Funny its the people who say marriage is not by force that end up in churches praying for a husband

TrumpDonald:


Cheating on her is okk. Probably she understands and forgives. The main problem is violence. when a man gets physical with a woman...I think that's worse.

Besides na which marriage now wey husband or wife no dey cheat. I think its just a few

Cheating is a form of emotional abuse. Cheating is a form of emotional abuse.

Babzilla:
Funny its the people who say marriage is not by force that end up in churches praying for a husband

Husbands are everywhere same with wives but the attitude of some persons scares them away. No amount of prayers and fastening will solve that

Babzilla:
Funny its the people who say marriage is not by force that end up in churches praying for a husband

If Adaeze husband left her, she would DIE. No job, no income, just instagramming.

asuustrike2009:

Husbands are everywhere same with wives but the attitude of some persons scares them away. No amount of prayers and fastening will solve that

Human beings are everywhere. Not every human being wants to be a wife or a husband.

Mikollon1:

You are bright.

obowunmi:


If Adaeze husband left her, she would DIE. No job, no income, just instagramming.

Nah she won't die cos she's from a very wealthy family.

Who told u it's only men that abuse? U these nowadays young boy and girls also want to lecture people on marriage institution matter when u have not even stated life at all ,wcccccch

sinaj:
She is so on point!


Marriage is not by force.



The funny thing there is, most women will notice violent traits in their fiancé during courtship nd still go ahead with the wedding plans with the mind set of changing him.





Sometimes I blame the abused women


RIP to her
It's a pity

obowunmi:
Adaeze's husband cheats on her, why hasn't she left though?

Practice what you preach lady

It doesn't compare.

Adaeze can't swear that she did not know Yobo was a cheerful donor before marriage.

She might have fought through many women for the crown of Mrs. Yobo.

bukatyne:


It doesn't compare.

Adaeze can't swear that she did not know Yobo was a cheerful donor before marriage.

She might have fought through many women for the crown of Mrs. Yobo.

Even after marriage, he cheats though.

martyns303:
All this feminist, meanwhile she is comfortably sitting in her husband's house.

The ones who preach the most, go through the worst, Joseph Yobo could be hitting her all night!!!

So telling wives to leave abusive husbands = feminism = bad thing?

I sincerely hope you will give your female relatives this same advice.

winniz:


Nah she won't die cos she's from a very wealthy family.

Wealthy ko, wealthy ni.... her and her mother are proper ashawos. Gold digging for John Fashanu's money.

They're story no be for here.

obowunmi:


Even after marriage, he cheats though.

A leopard never change his spots or did she do anti-cheating jazz for him?

How do you know Adaeze doesn't cheat herself?

bukatyne:


A leopard never change his spots or did she do anti-cheating jazz for him?

How do you know Adaeze doesn't cheat herself?

I don't care who cheats on who. Cheating is a form of abuse.

bukatyne:


So telling wives to leave abusive husbands = feminism = bad thing?

I sincerely hope you will give your female relatives this same advice.

Not at all, I explained myself better. Please refer to my follow up post.

EVILFOREST:
What does a man need from a LADY...?
NOT her cash.. ..
All we need as MEN is simple " LOYALTY or better still RESPECT".

Most WOMEN lost our love for them, the very day they started seeing their own mothers as slaves to their own father, thinking that what their mothers did then was EVIL.
That's why most "empowered and exposed" Ladies are losing out. Thinking they now know it ALL.
Now with the ADVENT of so many SOAP OPERAS and NOVELS , ladies now see every man as cheat, unromantic and not well cultured. They see AFRICA tradition as EVIL.

They now enter into Marriages with the HOPE that the hubby is already a CHEAT.
MEANWHILE, these same ladies dress indecently even in churches now.
IF u say ALL MEN are CHEAT, i will tell u that, u are d BIGGEST CHEAT because u have TASTED ALL MEN to that they are all cheats.

FOR every man that wants to CHEAT, there is always a WOMAN ready for that.
Ladies should learn to respect men, that was the "ab initio" plan of GOD
Respect and cherish ur man and see if he will not take u to HEAVEN.

So disrespecting a man deserves death?

What happens to him walking out if he can no longer bear the disrespect?

You should fear God and put yourself in the shoes of these women.

I 100% sure you have 'disrespected' some people before...

Did you think you deserved death?

If NL is anything to go by, men are the promoters of all men cheat.

obowunmi:


I don't care who cheats on who. Cheating is a form of abuse.

You missed my point.

I am against cheating in marriage however, Adaeze cannot claim to be 'abused' because she knew Joseph was a cheat and married him like that.

Do you think people will ever take her seriously if she wants to divorce Joseph because he cheats?

