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Bros... You gotta try endure at least till you graduate and get a job, many of us are enduring stuff unimaginable because we gotta meet up, but hey, don't hate family you gain nothing from that

1) proverbs 22:6
New International Version
Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn
from it.

2) proverbs 13:24
New International Version
Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful
to discipline them.

Op is under demonic attack, and needs deliverance

iceberylin:

No...not having the Op's

Funny you. Every parent is perfect for their children. Only that the OP has refused to mention not even one of their good sides. He projected the scary aspects of having parents

Bros and u think the pastor will oppose the parents idea It might sound odd but it's part of growing up( yh op's parents own might be extreme)....it'll get to a point and Op will start reasoning with his parent and Op pls be a good child and do whatever it is that ur parents want..

We were brought up in a way that we hv to be in church by 8 and service will end by 11am and then dats when mumsy will remember she still has other food items to purchase( despite having enough at home and despite buying enough on Saturday) and before you know it breakfast won't be ready until it's 2 or 3 pm lol and u dare not go outside the house ( later it's u shouldn't get out of the kitchen) while she's preparing the so called breakfast otherwise u won't eat part of the breakfast that day( layer it's u won't eat part of the soup till it finishes even if it's a year ) now if I look back I luv em parents much cos they really made positive impact in my live so op follow ur parents wish and when u see ur mom(cos she's like the boss according to your story) then talk to her and try see if there is something u ain't doing right...reporting to your pastor will only make ur case worst..


But if u're talking with ur mom and using dos fake I'm from abroad slangs like jez then u might need to correct those stuffs abeg cos I slow dislike such with passion I mean what's jez!!! U wanna speak English speak it and if it's broken English speak it but not those fake westernized English abegi



quote author=blueandbirds post=40888507]Sorry about your predicament bro, my only advice to you is to report your parents to the pastor in charge of the deeper life branch day attend, lay all your grievances to him so dat he can talk to your parents on your behalf, hopefully they will treat you wit respect, but if they don't you have to do it in a rough way by your self, you let's dem kno dat you no more a baby, it's not gonna be easy but trust me you will get your freedom from dem...[/quote]

nairalander2015:
Good day nairaland.
As I write this... I am depressed, simply depressed.. If suicide led to heaven mayb i would have been a victim.
Truly itz nt everyone who smiles that is happy.
MY story
I was born into a deeper life family 20yrs ago.. And I can say i regret being born into deeper life.. I would ave preferred been converted there than being born there.
My travails started in secondary school.. Wen i failed to attend a fellowship, my mum talked harshly, slapped me an said i was a dishes disgrace.. Just because i failed to attend a school fellowship.. And I knew that I wasn't a bad kid.. Jes the gentle type.. Since then it has been bad... When others celebrate their mum.. I can't.. I am as far from my parents as anything.. Jes because they are deeperlifers.. I can't seat comfortably with my parents.. Cos of principles. Next was the battle concerning trousers.. She woke me up one black night with a thundering slap over a slim trouser.. Imagine dat was @16.. I cried and cried dat day.. Dat God made a mistake borning me in deeper life... Jes because i walked with a girl.. She banned me from going out..
Even at a young age... Threatened me that she"ll disown me if I marry a lady who wears wigs, trousers.. Omg.. Now.. I am in the university.. I never want to go home. I hate home.. I am depressed.. So so depressed.. My dad didn't send me any cash for a month cos a friend told him I failed to attend a midweek service.. Imagine.. Yet i am not rebellious. I know fellow guys like me who had big problems with their children but they were rebellious.. But i am not
I feel depressed writing this.. Spirituality without love is a disaster.. Aw i wish i wasn't born to a deeper life's family.. Itz a curse.. I am tired.. Itz threat all the time. I am not close to my parents.. Imagine.. Seems i should just die.. I now see my mum as a enemy.. Anytime i see her i am sad.. Talks too much about simple things in a bad manner quoting Bible over needless things.. Watching ball outside is a sin.. Visiting friends is a nono.. Cos they are highly placed in the church.. Yet no one to share my burdens with.. So sad... Yet they think i am happy..i know many out there experience something similar but are helples.. Oh God have mercy on me.. Itz calamitous to be the child of a fanatic especially if you don't wanna be a fanatic also.... Advice pls.. What can I do? So so depressed.. Feel like dieing to be reborn elsewhere

