My girlfriend is always having this argument with me; asking me why I still keep connected to my exes, why are they on my Facebook, Twitter and Instagram handles. I told her that I do not think there is nothing wrong with being connected with former girlfriends and acquaintances.

She is one babe that is very particular about who I connect with both online and offline; Especially ladies. I laugh it off anyway. She never know anything, in this line of work/business, you need to be patient with your man when it balls down to ladies and women, anyway this is gist for another day. LOL

Social media is changing our attitude to life. The way we connect with people, how we build our romance, Social media has really impacted on our relationships, either positively or negatively. One noticeable thing about social media is that it has facilitated the inter-connection of our past relationships with the current one.

Are you confused as to what I mean? Hold on!

Social media has given the opportunity for us to connect with our Exes either we like it or not. Imagine when you have your Exes on all your social media handles, in terms of being friends with your EX even when you are in a new relationship, is this a good idea? Even if we say it isn’t, social media in one way or the other connects us all being like a global village. Now tell me, is this actually bad too?

For me, staying connected to my Ex isn’t a bad idea, provided the intention is a good one. I am sure a lot of us now understand and can actually relate to this topic.

A lot of things should be considered if you want to be connected to your former alliances. It will be very important to determine if he/she is over you or not. You want to know why? Connection on social media enable your Ex to know virtually everything about you. On a good day,you may not want him or her to know everything about you, however social media does that to you and your relationship which may lead your boyfriend or girlfriend being uncomfortable about this situation.

You also need to consider what actually happened that led to the breakup. Did it end so bad? Or it was a mutual agreement between both of you. These will determine whether he/she should remain in your life or not. I mean, why ghost your former babe or man when you actually decided to leave your relationship mutually.

A lot of our partners are not comfortable with this, ask your boyfriend or girlfriend, I’m sure the fact that they haven’t spoken about it doesn’t mean they are cool with it. It is pertinent that you discuss this with your partner.

If you are not comfortable with your boyfriend or girlfriend having his/ her ex on her social media handles, then you need to discuss with him/her to understand the reasons behind the decision.You need to understand ‘why’? You can begin to confirm certain things like ‘why the break up in the first place’, this will reveal the particular motive behind the acceptability of that decision. You need to also determine whether he/ she is completely over that ex?

You know the funny thing as men is that we don’t really care whether our ex remains on our handles or not, 'masculinity things'. However most ladies are quite skeptical when it comes to their partners having their Exes on the social media handles. They begin to feel so very insecure and concerned. Therefore it is important to discuss this and put behind all situations that could lead to distrust.

I do not see any reason why I shouldn’t keep my partner on my handles anyway. But as you know, relationship is not just your thing. You need to consider your partner as well. She needs to be secure in the hope that you are doing the right thing and ensuring that she continues to trust you and respect your decisions.

Discuss, discuss, dialogue and discuss. It is very key!

Having said that, I am sure there are some of us with such situations in our current relationship. Do you have your EX on your list on Facebook, Twitter, IG or other handles? Was your partner concerned? How did you deal with it?

Drop your experience below, let’s discuss together.

Yours in Love….Deedee

Shey ur babe don warn u, u no gree hear.


Na wen u see am dey fvck her ex, ur head go burst.

donbenedict:
Shey ur babe don warn u, u no gree hear.


Na wen u see am dey fvck her ex, ur head go burst.

CuteHector, Na you be this?

Funny Guy. I know you have your experience. Share with us nah?

deturla:



CuteHector, Na you be this?

Funny Guy. I know you have your experience. Share with us nah?

lol I am not friends with any of my exes.. my standard is dis, once a girl is my ex, she remains in my past forever and ever... even if I bump into her on d road, i'd act as if i'v never met her before. Dats how I roll with d ex..

I'm not gonna lie, I do not like exes in the picture. I don't get why some people just can't cut people off & move on. So a partner that's still friends with exes would grate on me big time. I'd want them completely wiped-out or the relationship won't feel right for me. I think I'd even end a relationship over that because it is a big deal to me. Past & present just don't go together in my book.

PunkyV:
I'm not gonna lie, I do not like exes in the picture. I don't get why some people just can't cut people off & move on. So a partner that's still friends with exes would grate on me big time. I'd want them completely wiped-out or the relationship won't feel right for me. I think I'd even end a relationship over that because it is a big deal to me. Past & present just don't go together in my book.

Straight arrow

halfricanadian:


Straight arrow

LOL, we almost always seem to agree on these things. We really are alike.

PunkyV:


LOL, we almost always seem to agree on these things. We really are alike.

Yup i told ya u didnt bliv me

How are u

halfricanadian:


Yup i told ya u didnt bliv me

How are u

I'm great, hun. And you?

PunkyV:


I'm great, hun. And you?

Good im ok missed u were av u been

Did u vote for ur fav miss nl i did bt got banned cos i was doin my regular dj stuff

Dose peeps at fashion section gat no chill

PunkyV:
I'm not gonna lie, I do not like exes in the picture. I don't get why some people just can't cut people off & move on. So a partner that's still friends with exes would grate on me big time. I'd want them completely wiped-out or the relationship won't feel right for me. I think I'd even end a relationship over that because it is a big deal to me. Past & present just don't go together in my book.

Na wa oh...Hmmmn...

Exes are humans, ain't they? There might be reasons why he is your ex. Badt ass terrible relationship or mutual agreement.

If the latter is the case. Do you delete them off your social media handles completely too?

deturla:


Na wa oh...Hmmmn...

