hamilton62:

My dear, men and women have their strengths and weaknesses.
Who do you think really have a family?
who really grooms them?
Men are the head but women are the neck meaning the head is stupid without a neck which adds flair and flexibility...
why doesn't she remember words like; behind every successful man there is a woman?
These are the types that cause problem in families biasing what they say...
The part that almost got me angry is the kola part... No wonder Americans and others are hallucinating for perfect marriage and relationship incurring increase former ex- and divorce when they think it is a bed of roses forgetting it is an institution filled with sacrifices from both parties.
I agree to some points she made but she flawed it from perfection with some.
Thanks....

Oooh please.
What happened to saying "beside every man is a successful woman. So women can't be successful? What happened to two people walking side by side achieving success? Don't bring the neck talk. The neck holds the head ND all that sounds like something coined to make women feel good about relegation.
Noone is asking u guys to remove your balls and hand it over to the ladies. They are simply saying let the ladies measure up to their potentials too.
And why can't women break the kola not? They are good enough to fetch it in and kneel while placing on a table but not good enough to break it?
We are good enough to give selflessly and forgo our dreams and aspirations for the family, to be the woman behind the successful man, the good mother who at d end of d day will still get displaced by d man claiming the children. But we are not good enough to ask?
Charity they say begins from home. If we cannot successfully claim our equal rights at home, how then will we claim it on a bigger scale. If we cannot convince our brothers, boyfriend's, husbands that there's more to a woman than a home keeper, marriage aspirant, property, how can we claim equality to stop female mutilation? How can we stop violence or issues on the bigger scale?
Women should ve equal rights to be human and be given equal chances in life

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The truth is a woman can't be same with a woman except the deluded ones belief.
Now a man makes money, goes to the battle field or strongly desire to, always at alert in the home to protect everyone. Can a woman apart from making money becauase all achievements stil boils down to making money, do the war while a man snores?

The simple fact that men are the head is that women don't know what they want.But few that know what they want become known for it.I still haven't seen a situation in my family or university that a female was denied something because of her gender.if a woman shouldn't cook because she is a woman,who would feed the children.i cant remember going to my father and telling him i am hungry it always my mum.I don't know if she has kids and if she has let her be your ideal model but if not read between the lines and choose for yourself.Being married with no kids is different from one.

Question for next month.What do women want?

FrancisTony:

Husband doesn't do that, either.
There are many married women who are lonely as fvck.
One don't need to be married to have kids who will be her companion and that's a huge inconsistency in her warped post.

Genevieve is unmarried and she's happier than many married women.
Her daughter don't go around whining like many children with father and mother because her mum's money provide everything for her.
She's a companion to her mother when she's needed.
So, widows with kids are lonely?

You say? By the way, Missterious never said she hate being married and getting rich but opined when given an option to choose one.

A husband doesn't keep you company at night or help you when you are down or write your eulogy when you die?

FrancisTony, what kind of husband are u planning on becoming? If your idea of a husband is none of those things above then please remain single!


It's like you have really been disappointed by a lot of men in your life. Well dear, the majority of men are good people. Ask ALL your married nairaland feminists and followers and likers. They will tell you how WONDERFUL all thier husbands are to them. None of them are as lonely as fvck, though I can tell you there are countless single elderly females that cry themselves to sleep every night yearning for that special someone to fill the void!

Of course any woman can sh1t out a child but it takes a responsible mother who will want to give birth to a child in the most conducive and loving atmosphere possible, which is a stable and happy marriage union instead of the farce of single motherhood or the arrangement of adoption.

Oh,and how do you know genevieve is happy? Do you live with her? Or are you basing your superficial assumptions on the many 'suffering and smiling' pictures she takes in public

Nobody said missterious said she hates marriage. Stop putting words in people's mouths.

You know, I honestly think you need to fall in love, preferably with a woman(one who is not your mom or grandma) . A lot of things about you will change. TV01 has his work cut out for him in rehabilitating you.

I pray you meet someone that will show you true love! Amen!

iPopAlomo:


I'm proudly chauvinistic... but if Buhareezy was a woman... would I vote for her...

the answer would always be yes...