When you go and get your sorry'ass pregnant then you'll call all your fellow clowns to come plead on your behalf. Prodigal child

na wa o
I thank God for d kind of parent I have

butterflyatalan:


And that's why Africans are so behind! There is a difference between discipline and just being a fanatic!....

I live in western world, but i can proudly tell you i am very happy i was raised in Africa. In my place of work,i can't count how many people that meet me their, but most of them got sacked after few months because they refused to listen to simple instructions. But i am still working there till today.
They are many children of his age who wishes they have parents whom they can get advice from. Childrens who lost their parents at a younger age.He should be happyhe has one and listen to them.

First thing let them realise u are not interesred in the doctrine of deeper life and tell them u wanna change your church if u can be brave to tell them this and let them realize the church u wanna be going after this they will relieve u a little but make sure u be a good boy when they free u because they can't force church u attend on you

minasota:
1) proverbs 22:6 New International Version Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
2) proverbs 13:24 New International Version Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
Op is under demonic attack, and needs deliverance

rubbish

Thank God bros, at least your folks are not Boko Haram...see, you are always better than someone else; no need to commit suicide, this kine thing na time mara, small time you'll be done with school and out of the house...na GSM (calling) go suffer the rest...smile

A serial killer in the making.

No worry. You need to start smoki skunk

You will forget about them. Start hustle ań leave hem ASAP.

They will slow you Down

Your parents love you but you don't go, anyone that shows interest in your spiritual wellbeing is your best lover, don't allow anyone to deceive you, I have some of my mates in secondary school that have died because they were not born again, one died over a girl friend, another being a Agbero at bus stop, not that agbero like that but executive member of NURTW of a branch in Lagos etc, some people think being born again is like putting them in bondage, little do they know that it is for their own benefits, if you refuse to serve God, it doesn't reduce Him from being God, you better trace yourself back to God before it is too late, Rom 12:2 says don't be conform with this world but be ye transformed by the renewal of your mind....... take care

younghartz:
I hate people that are too religious

with passion

instead of u to be happy to av such parents...follow d way of d lord...I pray u won't regret not obeying dem

Ebenezerk2:
Your parents love you but you don't go, anyone that shows interest in your spiritual wellbeing is your best lover, don't allow anyone to deceive you, I have some of my mates in secondary school that have died because they were not born again, one died over a girl friend, another being a Agbero at bus stop, not that agbero like that but executive member of NURTW of a branch in Lagos etc, some people think being born again is like putting them in bondage, little do they know that it is for their own benefits, if you refuse to serve God, it doesn't reduce Him from being God, you better trace yourself back to God before it is too late, Rom 12:2 says don't be conform with this world but be ye transformed by the renewal of your mind....... take care

. Let me advise you. Delete your account on NL.

proftosin:
instead of u to be happy to av such parents...follow d way of d lord...I pray u won't regret not obeying dem

Trash. Total Nonsense

Too many idiots on this thread.

@op, chillax a while longer, things will be ok. No need to get suicidal. A change of environment is what you need now, away from the depression. Depression can have life long debilitating effects on your self confidence and that is the last thing you need to happen to you in this life.

Who do your parents listen to or respect a lot in the family or pastor in church? That is the person you need to go to. Bare your heart out to the person so he can appeal to your parents' conscience. Let them know that their paranoia with religion is only pushing you away from them and their faith. You sound like a good kid, you just need to be stronger and focused on your life's goals. That is what will keep you going against all odds. The suicidal thoughts and self loathe are just you giving into your weaknesses. Rebellion may come much later as a last resort when all else has failed but for now, I don't think it is the way to go and neither are you equipped for it at the moment.

