About 6 months ago my wife started refusing sex. In the last 6months we have had sex only 4 times. I asked her why and she told me her libido is dead. She doesn't feel like having sex. I am at loss. Any woman with this kind of problem. To help her, I asked if she has any fantasy we could fulfill just to spice our sex life and she told me she doesn't have any sexual fantasy.she hardly think about sex. That's why ask in another thread if women usually have sexual fantasy. We are married for 2 years and have 2 kids.

She can introduce her friend if you find it hard to get some yourself.

Who killed it

Something must have led to the "death". Libidos don't just die like, something triggered it or you were not doing enough. Shed some light into occurances during that period. Did you hurt Her? Did she lose someone? Did she get a new job? Or is she cheating on you?

The solution to this problem starts with communication

jarkbauer:
About 6 months ago my wife started refusing sex. In the last 6months we have had sex only 4 times. I asked her why and she told me her libido is dead. She doesn't feel like having sex. I am at loss. Any woman with this kind of problem. To help her, I asked if she has any fantasy we could fulfill just to spice our sex life and she told me she doesn't have any sexual fantasy.she hardly think about sex. That's why ask in another thread if women usually have sexual fantasy. We are married for 2 years and have 2 kids.

May I ask you a few questions? Totally understand if you would rather not. If you answer no to the first one, then leave it anyway.

1. Are you intent on restoring things?
2. How old are you and your wife
3. How old are the kids - particualrly the last one
4. How would you describe things before the "refusal"? Particulalry sex-wise; frequent, occasional, steady rate or reducing?
5. Has there been any trauma? Especially of a type that damages the spousal relatioship.
6. If yes, was it properly resolved?
7. Is your family pressured for any reason? Finances, childcare, accomodation etc.
8. What kind of physical shape are you in?
9. Likewise for you wife.


TV

did you hurt that woman in anyway?
has she stopped loving you?

She sees you as a brother na!
If you know and understand anything about the female mind and body, you will not find it strange!

Sex in marriage is ALWAYS the first to go!

Women get really tired, especially after children and bleeding for over 30 years or more.

Time to get a "galfriend" or manage your situation as best as you can!

Are you a passionate lover? Do you help her with chores in the house? do you compliment her? Do you just do your "biz" without getting her wet, engaging in pre-intimacy, making her come?
Sometimes men just ignore that it takes 2 to enjoy intimacy and if you just peck, squeeze her balloons like orange and then thrust in and out, no caressing her hair, body etc just focused on yourself women get bored and see it as nothing to look forward to.

I think its important you reflect on you and the answer/solution might just lay with you

Haba how can you say such. This time I'll disagree with you with an explanation

its unfair to encourage a married man to commit adultery especially when he has said his vows. Do you want to break a young marriage with your utterances


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KanwuliaJara:
She sees you as a brother na!
If you know and understand anything about the female mind and body, you will not find it strange!

Sex in marriage is ALWAYS the first to go!

Women get really tired, especially after children and bleeding for over 30 years or more.

Time to get a "galfriend" or manage your situation as best as you can!

Bury it

No woman will make this kinda decision if she was enjoying it , oga are u sure u are doing the right thing? , there's difference between having sex and making love o.

Please beg her to tell u the truth and u will be amazed

SAMBARRY:
Haba how can you say such. This time I'll disagree with you with an explanation

its unfair to encourage a married man to commit adultery especially when he has said his vows. Do you want to break a young marriage with your utterances


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Haba!
Is Nairaland for agreement of views?
Na the advice wey I go give my own husband be dat o!
Nothing to agree about!
Welcome to "Open Marriage 001"!
Shikena!

I'm one of such women whose libidos are dead long time ago and yes a lot of things contributed twds dat;1 my husband's unfaithfulness,2 poor sexual motivations in d bed.etc.so op tell us wat u did dat killed her libido

Op 2yrs and 2 children already. I think that's the source of your pb

2Kids in 2years! Maybe u no sabi Bleep.

This is why I always encourage people to marry younger ladies ....
This is what happen when you marry an old cargo

Carry your wife go deliverance

Africa

Oh God

dead libido should be buried....or better still wait for Jesus that rise Lazarus from the dead

Pray this prayer: any power, short or tall, tieing a red & black wrapper, cooking the libido of my wife in any evil pot, release her libido & DIE. Die die die die die.

I hope that helps.

Just kidding anyway. Talk to your wife, encourage her to see a counsellor, talk to her some more & exercise some patience. If this doesn't work & you think you cannot take it anymore, suggest a divorce.

Ororun mi ooooooo ( in baddos voice)













Dis is a case i cant judge










Bro u may do d needful now like lalasticlala

Take her to the prophet, they would wake her libido up with prayers

Married for two years and two kids. U too rush her now, why her libido no go die.

High mileage things

Sorry...

Why won't her libido die Wen it's only "missionary style" u'll b using to hurriedly and selfishly satisfy ur own KONJIfied state..u better go and gather relevant skills and experience from wherever, wen u are done,come back and handle her,i bet u,her libido will resurrect sharp sharp and she will be singing ur name every night.....talking from experience.

jarkbauer:
About 6 months ago my wife started refusing sex. In the last 6months we have had sex only 4 times. I asked her why and she told me her libido is dead. She doesn't feel like having sex. I am at loss. Any woman with this kind of problem. To help her, I asked if she has any fantasy we could fulfill just to spice our sex life and she told me she doesn't have any sexual fantasy.she hardly think about sex. That's why ask in another thread if women usually have sexual fantasy. We are married for 2 years and have 2 kids.

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Wetin kill am