Exes are humans, ain't they? There might be reasons why he is your ex. Badt ass terrible relationship or mutual agreement.

If the latter is the case. Do you delete them off your social media handles completely too?

Yes, they're humans, humans you have history with, so it's totally unacceptable.

We're obviously on different ends of the spectrum here. So please tell me, why are you still friends with yours? Because for me, once the relationship part is over, I see no other reason to be keeping them around. I didn't know them before we started a relationship & I don't wanna know them after the relationship is done. It's that simple. Partly because I don't like reminders & also because I'm a minimalist. Having an ex in your life is comparable to carrying old dusty baggage along with you wherever you go. At least that's how it feels to me. So by dropping them, the load lessens on all levels.

I'm not friends with exes, not even one. The reasons of the break-up don't even matter, I just want them out!

halfricanadian:


Good im ok missed u were av u been

Did u vote for ur fav miss nl i did bt got banned cos i was doin my regular dj stuff

Dose peeps at fashion section gat no chill

LMAO. Whay dj stuff?

Who did you vote for? Yeah, I voted. I've been around, maybe you just didn't recognize me. This moniker was under a ban.

PunkyV:


LMAO. Whay dj stuff?

Who did you vote for? Yeah, I voted. I've been around, maybe you just didn't recognize me. This moniker was under a ban.

Oh i kno only dis moniker with u my bad
I'm nl permanent in house dj na

But peeps over dere no dey waste time dem ban me ni

i voted for all cant come nd kill mysef

halfricanadian:


Oh i kno only dis moniker with u my bad
I'm nl permanent in house dj na

But peeps over dere no dey waste time dem ban me ni

i voted for all cant come nd kill mysef

Hahaha. Go you! When was the last time you spoke to pureways?

PunkyV:


Yes, they're humans, humans you have history with, so it's totally unacceptable.

We're obviously on different ends of the spectrum here. So please tell me, why are you still friends with yours? Because for me, once the relationship part is over, I see no other reason to be keeping them around. I didn't know them before we started a relationship & I don't wanna know them after the relationship is done. It's that simple. Partly because I don't like reminders & also because I'm a minimalist. Having an ex in your life is comparable to carrying old dusty baggage along with you wherever you go. At least that's how it feels to me. So by dropping them, the load lessens on all levels.

I'm not friends with exes, not even one. The reasons of the break-up don't even matter, I just want them out!

Hmmmn...Now i get!

I can imagine putting your all in a relationship and then before you know it 'It is done!'

The reasons of the break-up don't even matter, I just want them out - This part is the most interesting.

I like you already!

PunkyV:


Hahaha. Go you! When was the last time you spoke to pureways?

Its been long o

halfricanadian:


Its been long o

Yeah, seem to have gone poof.

PunkyV:


Yeah, seem to have gone poof.

Wat happened to him?

halfricanadian:


Wat happened to him?

I don't know. Maybe he's busy.

PunkyV:


I don't know. Maybe he's busy.

Oh cool

Yaaaaaay

halfricanadian:


Oh cool

Yaaaaaay

I say "maybe" because I also haven't spoken to him in a while.

For the fact tat u guys av broken up does not mak u enemies. .. forgive . Become friends. . Check on each oda once a while. . Ders nofin in this life worth holding on to. . Tins Happen.. no one knows tomoro. .. how will u feel waking up to find out tat ur ex is no more but u had opportunities to Atleast mak peace. .. plsss Let's let go of pride n ego... e no de epp.

PunkyV:


I say "maybe" because I also haven't spoken to him in a while.

ok

How is Sa?

mrPero:
For the fact tat u guys av broken up does not mak u enemies. .. forgive . Become friends. . Check on each oda once a while. . Ders nofin in this life worth holding on to. . Tins Happen.. no one knows tomoro. .. how will u feel waking up to find out tat ur ex is no more but u had opportunities to Atleast mak peace. .. plsss Let's let go of pride n ego... e no de epp.

LOL @Pride.

halfricanadian:


ok

How is Sa?

It's freakin freezing this evening. How did your paper go the other day? Did you pass?

PunkyV:


It's freakin freezing this evening. How did your paper go the other day? Did you pass?

results been coming out i hope well quite good tho grades been causing high blood pressure for a long time

halfricanadian:


results been coming out i hope well quite good tho grades been causing high blood pressure for a long time

Awwww Better luck next time if you don't make it this time, hey.

You know what I like about you so much? I like the fact that you're unpretentious & keep it 100 all the time. You truly do remind me of myself because you're shameless It's rare to meet people like you nowadays. Keep keeping it raw & unvanished, gurrrrrl

PunkyV:


Awwww Better luck next time if you don't make it this time, hey.

You know what I like about you so much? I like the fact that you're unpretentious & keep it 100 all the time. You truly do remind me of myself because you're shameless It's rare to meet people like you nowadays. Keep keeping it raw & unvanished, gurrrrrl

this is d most beautiful piece ever written specifically just for me tank u

halfricanadian:


this is d most beautiful piece ever written specifically just for me tank u

Straight from the old tinker (heart)

Wassup tonight? Do you party?

PunkyV:


Straight from the old tinker (heart)

Wassup tonight? Do you party?

Nope i dont party tonight is like every oda night na

halfricanadian:


Nope i dont party tonight is like every oda night na

LOL, one more thing we have in common. Some people would say that's boring if you don't go out & get wasted on weekends.

How do you feel about guys who do party?