No woman deserves to be a Nigerian President yet... the ones that deserves that mantle are dead...

only Okonjo Iweala and Dora Akunyili will get my vote should they ever want to be president.

I agree with her that a woman doesn't have to be exceptionally good for her to be hired just as men do not have to be exceptionally good to be hired (once again, we are seeing a comparism with the man just to drive home a point. And some people still believe this isn't about man-jealousy). But the truth, which she did not tell you, is that these not exceptionally good men that get hired also put so much effort in pushing their way through.

At the last SUG election here, i see nothing particularly exceptional about the candidtates for president, but the truth is...these people did alot to get their votes. They actually HUSSLED. Why did they have to hussle that much? It is because they are not particularly good. What about Atiku Abubakar? Because he wasn't exceptionally good, he has to hussle in the two elections he contested in. We all know how he had to wrestle with OBJ in order to be able to stand in the 2007 election. We know how much money he threw around. We know he was among those people that nearly ran Oceanic bank into bankrupcy as a result of his political ambition. We also know what he did four years on. We saw his manifesto and campaign ads everywhere. He literally hussled and this is because he is not a formidable political power as such. What are the moderate female political powers doing? They are waiting to be handed the presidency just like that? Are the men being handed the presidency? Even Gowon that was gifted power had to work to keep it. He fought a war for it! We know what Jonathan did in 2011. We also know how much TAN put into his failed reelection bid. This shows these people hussled. Where was KOWA's manifesto anywhere? Can anyone pls mention what her intentions were for Nigeria? Do you even know the woman? Did you see her campaign ads anywhere? She didn't hussle like the other guys did and you want her to become Nigeria's president? The guys wey even hssle sef, where them dey now? But she got substantial number of votes. I think those who voted for her must have read Abimbola Adelakun's (the Punch thursday woman) article when he said: "if you are looking for a PhD president, vote for her; if you feel it doesn't have to be men handing women power, vote for her; if you feel it is commendable of a woman to venture into men's stronghold, vote for her".

FrancisTony:

She's married

Yes... Dr. Ivara Alistair Esege, MD, University of Maryland, Baltimore, U.S.A.

Joavid:


They've been told they are the weaker sex, so they play the victim card to get what they want in a male dominated world.
That's how they can get what they want, for now.

They have been told? my dear it's the fact..

https://m.facebook.com/WomenAgainstFeminism?_rdr

you guys can go here and argue with the women there. And in chimamanda's own words, i hope you can disagree with the substance of their arguement.

hensben:
They have been told? my dear it's the fact..

Go and tell your mum that she is the weaker sex and see who is.

This is soo true. By saying it's remarkable, you are implying that women are naturally weak which is sexist.

Joavid:


What?

So there should be an electoral process for the office of the first lady, where people or (more importantly women) should come and vote for their most preferred candidate?

Oh please!
A true feminist would say "scrap the office of the first lady" not what you wrote there.

How is what I said different from scrapping the office? Your inability to read the right meaning shouldn't be my problem.

The programs first ladies run can be taken care of by ministaries. Ministaries can even ensure their continuity, something lacking with first ladies programs.

Winner01, stop posting trash to drive home a point.

None of these women you posted claimed they are not feminist except Omotola.

5minsmadness:


A husband doesn't keep you company at night or help you when you are down or write your eulogy when you die?

FrancisTony, what kind of husband are u planning on becoming? If your idea of a husband is none of those things above then please remain single!


It's like you have really been disappointed by a lot of men in your life. Well dear, the majority of men are good people. Ask ALL your married nairaland feminists and followers and likers. They will tell you how WONDERFUL all thier husbands are to them. None of them are as lonely as fvck, though I can tell you there are countless single elderly females that cry themselves to sleep every night yearning for that special someone to fill the void!

Of course any woman can sh1t out a child but it takes a responsible mother who will want to give birth to a child in the most conducive and loving atmosphere possible, which is a stable and happy marriage union instead of the farce of single motherhood or the arrangement of adoption.

