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"No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Piptoes(f): 11:47pm On Jul 20, 2016
I've been going through heartbreak for a while now. So after much thought. i've decided to apply the " no contact rule...and by so doing, I've had to delete my boyfriend from all social media platforms, which seemed almost impossible. The truth is, It's almost like a druggie trying to get off smack....When you are so used to talking to someone everyday and being so close to someone, it's very hard to disconnect from them. Especially for a long period of time. I also know it's imperative that I should apply the "no contact rule". After all, it has been proven to be extremely effective over time. And it will also give him a sense of feeling that I'm gradually moving on. Cos I know the primary aim of the no contact period is to sort of get over him. I said "sort of get over him" because I know it will be very difficult for me to get over him. Pls for those who have practiced the " no contact rule", Is there is a good chance that your ex bf/gf contacted you during the no contact period or even tried to win u back?
Modified#
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 11:51pm On Jul 20, 2016
Lemmie buy land here first while I wait for matured advice to come.. cool
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 11:54pm On Jul 20, 2016
Hmmm...



JoeCutie, come and advice OP... grin

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2016
Hummmm...i'll be right back with my comment
Need to do some research...this one pass me grin
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by vicstar(m): 11:55pm On Jul 20, 2016
Mzpecs how valuable is that land u just bought huh? lipsrsealed u'll have to resell it, because its on a wrong site grin
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by JoeCutie(m): 11:59pm On Jul 20, 2016
SweetieConstie:
Hmmm...




JoeCutie, come and advice OP... grin
Op is not looking for advice, she's looking for "matured advice". Matured advice? For this Buhari government? When the economy is plunging pell-mell into the land of oblivion? That's a luxury we can't afford. undecided

Besides, I be love Professor ni?
lipsrsealed

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Sexxkillz: 12:01am On Jul 21, 2016
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember?

And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0.

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:02am On Jul 21, 2016
JoeCutie:
Op is not looking for advice, she's looking for "matured advice". Matured advice? For this Buhari government? When the economy is plunging pell-mell into the land of oblivion? That's a luxury we can't afford. undecided

Besides, I be love Professor ni?
lipsrsealed



Lmao! gringrin
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:04am On Jul 21, 2016
Sexxkillz:
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember?

And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0.



Gbam! Gbammer!! Gbammest!!! grincheesy




OP, this dude has said it all...

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Piptoes(f): 12:06am On Jul 21, 2016
Sexxkillz:
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember?

And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0.
This really looks bad...so I've lost him forever embarassed...thot relationships works beta when given a second chance.

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 12:08am On Jul 21, 2016
vicstar:
Mzpecs how valuable is that land u just bought huh? lipsrsealed u'll have to resell it, because its on a wrong site grin
I'm also waiting for matured advice embarassed embarassed


Pls don't let us derail.. grin
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by vicstar(m): 12:13am On Jul 21, 2016
MzPecs:

I'm also waiting for matured advice embarassed embarassed


Pls don't let us derail.. grin


lolgrin as for tha advice.... Apparently, the OP and u won't get much
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:14am On Jul 21, 2016
Piptoes:
This really looks bad...so I've lost him forever embarassed...thot relationships works beta when given a second chance.
have some faith dear...
I know how u feel...trust me
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Sexxkillz: 12:15am On Jul 21, 2016
Piptoes:
This looks bad...so I've lost him forever embarassed...thot relationships works beta when given a second chance.
Nope.

The guy you're "pitying" and dying for a second chance with is somewhere enjoying himself with another girl (she prolly riding him right now). He'll only remember you exist if the new girl lacks a characteristic that is wholly unique to you, or she dumps him like he did to you. In other words, you now become a viable option for him to escape the misery that the new girl just heaped upon him. . . Playing second fiddle. His coming back to you will only be if he has sensed in a way that you still haven't moved on without him, and believe you me, he'll take advantage of that fact to slide into your life again, give you a false sense of security, regain his confidence and then slide out of your life and into the darkness like a black goat at night.

