demelza:
God punish you!

Biatch,you are so uncouth. This is the reason that guy dumped you .

Tundeiab:

You must be a jobless individual, to have seen all these films!!!

ok

firstEVA:
I see feminists everywhere

who are the non-feminists?

The ones that enjoy being cheated on and believe that's their place in life?

Nonso23:

My parents did not raise a mugu.

Even the flavour guy self has his own harem... 2 na just to warm up...
Don't be so sure about that o.
The problem is that the average Nigerian lady is not willing to demand their fair share of respect from their man.
I mean what is even there to demand
Ask them what they intend to make out of their lives in the next five years and the majority will just start gawking like demented heifers.
Ask some guys how their mothers dealt with them during the turbulent phase of adolescence. Firm but loving. Consequences for actions or inactions were clearly spelt out. (for them good mothers o). There were boundaries and they were adhered to.
Today's woman is more interested in replicating mill and boons in real life than taking more pragmatic approaches toward their marriages. Whilst that in itself is not a bad idea but then again no sensible person goes about cutting down a tree by plucking the leaves.
Marriage today is a contract where the negotiation for value is a till-death-do-us-part activity - a staring contest if you like.
The moment the woman thinks she can get a better offer outside, the husband is gone. The moment the man notices that he can cut a better deal on the sides he goes for it. The latter is more prevalent because the man, in most cases, sports the bulk of their combined financial muscle.
Happy marriages are those where both parties have acknowledged that the value they provide for each other is worth way more than any side attraction can offer. Where the man goes out of his way to please his wife and the woman won't stop at anything to cater to her husband's needs.

I refuse to accept that the woman is suppressed. I think the movement of society's focus from moralist/socialist foundations to capitalistic tendencies is more to blame. The women of the last generation had to combat with the inculcation of monogamy in their men thanks to Christianity and when it seemed like they were succeeding the "sex sells" adverts started to receive attention. Their target - those with the most money to throw around -men. Then morals boundaries became a question of "how much do you want?" . Women became more open to trading their morals for money. Young men who couldn't meet up were forced to step up and those who did wouldn't settle for less and whenever there appeared a better deal they stepped up yet again and the woman again is left with the shorter end of the stick. This is the reality of most of today's marriages.

The unfortunate thing is that both good women and men are the victims of this vicious cycle and it is not going to end anytime soon.
Trust is dead today. Everyone is as loyal as their pockets' depth.
Are there still good people?
Yes.
How can you find them?
I don't know. Try Tum bum tum bum...

Hmm.

Look at how people are telling you to move out of your husband house, like its a closed case of one condemned criminal which willl never repent.

My dear coming to table this first on NL shows how naïve and how young you are. Funny how many who advises you will not even have the liver to leave their man.

Many are so jealous and looking for half of what you've got.

Well you can move out, end the marriage for all I care.. His real wife will come one day and she will stay. And seriously you'll become a tale.

However, the truth is your husband is also confused as to what sex really is, this is the real problem with most men especially the younger ones who get married early and in the mid thirty(s). They tend to love their women but seek adventure outside for sometime.

Some survive with lessons, some don't. The real issue here is your husband is still growing.. Well before you go think of the kind of man he is apart from how he has hurt you, and if you can talk to him and make him realize.. He is got everything he needs from other women in you.

Be abit erotic with your dressing at home.. Always keep your bosom in suspense etc..(Part of the so call adventure that makes a man wants a lady).

Don't let me bore you.. Well if your mind is made up to move out... Peace be with you. Leave him and let him find a another half.

Goodluck.

Nonso23:

My parents did not raise a mugu.

