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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:20am On Jun 25, 2015 |
Kimoni:You know then that the devils workshop is evil! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by bukatyne(f): 11:20am On Jun 25, 2015 |
Arizona1: Have you cheated on her before or given her a reason to distrust you previously? There is no smoke without fire.... Find the fire. Trust like all things is earned. it is not enough to want her to always believe you, you have to prove to be trustworthy Arizona1: Why does she not work? You told her not to? You both agreed? She decided not to? The threat seems like she is currently 'feels' you are punishing her by not meeting her financial needs. Remember, it is you or no one else. Arizona1: Was the push physical? The abuse is a no no however, they are just protecting their daughter. If your sister calls that her husband slapped her/beat her, I am sure you would forget you once slapped wifey while talking. Under no circumstance should you hit your wife except she did first. Arizona1: Bros, she is not working; if she likes a lace she wants to buy for her mother, she will ask you directly/indirectly/inflate the cost of feeding etc. the end point is that she will always get the money from you. Also the fact she doesn't work might not allow her appreciate money or not believe you do not have if she doesn't know your salary or income monthly. The brother might have needed the money urgently and lent her because she promised to pay @ the end of the month. Arizona1: Don't be tired; your wife might also be tired too and be planning to take the kids THOUGHTS Money and trust seems to be the issues here. Since you are open to doing chores, let her get a job asap. Her leaving the house and mingling will allow her see things from a different perspective and cut her off from the rumour mill(I am giving you the benefit of doubt that your hands are clean). Infact, her getting a job will also ease the burden and stress off you and reduce greatly your friction. Trust: You have got to earn her trust again and prove the gossips wrong Take care 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 11:21am On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi: Lol...so the question is how to engage her and reduce her idle time |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 11:24am On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi:I don't have a problem with all you listed. My problem is my family. My own is to advice them not be a judge. Thanks 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:27am On Jun 25, 2015 |
Kimoni:So do you now condone her attitude because she is idle?If she kills the man with her nagging, will you be saying this during his funeral? First things first. Nobody should be an ass because they don't have jobs! What stops her from looking to a job? It is now the mans duty to get her a job, what is her own duty? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:32am On Jun 25, 2015 |
FrancisTony:If trully you support incest and homosexuality, where does your Christianity then come in? I am lost here. If you see someone doing something that is Biblically wrong as a Christian, which other advice apart from stop will you give.? You are just trying to satisfy the homosexual lobby. If indeed you you are a Bible believing Christian, then you have no business saying Homosexuality is not your problem. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 11:37am On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi:But Jesus said let no man be a judge? Ok...I don't support homosexual neither will I cricticize it. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Moana(f): 11:39am On Jun 25, 2015 |
Arizona1: 1. Are you cheating? 2. Does she have qualifications to get a job? 3. Why isnt she working? |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by BlackLeopard(m): 11:40am On Jun 25, 2015 |
FrancisTony: True this. Jesus said judging a nature of a man is not people business, but God's. Also that God is loving, embracing, and supporting care fi one another, & compassion to communities. Twisting that basic? Na God catch 'em. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 11:45am On Jun 25, 2015 |
FrancisTony:What do you mean by being judgemental in this case? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by mutter(f): 12:00pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
No smoke without fire. Do you want us to believe that the women in the neighbourhood have nothing better to do than accuse you wrongly? You are doing something very wrong in the marriage. I also can't believe the brother threatened your life for one slap. It wasn't the first time and they have had enough of your violence. Your money should also be a support to your wife. Where do you want her to get the money to pay her debt.? Don't push her to do things you might regret....and because of this minor issue Ou want to break your home and see rate the kid's from their mother. You are heartless. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 12:09pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
mutter:This is utter rubbish! Pay attention at your peril . 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by 5minsmadness: 12:46pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
troy20:Eggsactly. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by funlord(m): 1:17pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
What is this? Choii! |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 1:57pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi: Nagging will not kill him, he should block his ears. He needs to take charge of his home, it is his family. He should either help her to look for a job or establish her in business. He needs to first address the root cause of the problem before thinking of seperation. Will he leave his kids with her or keep them? And if he keeps them, how will he take care of kids coupled with his job. His wife's case is not irredeemable yet, he should just take charge of his home. |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by eleko1: 2:58pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Kai! See as u dey rush deliver judgement as if u dey there.Why the wife nor go run go her Mama house,u wan make the 'Tyson' husband mauled her.I fear. dinachi: |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Stillfire: 3:09pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Unfortunately for you, the respect your wife has for you is tied to how much money you have or you can never have. That is what you get for marrying chicken heads. Verbal abuse is parts and parcel of domestic violence. Domestic violence can take a number of forms including physical, emotional, verbal, economic and sexual abuse. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by stevo123(m): 3:22pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
She pushed you to the wall and you slapped her, that's not fair. Raising your hand up to slap your wife is not right at all. Going through your explanation I found out that you have never for once wake her up at night to talk like husband and wife. Try your best to talk to her privately, and make sure at that time she is in a very good mood. |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by coogaluta(f): 3:43pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi: No smelly pussy? Dinachi, I'm disappointed |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 3:50pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
coogaluta: |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by cococandy(f): 3:50pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi: Love tap on the cheek You're not well. I hope you know. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by cococandy(f): 3:52pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Hmm. I don't agree with you Kimoni: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 4:05pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
cococandy: Lol If nagging kills full grown men, then they should be going extinct by now. "Sticks and stones may hurt me but words will never harm me" - this is an English proverb basically saying I might have no control over physical violence targeted at me but I can choose to ignore verbal rantings. The latter is a choice. Have you allowed NL bullying affected you in any way? Maybe initially, but now? Note that I am not asking him to accept his fate permanently but it is not enough to separate or divorce her immediately like Dinachi advocated till he has tried to address the underlying root of her problems. |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 4:17pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
Kimoni:Many men have died and more are dying everyday from effects of nagging especially high blood pressure. That is why the Bible says it is better to dwell at the corner of the roof than stay with a nagging wo man. So the husband is a victim of terrible abuse from the wife and he should send her away immediately for his own safety and good health. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Nobody: 4:17pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi:You're already up in arms advocating for divorce, if a woman does that she is labelled a feminist. Hiehiehiehie!!!!!!hahaha You are one funny two timing son of a gun. Op, allow her to be for sometime to come to her senses, do not look for her to drive home a point that you're tired of her bickering and insolent behavior. Watch her people closely to ascertain if they are fuelling the behavior more and then decide the next action to take. But, show concern for the wellbeing of your kids. Ignore your wife. |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by dinachi(m): 4:21pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
LadyFiona:I am just trying to save the mans life here, OK. The wife is very abusive. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Kimoni: 4:22pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
dinachi: Hahahahaha why are you bent on separating this couple by force? Wetin the wife do you naa |
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Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by cococandy(f): 4:38pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
You can't compare faceless people on NL to someone who lives with you. Saying one can let it not affect them is easier said than done. Especially if you love the person in question. Of course verbal abuse never justifies physical violence. Ever. But I don't agree with you that he should block his ears to it. He's human. There's no easy way to just ignore and swallow verbal abuse. I Agree it's not enough yet to take his kids and bolt. Of course not. But the solution can't be from him alone. They need to work together to get there. It's almost like what you said too but I just felt like I had to say something about the part of 'nagging doesn't kill' Kimoni: |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by cococandy(f): 4:41pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
don't mind him LadyFiona: |
Re: My Wife Accuses Me Wrongly by Joy1706(f): 4:42pm On Jun 25, 2015 |
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