halfricanadian:
First get ur sister out of his home

Next if he doesnt look for her she is with the wrong man


If he comes looking for her let him go tru a lpt to habe her bck so he can treat her well wen he sees ow hard he went tru to av her

daretodiffer:


Alcohol is not an excuse.

What he does in his past time is his is business so far it is not affecting his sister and her daughter negatively.

INTROVERT:
Its quite unfortunate that this happened. I think you need to have a very serious face to face discussion withe man in question her because this is how these things start. I follow your advice on how to act when he come back drunk as that is the best to avoid beating.

Honestly if my hubby should beat me I would expect my brothers to really give him "run".
How will someone marry when one reads and sees all these kinda stories ever day, everywhere. May God help women around the world.

9jacrip:
Dude, pay thugs to beat that dude up, slaps here and there and if possible they flash a gun at him to put the fear of God in him.

A day or two after if you want to, call his phone and let him know if he ever lays a finger on a strand of hair on your sister again, it could get worse. I'll suggest you do not call, whenever it happens just get him beat up worse than before, he'll put 2 & 2 together and stop it.

Meeting him one on one makes no sense. It will further fuel his sense of importance which would earn you taunts behind your back and further make your sister appear helpless for running to a man who just wants to 'talk' and tell him how to handle is marriage.

Some men are just completely foolish, no matter how a woman angers you there's always the options of keeping mute to de-escalate the matter or you walk off to let matters ease off.

Bro, just go and Bleep him up. A black eye, cut lips and cuts on his body here and there will do the trick. Else, the beating will go on and possibly you may never hear of it again because your sis may decide to keep it to herself because you won't change anything if all you do is just talk.

Get him!

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My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

Cutehector:
Her cross! She should carry it

vsaintchigs:
Pray to God

Last2comment:
My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

Last2comment:


My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

Paretomaster:


these remind me of d scenario btw ma sis and her husband, he love her so much dat he wouldn't allow her a 10 feet space alone, he always think we will take her back...

despite d family disapproval, ma sis insist on marrying him.

fast forward after 3 children, he marry 2 more wives, and couldn't care for her financially, d little we send to her, he will collect and spend, when she got tired, she let him leave the house, before she park her things, and move to stay with one of our cousin in a nearby state.

when he arrive, and couldn't find ma sis anywhere, he send the other wives to their fathers house, dat how could they allow her leave.

he called us in Lagos to seek her where about, we told him she is not with us, he travelled to our home state...the families their knowing him very well, threatened him to provide their daughter or he won't leave d village, he broke down, and cry like a baby..

he travel from village to village looking for her, to no avail, all dis while, ma elder bro knew where she was, but decide to teach him a lesson..

after the journey, he ran outta cash, and have to sell his phone to proceed back home, from home, he arrange another money, and set out again, down to Lagos, because ma elder bro told him she is with him, when he get to Lagos, and find out she his not there, he almost kill himself.

I was full of pity for him, after so much pleading, he was told she is in Kebbi State, he set out again.

before getting to Kebbi, he start making mouth, lashing out at ma brother, before he got there, ma brother have send a taxi to pick her from where she is, Ahahahha, it's like the guy knew, he chartered a bike, and block d taxi...and said hell will be let loose if he didn't take his wife with him.

since then, he dare not maltreat her again.

Richy4:


If you check the meaning of this phrase "under an influence of Alcohol...." You will agree with me that it was an excuse....he was not at his right mind at that moment... how ever your second point is correct... I totally agree

Last2comment:
My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

Last2comment:
My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

PresVA:
Talking about beating the man or calling touts on him, remember he's still your sister's husband; your sister will definitely feel the pain with him....Don't go that far please; totally unnecessary, the deed is done already-quite sad indeed though. ..

Have a meeting with the man...let out your displeasure. .

Then your sister should find out why her husband drinks so much like that, he may be undergoing some challenges. . Many men bottle up emotions and tend to believe drink can take away the worries, sadly drinking only worsens. . Find out why the change except he's been like this from d onset?

SIRTee15:


The day they will call him to come n carry his sister's corpse in her husband's house.......then it will be his business.

The way u reason on this forum is disturbing.

Last2comment:
My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.