firstking01:
hw u dey take coment first for threads wey hit fp hector

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Malakh:
i get what you are saying but when you think about it,you were supposed to be driving him not him

Haba. Don't you know that it's almost a taboo in Naija for a wife/girlfriend to be driving when her man is in the car?

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Op for crying out loud what's wrong with you getting a good ride for your self?

U'r a CAREER woman and its obvious u definitely need it for your day to day activities.

Its only a man with inferiority complex that gets flamed up with seeing u in ur ride.

Finally with your car u have to be very POLITE, SUPER HUMBLE and to crown it all very FRIENDLY.

Bollinger:


The problem is most people don't realise that a vehicle is just a tool. Nothing more. To them it is only a status symbol.

you are right, na naija mentality be dat,even inside bus or train, i fit mack babe but that's not my priority, car wey i fit buy if not for licencing issues

I work in a multinational company, and I have seen it crystal clear that men don't go after women with cars.

Apart from that, your chances to be seen and noticed by men is reduced. E.g.

* on the road/street while you walk
*No one gives you lift any longer and starts toasting you.
*No one sees your beautiful figure while driving in your car
*the trust is that men sometimes have this fright when approaching ladies.

Pls, just hold on a bit before buying a car. Because, I have heard of a lady who got a man after she sold her car and relocated to a sizeable apartment suitable for single ladies.

Those guys saying you should go ahead and buy a car, ask them if they can be bold enough to approach a lady with a car.

Pls, think o.

CFCman:

Haba. Don't you know that it's almost a taboo in Naija for a wife/girlfriend to be driving when her man is in the car?

think about it, who is the Boss, the chaffeur or the one who is driven

CFCman:

Yeah. And it hasn't prevented American guys from toasting them.

seriously, for what part of yankee you dey wey dat one dey happen?

Op, bt i'm sorry, dats d truth....imediately small small money begin enter woman hand, she'd be feeling ontop of d world...op, ur likely to act the same.

Malakh:
think about it, who is the Boss, the chaffeur or the driver

Na the chaffeur

One thing I just noticed is that 95% of Nairaland galz pushing for you to buy the car re jobless nd undergraduates but am still not saying u shouldn't buy the car..

Every Man with his own Life..

CFCman:

What's wrong in 'flaunting' your car? And you didn't have to pretend to his friends about your ownership of the car.

I didn't pretend. You only talk about what you're being asked. I didn't have any business discussing my car with his friends, that's what i meant

Malakh:
seriously, for what part of yankee you dey wey dat one dey happen?

Ha! In every part Yankee, guys toast ladies that own cars.
I stay in Cali

Cutehector:
In ur late twenties


Multinational coy


Buy a car








And ur brother says it will chase men away from u?


Babe abeg pass me ur number

Thief...*SMILES* yhu want to harvest wea yhu did not sow

naijainfogalery:
If a man is scared of you cos you have a car, then you dont even deserve that kinda man. Like i do say to people. If i earn N400,000 and my wife earns 2,000,000 monthly. BY Gods grace, i will still be giving her pocket money, i will be paying school fees etc

Its only a man with inferiority complex that feels such.

May God continue to bless you. I short na she go de ask you?

Honey were is your clothes to wash.

mitchyy:


I didn't pretend. You only talk about what you're being asked. I didn't have any business discussing my car with his friends, that's what i meant

Ok

Malakh:
i get what you are saying but when you think about it,you were supposed to be driving him not him

Different strokes for different folks. I preferred him behind the wheels, not me. I was more comfortable that way

ColeworldMD:
the problem is not buying a car. The problem is who u become after buying the car. From my observation, women who are independent usually tend to undervalue men because they feel like "I can buy whatever I want for myself, I don't need you in my life" Now it's this egoistic attitude that drives away men, not necessarily the fact that you own a car. So the question is after buying the car, are you still going to be respectful of the man in ur life?
P.S. I prefer a girl that won't be nagging me for recharge card money, new hair money.. Preferably one that can buy herself a car, so that our only worries would be next holiday destination

so on point, i was talking to a girl in naija with that kind of attitude, it's a turn-off, although most of her wealth comes from her rich dad but she no say i no send am, yet she wants me to marry her, calls me her guy and imaginary husband.

ok o boss lady

mitchyy:


Different strokes for different folks. I preferred him behind the wheels, not me. I was more comfortable that way

nkemdi89:
U
God bless you thank this is coming from a man, I got my first car at 24 and I don't regret, only insecure and envious men will run away, those with big balls will come, car isn't asset but necessity, besides even those condemning me before still enter my car and have use it to assist people both at work and other functions.

Insecurity is the exact word. The type of man that would feel intimidated by a woman with car is exactly the same type she doesn't need.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

I like girls who drive big cars.

