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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by kittykat1(f): 7:44am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Reddit: Where is the pride in his write up. I have been in his shoees so I understand his tears |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by caprini1: 7:51am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Ashmark:True ....but you and I know,bruvas in the US like exaggerations? $100 here and there suddenly turns to $1m. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by JUSTCHEAPDATA: 7:51am On Jul 09, 2015 |
OREMUSSANCTUS:NAIJA STYLE
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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by airlord2020: 7:54am On Jul 09, 2015 |
You owe nobody any explanation. Give to those you who actually need your help like parents and ignore others. if people request and they see you are willing to give they Will stop requesting. You can tell them that it is not convenient for you to give at that time. If they become your enemy after that well don't worry yourself because the same people will be laughing at you when you have issues. To let you into little secret some of those begging you for money are actually more well to do than you. Use your head |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Ugik(m): 7:55am On Jul 09, 2015 |
I dnt understand english,can someone translate this in swhaili |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ikoroduoga: 7:58am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Its quite simple. U must step on toes. Stop being a philanthropist. Every time u call home or av contact with these people, stop making them sense that u r well fed rather make them understand some of d challenges u go through. U might want to exaggerate u bit. Secondly, change ur lines. No one should av ur direct phone number from Nigeria with d exception of ur parents and siblings. Also, give strict instructions not to share such numbers. If need be to call anyone from Nigeria, use a phone card or hide ur number. U must disassociate urself a bit. As for Facebook, d same thing. Restrict ur usuage and take down any info that may seem flamboyant. That's what I would do |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Dollyak(f): 7:59am On Jul 09, 2015 |
jasmines:Can you post a link here for us to see? I am also interested. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by neahyo(m): 8:09am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Don't PLEASE others and DISPLEASE yourself... It's just so unfortunate my brother learnt this the hard way, imagine him waking up in the middle of the night to think about other people's problems, crazy right? Later naa, as hin BP dey rise nobody teach am how to use scale of preference.. Other people problem remains their problem until you decide to carry the problem, then it becomes your problem.....Don't misquote me bro, its good to give as they say 'givers never lack' but what happens when the person u are giving to has enough of what you are giving to him and only see yours as another source of income, its really disheartening. The problem with giving is that it always comes to a point that you don't even know who is really in dire need cus there are so many hypocritical people.. Giving is a virtue..God give you the grace to give 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by StOla: 8:12am On Jul 09, 2015 |
jasmines: True words! My problem is that I'm too compassionate. Hence I would rather not get to know your problems, than to hear of it and do nothing about it. Hence my attempts to remain elusive and incommunicado most times. I am equally angry at myself. I reckon it's time to grow a cold heart and love myself before loving my neighbour. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 8:13am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:Oga wat r u feeling like now? if u dnt want to give dem money u tell dem instead of making jest of ur family and friends here on nairaland. are u not even ashamed of ursef? u claim to have the highest degree, u live and work in us. and ur so called brain u used in acquiring the degree. didn't suggest or tell u in anyway that u need to open a business for your family members to use and attain to their own needs. but hell no. u choose to be the giver instead of helping. as far as am concern ur not helping anybody but yourself. so they will see you as a big boy(man). if u realy want to help someone I think it's by supporting his or her business. so the person can as well as help others same way. but ur type is just full of pride. ur not the only nairalander in US okay? me elder brother is in dubai. and he has opend a well lucrative biz for ma mom and gave my immediate elder brother money to start up a business. atleast that will ease him spending much. u r just here bragging of shitz. next thread joor. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by fyxboss(m): 8:14am On Jul 09, 2015 |
ECOTERRORS:bae, u look good |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by 8bolz(m): 8:16am On Jul 09, 2015 |
OREMUSSANCTUS:MA GUY U RUDE GAN |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by eromspete(m): 8:17am On Jul 09, 2015 |
All these people abusing the poster WHO UNA DON HELP ? Poster, Nairaland is not the platform to seek advice on this type of issue. You'd only get insults. I noticed some self ego embellishments on your post. Make a video or post exactly your thread on FACEBOOK and examine the response from your friendlist When you do this, make sure you go offline. That way, you let em know say the matter don reach critical for you. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by jasmines(f): 8:22am On Jul 09, 2015 |
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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by 8bolz(m): 8:23am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Bros.its me emeka energy.ur long cousin.Thank God i saw u on Nairaland.so u re avoiding 2 send dat $200 u promised.plz na dis money am asking is 2 smal. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by soleexx(m): 8:24am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ehigie(m): 8:27am On Jul 09, 2015 |