Even the flavour guy self has his own harem... 2 na just to warm up...
Don't be so sure about that o.
The problem is that the average Nigerian lady is not willing to demand their fair share of respect from their man.
I mean what is even there to demand
Ask them what they intend to make out of their lives in the next five years and the majority will just start gawking like demented heifers.
Ask some guys how their mothers dealt with them during the turbulent phase of adolescence. Firm but loving. Consequences for actions or inactions were clearly spelt out. (for them good mothers o). There were boundaries and they were adhered to.
Today's woman is more interested in replicating mill and boons in real life than taking more pragmatic approaches toward their marriages. Whilst that in itself is not a bad idea but then again no sensible person goes about cutting down a tree by plucking the leaves.
Marriage today is a contract where the negotiation for value is a till-death-do-us-part activity - a staring contest if you like.
The moment the woman thinks she can get a better offer outside, the husband is gone. The moment the man notices that he can cut a better deal on the sides he goes for it. The latter is more prevalent because the man, in most cases, sports the bulk of their combined financial muscle.
Happy marriages are those where both parties have acknowledged that the value they provide for each other is worth way more than any side attraction can offer. Where the man goes out of his way to please his wife and the woman won't stop at anything to cater to her husband's needs.

I refuse to accept that the woman is suppressed. I think the movement of society's focus from moralist/socialist foundations to capitalistic tendencies is more to blame. The women of the last generation had to combat with the inculcation of monogamy in their men thanks to Christianity and when it seemed like they were succeeding the "sex sells" adverts started to receive attention. Their target - those with the most money to throw around -men. Then morals boundaries became a question of "how much do you want?" . Women became more open to trading their morals for money. Young men who couldn't meet up were forced to step up and those who did wouldn't settle for less and whenever there appeared a better deal they stepped up yet again and the woman again is left with the shorter end of the stick. This is the reality of most of today's marriages.

The unfortunate thing is that both good women and men are the victims of this vicious cycle and it is not going to end anytime soon.
Trust is dead today. Everyone is as loyal as their pockets' depth.
Are there still good people?
Yes.
How can you find them?
I don't know. Try Tum bum tum bum...

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Spot on!

Some marriage virgins for good reasons and some dont. Your man is clearly the latter, he keeps an inexperienced wife at home who he is convinced will not cheat on him while he brings other women into his house and disrespects his wife when she is not around. Well you clearly are getting played.

Its up to you to decide. Be the trophy wife that you are and keep him and endure the heartache cause im sure this wont be the last time he does it.
Or leave the marriage and wait for someone mature enough to stay committed to you. he may not come by easily but surely you will meet someone who is more concerned with protecting you and not hurting you.

SirAweezy:
Look at how people are telling you to move out of your husband house, like its a closed case of one condemned criminal which willl never repent.

My dear coming to table this first on NL shows how naïve and how young you are. Funny how many who advises you will not even have the liver to leave their man.

Many are so jealous and looking for half of what you've got.

Well you can move out, end the marriage for all I care.. His real wife will come one day and she will stay. And seriously you'll become a tale.

However, the truth is your husband is also confused as to what sex really is, this is the real problem with most men especially the younger ones who get married early and in the mid thirty(s). They tend to love their women but seek adventure outside for sometime.

Some survive with lessons, some don't. The real issue here is your husband is still growing.. Well before you go think of the kind of man he is apart from how he has hurt you, and if you can talk to him and make him realize.. He is got everything he needs from other women in you.

Be abit erotic with your dressing at home.. Always keep your bosom in suspense etc..(Part of the so call adventure that makes a man wants a lady).

Don't let me bore you.. Well if your mind is made up to move out... Peace be with you. Leave him and let him find a another half.

Goodluck.

you would give the same advice for a man with a cheating wife?

Onegai:
For all those explaining away this man's adultery and foolishness in cheating AND videotaping it (in these days where trashy blogs are looking for gist to fill up their columns)...

That is Nigerian Morality 101, titled "Personal Responsibility Is Not Something You Need In Your Life". Because they sway the bible to read that God forgives you without having to be remorseful (permanent Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card), it is not and will never be your fault for doing anything (so you never have to accept you messed up) and the wronged person has to do all the work to fix things, your job is to siddon-look and send bible passages their way to encourage them.

This mentality is why inspite of having 10 churches per any major street in any large city in the country, we cannot even transact honest business or trust the next person with our N1,000 note. This is why the entire country is crippled by problems that make no sense. This is why the average successful Nigerian business that is very big requires a foreigner to be in it, because the Nigerians there don't trust themselves.