Baby, buy a Range Rover for us.

golddiamond860:
Thief...*SMILES* yhu want to harvest wea yhu did not sow

shouldnt we guys enjoy babe money?

CFCman:

Ha! In every part Yankee, guys toast ladies that own cars.
I stay in Cali

shey person wey dey pay note on car na hin i go dey intimidated by but you did say guys dont approach ladies because dem no get car

Jimdonnet:
Babe no buy car yet.my auntie who deals in cars is 44 and yet to see a man.

Lol... Maybe it is not your Aunty's occupation that has kept the men away. It could be other factors.

milowys77:



Nonsense talk.. Did you hear the part where she has worked for 3 years without a car and still isn't married, and you think her getting a car is the problem? Nawa for this poor mentality everywhere oo.. Next thing, you'll tell her to resign from the multinational and go work in a nursery school so that she won't appear rich and chase men away! Any man that is chased away by all these tokunbo cars we drive in Nigeria is not a man. He is not worth being married to.. Shikena

why call his views nonsense? Even after the testimonies he has presented.

Jimdonnet:
Babe no buy car yet.my auntie who deals in cars is 44 and yet to see a man.

Is she domineering, saucy, commanding or clingy ?

There are many reasons that make ladies unable to marry. BEING RICH is not one of them..

But why didn't you contribute to the topic before displaying tyour ad?

ifyan:


May God continue to bless you. I short na she go de ask you?

Honey were is your clothes to wash.

Because she sees that her man is a real man.

BTW, I was shocked when one married White guy said he does the laundry (including his wife's clothes) in the house. On my mind, I was like "for Naija dem go talk say the wife don do jazz on top him head"

GoodSamaritan:
Op I want u to ask yourself why u have worked in a multinational company for 3yrs & yet no husband. Then, check all the advanced single ladies in your organization & try to know why they aren't married. You will agree with me that majority of them own cars.

Let me be frank with u, most ladies who buy car before marriage hardly find suitors. Some ladies buy car with the believe that rich guys will approach them & they later find out that it is not like that most times. You know why? Most guys who own cars use the cars to chase babes who don't have cars because they appreciate them more than girls who own cars.

I know so many beautiful ladies who own cars but no husband. Most of them come to me for prayers in tears. I really pity them. Some of my friends are even begging me to marry one out of several of them working in oil company but the problem is that I don't see love in them. I only see desperation.

Don't do something that will make your friends & family begin to beg men to pls marry u. Pls be wise & patient.

I know of 2 sisters from a wealthy home. Their mum bought them a car each after graduation. The younger one refused to use hers. She parked it at home till she got married & gave it to her husband. The elder sister is prettier but no husband for over 5yrs since she has been riding her big car around.

Op, the choice is yours! Good luck

My chairman, this is the best comment so far and I pray the Op sees and read this.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

ok, this is my opinion:

the choice is yours. Do whatever pleases you.

As for those saying "only insecure men will feel threatened". Anyway, we really cannot force/blackmail anyone into what ever kind of relationship they want or do not want, can we?

Since when does a man not deciding to stay in a kind of relationship, amount to being intemedated? And let us not forget that if men decide not to go after "strong and independent women", then maybe its because they have had terible experiences there before!

Let us not pretend that women are attracted more to men of 'class/power and respect'. When these "strong and independent women" were young, how exactly did they treat 'inferior men'? Many men can tell you tales of how 'better women', when they were young, shouted them down and snubed them and told them to "go for your level!"

so if a man get's that kind of treatment from 3-4 young 'superior women', don't you think he will learn his lessons? Don't you think he can look and notice that women are actually more attracted to and would respect that man with greater money, power and respect? When he makes such a discovery, you still want him to continue to go after 'superior women'?

Ok, you that like shaming men for being intimedated by you, 'superior woman', how many times have you gone on to ask that man out? You have the money, power and respect and also confidence. Why don't you go and exercise your confidence by asking him out? Since they cannot do it like men do it, don't you think 'superior' women are the last ones to tell men about confidence?

As for the men who are shaming other men, tell me why they themselves are not married to these 'superior' women? Take a look at them and you will discover that they all are married women who are 'below' them. As for the ones who are already dating 'superior' women, i hope they are not claiming the 'real' man just to cover up their lazyness?

In conclusion, everyone should be allowed to make decisions along whatever line they deem fit without the fear of being shamed for their decision which only affects them and no one else!

Like i said op, do what pleases you. Your life is yours; no one can take it away from you. You live far away from your work place, so i expect you to do that which is more confortable and convinient for you. As your status grow, public busses would become more dangerous for you to take. A car can give you some security. I would advice you to go for it.

Get a small nice car, always be accommodating and friendly... and there's no problem.
The fact is that woman are of different classes and a man on your social level shouldn't be put off cos of a car