If there's no one they listen to, then it may be time to man up and wake them up from sleep one early morning for a talk. Tell them your mind but be very respectful in your approach. Let them set aside religion for once and tell you how you have been a bad kid. Be bold, no fears, but dont be arrogant or disrespectful. Do not fail to let them know how they are pushing you away with their threats, but do it subtly.

Modified....
Above all pray to God about it and trust in him to salvage the situation. Do not lose faith in him on account of your parents.

sorry

my brother I feel concern for you and understand ur plight but I will to say this. your parent are the one having the problem not the church nor there doctrines towards child rearing. I said dis because u are focusing more of the church than ur parent. but from ur story u didn't give details of wat u did actually, i mean ur offense. outline them out properly u are hiding much information.
concerning ur parent I sense ur parent upbringing might affect the way u are been treated. They have a great concern for u not to follow there steps or fall into one.try to find out.
concerning a solution, am shorts of words but don't be rebellious. i will send u a msg into ur inbox

Hold up...u will soon finish school and become your own boss. Then you can chose your path without them breathing down your neck. At least, you know not to treat your children the way your are bring treated. It is well with the overzealous Christians.

minasota:
1) proverbs 22:6
New International Version
Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn
from it.

2) proverbs 13:24
New International Version
Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful
to discipline them.

Op is under demonic attack, and needs deliverance

Comments like these leave me in awe. Demonic attack? First off, you know nothing about what the op has been through all these years. Secondly, some parents can be downright difficult and seek to correct their own life's mistakes through their kids. Everything doesnt have to be a spiritual attack you know. From the op's comments, he has not been disobedient nor disrespectful to his parents and that is why he heaps a huge portion of the blame on his existence. Different people have different ways of handling and processing things.

The issue with some people like you is because they feel they went through similar or worse and came out hardly scathed, everybody else should. Situations differ, variables are dynamic and there is no universal template for dealing with these things.

OP, in all things give thanks. There are certain things you can't change in life one of which are those that brought you into the world - your parents.

I like the fact you have always remained civil despite their over religious tendencies dat in it self talks of good upbringing. At the moment your still under their custody, keep your cool. Try to please them at the moment till you can fend for yourself. It's only a matter of time. It may seem long and impossible but soonest you b free!

Please erase all suicidal thoughts from your heart. You hv a great future ahead of you. Always remember you where given this life cos you have d power to live it. Look within. You defeated several millions of sperm to come into this world. Tough times neva last. Tough times ain't meant to crush you but to strengthen you. Someday you will look back at this and laugh. Keep faith.

sisisioge:
Hold up...u will soon finish school and become your own boss. Then you can chose your path without them breathing down your neck. At least, you know not to treat your children the way your are bring treated. It is well with the overzealous Christians.

Funny how people think that once he is done with school, he'll be done with them. Hahaha! I laugh because that is short-sightedness and foolhardiness. The issue needs to be confronted headlong until there is a resolution. He needs his family in his life even if he doesnt see it now. Diplomacy works when deployed tactfully.

