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Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by AVRecruit: 12:37pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
tosyne2much: if a woman want a man to spend on her, she should marry the man not bf gf. |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 12:41pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
ShayGirl:Hehehehehe I don't know how to spend on ladies ni jawe |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Nobody: 12:47pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: Don't see it as a requirement or reward or anything of that sort. I THINK it's sth that comes naturally to a man . Men are meant to provide naturally for women,aren't they? Supposed to be for a wife quite alright, but I feel there's still that sense of obligation towards a gf,even if it shouldn't be demanded. If u love a woman,u'd feel naturally inclined to want to do one or two things for her to make her happy. I wouldn't say it's from a sense of duty,but maybe it is...It's the same way a woman would find herself wanting to do things for her man...cook for him,keep the house clean,screw him(lol),perhaps do his laundry and whatever else she expects would make him happy. There's an extent to which all of these should be done, of course,but if u can't do any for a gf,then u might just as well find it difficult doing for a wife. It's just the way these things work. There's no disputing it. |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by MRBrownJ: 1:36pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01: so far, the thread is very confusing as you are saying many different things. Aside from assisting her monetarilly, so now you are saying that it is a MAN's role to assist monetarily, therefore if it is our "role" in a r/ship, then a man must ALWAYS assist women with money.... but didnt you write earlier that it is only "lil assistance and shouldnt be always"? so which one is it bro?! is it lil assistance OR our role (aka duty) in a r/ship? MBJ's view: my role in a r/ship is to love, care, cherish, support, protect my partner the best i can, in order for the r/ship to prosper. assisting her monetarily can NEVER be my role in this union. i may help her (aka support) monetarily ONCE, but if monetary assistance is something that repeats itself then i need to sort the issue at its root, so that my partner does not depend on my monetary assistance any longer. a r/ship where a partner always assist the other monetarily can never be healthy! you'd be the mirror through which she sees herself, so if thats the case, then this "mirror" would show her that her role would also be to assist monetarily, isnt it? give her your shoulder to lean on when she's passing through trying times if you are not really trying to help/support her then your shoulder is pointless. throwing money at someone that demands for it is certainly NOT helping them. MBJ's view: if a partner is passing through trying times then you need to "understand" why she finds herself in that position, and possibly find a mature solution so that you can make sure it doesnt repeat itself. if a person find themselves in trying time and DO NOT LEARN from their mistakes, then they will ultimately do it again and again. it is your duty to make sure she LEARNS how to NEVER find herself in that negative position ever again. Mrbrown you are grown up, you shoud know these things...if you look @my last submission on my post, i stated that, "this is what i 've come to realised even in my own relationship"...so, it prolly means i did not compell anybody to or must be spending on her woman, it's a thing of choice... actually, YES, you did say that it was a necessity and there was nothing in your statement that told us that it was a choice. here is what you wrote: if you have money you must spend on your girlfriend, unless except your brokeness is taprooted or hereditory ...that was your 1st sentence on this thread. but i'm convinced if you, Mrbrown hit jackpot tomorrow, you must spend on your woman...the issue here is, it's either the guy is broke, stingy or he doesn't love the girl... i already spend generously on my woman and hitting the jackpot wouldnt change what we have. i spend with LOVE/CARE/AFFECTION/RESPECT etc, and this is what we use to evaluate the r/ship we have. gifts are nice but they certainly aint part of the foundation that makes a r/ship stand strong. MBJ's view: if a woman values you via the size of your monetary handouts then you are certainly doomed, and she is obviously lost. only men with very little self esteem would flip the script and blame themselves for not being able to help their women... as if helping someone in needs is now a requirement in a r/ship, that must be met, whether you can or not. what a distorted world, where the beggars are now in a position of power. ...and you won't tell me that you always turn your woman dwn each time she ask you for a lil favour financially, even if you cnt give her all, she should be able to understand hence you are telling her the truth. again, if it happens ONCE, i will help, but as you wrote "each time she ask you for a lil favour financially", it means that she OFTEN needs my financial favours, and being a beggar will never set her free from bondage, which will always be counter productive in a r/ship. therefore she needs to sort her life out and 1st understand why she ALWAYS finds herself in financial strain. maybe she needs a job OR better financial managing skills OR a new lifestyle. either way, i aint father Xmas, and if she doesnt want to "learn", then the best i can do is give her a LOAN, and she can repay me back whenever she desires, but no other loan will be handed until she has repaid the last one! 1 Like |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by MRBrownJ: 1:50pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Oliviaarims: yes men should support their women, but again, if my woman's need/happiness is always related to MONEY then i must find a way to make sure that she makes her own, so that she doesnt have to be in bondage, via my handouts/help whatever. funny how some women's happiness is always linked with money. |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 