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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 6:04pm On Oct 10, 2015
Alarib:

Des** babe....shey u see y I'm jealous of Kenny abi wink
hahahahahahhahahahhahahahahahahhahaha cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy guy! Leave dat one. Na another gist grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 6:05pm On Oct 10, 2015
agarawu23:
wow
I commend you for this post if you are the real writer cool

Its a nice thread.

I have modified wink
okay! I am d one & only writer

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by agarawu23(m): 6:06pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
okay! I am d one & only writer
well done. smiley you really gat good points
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 6:12pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.
good one. Coming out of the mouth of a woman.

That's nice of you

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Donpenny(m): 6:58pm On Oct 10, 2015
and by the time she is 30 if she come over me am gonna take advantage of her desperation
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 8:53pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva your mama born you well. kiss
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 9:37pm On Oct 10, 2015
iAmCharis:
Mzflexydeeva your mama born you well. kiss
thanks dear

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by stuff46(m): 9:45pm On Oct 10, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
I greet u
I return the greeting
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by mrpatozky(m): 9:47pm On Oct 10, 2015
Which nylon them they loose... grin grin grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by mrpatozky(m): 9:47pm On Oct 10, 2015
Which nylon them they loose... grin grin grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 9:57pm On Oct 10, 2015
SO LAZER FRIENDZONED ME CAUSE I AIN'T HANDSOME?






























HOEKAY.














SHE'LL SEE ME IN 2048 ON TV AND SHE'LL REGRET.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by lilmax(m): 10:11pm On Oct 10, 2015
Nice thats all I can say

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by daveP(m): 11:37pm On Oct 10, 2015
I love this... cool

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by tonyobj(m): 4:21pm On Oct 11, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.







I think I just fell in Love with Mzflexydeeva............ Fantastic write-up. I'm impressed this is coming from a lady.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by malele(m): 7:24pm On Oct 11, 2015
kay29000:
Don't mind them. And if you see some of these girls ehn, maybe the only thing they can do is dress flashy and perform in bed...Like that is all the qualities needed for a wife material. But they want the guy to be God fearing, have millions in the bank, have many cars, a house, tall, dark, handsome, with a long something, a master in bed, a kind loving man...all in one person.
Hahahahhahaah

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by PRISTINEMUSCLES: 8:40pm On Oct 11, 2015
I am very happy that we still have right- thinking ladies in our world of today,most especially Nigeria. Can a man have it all, The looks, charms, money, physique, good character e.t.c? The obvious answer is NO. Forget what you ladies read in those novels and watch on t.v. Face the real world.

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:41pm On Oct 11, 2015
PRISTINEMUSCLES:
I am very happy that we still have right- thinking ladies in our world of today,most especially Nigeria. Can a man have it all, The looks, charms, money, physique, good character e.t.c? The obvious answer is NO. Forget what you ladies read in those novels and watch on t.v. Face the real world.
true

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:43pm On Oct 11, 2015
agarawu23:


These are things some ladies aren't getting, you can't get all the good things in a guy at once. You yourself can build him to your taste and both of you will live happily smiley

The guy u dumped because he doesn't have all the good qualities you are demanding from your future guy might be a good hubby to another Lady. Must we even date appearance? You will only see the outside of the guy you call your dream guy but his inside is unknown to you. No wonder the rate of divorce is now high.

Don't be disappointed if the Mr TDH you are looking for is not worth ending up with and take note not all guys wanna marry a second hand Lady so choose wisely and forget appearance.
on point

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:46pm On Oct 11, 2015
ClassCaptain:
that was how rokiatu lost me too
tell me more
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:47pm On Oct 11, 2015
iamkingzlee:
I love this smiley I need to show my sister that has been waiting for the "Michael Ealy type of guy"
hahaha grin cheesy hahaha

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Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:47pm On Oct 11, 2015
kay29000:
Don't mind them. And if you see some of these girls ehn, maybe the only thing they can do is dress flashy and perform in bed...Like that is all the qualities needed for a wife material. But they want the guy to be God fearing, have millions in the bank, have many cars, a house, tall, dark, handsome, with a long something, a master in bed, a kind loving man...all in one person.
hmmmmmmmm!
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by ClassCaptain(m): 8:49pm On Oct 11, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
tell me more
it is a Secrets Affairs grin
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:49pm On Oct 11, 2015
Oscarjax:
SO LAZER FRIENDZONED ME CAUSE I AIN'T HANDSOME?































HOEKAY.















SHE'LL SEE ME IN 2048 ON TV AND SHE'LL REGRET.
lol
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 8:50pm On Oct 11, 2015
ClassCaptain:


it is a Secrets Affairs grin
okay ooo
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by kay29000(m): 9:03pm On Oct 11, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
hmmmmmmmm!

It is the bitter truth.
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 9:10pm On Oct 11, 2015
kay29000:


It is the bitter truth.
I agree
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Nobody: 9:29pm On Oct 11, 2015
girls are fake me i aproach any girl i like as the real me, because i wont want you to fall inlove with a fake me, infact when we wanna exchange numbers i keep my infinix and pass you the torchlight after series of test and you neva run i will know you are mine otherwise i will just move on and most of you saying thrash you are also selective because i bet you wont choose an uneducated,broke ass nigga, who hustle everyday to eat and looks scrawny and hagard, but has a nice heart and always optimistic telling you it will get better JUST BE HONEST AND TALK TRU
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by leeport: 5:40am On Oct 18, 2015
Strolls in* readssssss* walks out* .......










Nice job ma'am
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by ipledge10(m): 5:45am On Oct 18, 2015
Vinshu:
I agree with you Op. This is common everywhere not just amongst Nigerian women but even in Europe. When I was very young I said I would marry an American with blue eyes or never marry at all. Today, it's a different story cheesy

If only ladies today could read articles like these and review their lifestyle and then adjust for tomorrow, our society would be a better place

+1 For you Op.
angry grin this gat me laughing hard
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by tonyyayo(m): 8:02am On Nov 22, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.

True, you really nailed it. Some girls are so myopic in nature, they want to enjoy now to suffer tomorrow. May God help us all
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by Mzflexydeeva(f): 5:55pm On Nov 22, 2015
tonyyayo:


True, you really nailed it. Some girls are so myopic in nature, they want to enjoy now to suffer tomorrow. May God help us all


amen!
Re: How Ladies Loose Great Guys To Their Unrealistic Expectations And Standards by yinkeys(m): 2:06pm On Nov 23, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.
This girl has sense & is on point; however are you sharing this from experience. Most women never get it while they're still young but put on their thinking cap when market no dey reach their side again

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