freecocoa:
I don't find such questions healthy.

I can never ask my man that, it will be my pleasure that he puts the kids before me, he should certainly love them more please.

What a grave wish! Time would certainly expose you the frailty of your unhealthy wish. Children come and go, madam. And when they are gone, you are left alone with your spouse to continue the love tour. What happens if your children left with the love that existed between you two before they came in?

PastorJohnny:


What a grave wish! Time would certainly expose you the frailty of your unhealthy wish. Children come and go, madam. And when they are gone, you are left alone with your spouse to continue the love tour. What happens if your children left with the love that existed between you two before they came in?

Are you well at all? So a man loves his wife the same way he loves his kids? Is it now kids that keep couples together? Are you like for serious?

Sick.

She is wrong for introducing unhealthy competition between herself and the daughter

The only perfect way to reassure her is by using the obvious lines of: “I love you both differently”

OP, dont worry about this, you've done nothing wrong at all, and women sometimes take this issue of attention way too far.

Truth is, what you're facing now is a phase every marriage must pass thru. Before i got married i used to laugh at my friends when they bring issues like this to the table, but it also got to my turn. So all NL guys yet to get hooked, your own is coming..

Your wife will eventually come around, but still talk to her. Babies need more care and attention.

For example, your wife needs to make her hair and the baby milk is finished, which will you do first?? Of course it has to be the baby's milk!!!

When dat happens, there's the tendency for her to think you're placing baby before her, so just talk and make her know no one can take her place, its just for now, that baby needs more than her..

Cheers bro, and welcome to the club

tolu4you:
I had this chatting with my woman yesterday. She asked me if i love my daughter more? Fellow nairalander, anything wrong with the question? Coz the question dey somehow.
How on earth asking such a question from your husband if he love his child more than you.


CC : lalasticlala

"You are not married to your Children. Therefore, if your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband/wife, you need prayers" Dr. Uma Ukpai

eagleccentric:
OP, dont worry about this, you've done nothing wrong at all, and women sometimes take this issue of attention way too far.

Truth is, what you're facing now is a phase every marriage must pass thru. Before i got married i used to laugh at my friends when they bring issues like this to the table, but it also got to my turn. So all NL guys yet to get hooked, your own is coming..

Your wife will eventually come around, but still talk to her. Babies need more care and attention.

For example, your wife needs to make her hair and the baby milk is finished, which will you do first?? Of course it has to be the baby's milk!!!

When dat happens, there's the tendency for her to think you're placing baby before her, so just talk and make her know no one can take her place, its just for now, that baby needs more than her..

Cheers bro, and welcome to the club

Seriously what are you on about? How can it ever be sane to put your wife's hairdo before a baby's food?

Did you read yourself?

Daughters especially the first ones has a way of bonding with their daddy thereby taking their daddy's attention from whomever that is arround their mums inclusive. Daddies on the other hand don't help issue, all they care is "has my daughter eaten? Has my daughter this, has my daughter that" they most times fget the existence of the wife whenever the daughter is in the room. And for a young mum that isn't used to sharing her husband's attention with anyone, it can be challenging. As weird or odd as d question might seem, I understand her feeling. All she needs a reasurance both by words and actions that she is still ur number one love, afterall before ur daughter she was there.......


What can we do? We are still women if we don't show jelousy over our man who will?

1. Do you watch "who on earth did I marry?"
2. Does the child look like you?
3. Why did she ask if you love tolu more and not if you love our daughter more, first name basis rivalry is pretty . For rivalry to start at this early stage, Sounds creepy. I wonder what will happen during the oedipus complex phase. I have heard women say that they stick with their husband because of the children. To show you how much women love their kids. I think she is supposed to love the girl more than you do. Atleast, she met the girl first and they had 9 months to bond.

Butttt, what do I know, I think too much of investigation discovery is starting to affect moi.

arabianights:



my dear take it or leave it, its normal. its just that most women arent open on this with thier husbands or people, they tend to even start being hard on the child.

he just needs to be diplomatic for the sake of peace and emotional stability of that daughter

i found the issue a bit strange though, and yea, i agree that he handles it wisely for his baby's sake.

snakebeat:
Na for online u & ur wife dey communicate? Why she no ask u 4 house?

