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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by bayulll011(m): 7:21am On Jul 13, 2016
Your only crime is you decide not follow her speed while she was moving,she's ready for marriage and you are not ready,she has Hnd u had Ond and she will never wait for u to get ur Hnd.sorry such is life
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Codeman01(m): 7:22am On Jul 13, 2016
Well from my personal previous experience, the best thing you need is to do whatever that can makes you happy leaving her out of the context, then try as much as possible to move on without her though it may be a bit difficult, pursue your your degree or HND and hustle hard to be recognized without introduction, because the best way to take revenge is to be successful in your endeavors, may God almighty ease your affairs....

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by ijeshaboy: 7:23am On Jul 13, 2016
kenex4ever:
As I read through your many errors (especially in tenses), I just knew you are a Yoruba boy.
*back to d mata* Just move on bro, I just broke up with my bae too.
u are a dumb ass try to read his conclusion, your common sense is not common. Werey alaso

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Franky9584(m): 7:23am On Jul 13, 2016
bro, I feel for u but one thing is sure, that her plan of ending that 5yrs relationship has long been made. maybe there is something she z not telling u...guys plz fear ladies, they are "CAMELIONIC" in nature. they can jux change at any time especially wen u don't have d CASH

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Bwaal(m): 7:24am On Jul 13, 2016
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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Bwaal(m): 7:25am On Jul 13, 2016
ElFenomeno1:


What bloody difference will the daft question above make? Frigging douchebag

I will pretend I didn't see this poooo




Pls grow up and recieve sense
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Maximus85(m): 7:26am On Jul 13, 2016
Sorry bro. Take heart. You really sacrificed alot for her. But of what use is it forcing yourself where you aren't wanted? Turn the pain to motivation to succeed. I'm still healing from a heartbreak. I will create a thread soon to ask nairalanders if it's human to break up over the phone. To me, it's absolute wickedness and ladies are so used to doing this. Why?

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:27am On Jul 13, 2016
ucheHapers:
Nice guys eat no meat..u were suppose to build urself up first...life is never fair...until u get married, take care of urself first before anybody. In essence be selfish...love urself first...and always know dat people would always disappoint u

Bros....na u get sense pass. The point is BE SELFISH!!! Thats bn my watchword since i started this dating game....thanks to proper schooling from my mentors. If you like label me stingy....i'll wear it with pride. ..Yes...i wont let love enta my brain...in short before i give you 1 naira, i don give my siblings #10000...i don give my friends #1000...if you like cry heaven and earth, it wont move me. After we don marry...I fit die for you....but b4 then, my sister you are on your own.

#noonecanbreakmyheart.


Op. Learn your lesson. Those telling you she will come back or she go meet her water-loo for front cos you don invest a lot dey deceive you nio.....Life no be nollywood ooo where you cant get away with evil....moreover what she did isnt evil...na you dull yourself dey do the boy is good. Be a bad boy...as from today, if you wanna survive in this game...

Hurt them before they have the chance to hurt you...smoke them before they have the chance to smoke you...shatter their heart before they have the chance to shatter your heart

#nolove

A word is enough for the wise

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by iamhorlufemi: 7:30am On Jul 13, 2016
She wants to marry ni. Propose or waka
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:31am On Jul 13, 2016
favoured234:


Breakups and makeups in a relationship is a warning sign

Yea true. But do u also know that at times, some people break up and move on to a new relationship after which they regret the new relationship eventually. Patience and endurance are two essential things in a relationship. At times, if one decides to quit a relationship uve built for years without tryin to work it out and u move on to a new one and start afresh, the person might later realize d previous one was far beta dan d new one. There's a sayin dat d devil u know is better than d Angel u don't know. All I'm sayin is he should try see her so they sit and discuss and if she insists, then he can just move on. buh since he loves her, he shld jst do that so his mind would be clear.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by faymoss(m): 7:32am On Jul 13, 2016
Let her go. Nowadays, young ladies are temporary slippery lovers.

good guys finish last. You need to have substitutes when dealing with women.

A very good advice indeed.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by friendl: 7:33am On Jul 13, 2016
Seems you don't know what they call women
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by ChiSun27(m): 7:33am On Jul 13, 2016
yommysure:
hmmm,she finished with upper credit while you finished with lower credit .. she has finished with her hnd while you just want to enroll for hnd.....nice one...


