TheArchangel:
Why is your Dad involving you as if your Mom is into polyandrous union with both of you?



Let your Dad and Mum handle their issue and leave you out of it. You are to you for this burden abeg.

you are very wise. I can't say the same for the boys dad

Guy if u not in school then go and learn a craft.

If you're still in school then stil try to learn a craft.

If I was your dad what will be going through my mind is whether the 3 of you are even my children.

Sorry but I can only give u financial advise. Those who sabi marriage matter go drop their own.

Approach ur mum in a way it would make her very scared of you more than she is of ur dad, in that way she won't do any f*#$?@g to annoy you!

Follow the advice given by ejemehn, presVa & richy4.

Do it now. Because if anything happen you will only blame yourself in the future that you failed to act.

A 20years old is an adult bro.

It's called midlife crisis. Talk to your father, let him compliment her more. Take her out often. Shop for her. Make her feel wanted and loved again. He should create time for dates with her. They should go out more to the movies and malls. I'm sure she's way younger than your father and some evil men out there are beginning to tell her sweet nonsense that your father is obviously not telling her. He should make her feel beautiful again.

We all apologise when we get caught, so yes she would do it again. Sex is a strong force and the thing would hardly leave her
however I believe you can do a lot to help your parents marriage by insisting on them seeing a marriage counsellor and going for deliverance..

Your mum might still be sexually active while your dad might not, its hard to balance such. However a marriage counsellor would help to shed light on the matter.

Jackpal:
This is a fact based on what is happening in my family presently.





Around last week Fridays afternoon i saw my mom hiding her phone from me at first, i didn't even bother but when I discovered she was sending messages to a unknown number i started putting notice to it. This happened till late in the night like around 2 am, i was awake and I went to the sitting room only to see her washing clothes in the laundry and simultaneously chatting with someone and this is very unusual of her but my father didn't notice notice anyways.

On Saturday Last week the following morning i heard her making calls that she will be there by afternoon i felt like confronting her but i felt that she might just be going to her place of work. Afternoon came and she said she was going to another town for a naming ceremony we didn't mind. I left the house and i came back around 9pm and discovered that she wasn't back yet so i called her and she told me she won't be coming back that night then i knew she was up to something. I listened to the background very much and I noticed it isn't a party stuff or anything.

On Sunday she came back and I was mad but i just kept mute as i thought that I was not in a position to confront her.

Fast forward to today's early morning around 4 am. I heard my dad's angry voice he was very angry with my mum at first I thought she broke something in the room but i later heard my mum pleading that he didn't have sex with the man. After much contemplating, i went out of my room to the sitting room where they were and i saw my mom holding her phone i sensed that, her act has been exposed. My father left us there and went to his room. I confronted my mom and told her that i knew she didn't go for a naming ceremony the previous week and she was kind of surprised and she asked me how i got to know but I didn't reply her.
My dad came out of his room and asked her to come inside. Like after about two hours, my mom came to call me and I went to their room and dad sat me down and told me that he saw a text message on my mom phone the sender said they were to meet the day before but she my mom didn't meet him. My mom said the man is just a boss at his office and nothing more. So dad told me that I am his witness that if such happens again that he is going to divorce my mom. Well, my mom insisted that she didn't have sex with the man

I have 3 siblings and but they are still small am the first born am about clocking 20 years of age.

What should I do please?

Concord story

Dolazee:

Na wetin? Why u wan take eye carry Nairaland? U be winch?

austinosita:


Na wetin? Why u wan take eye carry Nairaland? U be winch?

yes

Try and talk to her in private with respect,show her that u Love her but let her know that you'll never forgive her if such thing happens again.wishing you the best!

Why are you still suspecting when you have already claimed that she is cheating

yankison:
ASHAWO

Grow up! That's someone's mother you're calling such despicable name. Sometimes it is better not to comment if you have nothing good to say. How do you think the poor guy would feel, reading such from you? The way you comment on issues goes a long way to show how incapable you are of handling complex problems.