If you cannot look in your wife's eyes, your children's eyes, your husband's eyes, if you cannot have the moral courage to look people whom you have hurt in their eyes and say "I did wrong, I have no-one to blame but me, I am sorry and I will do everything to fix this", then you cannot do that at work, in church or with your peers in society. In your personal life, you are giving yourself excuses for every shortcoming, is it in your professional life you will go on to be great and noble?

And that is why Nigeria is the country we see it to be right now.

focus7, please highlight the fact that you struggled and wept to God to lead you from the path of immorality, that God gave your wife the grace to stay with you whilst He worked on your life but the most important aspect was that YOU, YOU were willing to change from your ways first. Because I think a lot of people need to see that message clearly.

Well said

cococandy:
who are the non-feminists?

The ones that enjoy being cheated on and believe that's their place in life?

correct babe

bukatyne:
Trust NL male hypocrites to be here

See How lessons on forgiveness and vow keeping are flying left, right centre.

I am trying to remember who coined the phrase... never make a hoe an housewife. Who would be kind enough to remind me?

Is This not a case of don't make a dog a husband

Bloody bloody hypocrites

@OP:

The first step is confronting your husband. Anyhow you like.
Perhaps This talking here helps you better.

Goodluck with whatever decision you make.

Cheers.

what can you say, they are simply defending their own kind.

Tay16:
you would give the same advice for a man with a cheating wife?

Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change.

You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me.

Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though).

But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real.

SirAweezy:


Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change.

You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me.

Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though).

But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real.

you broke off an engagement in your situation but you expect her to endure why? And the reason why i wouldnt want to know what happened in the end is because you didnt end up marrying her right?

Why get married with you are mentally mature or emotionally ready for it? How exactly will losing him be her loss when he is the one causing her misery? Unless we are trying to teach women that suffering in a marriage is a good thing? Who said the next man to marry her wont be lucky to have her?

Unlike wine cheating doesnt get better with age.

Tay16:
you broke off an engagement in your situation but you expect her to endure why? And the reason why i wouldnt want to know what happened in the end is because you didnt end up marrying her right?

Why get married with you are mentally mature or emotionally ready for it? How exactly will losing him be her loss when he is the one causing her misery? Unless we are trying to teach women that suffering in a marriage is a good thing?

I didn't end the relationship... She left out of guilt (she ended it.. Cuz I was to good for her) I caught her with another man. Funny enough she's from a wealthy home. But I couldn't understand it.

I've been married for years... And I can tell you.. Temptation everywhere and neither am I a saint.

I grow everyday to discover my home is everything and should not be compromised..

The truth: when a man has more money.. Please he'll definitely catch a bug on temptation (note this). Not everyman survives it.

But we grow and grow to know what our needs are.. And how well we should live.

SirAweezy:


I didn't end the relationship... She left out of guilt (she ended it.. Cuz I was to good for her) I caught with another man. Funny enough she from a wealthy home. But I couldn't understand it.

I've been married for years... And I can tell you.. Temptation everywhere and neither am I a saint.

I grow everyday to discover my home is everything and should not be compromised..

The truth: when a man has more money.. Please he'll definitely catch a bug on temptation (note this). Not everyman survives it.

But we grow and grow to know what our needs are.. And how well we should live.

which is why people should only get married when they are matured enough for the commitment.

Just because you intentionally did something all in the name of temptation does not mean you should expect your spouse to endure it because " you are still growing".

If what you are telling me is "not every man can have self-control" then it means " not every man is built for marriage". There are mistakes that are forgiveable but cheating on your spouse on your matrimonial bed and recording it, simply isnt one of them.

People need to stop making excuses for such bad behaviour.

Tay16:
which is why people should only get married when they are matured enough for the commitment.

Just because you intentionally did something all in the name of temptation does not mean you should expect your spouse to endure it because " you are still growing".

If what you are telling me is "not every man can have self-control" then it means " not every man is built for marriage". There are mistakes that are forgiveable but cheating on your spouse on your matrimonial bed and recording it, simply isnt one of them.

People need to stop making excuses for such bad behaviour.

Actually... In the case of the OP hubby.. The guy went far.. To have even recorded it... And also bring a lady home few days to their wedding...

