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My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Arizona1: 7:51am On Jun 25, 2015
Am having a problem of trust from my wife. She accuses me of having girl friends anytime she demands for money and I tell her to have patience. She listens to gossip a lot and believe what her friends and people tell her instead of what me her hubby tells her. I do everything for her and she does not work. The allegation got to d point that she threatnd she will do something very soon,she'll be the one making money and my job will go. So am confused coz I always stay @ home,help her with domestic work and take care of children coz we hav two kids and no house help. She pusHed me so hard that I slappd her one night and she took the kids and ran to her mother's house. Her mothr and sisters have been calling me and raining abuses on me,her youngr bro sent me a text that if something happens to her sister, he'll kill me. As a mattr of fact she always brings problem always att end of d month when I say she should calm down because of all we're sending @ home which she's part of but The money she's asking of is for her bro which she borrowd from him jus 3wks ago. Am getting tired of d whole thing and want to take my kids from her and leave her out of my life for now. Pls my people,I will welcome ur meaningful suggestions.
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by yimikaa: 7:57am On Jun 25, 2015
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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by agarawu23(m): 7:58am On Jun 25, 2015
If your wife is jobless, there is probability of listening to to gossip from your neighborhood both the false and true.

why can't you just give her the money she requested just to make peace (if you have and if you don't , they are ways you can calm her down to be patient till you have)

you do all house help because you are alws at home? are you jobless too?

And your last statement makes Me think your wife allegations are true. how will you just leave her like that and take your kids undecided

Is there any thing else your wife is doing that's is not clear to us? forget her threats OK? ladies are like that when they are angry.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by VickJames(m): 8:04am On Jun 25, 2015
This is serious.
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by eleko1: 8:10am On Jun 25, 2015
Wish ur wife can defend herself online against ur allegation.I see u as wife beater sad undecided.until then,I dey watch u sad

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 8:12am On Jun 25, 2015
Leave that piece of trash immediately. She is not worth being called a wife. She is a very abusive beast that should be drawn and quartered. She does not DESERVE you. Send her packing and don't look back! There are a lot of beautiful women out there who are more respectful and and even gainfully employed. Don't ever marry all these have who have nothing doing. And to cap it all, she is an evil woman threathning you with Juju. Kai! you wasted too much time. If na me by now I would have told her people I am divorcing her immediately.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by SAMBARRY: 8:16am On Jun 25, 2015
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You are a clown
dinachi:
Leave that piece of trash immediately. She is not worth being called a wife. She is a very abusive beast that should be drawn and quartered. She does not DESERVE you. Send her packing and don't look back! There are a lot of beautiful women out there who are more respectful and and even gainfully employed. Don't ever marry all these have who have nothing doing. And to cap it all, she is an evil woman threathning you with Juju. Kai! you wasted too much time. If na me by now I would have told her people I am divorcing her immediately.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 8:22am On Jun 25, 2015
Arizona1:
Am having a problem of trust from my wife. She accuses me of having girl friends anytime she demands for money and I tell her to have patience. She listens to gossip a lot and believe what her friends and people tell her instead of what me her hubby tells her. I do everything for her and she does not work. The allegation got to d point that she threatnd she will do something very soon,she'll be the one making money and my job will go. So am confused coz I always stay @ home,help her with domestic work and take care of children coz we hav two kids and no house help. She pusHed me so hard that I slappd her one night and she took the kids and ran to her mother's house. Her mothr and sisters have been calling me and raining abuses on me,her youngr bro sent me a text that if something happens to her sister, he'll kill me. As a mattr of fact she always brings problem always att end of d month when I say she should calm down because of all we're sending @ home which she's part of but The money she's asking of is for her bro which she borrowd from him jus 3wks ago. Am getting tired of d whole thing and want to take my kids from her and leave her out of my life for now. Pls my people,I will welcome ur meaningful suggestions.
She pushed you physically? If YES, no problem, but if NO, under no circumstance should you beat up a woman(any human).