nairalander2015:
Good day nairaland.
As I write this... I am depressed, simply depressed.. If suicide led to heaven mayb i would have been a victim.
Truly itz nt everyone who smiles that is happy.
MY story
I was born into a deeper life family 20yrs ago.. And I can say i regret being born into deeper life.. I would ave preferred been converted there than being born there.
My travails started in secondary school.. Wen i failed to attend a fellowship, my mum talked harshly, slapped me an said i was a dishes disgrace.. Just because i failed to attend a school fellowship.. And I knew that I wasn't a bad kid.. Jes the gentle type.. Since then it has been bad... When others celebrate their mum.. I can't.. I am as far from my parents as anything.. Jes because they are deeperlifers.. I can't seat comfortably with my parents.. Cos of principles. Next was the battle concerning trousers.. She woke me up one black night with a thundering slap over a slim trouser.. Imagine dat was @16.. I cried and cried dat day.. Dat God made a mistake borning me in deeper life... Jes because i walked with a girl.. She banned me from going out..
Even at a young age... Threatened me that she"ll disown me if I marry a lady who wears wigs, trousers.. Omg.. Now.. I am in the university.. I never want to go home. I hate home.. I am depressed.. So so depressed.. My dad didn't send me any cash for a month cos a friend told him I failed to attend a midweek service.. Imagine.. Yet i am not rebellious. I know fellow guys like me who had big problems with their children but they were rebellious.. But i am not
I feel depressed writing this.. Spirituality without love is a disaster.. Aw i wish i wasn't born to a deeper life's family.. Itz a curse.. I am tired.. Itz threat all the time. I am not close to my parents.. Imagine.. Seems i should just die.. I now see my mum as a enemy.. Anytime i see her i am sad.. Talks too much about simple things in a bad manner quoting Bible over needless things.. Watching ball outside is a sin.. Visiting friends is a nono.. Cos they are highly placed in the church.. Yet no one to share my burdens with.. So sad... Yet they think i am happy..i know many out there experience something similar but are helples.. Oh God have mercy on me.. Itz calamitous to be the child of a fanatic especially if you don't wanna be a fanatic also.... Advice pls.. What can I do? So so depressed.. Feel like dieing to be reborn elsewhere

Are you sure you are in the university? I could barely read and understand what you wrote up there.

Ginaz:
O.p take heart, family sometimes can be a cursel. What I would advise you is to stand for your right, religion is not suppose to be a do and die affair. Is not about rigorous worshiping that will take you to heaven but rather by your heart.

You have a life of your own, dont not let you're parents kill your happiness. Cos the truth is, everybody will carry his own load. Be couragoues and live your life, dont live for anybody discrediting your life or dictating how you should live it.

God doesn't know religion, all he knows is a loyal and faithful servant. Sit your parents down and explain things to them. If they disown you, what makes you think God won't take you in? Look at the tiny birds in the heaven, they dont work for food or shelter but they are well taken care of. Follow a rightful path and God will lift you up. I understand your pains perfectly my dear, but I think its high time you stop existing and start living.
I pray God gives you the wisdom and strenght to overcome your depression.

Well said!

nairalander2015:
Good day nairaland.
As I write this... I am depressed, simply depressed.. If suicide led to heaven mayb i would have been a victim.
Truly itz nt everyone who smiles that is happy.
MY story
I was born into a deeper life family 20yrs ago.. And I can say i regret being born into deeper life.. I would ave preferred been converted there than being born there.
My travails started in secondary school.. Wen i failed to attend a fellowship, my mum talked harshly, slapped me an said i was a dishes disgrace.. Just because i failed to attend a school fellowship.. And I knew that I wasn't a bad kid.. Jes the gentle type.. Since then it has been bad... When others celebrate their mum.. I can't.. I am as far from my parents as anything.. Jes because they are deeperlifers.. I can't seat comfortably with my parents.. Cos of principles. Next was the battle concerning trousers.. She woke me up one black night with a thundering slap over a slim trouser.. Imagine dat was @16.. I cried and cried dat day.. Dat God made a mistake borning me in deeper life... Jes because i walked with a girl.. She banned me from going out..
Even at a young age... Threatened me that she"ll disown me if I marry a lady who wears wigs, trousers.. Omg.. Now.. I am in the university.. I never want to go home. I hate home.. I am depressed.. So so depressed.. My dad didn't send me any cash for a month cos a friend told him I failed to attend a midweek service.. Imagine.. Yet i am not rebellious. I know fellow guys like me who had big problems with their children but they were rebellious.. But i am not
I feel depressed writing this.. Spirituality without love is a disaster.. Aw i wish i wasn't born to a deeper life's family.. Itz a curse.. I am tired.. Itz threat all the time. I am not close to my parents.. Imagine.. Seems i should just die.. I now see my mum as a enemy.. Anytime i see her i am sad.. Talks too much about simple things in a bad manner quoting Bible over needless things.. Watching ball outside is a sin.. Visiting friends is a nono.. Cos they are highly placed in the church.. Yet no one to share my burdens with.. So sad... Yet they think i am happy..i know many out there experience something similar but are helples.. Oh God have mercy on me.. Itz calamitous to be the child of a fanatic especially if you don't wanna be a fanatic also.... Advises pls.. What can I do? So so depressed.. Feel like dieing to be reborn elsewhere