But I think he deserve a second chance!

seedord247:


Nah Felicia ... Get yourself a man before this inglorious celibacy turn you to a bipolar candidate

all feminists are bipolar.

Joavid:


Its either you are broke or stingy.

I mean, you keep crying about this same thing on every thread to bash women.

Taking a lady out is totally a waste to you.

Its your type that turn women to slaves. You would prefer she come to your house always; To cook, clean and have with sex you.

I pity the woman that ends up with you.

He speaks the Truth.
It's important for couples in a relationship to Bond, and bonding cannot be done in d aforementioned places.
What happened to taking long walks or just chilling together so u can talk, read n understand each other.

It's such situations that give rise t threads like this.

@ o.p..Lemme tell you what a lot of ppl are too considerate t say...You have a part t play/responsibility in Ur own tragedy.
You got warned prior to the wedding, u didn't investigate but obviously it left a mark hence Ur snooping ( the recycle bin Is one of the Most unlikely places f ppl t pop into except they looking f something).

About Ur Marriage, it most likely won't survive this.
Your husband's a wandering dic.k, that has No respect for the marriage.
A mistake is having sex with , maybe an ex, prior to d white, premeditated is Recording It.
Also, he's clearly bringing prostitutes into Ur home with the connivance of his friends.
Introduction is a contract of future marriage, and that should be a basis for future commitment.
Add to that, the fact that he u gave Ur PreCious, priceless virginity to.

Confront him, preferably outside d house (to avoid stories that touch), and also Talk to an Elderly, Long married, respectable fellow/ preferable,couple t help u put tins in proper perspective, but eventually the Choice of wat to do next is urs.

Nonso23:

My parents did not raise a mugu.

Even the flavour guy self has his own harem... 2 na just to warm up...
Don't be so sure about that o.
The problem is that the average Nigerian lady is not willing to demand their fair share of respect from their man.
I mean what is even there to demand
Ask them what they intend to make out of their lives in the next five years and the majority will just start gawking like demented heifers.
Ask some guys how their mothers dealt with them during the turbulent phase of adolescence. Firm but loving. Consequences for actions or inactions were clearly spelt out. (for them good mothers o). There were boundaries and they were adhered to.
Today's woman is more interested in replicating mill and boons in real life than taking more pragmatic approaches toward their marriages. Whilst that in itself is not a bad idea but then again no sensible person goes about cutting down a tree by plucking the leaves.
Marriage today is a contract where the negotiation for value is a till-death-do-us-part activity - a staring contest if you like.
The moment the woman thinks she can get a better offer outside, the husband is gone. The moment the man notices that he can cut a better deal on the sides he goes for it. The latter is more prevalent because the man, in most cases, sports the bulk of their combined financial muscle.
Happy marriages are those where both parties have acknowledged that the value they provide for each other is worth way more than any side attraction can offer. Where the man goes out of his way to please his wife and the woman won't stop at anything to cater to her husband's needs.

I refuse to accept that the woman is suppressed. I think the movement of society's focus from moralist/socialist foundations to capitalistic tendencies is more to blame. The women of the last generation had to combat with the inculcation of monogamy in their men thanks to Christianity and when it seemed like they were succeeding the "sex sells" adverts started to receive attention. Their target - those with the most money to throw around -men. Then morals boundaries became a question of "how much do you want?" . Women became more open to trading their morals for money. Young men who couldn't meet up were forced to step up and those who did wouldn't settle for less and whenever there appeared a better deal they stepped up yet again and the woman again is left with the shorter end of the stick. This is the reality of most of today's marriages.

The unfortunate thing is that both good women and men are the victims of this vicious cycle and it is not going to end anytime soon.
Trust is dead today. Everyone is as loyal as their pockets' depth.
Are there still good people?
Yes.
How can you find them?
I don't know. Try Tum bum tum bum...

This is just an 'A' class summary of the situation we find ourselves now.

This is. New Thread worth bruv, and if u don't open it, I will. No apologies.
Ppl need t see n read what you've written.

cococandy:
who are the non-feminists?

