@Op,please buy a car. In fact, a G-wagon if you like. Buying a car will only chase away weak, insecured and inadequate men, and trust me you don't need such kind of men. What nonsense!( I am a guy, and I am even angry sef.)

common beauty turn some men away leaving d lady single for some time, is tru we r in a civilize n expose world bt u fail to undstnd dat men who will fit into ur class n free to approach u r made men not struggling type, in most cases dis made men r either married or hooked up in a serious r/ship n d struggling ones will feel intimidated hence ur logo of bin single kontinu. myopinion

naijainfogalery:
If a man is scared of you cos you have a car, then you dont even deserve that kinda man. Like i do say to people. If i earn N400,000 and my wife earns 2,000,000 monthly. BY Gods grace, i will still be giving her pocket money, i will be paying school fees etc

Its only a man with inferiority complex that feels such.

u could have put it d right way like ur wife earning N400,000 and u earning N200,000.

Go ahead and buy a good car, but not range rover or venza, just a moderate car. At least broke ass dudes trekking the shitvout of tgeir legs wount have the nerves to approach you. All the best dear

mikolo80:
so what happen to that posters 44 yr old aunty wey never marry.

omotohdarajugbogbolo

A woman's worth is her attitude. I assure you that the 44 years old aunty can still get married if she down play her standards. If you ask her she'll tell you men woo her but she has set her standards too high. Besides she is not too old to get married. What we need in Africa is a change in attitude. Let's not marry solely for making babies. They are many orphans one can adopt and better the society. It's wrong to allow extremely beautiful women suffer loneliness because of their age and the fear that they may not bear children.

mikolo80:
most non intimidated guys are guys with practice and experience (players )okonjo met and grew with her husband. Nigeria not smiling on boys and easier for girls now so can't compare with okonjo time
we're just talking statistically here
she only needs one guy out of 85 million
why limit the pool to only 'secure' guys
that's all we're saying
if women only wanted secure guys
very few will get married
just as if men only wanted Beyonce type chicks very few would get married.
life is give and take
all the oyinbo looking for career,how many remain married,
I'm not forcing on you
just saying look at the statistics

Why get married to an insecure guy?

For God's sake, it's a car we are talking about here, not a private jet, she's not building oriental hotel, she's getting herself 1 car to aid her work and enjoy the fruits of her 3 years of labour.. Haba!! Who gets intimidated by that? If you do, you have a problem, not her..

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Now listen to me and listen good.. Mark my word today.. I advice you not to buy the car..reasons.
It will scare away potential suitors from you.now some will say that those suitors it will scare away doesn't deserve you but its a lie.most of them are potential millionaires but yet to make it and as such trying to it their coat according to their size. Its not intimidation but reason.why do you think guys will hide their identity most times while approaching a lady,its because they want to find a true love.cars will attract the good bad and the ugly in disguise which may not be same without car.see no matter your level of humility and goodness as a car owner,people and men will see it as mechanical and not genuine and that you are trying to fake it so as to appear good.finally these are the result
With car you will attract career men which are very few and with there is low possibility of even tighing the nut with them.
Gold diggers who will tell you all manner of lies and disappear after messing with you.

Without car you have higher chance of marriage and to a true love who you may be richer than by far or a little bit..but with whom you both can work together to make it big and he will ever be grateful,value and always appreciate and be their for you.

My candid advice if you are my sister is..don't get the car yet because your miracle (hubby) may be on the way already
Sow willing seeds in church,but pls dnt let it be under compulsion as it doesn't work that way.look down in your church or mosque and figure out where help is needed before you sow.
Visit motherless babies homes,charity organizations,less privileged, orphans and widows.do this with a particular petition in your mind to God and see miracle.but if you are pressed to buy a car out of constraint then buy a very low key car so that it will be so obvious that it is not for luxury and don't let it look as if your life is dependent on the car, ie..ride it at choice/will.
Dont mind those telling you to buy it without opening your eyes to the pros and con's in it.
Look you still have a lot of years ahead to enjoy yourself more other than now. BUY THE FUTURE !

litaninja:
You need a car? Get a blood.y car. Most guys who are particular about theirs' don't want anyone ( including bae) to drive them. If a guy is avoiding you because you have a car....he's not the ONE.
For those that say suitors will run away....biko, all these babe wey no get car but still dey single nko?
Abegi...

the secret is that most ''African'' guys will see her as a lady that might be difficult to please and control. There is also this subtle fear that she might even tell the guy that she doesnt need him much, after all, she is made.

