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| why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by NobleKaY7(m): 11:47pm On Feb 07, 2016 |
Ladies hating on their mother's in-law even before getting to know them, since the believe is "all mother's in-law are witches, Evil, a pain in the ass" some of them wishing they were dead before they meet their future husband. Other's acting all cool just to get into the marriage proper b4 showing their mother's in-law pepper. (Literally). From Putting so much pepper in their food just 2 make dem leave on time when they come for OMUGWO, to teaching them how to handle the grand child (since she nova born b4 abi), or even starving them. Complaining to their hubby's about every thing Mama does. BUT WHY? Remember someday u'll also be a mother in-law and there is a law called KARMA. As 4me sha, dis letter goes out 2 my lovely wifee to be. The love of my MAMA is the beginning of wisdom 4 a loving and peaceful marriage. As I already love ur Mama. "Love you Mother in-law" treat her as ur own mama. Though some mother's in-law sha.... 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Pineapp: 11:53pm On Feb 07, 2016 |
It's a 50-50 situation. I'll become a mother-in-law someday and I don't have any intention of being troublesome to my daughters-in-law. But then, You don't expect a supposed daughter-in-law who is already of the notion that her husbands mother might turn out to be"wicked", and a mother-in-law who acts not differently to enjoy peace. I still maintain to love my mother-in-law but if she begins to prove too solid,her son should know how best to handle her. 2 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by djraymy(m): 12:02am On Feb 08, 2016 |
who get phone or tab for sell, kano or ondo 5 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Nobody: 12:07am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Lol. It depends on the man's authority and how he uses it. I've been too experienced to suffer a mother-wife saga (its God's grace anyway). When u overpamper a woman in d name of loving her to d extent that she won't knw that being under authority has a cost/price to pay, what do you expect? And some men who ought to have fought their way to freedom b4 bringing home a wife kept on being tatas all in d name of a mother's pampering. Well one useful tip for the wise is when u know someone to be a troublemaker, just put her in her place till she finishes and leave instead of being the initiator of strife. A strong understanding btw d hubby and wife is needed for this. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Adaezeagu(f): 12:29am On Feb 08, 2016 |
This land is not for sale 1 Like |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Pidggin(f): 12:38am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Mother-in-laws are too possesive, if only they can let go, peace will reign. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by lilmax(m): 12:38am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Situations like this happen when they see themselves as competitors 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Abiagirl777(f): 12:58am On Feb 08, 2016 |
My mum in law just left yesterday after a mths stay,she supposedly came for omugwo after mine left.I don't want to rememba how my husband blamed me for insisting that she'll come against his wish because of her attitude but suffice it to say 'we saw hell'. She never for once cooked,cleaned,swept or even carried the baby she came for.only watching Africa magic Igbo from morning till night,eating and quarrelling. I leave posterity to judge her even though she knows her next coming is a long thing(dbanj). I tell you I don't blame daughter in laws anymore 17 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by tpiar: 1:07am On Feb 08, 2016 |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Abiagirl777(f): 1:09am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Cant forget on 4th I was terribly sick,I begged this woman to bath her 4mth grandson,she ignored me.I was on my knees in the bathroom struggling to bath My son while she was watching movies(my husband drove out to buy her bread bf we leave for the hospital),he was enraged when he came back. By 6am on sat. We woke her to prepare its time to go. I shed tears,God forbid that there are actually women who live what Mama G portrays on TV(her fav. Actress) To think they were estranged for years and I brokered peace between them before our traditional wedding so she'd start enjoying her 1st son again . Her 2 other children is apologising to me on her behalf 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Miami11: 1:11am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Some mother in laws are trouble some, very hatefull, They feel they are in competition with the daughter in law That is how my mother in law behaves 4 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Miami11: 1:13am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Abiagirl777:I keep distance from my mother in law. The woman is devil's reincarnate. 2 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Abiagirl777(f): 1:24am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Miami11: I have learnt my lessons big time!! |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by SAMBARRY: 3:25am On Feb 08, 2016 |
 Keep the stories coming in 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Miami11: 6:06am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Abiagirl777:I'm Glad you have learned the hard way, I insisted my husband bring mother in law abroad where we live, as soon as she got here she started advocating that he leaves me, I have never felt this backstabbed before, her efforts did not work so she left for the village sad. I keep my distance, hubby has not spoken to her in almost a year, I had to beg him to call her 4 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by PresVA: 6:57am On Feb 08, 2016 |
NobleKaY7:It's quite unfortunate, some people allow what they see or hear to affect them even without them experiencing it.. When they keep mindsets like this, why won't the saga come? Those praying for their MILs to die, hope you know your future DILs will say same prayer for you? What goes around comes around. .. 1 Like |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by blesoh(f): 7:32am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Abiagirl777:LOL that your own is terrible oh. My first baby she came and carried me I saw hell. My first baby was through CS the first day no food for me to eat till 2pm. Nobody told me to get ready and rush to the market. I stayed for, 2wks and ran. I bath the baby,wash clean mehn my husband never liked the idea of the mum taking me to her house. The second baby my husband informed her never to take me. But in all she's a good woman. She works and doesn't have time to sit at home. I love her like my mum. She's kind hearted and to think I married her only son. 4 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by blesoh(f): 7:41am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Wow going through comments here I can say with shouts of joy that I have the best mother in law in the world. She listens to me. Doesn't take sights with her son. Treats me like her own daughter. 7 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by soonest(f): 9:06am On Feb 08, 2016 |