If you're Christian, remember that bible doesn't support divorce except when a party is caught committing adultery.
This is one of the many challenges that comes with being married.
Just ignore her silly rants and keep doing your things, because she'll finally feel remorseful for her actions.

But, if you're not a Christian, you can go on with your decision of filing a divorce.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by BTT(m): 8:22am On Jun 25, 2015
Allowing your wife to push you to the point of losing your senses and slapping her was wrong. Deed done, but never get caught in that position again.

Secondly, this is only your own version of the story. But let us take it as is.

I pray God rains peace into yoour home.

Your wife is obviously insecure and her insecurities are fuelled by her family members. Don't bother about her brother. He is ironically seeking security for his sister the wrong way. You may call him and seat him down and talk to him like a younger brother. He's a guy- he will understand and may become your ambassador amongst your in-laws.

Try and get her a job. Something that makes her feel important and sees herself contributing to bottomline. When home all day, most ladies feel their men see them as mere objects and this further aggravates their insecurity.

If you two worship at the same place, better if you can get your worship leaders involved.

Don't meet the mom. It will be counterproductive. No matter what you say, she will most likely believe her daughter's version. If dad, that's ok. Most mothers will always take the fall for their daughters.

Don't give up on your marriage yet. The night is darkest at the breaking of day. Just keep throwing your best shots at it.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 8:37am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

She pushed you physically? If YES, no problem, but if NO, under no circumstance should you beat up a woman(any human).

BTT:
Allowing your wife to push you to the point of losing your senses and slapping her was wrong. Deed done, but never get caught in that position again.
This is where I absolutely disagree with both you. So it is okay for the wife to be verbally abusive. Don't you know she is the abusive person in the relationship? The guy had to give her a love tap at the cheek to regularise her thinking! I seriously feel for this guy. He got married to a living female demon and he urgently needs to unbundle now. He surely deserves better.
My brothers men are suffering oh! Chai

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 8:38am On Jun 25, 2015
SAMBARRY:
grin grin grin
You are a clown
How?
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Vyolet(f): 8:49am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:
Leave that piece of trash immediately. She is not worth being called a wife. She is a very abusive beast that should be drawn and quartered. She does not DESERVE you. Send her packing and don't look back! There are a lot of beautiful women out there who are more respectful and and even gainfully employed. Don't ever marry all these have who have nothing doing. And to cap it all, she is an evil woman threathning you with Juju. Kai! you wasted too much time. If na me by now I would have told her people I am divorcing her immediately.
Lol..
Patience is virtue Mr man. This is just a version of the story,no on knows the main truth.
Everyone would always report a case to suit him or her.

@Op,I think you are not communicating well with your wife,it is not only about giving her money,try and listen to her complaints and work on it.
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 8:49am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:

This is where I absolutely disagree with both you. So it is okay for the wife to be verbally abusive. Don't you know she is the abusive person in the relationship? The guy had to give her a love tap at the cheek to regularise her thinking! I seriously feel for this guy. He got married to a living female demon and he urgently needs to unbundle now. He surely deserves better.
My brothers men are suffering oh! Chai
An eye for an eye, only leads to more blindness.

By the way, I don't see how verbal abuse equate Physical abuse.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 9:25am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

An eye for an eye, only leads to more blindness.

By the way, I don't see how verbal abuse equate Physical abuse.
Verbal abuse and physical abuse all na abuse! How do you measure them pray tell? Both cause pain. One physical, the other emotional. Both can kill if sustained.
It is not an issue of an eye for an eye. If a woman cannot support her husband but derides him at every single opportunity and destroys his self worth and finally threatens to render him useless using juju then that woman cannot be said to be a wife but a witch.
He needs to unbundle himself from that woman before he looses his good self and destroys himself.
Walahi my brother men are indeed suffering! That woman does not deserve him.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 9:30am On Jun 25, 2015
SAMBARRY:
with your ever senseless and amusing posts
If I reply you in kind now, you will start bleating for the mods. If you know you do not have anything meaningful to contribute just avoid my post altogether. Next time I will not be so nice!

