda dauta of eve?To me its better she face it and den make any necessary amendment.

kaboninc:


For both paragraphs with respect to the bold part...



I said this....


Hope you can read properly read and understand.

so are you stating if a woman divorces her husband she can't get another husband? young or old? cos she should just stay cos she has been used up and expired.

But it is ok for a man to leave cos he has so much option out there no matter his age? ok o Oga, I have heard you

smsshola:


My dear pls am not here to trade blame and am not blaming the lady in questions,if did not forgive and forget ar u advising her to leave her home?In my own opinion dt what I think it wl b better fo her...and dt is why I said let her set a trap fo them so she can av a physical incidence wh wl put both of them in misery. If u think leaving her home cos of ds is better toh dt is ur opinion but to me its better she face it and den make any necessary amendment.

Would you have same opinion if the OP was a guy?

OmoAlata1:
OMG, I am speechless. This is like the worst way to betray someone ever. Two people whom you hold dearly to your heart, I don't even know how to advice you.

Since your emotions are all over the place now, the sights of both of them might make you do something stupid. Can you stay in a hotel for a wk? or find someone who will allow you to let you stay with them for at least a wk, so you can gather your thoughts. Just make up some type of lie to your husband as to why you are going away for a week. Don't say anything until you have gathered your thoughts.

I am with babyosis, I believe your husband has been sleeping with her since she was 14, it did not just happened. Which might explain why your sister is very promiscuous. God has a funny way of blessing and protecting us. Maybe this is the reason why you have not gotten pregnant. You should be on your knee and thanking God for not having any children with that disgusting pig. God sees this and that is why he has not given pregnancy.

I will advice you to talk to your sister. Don't do it in a confrontation manner, do not judge her nor be aggressive. Talk to her in a motherly way, trust me, she will spill all the beans to you. Just be prepared for what you will hear from her cos it might break you into pieces.

But divorce him kia kia. Do not let anyone try to guilt you to stay. You deserve better than that.

"divorce him kia kia "Do you have another husband for her?Be careful with this fire brigade advice .It is always easy to advise people to divorce.

@babyosisi.....there r 2 set of advisers in this kind of situation; People like you who will push for divorce and others like me who like reconciliation,forgiveness and mercy to every judgement.
What has happen is very difficult to take in respective of d gender because no particular gender (male or female) is immune to emotional betrayer

My best advice for the Op is for to take her time to calm down ,give thought to every advice whether positive or negative,pray about it and make a decision.

But remember to Err is human and to forgive is divine

I wish u more grace and peace of heart in this difficult time

OmoAlata1:


so are you stating if a woman divorces her husband she can't get another husband? young or old? cos she should just stay cos she has been used up and expired.

But it is ok for a man to leave cos he has so much option out there no matter his age? ok o Oga, I have heard you

Your advice is barbaric and not helpful ,will divorce solve this problem?if she remarry and the new hubby misbehave she will divorce again?

cococandy:
You can't even answer a simple question.


Yes he's the head of the family. Just as OP's husband is the head of their family. Is there a reason why that is under discussion in this scenario?
Head-of-family's responsibility is not to chook his dyck into any available hole.
So why should that come up in a case like this?

Now back to the question. If you will answer. What does 'it's a man's world' mean in this context where the man is sleeping with another woman, worse, his sister-in-law.
Someone is sleeping with his wife's younger sis and all you can say is that It's a man's world And God cursed women to be under men.

Is that what being a leader means to you?
Is it not even worse that the leader who should be leading by example is the one setting bad example for the wife to follow?
Leadership is not a license to behave badly. It is a responsibility to set good examples.

Anyway what has it being a man's world got to do with op's case? Does that make it ok? Yes or no? Simple answer. Not all this insincere beating about the bush.

Answer the damn question and stop dragging my husband into matters that don't concern him.

If this: It's a man's world And God cursed women to be under men. is all you can get from all my post, then it is a total waste of my time in engaging with you.

Like I said earlier, I'll respect the lady in need here than to answer to your rambling, emotional and skewed infested comments.

Ohh, do me this favour and show to your husband our conversation.

Thanks.

samtol4:
"divorce him kia kia "Do you have another husband for her?Be careful with this fire brigade advice .It is always easy to advise people to divorce.

I don't need to have a husband for her. A woman's happiness, identity, peace and joy is not solely about her having a husband. Especially one who has no respect for her by sleeping with very young sister to see if he can get her pregnant. He has done a lot of damages that I don't even know how you can repair it. She deserves way way way more than so called husband. it is not must to be Mrs.

OmoAlata1:


Would you have same opinion if the OP was a guy?