Cc:lalasticlala

You are an ignorant black sheep. I am not a deeper life member and i dont like every thing about them but is not worst off in those places you wished to have been. Dont think other families you ever wished to that carries the finest Smile on there faces are happy. You said you are already cursed been born in your family but you may be a potentia robber or even not be alive if not that you were born in your present family.There is nothing with Deeper life. Many Deeper life kids are successful and always out of trouble because they are raised to avoid certain worldliness. Definely they are not perfect but i do have a lot of respect for them esp in the Uni. You must be a disobedient child contrary to the sainthood you wore on your writeup. Why must you not attend fellowship in the sch, if i were your mum, i wont be happy with you. Some kids do not have parents who insists that they do so. I thank God that you are not in convenant uni or madona where sch authority must force you to do so. You will then see Oyedepo and father Ede as another devil than mama. Simply obey your parents and quit sounding to attract sympathy from Nairlander. You will not turn to an apple by obeying them just to have peace. THEY ARE NOT ASKING YOU TO DO ANY EVIL THING. If they hated you so much, they wouldnt have send you to Uni. They tried on your spiritual life but received rebbellious critism and still went ahead for your Uni educ.You painted your self so good and demonised your mama. Are you the only child born into deeper life family?. Are all your siblings hellish and wailers like you?. EXAMINE YOUR SELF AGAIN. I have to be a bit hard on you because you were born into it not that your parents joined and later forced you into it. You are 20, an adult. Prepare your mind mind and be ready for change. Let not your mama tantrum not make you loose your senses.There are worst parents but prepare your self not to let her character to put LIMITATION to your life. Arise and rule your so called depressions. Many got worst promblem that you and see excel. This is age of DOMINATION. I am not even sure if you are BORN AGAIN, do so. Put up a smile, there is a better day ahead for you. Until i hear from your mum, then i will see her + and -role. Who knows if all this emanates from you but just hold on.

They want to be the best parents to u.s. They want to prepare u for the challengings of 2moro. Time shall when u will realise that they are the best parents. Try be respecting towards them.
For the money issue try to be a man of ur own,when i was in my second year at school,i do go out for hustling things,

blueandbirds:
Sorry about your predicament bro, my only advice to you is to report your parents to the pastor in charge of the deeper life branch day attend, lay all your grievances to him so dat he can talk to your parents on your behalf, hopefully they will treat you wit respect, but if they don't you have to do it in a rough way by your self, you let's dem kno dat you no more a baby, it's not gonna be easy but trust me you will get your freedom from dem...

What doesn't kill yet makes you....just endure soon you will graduate and start earning your own money them their eye will come down.you will be in position to humble all their gragra

dustydee:

Are you sure you are in the university? I could barely read and understand what you wrote up there.

how do you want to understand when you can't read it.. You are the one with university problems If others could understand and you can't

The truth be told from the wise men. Learn a skill like web development, Corel Draw,Animation, Instruments, DJ,MC,Mechanic,Barber,Fashion designer or anything cool. Just Find a way to stop depending on your parents at all times, and your opinions will make sense to them, and even your pastor. But For now, you ain't shit, bro! ..... Be somebody and then comeback here and give your testimony on Nairaland.

We hope to hear from you soon,

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