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Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Bolade005: 4:51pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:I'm from a rugged family. I'm sure he'd think twice before hurting my sister and God forbids, if it happens, resorting to violence wouldn't be the first option. Enjoy |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by ominskie: 4:55pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
I am going through the same thing, thinking of getting a divorce but also thinking about my child's future. Am confused 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:56pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bolade005: I hear that. To each, his own. I would rather stop it with violence rather than risk having my sister shut me out and die inside from the continuous coded beatings. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by seunajia: 5:01pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer: I shan't But like I said before, each to his own. Cheers. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by latinoKingdom(m): 5:02pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
INTROVERT:all human are animals |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by johnson232: 5:05pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:but your advise is worse than divorce u sound like a woman, are u m or f? |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by boujaye: 5:07pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:what sort of advice is this? cultist? |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by pee777(m): 5:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Last2comment:Many ways to skin a lion, since he's a confirm drunkard, invite him out buy him bottles of drink let him shark himself then draw his ears to warn him seriously from touching ur sister. If u re not the drinking type, go with heavy bouncers to ur sisters house when the he goat is around, show ur displeasure and let him know that he's lucky u re in ur right state of mind, if he's reaction is calm and sober just warn him otherwise lay him flat and koboko him. Else carry ur Bible and begin to bind and cast. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Bimpe29: 5:19pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
repogirl:I still maintain my position. What the situation require is Prayer. It is the only thing that will change his brother in law for the better. No matter how good your solutions may be, without divine favour, it will not be effective. So prayer it is ma'am. However, he was not like that before. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by adelekeaka: 5:23pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Last2comment: There are always 2 sides to a coin. Have you called to ask the man what transpired between them? In as much I dont support beating women. There are times their brain needs resetting. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Happywoman(f): 5:34pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip: Epic |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Happywoman(f): 5:36pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
adelekeaka: One day monkey go enter mkt e no go come back again. Use ur tongue count ur teeth |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by NaWetinDey(m): 5:37pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip: Your idea sounds great but, believe me, this may not work in all cases: 1. What type of man did she marry in the first place? If it's an 'area boy' you may be in for a long thing trying to use thugs on him as his reaction could be worse than his stupidity and your response combined. 2. I have an inlaw who is a 'redneck;' would you dare use thuggery on him when you know they often look for whom to molest in 'this side of town'? 3. Sometimes, it's best to avoid illegal confrontation. I'd advice you talk to your sister and, if she agrees, get her out of there, go lodge a complain with those women org stuff and file for divorce if you think he would do it again or that he doesn't have enough respect for your family if they go warning him. This step, of course, may be considered after you have made sure that your sister has told you everything. If the man was not that type of man but suddenly started having problems with his finances, advice from elders and spiritual leadepprs may make him come to. But, generally, it's one of the most painful feelings to have: another man beating up your sister in the name of marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Bolade005: 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
9jacrip:All right. Noted. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 5:43pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Hmmm. I feel u should let them solve this issue themselves. After all, this beating has never happened before. N it may never happen again. If u go and fight or beat him up now, ur sister may get follow up beating or harshness from her hubby. Thats a possibility. Also, for those saying u should get her out of her husband's house so he will come looking for her the hard way, I laugh. Some men are hard and will never go to beg their wives to return if they did not chase her away. If this happens, ur sis may become unhappy and always blame u or ur family for taking her out of her husband's home or encouraging her to leave. When it comes to couples, stay on the sidelines. Except the situation becomes too serious or life threatening, then u can interfere. My own opinion though... 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by obiak4(m): 6:10pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
INTROVERT:some MEN HMMMMM |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by pete26(m): 6:12pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
nnamdiosu:Wise approach I must say. Sometimes when I approach matters from a peaceful angle It initially seems like I'm weak nd should be more voracious but d end results' always POSITIVE. @OP approach ur in-law and confront him about it first peacefully, then you know d next step to take. She's your sister and also his wife. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by pete26(m): 6:14pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