Her case is like Caroline's...

There is no abuse because they willingly married public donors.

If a wife tells me her husband was faithful before marriage (with proof) and he became a dorogiver after marriage,, we can talk abuse.

TrumpDonald:


Yes really!! Don't derail from the reason behind Adaeze's post. A woman allegedly died due to domestic violence. The STDs etc u mentioned above, to me, is a different issue. What she's talking abt is physical violence and not emotional abuse.

emotional abuse is just as deadly to a womans well being as physical abuse. Emotional abuse leads to low self esteem, anxiety, mental trauma and depression. Also psychological or mental wounds take longer to heal.

sinaj:
She is so on point!


Marriage is not by force.

The funny thing there is, most women will notice violent traits in their fiancé during courtship nd still go ahead with the wedding plans with the mind set of changing him.

Sometimes I blame the abused women


RIP to her
It's a pity

You clowns should ShutUp and stop equating "MARRIAGE" with "VIOLENCE"!

There are hundreds of Millions of Men and Women who would swear that "Marriage" was the best thing to happen to them!
I am one of them!

Husband kill Wife ... and Wife has been killing husbands from the days of Adam! (If not for Even, Adam would probably still be in the "Grace of God" till today! ).


Remember Tiwa Savage use to swear by tiblitz or what is his name, when the going was good..... now she is singing a different song!
What about the owner of KAVEX Computers in Otigba (Computer Village, Ikeja) whose wife employed her lover to kill her husband, a few years back?

The fact that some marriage go bad, does not mean marriage is bad.
Its not about Women nor is it about Men ...in General.

In essence, dont seize on "an opportunity" like this, to push an agenda!

As for Yobo-wife, she is clueless!
its good enough to be the wife of a rich footballer ..... but go and ask Ashley Cole about Cheryl Cole (she is on her third husband now ) what gwan with marriage.




Lastpage!

cap28:



emotional abuse is just as deadly to a womans well being as physical abuse. Emotional abuse leads to low self esteem, anxiety, mental trauma and depression. Also psychological or mental wounds take longer to heal.

U just hit d nail on d head of d matter

cap28:



emotional abuse is just as deadly to a womans TO ANY GENDER'S well being as physical abuse. Emotional abuse leads to low self esteem, anxiety, mental trauma and depression. Also psychological or mental wounds take longer to heal.

True Dat!
Even worse on Men!

You know men are "trained" from toddler stage, to withstand PAIN and never cry out!
We are told that is what makes you a man/male.

So, a lot of men are undergoing excruciating, life-threatening torture in the hands of their wives (one of the reason most men die before their spouse!) ..... IN SILENCE!

Just go to a Nigerian Police Station and report that "your Wife beat-You-Up"! Even show then the "wound and blood"!
The Policemen will probably think you are insane or tell you to Gerrout as they have better things to waste their time upon!

But with a Women, even if you did not touch her, she can just shed crocodile tears and "men will rush to her defence"!
Such is the inequality among the gender!

Violence, is perpetrated by both GENDER, ....... but from whichever of the GENDER, IS WRONG and should be avoided





Lastpage!

YorceelinaBlaq:
Women need to learn to walk out of abusive relationships. Forget about wah pple will say abeg. This life is just one. Marriage is not by force. Marriage isn't wah being a woman is about. Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness.a man who respects u isn't supposed to hit u. If he does, plz "ex" his ass. If ur bf is an "Hulk Hogan", leave him before he kills u. A word is enough for d wise.

what if you're in your 30's and you've expired and the man is rich ass phuck,you'll walk out too?

bukatyne:


You missed my point.

I am against cheating in marriage however, Adaeze cannot claim to be 'abused' because she knew Joseph was a cheat and married him like that.

Do you think people will ever take her seriously if she wants to divorce Joseph because he cheats?

Her case is like Caroline's...

There is no abuse because they willingly married public donors.

If a wife tells me her husband was faithful before marriage (with proof) and he became a dorogiver after marriage,, we can talk abuse.

Well said...

lastpage:


True Dat!
Even worse on Men!

You know men are "trained" from toddler stage, to withstand PAIN and never cry out!
We are told that is what makes you a man/male.

So, a lot of men are undergoing excruciating, life-threatening torture in the hands of their wives (one of the reason most men die before their spouse!) ..... IN SILENCE!

Just go to a Nigerian Police Station and report that "your Wife beat-You-Up"! Even show then the "wound and blood"!
The Policemen will probably think you are insane or tell you to Gerrout as they have better things to waste their time upon!

But with a Women, even if you did not touch her, she can just shed crocodile tears and "men will rush to her defence"!
Such is the inequality among the gender!