Oh,and how do you know genevieve is happy? Do you live with her? Or are you basing your superficial assumptions on the many 'suffering and smiling' pictures she takes in public

Nobody said missterious said she hates marriage. Stop putting words in people's mouths.

You know, I honestly think you need to fall in love, preferably with a woman(one who is not your mom or grandma) . A lot of things about you will change. TV01 has his work cut out for him in rehabilitating you.

I pray you meet someone that will show you true love! Amen!

That FrancisTony na gay feminist... very useless wonker...

Thanks Winner01...

The words of this lady seem rich in profundity&substance but there couldn't be a better way to mislead people with soundness&gusto. These feminism bunkum being bandied by her will destroy our societies, if that is not already happening.
Rewriting the Maker's script! Providence wasn't on some hard drugs when He decided to create man&woman, two completely different entities the way He did.
Adichie writes&speaks impressive stuffs, but women should listen to her feminism chants at the peril of their peace&prosperity!
It's high time some folks stopped this insiduous&incursive charade of hers!...

repogirl:
and when you are sick and need comfort, I guess your money will comfort you.

When you are lonely and your body is in need of some you know what, I guess your money will do that for you.

When you need advice or to have interesting conversations with someone, guess your money will do that for you.

When you feel the need to procreate and have cute little descendants of yours and then bring them up in the right way, I guess your money will do that for you.

When you need someone to boost your ego or morale when you're feeling unsure bout yourself, I guess your money will do that for you.

Lastly when you leave this world, who will miss you dearly, speak touching eulogies about you and keep your memory dear to their hearts. I guess your money will do that for you.

Our most important treasures in this world is our time, what we do with it and then our relationships. Everyone should aspire toward wealth and prosperity, but should not lose sight of what is really important. Because the really important things make life worth living.



Now on to the topic;

Well, I don't know Chimamanda's upbringing was but I was never brought me up to see myself as a lower being to give respect when it is needed but definitely not to be walked all over.

Nobody can put you in a place you don't want to be, sometimes as a woman, you deal with some men that have warped thinking, agreed but doesn't mean the world has put you in a corner.

Times are changing, for centuries, women have been homemakers mostly instead of career women but that was what was needed at the time. Now the economy has changed and like it or not, women have to also contribute their quota to their upkeep and family finances. I believe, like it or not, we are a constantly evolving race and with time, these things will change naturally.

All this you must not let people put you here or there is just not worth it to me, some people are malleable naturally and they will be that way whether you preach feminsm to them throughout eternity.

Women should not shenk important responsibilities because of this feminism crap. You can be an awesome career woman, awesome wife and an awesome mother all at once.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. I would love to get married. It is possible to be rich & married & that is what I pray for. But if I had to choose, I would choose money. Being single is not a sin.

FYI, this "feminist crap" is the reason women can vote, the reason your daughter can go to school. Feminism is advocacy for social & economic equality of the sexes.

5minsmadness:


A husband doesn't keep you company at night or help you when you are down or write your eulogy when you die?

FrancisTony, what kind of husband are u planning on becoming? If your idea of a husband is none of those things above then please remain single!


It's like you have really been disappointed by a lot of men in your life. Well dear, the majority of men are good people. Ask ALL your married nairaland feminists and followers and likers. They will tell you how WONDERFUL all thier husbands are to them. None of them are as lonely as fvck, though I can tell you there are countless single elderly females that cry themselves to sleep every night yearning for that special someone to fill the void!

Of course any woman can sh1t out a child but it takes a responsible mother who will want to give birth to a child in the most conducive and loving atmosphere possible, which is a stable and happy marriage union instead of the farce of single motherhood or the arrangement of adoption.

Oh,and how do you know genevieve is happy? Do you live with her? Or are you basing your superficial assumptions on the many 'suffering and smiling' pictures she takes in public

Nobody said missterious said she hates marriage. Stop putting words in people's mouths.

You know, I honestly think you need to fall in love, preferably with a woman(one who is not your mom or grandma) . A lot of things about you will change. TV01 has his work cut out for him in rehabilitating you.