If its a guy my opinion wl still be the same forgive and forget show her more love...but before d confrontation I wl advice d guy to av a concrete evidence then face d tune of d music.

babyosisi:


He is a man what do you expect him to say
The more pathetic responses are the women saying the same
Sometimes I actually think people speak from their personal experiences

Really?

Did anyone tell you that you blew away this problem with your explosive comments?

In case they didn't, well, I just told you.

mrsmith11:
@babyosisi.....there r 2 set of advisers in this kind of situation; People like you who will push for divorce and others like me who like reconciliation,forgiveness and mercy to every judgement.
What has happen is very difficult to take in respective of d gender because no particular gender (male or female) is not immune to emotional betrayer

My best advice for the Op is for to take her time to calm down ,give thought to every advice whether positive or negative,pray about it and make a decision.

But remember to Err is human and to forgive is divine

I wish u more grace and peace of heart in this difficult time

Obviously there are
There are people like me who believe that a man who screws his wife's younger sister on a regular basis ,a man that is ready to infect her with all manner of diseases and lies about it is not worth a dime and there are people like you who will even seek reconciliation with a man that gives you HIV and throat cancer because marriage means the world to you even if with a bingo
That's what makes us individuals
Her man and sister have denied it and are reAdy to swear to amadioha that it never happened
Take it from there
She Needs your advice on how to proceed now more than ever.

samtol4:
Your advice is barbaric and not helpful ,will divorce solve this problem?if she remarry and the new hubby misbehave she will divorce again?

No there is nothing barbaric about my advice. you just mad cos it deflated your ego. If she remarries that is her own choice, but she deserves more than that so called husband. Marriage is not the beginning of her identity as a woman.

babyosisi:


I do know without a doubt that if I had been born during that okonkwo things fall apart era,I probably wouldn't be married
The typical nigerian idea of what a woman ought to be and do and tolerate and manage in the name of marriage is no where in my DNA
I am not an incomplete person looking for a man to complete me,I am a full and complete individual with a complete thinking faculty with or without a man.
That's how I see myself and how I have always seen myself.

I was having a conversation with two men yesterday, one married, the married one was cheating and saw nothing wrong in it, saying that how do I expect him not to, when there are so many beautiful women around and that he is an African man, the discourse got to a point where he said he decides what his wife's dream is, that she even submits her salary to him, he said so many things, so much that my head was literally spinning, then I couldn't take it no more when he made the mistake of telling me that, if I must be married and stay married, I had to accept that the man has the right to do whatever, so long as he provided for me and the children, that I must have to accept his wishes as he is my lord blah blah blah, I didn't even know when I told him he isn't fit to be in this century.

The most annoying thing is even that, this man is supposedly learned and a director in one of them oil companies, I just weak, ofcourse the other guy was nodding to whatever Mr married man said, he added that it's even preached in marriage counselling, that the man has the final say and that the woman must submit. I just know in my heart that, I can never be with such a man, I'd rather remain unmarried.

OmoAlata1:


so are you stating if a woman divorces her husband she can't get another husband? young or old? cos she should just stay cos she has been used up and expired.

But it is ok for a man to leave cos he has so much option out there no matter his age? ok o Oga, I have heard you

Sugar mummies? Yes they can.

But can you?

Can a woman who's say 70 years be so certain she'll get married to a man easily? How about a man who's 75 finding a woman (any woman) to marry?

You see you can't honestly be straight forward with that your nonsense line.
Because you know it looks so silly now having been scrutinized. If you really wanted to respect the lady, you won't even bring that line into this thread.


Wait,Show him my conversation with who? You?
Why?

So he will agree that you're right?. That It is a man's world and you're above women so it is ok for you to sleep around?

You must think he has time for nonsense.

Pls face front on the subject matter.

Show him conversation ko .

He's on NL. Whenever he logs on, he will see it for himself as always.

kaboninc:


If this: It's a man's world And God cursed women to be under men. is all you can get from all my post, then it is a total waste of my time in engaging with you.

Like I said earlier, I'll respect the lady in need here than to answer to your rambling, emotional and skewed infested comments.

Ohh, do me this favour and show to your husband our conversation.

Thanks.

babyosisi:


Obviously there are
There are people like me who believe that a man who screws his wife's younger sister on a regular basis ,a man that is ready to infect her with all manner of diseases and lies about it is not worth a dime and there are people like you who will even seek reconciliation with a man that gives you HIV and throat cancer
That's what makes us individuals
Her man and sister have denied it and are reAdy to swear to amadioha that it never happened
Take it from there
She Needs your advice on how to proceed now more than ever.

If you read my previous post, you will see were I said if the man is remorseful and show sign of repentance then she should forgive.

I think everyone deserve a second chance

kaboninc:


Sugar mummies? Yes they can.

But can you?