@op, some MIL are plain annoying. I believe we all know our mothers and the onus is on d man to curtail the excesses of both the wife and mother. Imagine a MIL asking my friend who had CS last week to pound for her. Her son scolded her and offered to pound for her, she now said ok let me manage eba.  4 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by TheArchangel(f): 9:07am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Nobody likes side chicks. Both mother in law and daughter in laws sees themselves as the main chick while the other as the side chick. 4 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Pineapp: 9:15am On Feb 08, 2016 |
TheArchangel: *falls from pineapple juice* |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by NoQualms1(f): 9:20am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Some mother-in-laws are really good. Mine was. When I gave birth to my first, she came. She bathed her, pressed my body, cooked. And she stayed for a year, taking care of my baby for me. She hardly complain. If I offend her, she'll tell my husband, not even her husband or other children heard any complain about me. And just 5 days ago, I gave birth to my second. She has been sick for a month, I was praying that God should heal her if only for the sake of my newborn but she passed away 3 days ago. She was a rare gem indeed. I'm not sure I've heard of mother-in-laws being that nice. Hers was different. Almost all my friends had issues with theirs. I don't just know why she had to die now but God knows and I've accepted like that.  16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Pineapp: 9:34am On Feb 08, 2016 |
NoQualms1:It's saddening  Sorry for your loss,may God grant her eternal rest. 3 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Creamish(f): 9:51am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Its a blessing to have a good MIL. It can be depressing when both mother and son stand against the wife. Still, I'll never pray ill for any MIL. 1 Like |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by jmoore(m): 10:21am On Feb 08, 2016 |
blesoh:Better post, at least hope dey.  2 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Faith111: 10:31am On Feb 08, 2016 |
blesoh: Mine too.... My MIL seems exceptional. Maybe because of her foreign exposure. But she never interferes in our affairs. I remember when hubby and I were still courting...When I visit the family house, hubby serves me food and when I'm tru eating my hubby will take the dishes to the kitchen while I sit like a queen and she never frowned even for once.. Whenever I try to clear up dishes or clean up, hubby will insist that I don't.. When Hubby told her he wanted to get married to me, she said it's kol that she won't stay with him and so won't decide who he should marry... If I visit her, she gets my breakfast and hot bath water ready before I get out from bed... She baths my daughter and washes clothes...Yet she is very comfortable financially.. Cos of the love She shows, I naturally do everything to make her happy... If her daughters jokingly complains, I tell them to go and meet their MILs and stop disturbing mine.They'll all start laughing cos she takes sides with me. 16 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Chidoks(f): 11:01am On Feb 08, 2016 |
Jesus Christ!! With some stories up there I thank Jehovah God for my mother-in-law.What!! Mine is my closet friend.I don't even like her doing chores sef because nobody can clean my house to my taste except my sister,the babe sabi scrub house. Back to MIL,this woman respects her son like kilode! Whenever she needs something from him she comes to me which made me uncomfortable for a long time till me too, I started asking her to tell her son do certain things for me just to balance the equation. She's a perfect gist mate and our 'amebo' is always sweet and safe. We weren't always friends o.infact for about my first 4years of marriage we had our fair share of cold war but she was never confrontational and me I kept my distance till the issue was resolved. Looking back now I wish we never even fell out,because that woman really suffered and I will make sure that for every wrinkle that came on her face due to the stress she went through; I shall replace with laughter of joy till they all disappear and she glows like a baby(so help me God). She is currently in my house but what she doesn't know yet is that she's here on a very very long stay. ""She has her flaws o,me too I have mine but just as I don't get offended at any thing my mum does, I've decided not to be offended by her wrong deeds. God bless and keep her for me joor! 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Chidoks(f): 11:06am On Feb 08, 2016 |
NoQualms1:Oh dear,sorry for your loss. Just keep recalling her love each time you miss her. |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Blade21: 11:39am On Feb 08, 2016 |
I love my mil at the beginning we had our issues but now I realised she's just been a mum and I love her everyday she's a good gist partner and she treasures her grand kids she doesn't joke with them I know God will keep her for me amen God bless all the mil all over the world 1 Like |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by Ginaz(f): 11:46am On Feb 08, 2016 |
I neva enter marriage yet eh but that woman harsh no be small , she doesn't take shit and she tells you bluntly whatever she wants to tell you! Who born you? . I went to my boo's house and thought it would be okay if I spend the night there. She told me to my face that I can't! . I was embarrassed and the same time angry. I gently called ma boo aside and told him his mother was being rude to me, to my surprise he laughed and said that's how she is, straight forward person, I was angry and my face don swell like eba wen don dey ready. I was upset and down that whole evening, then she started asking me about my health, if I've, eaten? Bla bla bla. It took me time for me to relax and enjoy her company again, well, I guess that's how she is. When I marry, me and ma boo go pack go Jerusalem far far away from her .She did me a favour sef , cos me and boo con go privately private place as we con do Chinese film . Na just kiss sha  3 Likes |
| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by jashar(f): 1:53pm On Feb 08, 2016 |
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| Re: why do some ladies already hate their Mother's In-law. by jashar(f): 1:53pm On Feb 08, 2016 |
It's all as a result of ignorance. Some women don't know the respective roles they play in a man's life;hence the power tussle. |
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