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What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 6:54pm On Jun 26, 2015
Hello everyone smiley.

So I know this is a bit long but i have a friend in deep crisis now and needs your advice and contributions.

Please, no bashing.

Hi, my name is John (not my real name). Last year, I met Joana and I fell for her. I stepped up to her, we clicked and we became an item. We have been happy and satisfied with each other since then, well that was before Ronke came along.

Ronke is a girl i met in school. A rich but very free girl who was also my coursemate. She had actually stepped up to me after a lecture and told me she liked me and wanted us to be friends. I agreed with it without talking to Joana first (my mistake) and we started rolling.

The thing here is that, Joana hates Ronke. Her reasons being; Ronke is beautiful and rich and will snatch me from her. I tried talking to her (Joana), tried convincing her that its her I truly love...but no, she doesn't just get it. So I decided to leave it at that, started avoiding Ronke because of it.

Last month, I had a very big problem and needed money urgently. My dad is late and my mum aint doing that great so I couldn't ask her for money. Went to my uncles and aunties but none helped, they even started avoiding me.

I turned to my friends...still nothing. I asked Joana who in turn asked her family and friends but nothing....no one could help. I was devastated.

One evening, I was just browsing through my contacts looking for who to call when my phone rang. It was Ronke and apparently, one of my friends had told her about my problem. She asked how much and I told her reluctantly, then she asked me to send my account number....

She sent the money, even added extra on it and told me to take care. Speechlessly, I listened to her tell me that I had abandoned her and that it wasn't a big deal. Also said that she has not forgotten me and would forever regard me as a good friend. Then she hung up.

Confused, I called Joana to tell her the great news about the money but she just said "ok" and hung up. I tried calling but she refused to pick my calls. Next she sent me this exact message: John, since u av decided to go begging the same gel I told u I don't like, I don't want anytin 2 do wit u again. Its over.

Since then, she have completely avoided me. I went to her lodge but she refused to see me. Doesn't pick my call, ignore my texts and all those things girls do.

I love this girl and I can't let her go. What do I do? Should I return the money?

Please advice.

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 6:55pm On Jun 26, 2015
Everybody now has a friend in crisis. grin

First of all, i think that your girlfriend is insecure and can't stand you talking to other girls which is a very big problem for a guy to handle.

You were in a bad situation and, you needed help. There was no one to help you, but Ronke. If joana really loves you, she will decipher, rather than

be so mad about it. My advice: Don't return the money, you need it. Give your girlfriend some space, she will come around, but try to send a text to

let her know that's nothing going on between you and Ronke. if she loves you. she will come back.

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by demmy0325(m): 6:55pm On Jun 26, 2015
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Have come across this story smwhere b4..undecided
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Dollyak(f): 6:58pm On Jun 26, 2015
Gosh, some girls can be too selfish and unreasonable. You might need to have a word with her friends or relatives. If after making effort she doesn't come around to her senses, then I will advise you move on. Perhaps, hook up with ronke.
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by iceberylin(m): 7:00pm On Jun 26, 2015
nollywood movie

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by piicity(m): 7:01pm On Jun 26, 2015
GIRL SHA,broz just forget about her,if she truly loves you she will come back and kneel down in front of you and if he doesn't just follow the rich girl at least your hands are clean you tried all means to beg her now

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:03pm On Jun 26, 2015
Nneka123:
Everybody now has a friend in crisis grin
If you've got no meaningful contribution, why don't you just shut da fvckbup
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:05pm On Jun 26, 2015
Lamispaco:
If you've got no meaningful contribution, why don't you just shut da fvckbup
Hey Lammy smiley
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Isaacmacdon(m): 7:05pm On Jun 26, 2015
Twaci:
Hello everyone smiley.

So I know this is a bit long but i have a friend in deep crisis now and needs your advice and contributions.

Please, no bashing.

Hmmmmmmmmm... If he really loves her den he Sud let her be... since she has refused to understand... nd its glaring dat d gf z still acting immature...

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:06pm On Jun 26, 2015
Lamispaco:
If you've got no meaningful contribution, why don't you just shut da fvckbup
undecided undecided
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by elantraceey(f): 7:06pm On Jun 26, 2015
I understand your girlfriends jealousy but it's way out of line , it's quite ok for her to feel insecure about a girl who's rich and more beautiful than her and from what's stated here , she doesn't trust you .