She probably need the response in writing, as evidence perhaps

zeusdgrt:
just my tots cutie, U r wise.

thanks

This question has become the order of the day with women competing with their wards especially daughters...

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tolu4you:
I no dey around so we mostly chat online

is she not the biological mother

thorpido:
Interesting.
My wife has not asked me the question yet but I know she's aware of the fact that i give our daughter more attention at home.
It's not my fault,our daughter grabs my attention whether I give her or not.

Honestly,I've observed and heard many women say their husbands seem to love their kids the more.

pardon me but this sounds soo explicit,i just have a rotten mind no vex

The love for a wife is different from the love you have for your daughter. You love them both but in different ways

so if you answer yes what is she going to do?

After having children, i believe you move to a different stage of life so your wife might be in need of a reality Check. My advice is, you guys should try and love your child together. i.e if your playing with her, do it with your wife, taking her out? do it with your wife. Don't isolate your wife while you are with your daughter but i don't think you need to start buying them things equally and trying to show them the same amount of attention, that is ridiculous and condescending if you ask me.

tolu4you:
I no dey around so we mostly chat online

You love your daughter so much @ your id

tolu4you:
I had this chatting with my woman yesterday. She asked me if i love my daughter more? Fellow nairalander, anything wrong with the question? Coz the question dey somehow.
How on earth asking such a question from your husband if he love his child more than you.


CC : lalasticlala

Is your name Tolu? You love your daughter so much that you use her name as your moniker

tolu4you:
I had this chatting with my woman yesterday. She asked me if i love my daughter more? Fellow nairalander, anything wrong with the question? Coz the question dey somehow.
How on earth asking such a question from your husband if he love his child more than you.


CC : lalasticlala

The way you love your mum is different from the way you love your child, its true love mixed with care for your baby nd love mixed with respect for your mom....

Just let your wife know you love her in every single sense of the word i.e respect, care, romantic, erotic etc.

Its cute that your wife can open up to you on such issue, means you are doing things right...

youmour:


pardon me but this sounds soo explicit,i just have a rotten mind no vex

You just said it.

Lol. @op u even have tolu's name as ur moniker.., why won't Momy Tolu ask u Na. My regards to Tolu jare.

Teempakguy:
Why is your username Tolu4you? And you are wondering what she saw

Im Tolulope and my daughter is Toluwalase

This aint confusion, tell her straight. U love her more than your daughter ah! ah!!. I mean while should your children b jeolous if you love your wife/their mum more, Does it make sence. Bt wife do get jelous n I can't fault them.despite that u love your children more. Don't show it even though its bound to happen even among d children if u have more than 1 u don't show u love 1 more than d other bt who will complain if u love your wife more, I mean she, your daughter is whatching and she's learning.

That does not matter. whether the man loves his child more compared to his wife but nevertheless, that was a good reply from the man. #Humour

See question o...and u gave her d right answer meeehn! 95percent of women love their children more, is a fact.

400billionman:


Bros, the IQ really low..

Lol, don't get me wrong o, I didn't mean her IQ, I meant her "Q".... as in, Question.

arabianights:




my dear, please discuss and with others they wil confirm this.i dey tell u.this na fact.i observed this,even warn my male colleagues and they have come to confirm my warning to be true.

women are good in hiding this particular fact to avoid criticisms or attack but most women feel threatbed or jealous if the husband pays more attention to the daughter or even shows more love.you will see that shes alway being hard on the child and falls on excuse of chores or stubborness or whatever from the child or always reports the child for no just reason some go as far as always beating the child.

Make it a point of discussion with open minded honest people and u ll be surprised

am surprised already..... but na wa ooo

freecocoa:
Seriously what are you on about? How can it ever be sane to put your wife's hairdo before a baby's food?

Did you read yourself?

I take it that this thread is for mature minds

Daughters can be husband snatchers sharr. Lol

think she need more love and care from you.

Silly, immature question.

eagleccentric:



I take it that this thread is for mature minds

Please, i'd like to know what's mature about comparing baby food to hair do.