I pray you meet someone that will show you true love! Amen!

Stop leaving in self denial.
There are many stories of Nigerian women suffering in the hand of their husband. Is that happiness?

Family section women don't make up 1% of Nigerian women and you can't deny it.
Actually you're the one who opined single lady are lonely and i'm telling you marriage doesn't determine happiness for all people.

You're the one who need love from female from your hateful posts towards female gender.

Sayanora!

iPopAlomo:


That FrancisTony na gay feminist... very useless wonker...

Get off my mention, prostitute patronizer.

STDS breeding fellow.

iPopAlomo:


I'm proudly chauvinistic... but if Buhareezy was a woman... would I vote for her...

the answer would always be yes...

No woman deserves to be a Nigerian President yet... the ones that deserves that mantle are dead...

Reasons please

Modified*
Its you. I know you. You are indeed "chauvinistic" infact if i saw the moniker ontime i wouldnt have replied..

iPopAlomo:


Misogyny and feminism apart... which woman categorically deserves to rule Nigeria...?

None... absolutely none...

And you know this because?

mya1:


Absolutely! humans are free to make their choice. Your example though, all you need is to have a talk with these woman and you'd find out for a majority it isn't an independent choice, rather a bullocks of societal standard they feel they have to conform to.
Now is that really a choice?


The education is not " don't do this" rather "
Don't do simply because you belong to a gender "with the exception of defined biological roles of course.

Mind you, I said humans -so it applies to both gender.

Who says a man has to be the highest gross earner of the home?
Why should a boyfriend be the one to be spending on his girlfriend ?


I'm a humanist - for the equality and good of humans.

How did I miss this?

And how many of these women have you talked to? Pls don't take your sample from the headstrong teenage girls on this forum who thinks cooking is enslavement. I happen to be privileged to be exposed to a lot of couples by virtue of what I do and I assure you the average Nigerian woman has no qualms in carrying out her wifely duties like cooking and cleaning the house as long as the man also carries out his duty of providing and protecting the household.

In fact I am dealing with a case right now in which a man has been cooking for himself for the past three weeks. Wifey is alarmed and upset as he has refused to iterate what the problem is. He simply said he is tired of her cooking and knew how to cook during his single days and wants to go back to it. It is an opportunity for Wifey to kick back and relax, he says. You'd think the wife would use this opportunity to watch telemundo right? Who cares, let him suffer in the kitchen right? Wrong! She is following him about and trying to learn from whatever mistakes she thinks she has made though the man insists there is nothing inherently wrong.

Men want to marry women, not warriors. If you don't want to cook for your husband then find a man who won't mind cooking for the house. He might also feel there is no need to provide for the house and make you the woman the provider and protector instead. Whatever makes you happy.

FrancisTony:

I'm sure you didn't read that article.

If you did, you'll understand that her point is, why are men privileged to do so culturally, instead of who deserves it by achievement irregardless of the gender.

In other words, a woman should be given the Kolanut to break just because she has a Phd. If I slaaaap you there now..!!. Are u out of your senses.
By the way, has Chimamanda ever gotten pregnant ?. Does she have a child ?.

smileysmiles:


And you know this because?

You should have asked him which Nigerian male president has been great or equivalent to German female Chancellor Angela Merkel.

jorlons:


Yes fully qualified to loot our treasury(Stella odua, Diezani, NOI).

I doubt if this feminist is even a Christian, breeding some kind of culture that will ultimately lead to crisis in families as wives will no longer be submissive to their husbands as the Bible advices.

She'll cause more harm than good to the female folks with these her sermons.

Males dont loot? Oh yea! Alameghsia has boobsies akala too. Okonjo dat was recently recognised by yale cuts her hair... she must be a man? Anybody can loot sir

FrancisTony:
Winner01, stop posting trash to drive home a point.

None of these women you posted claimed they are not feminist except Omotola.

I dont argue with homosexuals >:

thorpido:
I'm for equality and i support the movement that empowers women, protects them and ensures they have a voice in the society.