Mrlekan07034617:


Wow that's wisdom buried in Humility... God bless your marriage ma'am

Thanks sir

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

So with all dis advice what 've u decided 2 do?

fuckerholic:

Now listen to me and listen good.. Mark my word today.. I advice you not to buy the car..reasons.
It will scare away potential suitors from you.now some will say that those suitors it will scare away doesn't deserve you but its a lie.most of them are potential millionaires but yet to make it and as such trying to it their coat according to their size. Its not intimidation but reason.why do you think guys will hide their identity most times while approaching a lady,its because they want to find a true love.cars will attract the good bad and the ugly in disguise which may not be same without car.see no matter your level of humility and goodness as a car owner,people and men will see it as mechanical and not genuine and that you are trying to fake it so as to appear good.finally these are the result
With car you will attract career men which are very few and with there is low possibility of even tighing the nut with them.
Gold diggers who will tell you all manner of lies and disappear after messing with you.

Without car you have higher chance of marriage and to a true love who you may be richer than by far or a little bit..but with whom you both can work together to make it big and he will ever be grateful,value and always appreciate and be their for you.

My candid advice if you are my sister is..don't get the car yet because your miracle (hubby) may be on the way already
Sow willing seeds in church,but pls dnt let it be under compulsion as it doesn't work that way.look down in your church or mosque and figure out where help is needed before you sow.
Visit motherless babies homes,charity organizations,less privileged, orphans and widows.do this with a particular petition in your mind to God and see miracle.but if you are pressed to buy a car out of constraint then buy a very low key car so that it will be so obvious that it is not for luxury and don't let it look as if your life is dependent on the car, ie..ride it at choice/will.
Dont mind those telling you to buy it without opening your eyes to the pros and con's in it.
Look you still have a lot of years ahead to enjoy yourself more other than now. BUY THE FUTURE !

op

listen to words of wisdom

Osarieme415:
@Op,please buy a car. In fact, a G-wagon if you like. Buying a car will only chase away weak, insecured and inadequate men, and trust me you don't need such kind of men. What nonsense!( I am a guy, and I am even angry sef.)

Because you are a DICKson (a boyish man or a manish boy), you wont understand. you will understand if you are a single lady in her late twenties or early thirties. I dont claim to know all but it seems you lack experience to advice in an African setting.

Skmoda360:

Gold digger my foot and besides do you even know me, quit saying bullshit. so because my bae is richer than me at the moment that makes me GD, FYI, i don't depend on anybody except God, i think you are trying to transfer your GD personality into my free being...i guess you are a LL who always think dating a big girl makes you a gold digger..capiche.

Oga, face the fact that you are a gold digger abeg. Scrutinise yourself and you will find out that you are a gold digger. You simply want to find your footing using the girls resources in future which is why you are maintaining the facade of picking all the bills while your monthly income can barely sustain you.

In due time, you will latch onto your spendings and begin to ask her for a , which you will never pay back, to complete a phantom project.

If you are truly ambitious as you claim, you won't be frittering your meagre salary on a girl with very expensive material tastes.

I once dated a girl driving a car am not intimidated she got so used to the car that she can't walk 20 meters to go buy call creadit or 50 meters to go buy grilled fish around the corner,men are naturally intimidated by ladies driving,and such ladies can't date a man that's not driving because she has set a standard for herself and any man that doesn't meet this set standard is not qualified to date her. Am not saying its wrong for a spinster to be driving rather it reduces her chances of getting married by 50% but I can assure u ladies driving have less chances athen she'll lie on bed in the night and be crying to God for husband,why I didn't end up with her was that she has a temper that when it rises it may need God himself to cool her down. Ladies on big salaries tend to want a car,its normal,but if she's humble,decent and friendly she'll definitely meet a husband,I hope to meet someone like that either she's driving or not,but the truth remains that ladies driving are less likely of meeting a potential husband than ladies that jump buses! HOHA