Dolazee:
yes

Ahhhhh! Mo'gbe! Abeg nor vex.......na joke I dey o!

OP what do you mean by what will you do? Your father has handled the situation as a man, without bringing in a third party, but you are here, on cyberspace exposing your family's dirty secret. Please allow your father handle it.

zeusdgrt:

Seriously you talking out of the topic.Advice the kid or do not comment if u gat no advice to give

And this your post is all about the topic abi? Why did you post this when your comment is not advice for the kid?
You sef, do not post if it is not advice for the kid.

Ahmed0336:
No comment bro, other nairalanders with nice ideas might come online. If i should say what i ve in mind( decrypting her whatsapp) dats if na whatsapp you guys might not like d outcome.

how can one decrypt whatsapp

Since your dad is already aware of the possible cheating issue, what else do you want to do? You're not the one who married her. The most you could have done was to inform him but he already knows so let him handle his wife.

austinosita:


Ahhhhh! Mo'gbe! Abeg nor vex.......na joke I dey o!

Otidaran leni

My dear I strongly believe that something is wrong somewere, is either the devil is fighting with ur family or is trying to manipulate her to fall.pls pray for her, during the pray, let her be present.

Dolazee:
Otidaran leni

Iya'agba ema binu! Omode lo nshe mi

austinosita:


Iya'agba ema binu! Omode lo nshe mi

washe etutu agba

I feel ur pain and pls it's better u try and let her know the bad effect it will cause her and know that if she is deep into it,she will even insult u but pls don't fret...a friend faced the same thing and my family too faced the dame thing and my mum usually denies sex or contact with them... To cut the long story short, my mother is now H.I.V positive and my dad is negative...so try and save ur family pls..

1. Wrong title.
2. There is nothing you can do again. Your dad, who is head of the family, have handled the matter the way he wants.

am reading this with tears in the eyes.. My mum is also cheating (highly cheating) but as a less concern man my dad is he doesn't even know

Dolazee:
washe etutu agba

Mo ti gba! Maa shey

fpeter:
It's called midlife crisis. Talk to your father, let him compliment her more. Take her out often. Shop for her. Make her feel wanted and loved again. He should create time for dates with her. They should go out more to the movies and malls. I'm sure she's way younger than your father and some evil men out there are beginning to tell her sweet nonsense that your father is obviously not telling her. He should make her feel beautiful again.

why can't he just divorce her and save himself all these stress

Marvel1206:
First of all, pray for her.. Show her love

be conscious of her movements...

If you have enough facts.. Then you may confront her with sense

And if he doesn't do the above and they end up divorced? It's OP's fault, right?

Bia, OP, seems she's enjoying the mid-life crisis. Let her be! When yo Dad done booting her freaking ass off, she'll realize the man she's been prancing about got no time for her.
Ana agwa onye nti ike na oso esule

Just pray for unity and love in your family I sense is wearing out, pray more for your mum so that she wouldn't fall astray and lose her marriage

Hmmm...Agony of the first child. Truth is forget your age at this moment.You have a strong role to play.Your dad called you in cuz he believes what he can't handle you will handle it or perhaps that you are mostly around your mum.

Pls pray,its needed then sit your mum down and beg her to tell you the truth. The truth might blow your mind away but please be strong.After that talk to your mum.Make her promise you she ain't gonna do any silly thing any more.Most importantly,try as much as possible not to let your younger ones know.God help you o...

little advice tho...No matter what happens,try not to judge or take sides.

austinosita:


Mo ti gba! Maa shey

Eboe tii GBA

Your mom just got smashed and she is lying to ur dad. Lmfao hahaha she just. Got dicked down

Haaa she is tired of ur dad d...k lol wish I was d one hammering her damm women n lies

Dolazee:
Eboe tii GBA

Eshey ma