That is the key point....girls gatz no chill at all!!!!! Most of them ain't worth any sacrifice at all!!!!!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:35am On Jul 13, 2016
Person tell you say "it's over" bro, package your life and move ahead...
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:36am On Jul 13, 2016
iamhorlufemi:
She wants to marry ni. Propose or waka

She no fit discuss am with the guy ??

What is bad is bad

Overall na d guy i blame sha.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Obere4u: 7:37am On Jul 13, 2016
Freiden:


Bros....na u get sense pass. The point is BE SELFISH!!! Thats bn my watchword since i started this dating game....thanks to proper schooling from my mentors. If you like label me stingy....i'll wear it with pride. ..Yes...i wont let love enta my brain...in short before i give you 1 naira, i don give my siblings #10000...i don give my friends #1000...if you like cry heaven and earth, it wont move me. After we don marry...I fit die for you....but b4 then, my sister you are on your own.

#noonecanbreakmyheart.


Op. Learn your lesson. Those telling you she will come back or she go meet her water-loo for front cos you don invest a lot dey deceive yoy nio.....Life no be nollywood ooo where you cant get away with evil....moreover what she did isnt evil...na you dull yourself dey do the boy is good. Be a bad boy...as front today, if you wanna survive in this game...

Hurt them before they have the chance to hurt you...smoke them before they have the chance to smoke you...shatter their heart before they have the chance to shatter your heart

#nolove

A word is enough for the wise

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by holyeye1989(m): 7:38am On Jul 13, 2016
5yrs? Guy na only u waka come? Gals get new admirers everyday so she even try sef.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by DeRay98(m): 7:39am On Jul 13, 2016
This is the real problem with many girls, they are not in for love but for the substance. That's why they say "nice guys dey carry last". They chase shadows and when they burnt eventually, they will "all men are the same"
She has used you as the bridge to cross the "river of her education", now she has found the bridge to the next level she wants to attain. she will suppress everything positive about you till her next move turns sour and if it happens with the next 2 yrs while you are still single and succeeding even if you are in a relationship, she will come to gate-crash and beg for forgiveness to have you back.
Now, you must be determined to use this set back as your set up to achieve success, otherwise, if you don't become very successful and she does, when you meet again in the future (whenever and wherever that may be) she will feel justified for leaving you.
All the best my guy. You have not failed but you just learned a lesson nobody would have been able to teach you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Remzoid: 7:41am On Jul 13, 2016
Sorry about that bro,But do u know that every disappointment is a blessing?Just thank God for anything and everything that comes your way only him know the end from the beginning,a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage,d best is still out there for u.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by phirmmzy: 7:43am On Jul 13, 2016
i hope you get over this and am sure you will. i will have to say its not easy for you to love, hear from, chat, joke, share intimate moments with someone for five years and you just have to stop abruptly. think of yourself as a 'junkie' that needs to withdraw or stop a narcotic from your system. you need to get it out. she's the narcotic, you need to get her out of your system, believe me,its not easy, but with determination and God's grace you can. dont see her as a bad person, she's not, because if you do you will make letting go hard, you will hate her and believe me you need all the POSITIVE energy you can get. concentrate on yourself. be a better person. now is right the time for you to develop new set of skills as you study, the labor market is not funny. hit up old friends, spend time with people who love you and will make you see how special you are. its her decision to LEAVE it should be your decision to LIVE you need to stop trying to call her or beg her. you will only succeed in making yourself look like a spineless Arrow. I wish all the best
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:45am On Jul 13, 2016
jideniceguy:


Yea true. But do u also know that at times, some people break up and move on to a new relationship after which they regret the new relationship eventually. Patience and endurance are two essential things in a relationship. At times, if one decides to quit a relationship uve built for years without tryin to work it out and u move on to a new one and start afresh, the person might later realize d previous one was far beta dan d new one. There's a sayin dat d devil u know is better than d Angel u don't know. All I'm sayin is he should try see her so they sit and discuss and if she insists, then he can just move on. buh since he loves her, he shld jst do that so his mind would be clear.

I am talking about your own that you guys breakup and make up, its okay to have issues but its not okay to breakup when issues come.

Putting myself in the OP shoes, I will see her and ask why she wants out but I will NEVER try to convince her to come back even if it feels like my heart is going to fall out of my chest. Pain/Heartbreak is usually temporary and it lasts as long as we allow it to.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by dekunleJ: 7:46am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders


BROKENHEART2016.
Have Read All your Details in that Story.

1. Please Move and With Your life by Spending More time with Your family and male friends.

2. Going Forward Never in Your Life Monetize Or Spend Money To earn Affection In the Early Stage, Middle Stage or in A Relationship.