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by SAMBARRY: 9:41am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:

If I reply you in kind now, you will start bleating for the mods. If you know you do not have anything meaningful to contribute just avoid my post altogether. Next time I will not be so nice!
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by SAMBARRY: 9:42am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:

If I reply you in kind now, you will start bleating for the mods. If you know you do not have anything meaningful to contribute just avoid my post altogether. Next time I will not be so nice!
can't you see i'm already shivering and scared grin grin
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 9:50am On Jun 25, 2015
Vyolet:

Lol..
Patience is virtue Mr man. This is just a version of the story,no on knows the main truth.
Everyone would always report a case to suit him or her.

@Op,I think you are not communicating well with your wife,it is not only about giving her money,try and listen to her complaints and work on it.
Stop making excuses for an extremely abusive wife! A woman that threatens to use Juju to make the husband redundant and make herself employed is an evil woman and should be discarded as fast as a used sanitary pad. She does not deserve him. He should dump the trash ASAP!
There are more beautiful respectful and gainfully employed women praying everyday for a good husband like the Op and that evil witch is somewhere making life hell for him.
Op should as a matter of urgency initiate divorce proceedings against her. The man has indeed suffered, he sure needs a better woman in his life now.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by ogawisdom(m): 9:54am On Jun 25, 2015
Give it sometime then make arrangement to bring her back home. D major prob is dt she is selfish n jobless.

Pls dnt slap her again except she slaps or beats u undecided if she nags u too much leave d houz for her or lock urself in d room or wateva works

Make arrangement to set her up in some kinda of biz if white collar job is nt forthcoming
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by 5minsmadness: 10:23am On Jun 25, 2015
I have never advocated for divorce on this forum.


BUT


The moment her brother threatened to kill you if anything happened to his sister was the end of the relationship even if temporarily!

Jejerly pack her things and return her to her father's house. Tell them you are afraid for your life and have decided to return their daughter to them until further notice.


What arrant nonsense! angry

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by 5minsmadness: 10:30am On Jun 25, 2015
Pls let's leave this verbal and physical abuse thing out of this matter (as if some of you don't know people have committed suicide over what someone verbally assailed them with but anyway... )


The man's life has been threatened not once but twice! Haba, why is that woman still in that house? angry angry angry

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 10:53am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:
Leave that piece of trash immediately. She is not worth being called a wife. She is a very abusive beast that should be drawn and quartered. She does not DESERVE you. Send her packing and don't look back! There are a lot of beautiful women out there who are more respectful and and even gainfully employed. Don't ever marry all these have who have nothing doing. And to cap it all, she is an evil woman threathning you with Juju. Kai! you wasted too much time. If na me by now I would have told her people I am divorcing her immediately.

OMG grin grin, I was just praying that Dinachi will not see this post oo angry angry seems like I prayed too late

Dinach, you don see market now baa

I know you won't leave this thread

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Dinachi, I just read your comments, pls desist from calling the wife names. Even the poster might not like it and you will make him regret bringing the story here. Give ur advice without calling her evil names. They are still married and even if they separate now, they can still settle in the future.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by MRSANITY(m): 10:54am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

She pushed you physically? If YES, no problem, but if NO, under no circumstance should you beat up a woman(any human).

If you're Christian, remember that bible doesn't support divorce except when a party is caught committing adultery.
This is one of the many challenges that comes with being married.
Just ignore her silly rants and keep doing your things, because she'll finally feel remorseful for her actions.

But, if you're not a Christian, you can go on with your decision of filing a divorce.
you keep talking about being a christian, bible, yet you believe in homosexuality, damn u.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by troy20(m): 10:58am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

An eye for an eye, only leads to more blindness.