Op please dont buy a car yet,u are in your late twenties nw,i guess 28 or 29,u should be concern abt getting a future partner,most guys wen they see ladies with car they assumed they ar married or engaged,they have set their standard higher, pple saying it will chase insecure men away,its nt all,some guys cut their coat according to their size,so by getting a car will chase potential suitors away,wat u will see is rich working class guy,wic is scarce cus some ar engaged or in a relationship, and u will attract gold diggers,players dat will milk ur money dry,just be on a low key and manage,u have been going to work without car since,so manage,and pray very well attend church programs and many outing,God will provide u ur better half

I adive u like my sister, cus if u ar my sister i cant advice u to buy a car,and my family cant cus they know d implication, so have it in mind dat ur family like u.

jackpot:
Because you are a DICKson (a boyish man or a manish boy), you wont understand. you will understand if you are a single lady in her late twenties or early thirties. I dont claim to know all but it seems you lack experience to advice in an African setting.

If owning a car will drive away men with frail egos who would wish her to be subservient, then it is a good thing . Emancipate yourself from mental slavery in the coming year. Merry Xmas
P. S. I think feminists have their work cut out for them. You need their tutelage

jackpot:
Because you are a DICKson (a boyish man or a manish boy), you wont understand. you will understand if you are a single lady in her late twenties or early thirties. I dont claim to know all but it seems you lack experience to advice in an African setting.

Exactly they dont knw how it feel,they ar advising like there ar in US,this is africa for God sake

you may not be 100% right.

TooNoisy:
Sorry OP, you need to be careful with the people you call family. These are the type of people that will try to limit your dreams in future.

Even after you get married they will bring out new rules. I will tell you the truth, what most Nigerian men value more is a woman's character and not whether she drives a car.

Buying a car may seem to take you beyond the reach of some men, but trust me, those are not the men you want to marry if you are an upwardly mobile, goal oriented and trendy young lady.

Just go ahead and buy the car already.

Before you buy that car sis,

How many things HV you invested in?
How is the ROI?

My family says things like that but I always knew na how far their own sight carry them. If I have 1 or two investments on ground, no Jupiter will stop me from living the luxury life I know I am called for. Why then do I HV to work if I can't still enjoy the fruits of my labour?

Bahahahhaah! African mentality!

naijainfogalery:
If a man is scared of you cos you have a car, then you dont even deserve that kinda man. Like i do say to people. If i earn N400,000 and my wife earns 2,000,000 monthly. BY Gods grace, i will still be giving her pocket money, i will be paying school fees etc

Its only a man with inferiority complex that feels such.

Better man! We need more men like you in Africa.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

PLEASE DON'T BUY YET...KEEP YOURSELF ACCESSIBLE...JUST ENDURE MY DEAR...YOUR MR RIGHT IS ON THE WAY!

What is a car?
A necessity IMO
If you can afford it why will you be standing in the rain at the bus stop for hours?
I am surprised at peoples mentality that it will chase suitors away.
I respect sensible well behaved hard-working young women and if I were a man this is the kind of woman that will appeal to me.

We had a family friend in her early thirties who was advised not to buy a car too. She lived in Ojo and worked in VI. Everyday she would leave home at odd hours and come back late.
We told her that she was being very silly and just punishing herself for nothing. In the end she bought her car. Not long after she met someone they got married and they both live abroad now.

Another of our family friends was driving a BMW when she met her husband.

You are who you are and you will not appeal to everyone for whatever reason just as not everyone will appeal to you.

Being of good character is much more important than any car. Its only a car at the end of the day. Something to get you from A to B.

milowys77:


From your assertion, the likes of Genevieve aren't married because they are successful? In other words every other woman her age that hasn't had a very successful career is happily married? You can't think of any woman at all who doesn't have a car at 35 and still isn't married?

There will always be men like you who are scared of successful women, and the there will always be others for whom self made successful women are a huge turn on.

mtchew!!!