nnamdiosu:Wise approach I must say. Sometimes when I approach matters from a peaceful angle It initially seems like I'm weak nd should be more voracious but d end results' always POSITIVE. @OP approach ur in-law and confront him about it first peacefully, then you know d next step to take. She's your sister and also his wife. Besides if you u beat him up nd he starts ignoring ur sis cos of ur. Actions will u also beat him again? Confront him first 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by adelekeaka: 6:16pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Happywoman: Mumu, so u sef follow come. Are you related to lie mohammed. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:56pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Am not married o, but by God's grace, soon i will..But with common sense, married women if your husbands come home drunk, pls and pls dont keep him waiting at the gate.. Dont reprimand him at that drunken state Quietly open the door, let him in and watch him as he eventually falls on the sofa or bed.. Leave him there, while u go to your room and sleep. The next morning,when he wakes up and see the state hes in.. He will feel ashamed of himself. Then during the day, when he has refeshened up,u can calmly talk to him about his unbelieveable behaviour lastnight andhow dissapointed u feel and wonders how issues got so bad , he had to get drunk.. And should confide in you, what the problem is? He will rethink his steps , quietly on his own... Rememeber hes not a kid anyone should reprimand.. Treating him like a kid , is a no no.. Op, wait for some days, before going to talk to him and warn him sternly never ever to lay his hnads on yur sister orelse he has you to deal with and that u and your family dont joke with yur sister.. And also advise yur sis on what i mentioned above. Two wrongs never make a right. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Quintee(f): 6:57pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Boeing777pilot: I disagree with this. If it was the wife that abused her hubby, his family members will be the ones to throw her out of their matrimonial home. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Niyinficient(m): 7:02pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
When I was 19, I confronted my 45-year broda inlaw for insulting my family during a verbal quarrel with my sister, I can't even allow him beat her....d feud dat began dat day between the man and I lasted for 9 years.....i wasn't sorry for wat I did tho I didn't do with maturity. I blive in confrontation, cos it will/can prevent future occurrence, jst b diplomatic in ur approach, irrespective of d age diff btw u two and when he is not making sense, you can show him ur oda side My sister ain't worth any beating from any bitch.ass nigg.a! |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by peeparty(m): 7:05pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Bar man give this babe extra bottle abeg. Amelian: 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 7:15pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Fight doesn't pay!!! If there's an evidence(injury), claim that u have pictured it and would use it against him if he repeats it. There maybe no need for confrontation, but advice ur sis to make an entry in d nearest police station incase of the unexpected. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Boeing777pilot: 7:18pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Quintee: I'm not a fan of third party interference. Let the couples sort out their issues themselves |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Irishrena1(f): 7:22pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Just tell your sister to mention it to him when he's sober. He'll most likely deny it but that will not make what she saw a mirage. If he accepts his wrong, fine. But she should go about being her normal self. She has entered she has entered. She has to deal with the emotional trauma let her not add beating to her worries. Let her just avoid anything that will make him beat her. As long as he doesn't involve in paedophilia. For now, she can leave with this one and pray the prayer of a virtuous wife and God who commanded us to marry will answer her prayers |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by PrettySpicey(f): 8:08pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
She got slapped about & beaten by a drunken husband, and you told her to read her bible... Great. You're not the one to do the fight... she is. She will acquire wisdom from the bible... but she won't recognise which Word God has for her now... He is meant to love her "as Christ loved the church"... that's what the bible says, no? And Christ's love isn't in "pumelling & panel-beating us, right? Please, brother,have your sister take a step back from an irresponsible drinking husband. It is marriage, not a life-threatening union. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by noblegrex: 8:11pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer:habaaaa! I trust you.of all people on Nairaland. Giving such a cool advice that seems weak..wow that's it. But I won't kill.he'll only smell death cos my sis might not like it. You know nah! Love.. But for a guy to be Beating up ones' sis meant that he's got no respect for the family. It means that the family is worthless. He's got guts cos there's no fear factor in him.he's saying the family can do nada..to be that disrespectful to the family. that's how I see it when a man beats up his wife and, I mean,one needs to teach such a man how to Love and show respect by force.even if he's married to her,paid her bride price and all that, Her BLOOD is still flowing in me too. The bride price can't change the Blood.he's own with hers' is going to be a cross breed but mine with hers is a pure breed and that's what's up. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by bigiyaro(m): 8:24pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
OP sorry o, ur sister has entered one chance and unfortunately, der is Notin u can do abt it. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Nobody: 8:25pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
noblegrex: I do not understand that part. I disagree with you again. Battering is no respecter of class, tribe, social status, level of education etc etc. |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by Fanirandele: 8:35pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
ominskie: If he kills you one day what is their future? Mother dead, father in jail for killing mother? Or Or gets away with it and marries some woman that will deal with your children. Even if he doesn't kill you by staying you are telling your sons it's okay to beat their wives and your daughters that it's okay to marry and stay with a woman beater. If you keep staying your next generation will probably have women beaters and battered women. Most abusers grew up around abuse 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-in-law Beat My Sister This Morning. What Should I Do? by noblegrex: 8:41pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer:that's what you think. But I don't and can never think so...even when a dog is mad,it'll not jump into fire. Atleas it can recognise that the fire is more dangerous than it madness... |
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