So here's my advice

1. If you can't be in a relationship without trust because I don't see her gaining trust and self confidence in this relationship then I'll say you should just move on and forget about her.

2. If you can keep up with the distrust then call Ronke and politely ask her to call your girlfriend to clear things up with her, If that doesn't work then I guess you'll just have to let go.

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by vizkiz: 7:06pm On Jun 26, 2015
Lamispaco:
If you've got no meaningful contribution, why don't you just shut da fvckbup

hey she just stated the obvious...everybody now comes to NL with a story that starts with "my friend" undecided

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:07pm On Jun 26, 2015
Can you ever satisfy a girl, in don't think so,if you really can't trust your guy enough it's bad

My opinion, maybe the guy should explain things to a very close friend of the girl,maybe she can help explain better

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by cyndax(f): 7:08pm On Jun 26, 2015
if u love her ...go after her at all cost ...true heart never lie...
she might be adamant just give her a little space to think....then...go back again.

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:10pm On Jun 26, 2015
Isaacmacdon:
Hmmmmmmmmm... If he really loves her den he Sud let her be... since she has refused to understand... nd its glaring dat d gf z still acting immature...
Thought same, but really, as a guy wouldn't u feel same?
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:12pm On Jun 26, 2015
Twaci:
Hey Lammy smiley
Evening,must really be enjoying your new status,™ghost mode™.
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jun 26, 2015
vizkiz:


hey she just state the obvious...everybody now comes to NL with a story that starts with "my friend" undecided
what are friends for?

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:15pm On Jun 26, 2015
Lamispaco:
Evening,must really be enjoying your new status,™ghost mode™.
I dey tell u cheesy. Its relaxing!
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by sseunth(m): 7:17pm On Jun 26, 2015
Let me send you my account details so that you can send the money there
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:18pm On Jun 26, 2015
undecided

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Venom104: 7:19pm On Jun 26, 2015
What a selfish girl.. So her supposed beef with the girl is greater than your problem.. Anyway make all efforts to get her back, then move on..

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:25pm On Jun 26, 2015
if only to move on is easy,that would had being the best option because no relationship can survive without trust
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:28pm On Jun 26, 2015
Twaci:
I dey tell u cheesy. Its relaxing!
hmmm,leaving me here all alone,it's like you and Tohpahz planned this
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:29pm On Jun 26, 2015
Twaci sef don start to dey lie ontop friend Chai!!!

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by JeffreyJamez(m): 7:29pm On Jun 26, 2015
She should go and die abeg.... guy better face Ronke..... Joana head no dey house... simple!

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Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:30pm On Jun 26, 2015
Orijin101:
Twaci sef don start to dey lie ontop friend Chai!!!
I still get my chakabula undecided
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by JeffreyJamez(m): 7:32pm On Jun 26, 2015
cyndax:
if u love her ...go after her at all cost ...true heart never lie...
she might be adamant just give her a little space to think....then...go back again.

See talk o!...for this 2015?.....


...and to think that Ronke is even more beautiful ...mchew.... in fact I don vex!
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:32pm On Jun 26, 2015
Lamispaco:
hmmm,leaving me here all alone,it's like you and Tohpahz planned this
That's why we are called "soul sisters". smiley
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:32pm On Jun 26, 2015
some ladies form saints here while they are devil offline undecided undecided


The guy should use the money he got from Ronk and go and sort things out later with Joan



That's what ladies do anyways tongue
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:34pm On Jun 26, 2015
Twaci:
I still get my chakabula undecided
Cyndax dear, come and attend to her ooo
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Twaci(f): 7:35pm On Jun 26, 2015
JeffreyJamez:


See talk o!...for this 2015?.....


...and to think that Ronke is even more beautiful ...mchew.... in fact I don vex!
Keep vexing angry

You go old quick grin
Re: What Do I Do? - Please Advice by Nobody: 7:35pm On Jun 26, 2015
MzMayD:
some ladies form saints here while they are devil offline undecided undecided


The guy should use the money he got from Ronk and go and sort things out later with Joan



That's what ladies do anyways tongue
you ehn undecided

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