3. Forget All what You have Done For See it has a mistake and Correct yourself in the Future , has once bitten 2wice Why.

4. Show Your True self And State what your Finacial strength are to anyone you intend Dating as this very important a girl that truly loves you will stay with you & If she dosent there millions of Girls Far far better than Your - Ex.

5. Lastly Your Priority is Important As much as I like to Say please know that Your Career and Education is Important Than any Rubbish girl also investing in career and making money please.

thanks
peace out
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 7:49am On Jul 13, 2016
Sorry@Op, dat how naija babes are. But make I ask u 1 question, hope u Bleep her pússy well during the courtship? If No, u deserve koboko (cane).
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by otitokoroleti: 7:55am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:

Thanks for the advise bro, I really suffer in this relationship
sorry bro, I understand you more than you think but life must go on. You can subscribe to e d d i e c o r b a n o newsletter on how to overcome heartbreak & 4get about ur ex. its nt easy bt I had similar experience twice though nt up to 5yrs nd I survived it.
Bottomline, its nt gud to be a nice guy to ladies these days nd pls dont invest on any lady again coz they aint loyal. 98% of 9ja galz r nt reliable including those innocent lukin religious galz

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by richard870(m): 7:58am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders
@Op, I'm sorry you are going through this 'ugly' situation right now. I'm gonna ask a few questions before i proceed

1. Ever had issues about infidelity with her?
2. Is she materialistic?
3. In what way/ways did she reciprocate your kind gestures?

Ok now, all i'm trying to do is rekindle your memory so you can see if you probably ignored the handwriting on the wall

@Op, my advice for you is to ask her the reason/reasons for taking such heartless decision against you and be ready embrace whatever comes from it as one of the lessons of life

Pls don't go out of your way to suplicate!!! Because its obvious she's a fickle that wants a 'Gold laced lifestyle'

Its high time you took a bold step in life bro (God bless)
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Afolabi78: 7:59am On Jul 13, 2016
The Best Way To Move On Is To Look At It This Way You Got Married To Her And She Die Along The Way, That Is Best Way. It Had Happen To Me Before And That Way I Treat It And Anytime I Remember I see Her As Dead Person. Take Heart.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Juicysam(m): 8:01am On Jul 13, 2016
As far as she is unmarried she's available to the HIGHEST BIDDER.. love is a scam my guy

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:01am On Jul 13, 2016
favoured234:


I am talking about your own that you guys breakup and make up, its okay to have issues but its not okay to breakup when issues come.

Putting myself in the OP shoes, I will see her and ask why she wants out but I will NEVER try to convince her to come back even if it feels like my heart is going to fall out of my chest. Pain/Heartbreak is usually temporary and it lasts as long as we allow it to.


Like I said earlier, the thing dat let to most our breakups was basically anger issues. We both have anger issues and get pissed at slightest provocation which makes or do or say things we ought not to have said. The times she wronged me and realized it, she came back beggin for forgiveness and the times I wronged her too I apologised to her as well. The anger issue is what I discussed with her d last time we had issue and I told her how we need to be controllin the anger to avoid future reoccurrence and it's really workin out fine now.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by donclef68(m): 8:05am On Jul 13, 2016
[quote author=BrokenHeart2016 post=47473645]Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

No Matter How Nice You Are To A Goat, It Will Still Eat Your Yam. I experienced d same tin 3 months ago it will seems hard to get over initially but blive me time heals with time you will be fine
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by iamlimo(m): 8:08am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such in my life, I do read it online about how girls breaku up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
bro she simply thinks you're no longer good for her. the mistake you did was to spend dat much on her and not cheating on her. I hope you've learnt your lessons.now get yourself backup you have some hustling to do + screw your gf for leaving you when you needed her the most
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Odunharry(m): 8:08am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
my brother i believe wetin u talk. But our naija ladies believe say once una fvck tire for relationship and una come separate them go say na you cheat them. Say u don useless them. As if them no useless our pree.eek.

Na so them dey also do. Some dey go babalawo side to do the guy bad thing o. I am a witness to this. Thats why i say make d guy curse d babe. Some naija girls wicked no be small
They love to play the victim card and see sex as favor when it's obvious both of them enjoyed or Lemm say use as they always say.
Some are devil in disguise
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by deplay24(m): 8:14am On Jul 13, 2016
Women are ungrateful creatures no matter wot u do for dem u can never please dem,bro just take heart ok all u need now is time de heart will definitely heal and u will learn to love again.

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