The ones that enjoy being cheated on and believe that's their place in life?

well, I believe advising the lady in question to walk out of her marriage because her husband cheated before marriage is extreme. There is no issue that cannot be resolved, that is why it's important for emotional maturity before anyone embarks on the journey of marriage. If everyone backs out on marriage for every reason, the institution becomes worthless, it's my view though. I believe a woman or man should only end his/marriage where life is threatened.

her husband in her discription is perfect, kind, the dream man.she was happy couldnt believe her luck snagging such a man.i mean she had to be.hard to find those kinda men these days.doubt i'll be half that good with my best efforts.she was fulfilld until she found some pre-wedding rump(emphasis on the pre) made as sex tapes deleted after he wedded her.common now this can be resolved.men have all sorts of sexual fantasies just that many dont have the courage to explore them; various societal conventions have supressed these fantasies and more so for our respect for the institution of marriage.its just the way we were wired its not easy fighting your nature you know.its just like fighting God.her man has been very lucky to enjoy those fantasies in his bachelorhood and he seem happy and now focused in his new union so why she go digging up dirt if she didnt have an idea of the man she married? After everything he'had been to her now he is monster like some women are trying to discribe here.this is wicked! And frankly if she quits this union like you women want, then she dont even deserve him.

It's amazing how calm I feel. Its amazing that I havent pulled out my hair. That I havent shouted the house down. That I havent broken every single electronic that I can lay my hands on.

Yes, it is amazing. Amazing that I am using the same laptop I just discovered my husband's 2 se.xtapes to type this.

Yes, you heard me right. Here I am. Newly married (less than 2 months). And I just borrowed my husbands laptop and decided to go to the recycle box. I saw what seemed like pictures/videos and decided to restore and see 1 of them.

Actually, I saw one a week ago. It seemed a harmless video but it was turned towards his favourite chair and he was nakkid. I saw it till it ended but nothing out of the ordinary happened. I tried to restore another video but I didnt see where it went. So that was it.

Today, after cleaning the house a little, I decided to browse on my phone but my phone was weak and died soon after. So I removed the sim to use on my browser and God, who has seen my heart made me check the recycle bin again. I dragged a video and clicked on play. Lo and behold, it was my nakkid husband again sitting on his favorite chair. I didnt think much of it, I just dragged the player to the middle. Lo and behold, I suddenly saw a female on top on him.

I was shaken and quickly stopped the player. My head was hot. My hands were shaking. What to do?

I wont regale you with much stories. But I have copied both videos. He still doesnt know I know.

I am very much shocked but calm. I have decided to be cold and calculated. Wish I knew this before he deflowered me exactly two weeks ago. As it is I might be pregnant.

Just so you know, one of the tapes was 2 months before our wedding (after the intro) and the second was exactly 20 days to the wedding. I checked the tape information.

Haaaaaa! And to think my inner mind was seriously warning me that something was wrong before the wedding. I was so scared before the wedding I couldnt even eat for a week to the wedding. I started eating gradually after the wedding.

What to do! What to do!! What to do!!!


Do I pretend I havent seen this tape? Do I scream the house down? Do I claw out his eyes?? Should I confront him and demand we start living pretentious lives till it gets to a respectable time to divorce? Do I leave him? How do I leave when Ive left every thing known just to be with him!!! I dont know anybody here! I dont know anywhere here!!!



OH MY GOD! DO NOT FORSAKE ME!!!


I dont want the front page please.


Please this is very much real. I can swear on the bible, on everything pure and innocent that this is the situation I have found myself today. Oh my God! Haaaaaa! Life!


I believe it is mature people here. Please I need logical advice. He that is down need fear no fall. I cannot fall farther than I have.

N.B-we did mandatory tests before the wedding. HIV negative.

But I will be going to the clinic. Both for preg and STI tests.

I have to know what do do before he comes near me for se.x (i hope I dont gouge out his eyes when he does, so help me God)

Forget it that was before your marriage and now he is committed to you I think you should focus on your marriage and leave his past life.