By the way, I don't see how verbal abuse equate Physical abuse.
you see eh, a man who has had encounters with women would never say he doesnt see how verbal/emotional abuse isnt as equally damaging as physical abuse.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 11:05am On Jun 25, 2015
troy20:

you see eh, a man who has had encounters with women would never say he doesnt see how verbal/emotional abuse isnt as equally damaging as physical abuse.
Good for you!
I don't deal with "Nasty women"...
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 11:06am On Jun 25, 2015
MRSANITY:
you keep talking about being a christian, bible, yet you believe in homosexuality, damn u.
Yes, I believe in homosexuality doing their things. So?

At least, I don't condemn them like your hypocritical self do....

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by simpleseyi: 11:09am On Jun 25, 2015
I have been married for about 4 years now and I will tell you with all sincerity that marriage is work itself. Marriage is NOT a bed of roses as people claim. The other time Pastor Kumuyi said that he never had disagreement with his late wife through out their stay and I felt like slapping him across the television, that was a big white lie. Just as you disagree and fight with your brothers and sisters and friends, you also disagree and fight with your spouse. When you see old couples celebrating 70 years old marriage, what they mean is that they have been quarrelling, disagreeing, fighting and resolving it for 70 years, it does not mean that they have been living in paradise as Pastor Kumuyi wanted us to believe. Afterall , some angles once revolted against God in heaven, how then can humans live peacefully together everyday? Impossible

Your wife is not the worst woman on earth and I am very sure that you are not the best man on earth. If I were you, I will do nothing, I will just watch and observe. Silence is golden. I expected that her siblings would try and mediate and bring peace, but unfortunately, they seems like nitwits. So, just watch and observe. Never think of separation or divorce, it never solve anything. I am sure very soon, just very soon, the two of you will solve the issue with hot marathon sexx grin grin grin

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:09am On Jun 25, 2015
Kimoni:


OMG grin grin, I was just praying that Dinachi will not see this post oo angry angry seems like I prayed too late

Dinach, you don see market now baa

I know you won't leave this thread

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Dinachi, I just read your comments, pls desist from calling the wife names. Even the poster might not like it and you will make him regret bringing the story here. Give ur advice without calling her evil names. They are still married and even if they separate now, they can still settle in the future.
OK.
I am just angry that the woman does not appreciate the man at all. He works his butts off and sometimes even helps out with household chores yet she is causing him damaging emotional pain by being verbally abusive. Would you as a person approve the woman's behaviour? She even threatens him that she will do something and he will loose his job and she will get a job and become the provider.Now who says that to a spouse, except an evil person? Honestly, I think the man made a very big mistake marrying that kind of person. I know how me and my better half support each other even in trying times. It is extremely painful when a wife or girlfriend is not appreciative and instead gives you emotional pain. Believe me the man may develop high blood pressure and die.
I am jus trying to save his life here.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by troy20(m): 11:15am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

Good for you!
I don't deal with "Nasty women"...
well actually i meant men who have had encounters with women.not women who've had encounters with women.

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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 11:17am On Jun 25, 2015
dinachi:

OK.
I am just angry that the woman does not appreciate the man at all. He works his butts off and sometimes even helps out with household chores yet she is causing him damaging emotional pain by being verbally abusive. Would you as a person approve the woman's behaviour? She even threatens him that she will do something and he will loose his job and she will get a job and become the provider.Now who says that to a spouse, except an evil person? Honestly, I think the man made a very big mistake marrying that kind of person. I know how me and my better half support each other even in trying times. It is extremely painful when a wife or girlfriend is not appreciative and instead gives you emotional pain. Believe me the man may develop high blood pressure and die.
I am jus trying to save his life here.


She is just idle and insecure, an idle mind is the devil's workshop. She need a job
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:18am On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:

Yes, I believe in homosexuality doing their things. So?
What about adult family members doing their things? Anything wrong with ince5t as long as they are adults? Can your adult son and daughter marry? Will you support that? What is the difference between support for adult homosexual and adult incestual couples?
My point is ,Christianity and the Bible has not support for your views. There is no Christian Homosexual supporter!

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