2:28pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Bayonle10:Make he no dey take my comment serious shey? |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Nobody: 2:46pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: Lol...funny,right. But it's a different kind of happiness. A girl dating a 60yr old married man who spoils her silly and a girl dating a 30yr old average man who loves her sincerely and shows it in every possible way are happy in different ways. U dig? |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by ronald4lif(m): 3:18pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01: What you're saying now isn't in consonance with your initial post. In your original post you stated that any guy who doesn't give his woman money is stingy or broke or doesn't love her. This isn't true but I'm not here to argue for or against that except if necessary. While I'm not totally against giving a woman money I don't agree that anyone who doesn't is broke, stingy or doesn't love their woman. For what this means is that it's a man's duty to see to his woman's needs and which I find preposterous and untrue. Love and relationship isn't a shelter nor an opportunity for a woman to leech off a man and abdicate her responsibility to fulfilling her welfare. If she want anything she should work for it, just like the boyfriend toiled for his. 1 Like |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Bayonle10: 4:59pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
tosyne2much:me I know you are joking, in fact we both know you are joking |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Bayonle10: 5:01pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01:lol |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by jamex93(m): 6:31pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01: Share with me too nah |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by firstking01(m): 6:34pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
jamex93:Nope, e go too small for for you |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by jamex93(m): 6:47pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Nobody: 7:14pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01::-) you're still a youngin', read and learn from mrbrownj bc that's og knowledge. You can assist your girl yes but is she worth it? Don't ever ever think that any girl is doing you a favour or that you need to reward her for being with you thats crap. Never grant a girl favour 3straight times. 2 Likes |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by sheyizy1: 7:20pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
FlawlessRebirth2:and one baby oku |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Nobody: 8:44pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
ShayGirl:its a blessing to loose a leech with a warped mind so that space for a sensible bae will be available. Keeping a bae with money is a very stupidd thing to do unless the guy just wnats her for fun and nothing else which is cool. |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by ShayGirl(f): 8:58pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
tosyne2much: In other words, ur babe must always do the asking? After all I tot u tosyn, u've still not changed;P |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by firstking01(m): 9:11pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
jamex93:nope, i'm sure you no go like am |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by jamex93(m): 9:14pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by firstking01(m): 9:17pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
jamex93:hehehe, oya take am |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by jamex93(m): 9:21pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by firstking01(m): 9:29pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
jamex93:cos you where not wise enough to drop ur bank details, so, not ma fault |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 9:29pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
ShayGirl:You don't have to blame me.. The last time I checked, there's a difference between LOVE and MONEY |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 9:37pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Bayonle10:Make I just keep quiet sha |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by pet4ril(f): 9:45pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
tosyne2much:i will quote you very well. I have seen your type but the fact is that they are the ones who spend last card on their gfs and go koboless Hard work pays bro and there is blessing in giving |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by olac21(m): 9:58pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Smellymouth: What's the real name bro,I'd love to know! |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 10:00pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
pet4ril:Are you trying to convince me to spend on my gf? I aint doing that |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by pet4ril(f): 10:08pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
tosyne2much:hope she is not on NL? If she is, let her come and testify to this or Adonbivit |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by tosyne2much(m): 10:16pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
pet4ril:Of course she's on nl and can see every of my comments |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by MRBrownJ: 10:20pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Oliviaarims: there is a very fine line here, which is that ANY woman MUST get all the happiness she requires in her man just from his "being" (aka character etc).... whether he can help her financially or not is irrelevant to that fact. these gifts/handouts should be the cherry on the cake, and not the way around where the gifts and financial backing IS the cake (aka the whole foundation of that said r/ship), and his character is the cherry on top. |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by Glo4issy(f): 10:25pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
firstking01:U deserve a |
Re: Guys Let's Be Sincere For Once by firstking01(m): 10:39pm On Mar 19, 2016 |
Glo4issy:say it?? |
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