What I just disagree with is the movement that wants a woman to do whatever a man does.An example is the free the nip.ple movement that some are promoting.Just because some men do not wear a shirt in public(not that it is right), a woman also should do the same.
Another example;in the home,if it's time for dinner and food is to be cooked,should there be a need to throw a dice to pick who should do the cooking?I'm not saying it has to always be the woman who should do the cooking or that she should even cook if she is not in a good position to do so but to say because she's a woman she shouldn't have to do it will be ridiculous to me.

in as much as equality brings everyone to an equal footing, it also regresses the exceptional to the ordinary.

i think we should support a system whereby everyone gets a fair opportunity but like a race, the best man wins.

Cutehector:
Feminist!

Bastard!
She is married and more achieved than you can ever be.

Women are always quick to play the 'feminist card' when it suits them. When they will be positively favoured. But when the crazy terrorist or kidnapper decides to shoot me first just for being a man, the women will never step in the name of equality to be shot as well.

Men bear a lot in this world just for being a man. Women should just be happy and grateful for being a woman because the world favours them in a million ways. We, men don't get 10% of the sort of protection women get.

Velocitron:


In most first world countries, especially the US and the UK, that's illegal. People will make less for the same job in the same company work for a myriad different reasons (for example, because women take up less demanding jobs, are less likely to work overtime and work fewer hours, so they get paid less in a pay-per-hour job).

Think about it, there are affirmative programs for minorities and women. If you just happen to say something non-positive about non-white people or women, all hell will break loose. The slightest hint of perceived 'racism' or 'sexism', is taken very, very seriously but yet the whining has increased tenfold.

Have you noticed that, in America, for example, the people that complain about racism and/or sexism are usually the least successful? Why do you think Asians are the most successful racial demographic? Because no one is coddling them or telling them that it's the 'evil white man' wants to bring them down, because they strive for excellence instead of screaming 'das rayciss' everywhere. Why do you think there are more male CEOs? Because a lot of women are too scared to take risks and start companies of their own.

Not everything is racism or sexism, let's stop playing the victim card at every chance, please. It's holding us back.

Once again I disagree with you! If success to you is about making money and losing your self respect in the process then yes Asians make the most money but not as much as Jews. I worked in HR for a couple of years and have friends with many years of experience in EEO and affirmative action programs, they can tell you first hand the many loopholes which allows companies to pay female or minority workers less. Your reasons for paying them less are unjustified and unconstitutional. On a personal level, I've worked for a company in which I was the most qualified in my department, with the highest work ethic and years of experience but due to being black and a foreign black to make things worse, I was often overlooked for middle management positions. Racism is real here in America, only an ignorant person would deny that and the more people like you try to undermine its severity, the more unjustly people of color or other minorities are treated. No one is asking for a handout or a free pass just equal opportunity. Finally you seem to be out of touch with reality on the issues women face in the workplace, juggling between home and work, trying to balance health issues with societal values. The reason we have fewer women CEOs than men is because women must give up a whole lot to be successful at that position while men have their wives to rely on to pick up the pieces when they are not around. Most female CEOs either don't have a family or live a very complicated lifestyle and if that's what must happen in order to be successful then we are in big trouble as a society!

tintingz:
This her statement is full of hypocrisy.

Explain please...

FrancisTony:

Get off my mention, prostitute patronizer.

STDS breeding fellow.

You debase yourself when you resort to using the kind of language he understands. Best to ignore him and others who speak/ think like him. Chalk and cheese eh? And we both know he most definitely not the cheese.

missterious:



Marriage is a beautiful thing. I would love to get married. It is possible to be rich & married & that is what I pray for. But if I had to choose, I would choose money. Being single is not a sin.

FYI, this "feminist crap" is the reason women can vote, the reason your daughter can go to school. Feminism is advocacy for social & economic equality of the sexes.

@bolded,not true m'am.
My grandfather never heard the word feminism and yet he sent all his 7daughters to school. And he wasn't the only one. Others in the village did so as well.
It was his choice. He wasn't forced by feminism to do it.