The babe u found on top of him are the once that would have crash your marriage now he has finished them he will not go back to them.infact, be happy

If I understood wot u wrote very well u said 20 days b4 ur wedding n u were a virgin den. Let 4 me I will advice u 4get abt it, lets take it to mean dt bcoz u were a virgin den he couldn't touch till after wedding n dt was wot led him to do such. Pretend as if nothing happened I believe dt if actually he has not turned a new leaf dt he will still repeat it again n dt time u will have concrete evidence to do wot ever u wish to do.

Note I did not support wot he did, his actions were very wrong, imagine making love to a gal n dubbing it, is very wrong but u hv to save ur marriage.

SirAweezy:


Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change.

You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me.

Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though).

But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real.

Your ex?

LOL!

Why do all the guys who claim they forgive cheating girlfriends always refer to them as exes?

Funny!

dBard:


He speaks the Truth.
It's important for couples in a relationship to Bond, and bonding cannot be done in d aforementioned places.
What happened to taking long walks or just chilling together so u can talk, read n understand each other.

It's such situations that give rise t threads like this.

@ o.p..Lemme tell you what a lot of ppl are too considerate t say...You have a part t play/responsibility in Ur own tragedy.
You got warned prior to the wedding, u didn't investigate but obviously it left a mark hence Ur snooping ( the recycle bin Is one of the Most unlikely places f ppl t pop into except they looking f something).

About Ur Marriage, it most likely won't survive this.
Your husband's a wandering dic.k, that has No respect for the marriage.
A mistake is having sex with , maybe an ex, prior to d white, premeditated is Recording It.
Also, he's clearly bringing prostitutes into Ur home with the connivance of his friends.
Introduction is a contract of future marriage, and that should be a basis for future commitment.
Add to that, the fact that he u gave Ur PreCious, priceless virginity to.

Confront him, preferably outside d house (to avoid stories that touch), and also Talk to an Elderly, Long married, respectable fellow/ preferable,couple t help u put tins in proper perspective, but eventually the Choice of wat to do next is urs.

@Bold;

100% on point!

cococandy:
@bold, I think that has been established already.

They are giving advice they can't take.
At least put yourself in someone's shoes before telling them to endure and pray over something that will make you even kill someone.

Where people drop their conscience sometimes I don't know. Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwww

It's human nature

Tay16:
what can you say, they are simply defending their own kind.

bukatyne:


Your ex?

LOL!

Why do all the guys who claim they forgive cheating girlfriends always refer to them as exes?

Funny!

I was ready to maeke it work but 2 years later she called it quit.. owing to the fact that she too guilty after I caught her with a man.

See example of men forgiven is not so far... I know a footballer very popular one at club 10 those days, his wife over cheated on him. Even many warned him to leave the woman, but he did not......... The whole nation knows he bought a car worth over 40m naira for her just to celebrate her birthday last year or so... I know the guy very well. So don't say men leave a cheating partner to the past only.

SirAweezy:


I was ready to maeke it work but 2 years later she called it quit.. owing to the fact that she too guilty after I caught her with a man.

See example of men forgiven is not so far... I know a footballer very popular one at club 10 those days, his wife over cheated on him. Even many warned him to leave the woman, but he did not......... The whole nation knows he bought a car worth over 40m naira for her just to celebrate her birthday last year or so... I know the guy very well. So don't say men leave a cheating partner to the past only.

Jay Jay?

The general consensus is men do not forgive

Thanks

SirAweezy:


Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change.

You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me.

Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though).

But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real.

Your feeling tells you she will be a loser in the long run? The woman is not relying on the husband, she has her own money, no kids, marriage was only two months ago, she seems young. You must be high on acid.

kandiikane:


Your feeling tells you she will be a loser in the long run? The woman is not relying on the husband, she has her own money, no kids, marriage was only two months ago, she seems young. You must be high on acid.

Don't worry son, when you grow up you understand my post. Do you think it's all about self sufficiency? It is well with you.

SirAweezy:


Don't worry son, when you grow up you understand my post. Do you think it's all about self sufficiency? It is well with you.

Well, daddy, why don't you make me understand your post. Tell me why she will suffer in the long run. Is he the only one with preek around? It shall be well with you too.