Violence, is perpetrated by both GENDER, ....... but from whichever of the GENDER, IS WRONG and should be avoided





Lastpage!

Ow did u handle ur marriage

A good marriage is a gift from God

iswallker:
If my wife dey beat me nko...make I run....?

Make you run commot for the marriage.
Its truly not by force o.
You seem to have forgotten you have parents, children, and other family members that have suffered over you since you were born, who still NEED you alive.

If anyone's spouse should die, the partner can always move on with life. It may be painful, but he/she can and will move on and his/ her tears can be wiped away by someone else.
However, can the parents of such a person ever get over it? A child that should bury you suddenly cut short by violence- a horrible way to die. Can those tears ever be wiped away?

I think families should support people going through domestic violence instead of them encouraging their children to just bear it because of the stigma of divorce.

bukatyne:


You missed my point.

I am against cheating in marriage however, Adaeze cannot claim to be 'abused' because she knew Joseph was a cheat and married him like that.

Do you think people will ever take her seriously if she wants to divorce Joseph because he cheats?

Her case is like Caroline's...

There is no abuse because they willingly married public donors.

If a wife tells me her husband was faithful before marriage (with proof) and he became a dorogiver after marriage,, we can talk abuse.

Abi o,just like mumu Juliet Ibrahim that went ahead to divorce her husband because he cheats. Now she's tired of men because she's equalising herself with men and wants a saint as a man. Na God save am say she no marry one of my yoloba brothers. She for put down her high shoulders. Ghanians mumu too much,thats why she can do that to a Ghanian husband

EVILFOREST:
What does a man need from a LADY...?
NOT her cash.. ..
All we need as MEN is simple " LOYALTY or better still RESPECT".

Most WOMEN lost our love for them, the very day they started seeing their own mothers as slaves to their own father, thinking that what their mothers did then was EVIL.
That's why most "empowered and exposed" Ladies are losing out. Thinking they now know it ALL.
Now with the ADVENT of so many SOAP OPERAS and NOVELS , ladies now see every man as cheat, unromantic and not well cultured. They see AFRICA tradition as EVIL.

They now enter into Marriages with the HOPE that the hubby is already a CHEAT.
MEANWHILE, these same ladies dress indecently even in churches now.
IF u say ALL MEN are CHEAT, i will tell u that, u are d BIGGEST CHEAT because u have TASTED ALL MEN to that they are all cheats.

FOR every man that wants to CHEAT, there is always a WOMAN ready for that.
Ladies should learn to respect men, that was the "ab initio" plan of GOD
Respect and cherish ur man and see if he will not take u to HEAVEN.

To make this marriage issue worse, the today girl just go into mariage with the mindset of fast food joints. Ask the today woman to cook, they will tell you to face that what happened to fast food nearby? No single respect any more especially this equality campaqian abi bill going on. They now feel that their husband is equal to them. Ask them the difference between salt and native salt, they will say all na salt. All they care for is provided they move around unclad. Very rubbish women of these days

cap28:



emotional abuse is just as deadly to a womans well being as physical abuse. Emotional abuse leads to low self esteem, anxiety, mental trauma and depression. Also psychological or mental wounds take longer to heal.

That's why in medicine, there are emergency cases and cold cases.
In as much as mental abuse is equally dangerous, it cannot ever take precedence over physical abuse. Physical abuse does lead to death! No remedy, no doctor anywhere in the world can change that, it does lead to disabilities some life long in which rehabilitation is extremely expensive and unaffordable for most and oftentimes impossible to be complete.

It takes time and effort to get over emotional abuse, but getting out of the toxic environment is the first step (as with physical abuse) and then going for some psychotherapy goes along way, being with the right people etc.

I don't think both should be compared though, as both are dangerous to anyone's well being.
Why should anyone have the power to decide whether another lives or not? Like seriously. I can never support violence against anyone man or woman no matter what the person may have done to aggravate you provided its not self defence.

cap28:



emotional abuse is just as deadly to a womans well being as physical abuse. Emotional abuse leads to low self esteem, anxiety, mental trauma and depression. Also psychological or mental wounds take longer to heal.

Do u think with ur skull? What is ur problem? Are u alryt? The woman is concerned abt domestic violence. If u have a problem wit emotional abuse, u can write an article on it.

obowunmi:


Cheating is a form of emotional abuse. Cheating is a form of emotional abuse.

But not domestic violence

RIP, so sad, signs of abuse do surface in courtship is just that lovers are so blinded with that initial sweet phase "of being in love" that they shove it aside!!! God deliver wives from wicked men

TrumpDonald:


But not domestic violence

You're sick. Look up the definition of domestic violence.