Can a woman who's say 70 years be so certain she'll get married to a man easily? How about a man who's 75 finding a woman (any woman) to marry?

yes she can quite frankly. finding a husband is not hard. finding the right husband is what is hard. Most divorced women or widowed choose to remain single not cos they can't find a husband but cos they don't want to deal with the drama(cos most men ARE drama queens). Men are not as scarce for any women of any age as you like to promote. it is that type of fear and scare tactic that have so many suffering women in Nigeria

freecocoa:
I was having a conversation with two men yesterday, one married, the married one was cheating and saw nothing wrong in it, saying that how do I expect him not to, when there are so many beautiful women around and that he is an African man, the discourse got to a point where he said he decides what his wife's dream is, that she even submits her salary to him, he said so many things, so much that my head was literally spinning, then I couldn't take it no more when he made the mistake of telling me that, if I must be married and stay married, I had to accept that the man has the right to do whatever, so long as he provided for me and the children, that I must have to accept his wishes as he is my lord blah blah blah, I didn't even know when I told him he isn't fit to be in this century.

The most annoying thing is even that, this man is supposedly learned and a director in one of them oil companies, I just weak, ofcourse the other guy was nodding to whatever Mr married man said, he added that it's even preached in marriage counselling, that the man has the final say and that the woman must submit. I just know in my heart that, I can never be with such a man, I'd rather remain unmarried.

I have had people here say I must have married a wimp
My husband is an administrator that overseas a staff of about 50 that answer directly to him and only about two are black,so he is no push over . I am talking very intelligent people with PhDs and all.
Certainly not a man That can be pushed around
He is firm and resolute when he needs to be,his job demands that
But he is not a tyrant
What I read from these men and women is a relationship almost like a slave and master relationship
If there is a conflict of opinion ,his opinion overrules it and I trust his judgment because he is not a foolish man
He is a very wise,very intelligent man and he doesn't have me on a leash
Has given me no cause to distrust him and I know without a doubt he will not disrespect me or his children or his God
He lets me be me and I like it
I couldn't function with a controlling man
I don't understand all this talks about my husband won't allow me do this and do that or go here
Adults that someone has to be told what to do and when to do it
A man is screwing around risking the life of a wife he supposedly loves by foolish choices and the first thing out of people's mouth is forgiveness and marriage at all costs
Is it until he shoots her down with a rifle that she will understand the man doesn't love her
I don't get it
Sorry,I don't

There was one who used to ask me out when I was still single. when I asked him about his wife, he said she has no right to question him. In a very condescending tone. I felt so sorry for her.
He said As long as he remains her husband, she's supposed to bear it all. According to him, God made it so. For the woman to be subservient unto the man no matter what.

This is an educated man o. MD in a government hospital with his own big private hospital too.

I was too disgusted to be angry.

For the woman mind, she get value as a human being but the man didn't think her worth respecting so much he could say such nonsense to a lady he just met against his wife who had been with him thru med school and all the rigors of building their lives and raising the family.

No wonder we have so many damaged guys everywhere. Nobody taught them responsibility and accepting a mistake when you make it.
Nobody taught them to be sorry for misbehavior.

Their orientation growing up is that women don't deserve to be treated as respectable human beings. Smh.
That's what leadership means to them.

I'm the head so I deserve to misbehave.

What am I saying? Is that not what being a leader means to the average Nigerian politician?.
The roots come from dysfunctional family systems where being the head means you're free to misbehave.

freecocoa:
I was having a conversation with two men yesterday, one married, the married one was cheating and saw nothing wrong in it, saying that how do I expect him not to, when there are so many beautiful women around and that he is an African man, the discourse got to a point where he said he decides what his wife's dream is, that she even submits her salary to him, he said so many things, so much that my head was literally spinning, then I couldn't take it no more when he made the mistake of telling me that, if I must be married and stay married, I had to accept that the man has the right to do whatever, so long as he provided for me and the children, that I must have to accept his wishes as he is my lord blah blah blah, I didn't even know when I told him he isn't fit to be in this century.

The most annoying thing is even that, this man is supposedly learned and a director in one of them oil companies, I just weak, ofcourse the other guy was nodding to whatever Mr married man said, he added that it's even preached in marriage counselling, that the man has the final say and that the woman must submit. I just know in my heart that, I can never be with such a man, I'd rather remain unmarried.

OmoAlata1:


yes she can quite frankly. finding a husband is not hard. finding the right husband is what is hard. Most divorced women or widowed choose to remain single not cos they can't find a husband but cos they don't want to deal with the drama(cos most men ARE drama queens). Men are not as scarce for any women of any age as you like to promote. it is that type of fear and scare tactic that have so many suffering women in Nigeria

Do you have a problem with Nigerian men or you actually have not noticed the problem with your being single? Stop all this Nigerian men bashing its getting annoying, childish and insecure