Whether you like to be used, dumped, remembered, reused and dumped again is your own bitter pill to swallow.

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 12:19am On Jul 21, 2016
sleekyonyx:
Hummmm...i'll be right back with my comment
Need to do some research...this one pass me grin
Iyawo doublezero7 before before, how u dey? wink

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:21am On Jul 21, 2016
MzPecs:

Iyawo doublezero7 before before, how u dey? wink
lol....he's still my boo... we r waxing strong..
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Suspectzero(m): 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016
You won't get over him till something or someone else replaces him. So I'd get going on that end. Instead of trying to resist the temptation, replace it with something else, like your work, hubby, friends...a new guy.
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by SweetieConstie(f): 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016
Piptoes, I totally concur with what sexkillz has said so far...



Don't give your ex a second chance in your life, he might end up wreaking greater havoc than he initially did...



Try to get over him, get busy with industrious ventures like work or studies, try the no-contact rule, hang out and have fun with friends and try to be happy again without him in your life... This might be pretty difficult to achieve, but you gotta try and be cheerful again... And then, when he eventually realises you're happy without him, he would begin to miss you again... And by then, you would have gotten over the heart-break! smiley



Sorry about the heartbreak dear, please, don't grieve over him anymore.. You're definitely gonna be fine! smiley

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by bitchcrafts: 12:30am On Jul 21, 2016
Is that a question after you've delivered 85% lecture?
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 12:35am On Jul 21, 2016
bitchcrafts:
Is that a question after you've delivered 85% lecture?
do justice to the remaining 15%....lol
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by Checked86: 12:47am On Jul 21, 2016
Piptoes:
I've been going through heartbreak for a while now. So after much thought. i've decided to apply the " no contact rule...and by so doing, I've had to delete my boyfriend from all social media platforms, which seemed almost impossible. The truth is, It's almost like a druggie trying to get off smack....When you are so used to talking to someone everyday and being so close to someone, it's very hard to disconnect from them. Especially for a long period of time. I also know it's imperative that I should apply the "no contact rule". After all, it has been proven to be extremely effective over time. And it will also give him a sense of feeling that I'm gradually moving on. Cos I know the primary aim of the no contact period is to sort of get over him. I said "sort of get over him" because I know it will be very difficult for me to get over him. Pls for those who have practiced the " no contact rule", Is there is a good chance that your ex bf/gf contacted you during the no contact period or even tried to win u back?
Modified#
I am not against you seeking for advices, just be careful. Not every idea is consumable. I just read somebody saying authoritatively about an idea he knew nothing about. He didn't even ask you what happened between you two(u and ur boyfriend) but have concluded he would use u and dumb u again. My advice: you know his offence and the kind of person he is. That will guide you when adopting any rule. If actually u love and would like the guy to come back to u, please look for another rule that will help u. Note: most guys mistake 'no contact rule' for BREAK UP. Don't give him that idea if u really love him. I don't want to prove read my comment, manage it.

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by ssuccess(m): 1:07am On Jul 21, 2016
Hi. Piptoe
My girlfriend and I had this major issue last week and I feel It might help you. We're university students, but we're on break. Now her ex-boyfriend lives in close proximity with her, I leave In another state entirely, so he's been toying with her mind. She then told me she's begun to feel some things for him again and don't know who to choose to guard against immodesty. I expressed my disappointment and surprise but I stupidly felt I should stay with love. Until she chose him over me. I then told her I had no problem with it but I can't communicate with her at least for a while. she insisted on me talking with her often, I blocked her from all my social media accounts, then she was always calling.
she then texted me to tell me she has reversed her decisions and ended things with the Ex-boyfriend.
I formed small, but later we're back together. Of course I no longer going to be the faithful guy I once was because she has toyed with my trust.
But the point is please use the 'No contact rule' religiously. Try being with friends or going on dates with guys, carefully.
If he still feels something for you, he'll be back okay?
I hope I did a little good. good luck dear.