Why on earth did you quote me when you know you have reading and comprehemsion disorder?

Where exactly did i say or insinuate the Genevieve isn't married because she is rich? How exactly is the idea that a woman is single because she is rich, the message i got across in that post?

The point i made there was: if all the men here and are claiming they are not intimedated by successful women are truely not intimedated by them, why then do the likes of Genevieve (highly achieving women) complain that not too many men approach them? That's the point i was trying to get across!!! Hope you can understand it now!!! The hypocrisy of men on this thread is what i was pointing out not the nonsense you claim, due to your reading and comprehemsion disorder, i was insinuating!

Majority of people commenting here are men and roughly 70percent of them claim they are not intimidated by women's success. 70 percent of these men, is a good number. If truely they don't feel intimedated like they say, then most highly achieving women out there in the real world, won't be complaining like they always do!!! Again, that's the point i was passing across.

I think the reason why the likes of Genevieve aren't married is because of her profession and the types of people that she is exposed to/meets due to her job.

Nowadays you have 23 year old girls with Master degrees in good jobs and earning good money.
They will buy cars and properties with that money and are not going to sit and fold their arms until someone asks then out. If they only buy designer gear and Brazilian with the money we will tell them off for being too vain and not thinking about the future.

And because they work in the corporate world they are going to be approached by like minded people.

Genevieve is a bad example of a successful woman, She is successful yes, but many men do not want to marry showbiz ladies and that is what is working against her and not her assets. I am sure that she is a very nice lady but unfortunately many men are scared of marrying into show biz due to the high divorce rate.
Look at Funke Akindele, she didn't marry a professional because she doesn't move in that circle.

Osarieme415:

If owning a car will drive away men with frail egos who would wish her to be subservient, then it is a good thing . Emancipate yourself from mental slavery in the coming year. Merry Xmas

you actually sound more of a feminist in the above post. Feminist thinks about the wellbeing of females only, like getting a car, a married woman using her salary (with or without telling her husband) to build a mansion in her father's compound.

P. S. I think feminists have their work cut out for them. You need their tutelage

I am a realist. I have seen a family of 5 unmarried pretty ladies. The youngest is 40 already. The hustle is real. Every lady needs a man. Those cosmetic young ladies then who scammed men looking for love and fail to secure a husband much later shouldnt turn feminists.

RichyRodman:
I once dated a girl driving a car am not intimidated she got so used to the car that she can't walk 20 meters to go buy call creadit or 50 meters to go buy grilled fish around the corner,men are naturally intimidated by ladies driving,and such ladies can't date a man that's not driving because she has set a standard for herself and any man that doesn't meet this set standard is not qualified to date her. Am not saying its wrong for a spinster to be driving rather it reduces her chances of getting married by 50% but I can assure u ladies driving have less chances athen she'll lie on bed in the night and be crying to God for husband,why I didn't end up with her was that she has a temper that when it rises it may need God himself to cool her down. Ladies on big salaries tend to want a car,its normal,but if she's humble,decent and friendly she'll definitely meet a husband,I hope to meet someone like that either she's driving or not,but the truth remains that ladies driving are less likely of meeting a potential husband than ladies that jump buses! HOHA

my dear, you are correct. There are lots of potential suitors in those buses. If she drives too, she have eliminated other potential suitors that would have stopped her while walking on the street and striked up conversation with her in the usual ''Excuse me, miss. I am Romeo. Can I meet you?''

nikenry:

Better man! We need more men like you in Africa.

hmm. You need a slave, not a man.

mikolo80:
where does your sister work, does she meet guys regularly, is it the same for op ? one man's meat is another poison

my sister is a medical personel in the Nigerian navy, my sister is not a dumb slut, she don't start what she can't finish!, and so one man's junk is another man's treasure!

Babes,buy your car jo! Only a man with low self esteem will be intimidated by it...

It will sure bring some guys around u. Just that they are not coming for YOU But for the STUFFS.

Buy yourself a car if u want to .As per husband issue, ur car will only attract men who are of the same class. Even with ur name, it already shows u are classy.