It's a funny situation bro. I think you just have to come up with a strategy to make everybody old enough to understand that they should take care of themselves. Stuffs like this is also common in Naija where you see siblings and relatives living with a particular member of the family because he or she has a good job or because they think he is rich. I have also had my fair share of it. The only thing I pray for, is for God to bless them and the works of their hands. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by eromspete(m): 8:28am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Interesting viewpoint darlenese: |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by mikolo80: 8:28am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:Ask them to come up with sustainable business plan so you help once for all with proviso that they must help two ppl once they settle or pay back twice what you helped with so two others can benefit |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by tendernexx(m): 8:31am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Very easy. Change ur fone number, do not log in to fb at all, or ignore any such request. Do not even reply. Email? Leave all personal mails, attend to only official mails if u use same for both purposes. They are not seeing you, u can only feel bad wen dey are standing in front of u. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Gideonmi(m): 8:32am On Jul 09, 2015 |
loolz Sunofgod: |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Truckpusher(m): 8:32am On Jul 09, 2015 |
mickey45:Send me a mail. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by jasmines(f): 8:34am On Jul 09, 2015 |
StOla: Better still, get a Financial manager. They are everywhere, they tie your hands when it comes to reckless giving. No loose cash to throw away. At the end of the year, you have properties and you have money you never knew u could save. Let me explain how it works: You find one, explain to them how you want to save your money, you let them know how much you currently earn, your expenses and your goals. You either hand over your income to them or sign an agreement on how much you must save every month. Failure to do that, will attract punishment. They will also help you plan a budget and cut loose spending, as your savings get to the stipulated amount, if you agreed to buy a house for e,g, you all will go and get a house that falls within your budget. They will manage it, and the income. You will hold your papers etc, they give statement of accounts every month. Individuals normally charge 10% of everything you saved while corporate bodies charge 20% Charges vary sha |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by 400billionman: 8:34am On Jul 09, 2015 |
tabletman1: He never know how far And for people who think they are living big, the only reasonable investments are Real estate property and Cash in the bank like Fixed deposit |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Odaveboy(m): 8:34am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Evathyst:....dis one na oshogbo weed ......lol |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by lucky032(m): 8:38am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: Better stop giving and become their enemy.When you have show down,they will still be the one to laugh you. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Nobody: 8:41am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: EWU , what dyu expect when you post those fake pictures of you shaking hands with barack obama, hugging williams sisters and dinning with angelina jolie. You must keep up with the level of forming you displayed in fb and whats app. 2 Likes
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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by coldFLARES1(m): 8:42am On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:My brother, until you learn to say 'no' and stick with it, these folks would continue to drain u until you are effectively liquidated. try as much as possible not to help anyone with money for feeding, rent, payment of children's fees or medical bills. It's sheer waste of resources! Only help a few sensible people with setting up a business that can sustain them thereafter, and ensure such persons provide a greater percentage of the start-up funds. People get lazy and disingeneous when given freebies. If you love your life quit making people view you as an employment. I guarantee none of them would die if you stop helping them. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by xeminchinchilla: 8:49am On Jul 09, 2015 |
Wtf do you mean,do they think you do drugs in States??omg you're indeed deluded my friend,so what are you gona get here then,??they said blessed are those who gives cause they will received,!!what a sec,you wana let every single paerson on this forum to know that every single Nigerian that lives in abraod gotta do drugs or other shit to make it huh?I have nothing to say to you but just two words >>Bleep you << 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by saudatu(m): 8:51am On Jul 09, 2015 |
tabletman1:Love you bro. tabletman1:Love you bro. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by genchukky(m): 8:52am On Jul 09, 2015 |
There is a saying "the way to failure is trying to please everyone".Nigerians have a disturbing mentality that anyone abroad is a cashcow that has to be milked dry at all cost,most times they give silly lies and excuses just to get money from people they know abroad.in the end,this money is spent recklessly and they come back for more. My advice is to concerntrate on your family,both home and abroad,forget about friends,because they are the one that have the tendency to keep coming back for more (Oliver twist).So set a standard for yourself on giving (give only those you feel really need it),and leave the rest,cos whether you like it or not these vampires will keep coming back,and they will also survive without your assistance..... My 5 cent |
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