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by foolinlove(f): 2:41am On Jul 21, 2016
Sexxkillz:
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember?

And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0.

Agreed.

And piptoes - it is like coming off a drug. Everytime you get "validation" (your drug) from your ex, the addiction cycle can start again.

The no contact rule is not for making him come back. It is for helping you deal with heartbreak.

I would suggest not replying him for a month. Then, if he still contacts you, maybe you feel atrong enough to talk without falling into your emotion for him again.

If he wants you back, very seriously, he will find a very serious and genuine way to let you know. Not a lazy text or facebook message. Not a throwaway comment. A genuine, serious method with genuine, serious words.

Just keep going on without him for now.

By dropping you, this guy has made a space in your life for something more wonderful smiley
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by poshestmina(f): 2:55am On Jul 21, 2016
It works babe but very difficult ,it got to a point I stopped recharging my phone

Better you let him leave,trying to fix a broken relationship is a big really big mistake

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:54am On Jul 21, 2016
MzPecs:
Lemmie buy land here first while I wait for matured advice to come.. cool
Lol..with ur immatured FTC uh??
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:55am On Jul 21, 2016
poshestmina:
It works babe but very difficult ,it got to a point I stopped recharging my phone

Better you let him leave,trying to fix a broken relationship is a big really big mistake
Hmmn...sister, no forget say "pls call me" sef dey oo
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 3:59am On Jul 21, 2016
SweetieConstie:
Piptoes, I totally concur with what sexkillz has said so far...



Don't give your ex a second chance in your life, he might end up wreaking greater havoc than he initially did...



Try to get over him, get busy with industrious ventures like work or studies, try the no-contact rule, hang out and have fun with friends and try to be happy again without him in your life... This might be pretty difficult to achieve, but you gotta try and be cheerful again... And then, when he eventually realises you're happy without him, he would begin to miss you again... And by then, you would have gotten over the heart-break! smiley



Sorry about the heartbreak dear, please, don't grieve over him anymore.. You're definitely gonna be fine! smiley
Hmmmn..juz sometimes, denying ur heart wat it yearns for, happens to be the actual heartbreak..

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 4:08am On Jul 21, 2016
Sexxkillz:
My view about exes: I support the no contact rule (don't contact them first). They don't want you in their life no more, so don't bug them by trying to initiate contact. But when they contact you first, don't be a jerk by ignoring them totally. Never use more than 6 words to reply them. The idea is not to totally close the doors or burn the bridges. And only reply them when you feel like. They are no longer paramount in your life, remember?

And lastly, never ever go back into a relationship with an ex. . . Ever. They'll only return for a while, and break your heart version 2.0 and leave you in a worse state than version 1.0.
U made sense..up until the last paragraph..I need not debate my opposing views with u on dat..
Nonetheless bro..I withold the crazily-chilled vodka I was bou to offer u til I read ur effing last paragraph..

*opens fridge and returns vodka*
*closes fridge and walks outta thread*

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Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by sleekyonyx(f): 7:35am On Jul 21, 2016
ssuccess:
Hi. Piptoe
My girlfriend and I had this major issue last week and I feel It might help you. We're university students, but we're on break. Now her ex-boyfriend lives in close proximity with her, I leave In another state entirely, so he's been toying with her mind. She then told me she's begun to feel some things for him again and don't know who to choose to guard against immodesty. I expressed my disappointment and surprise but I stupidly felt I should stay with love. Until she chose him over me. I then told her I had no problem with it but I can't communicate with her at least for a while. she insisted on me talking with her often, I blocked her from all my social media accounts, then she was always calling.
she then texted me to tell me she has reversed her decisions and ended things with the Ex-boyfriend.
I formed small, but later we're back together. Of course I no longer going to be the faithful guy I once was because she has toyed with my trust.
But the point is please use the 'No contact rule' religiously. Try being with friends or going on dates with guys, carefully.
If he still feels something for you, he'll be back okay?
I hope I did a little good. good luck dear.
ouch!
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 8:10am On Jul 21, 2016
0ubenji:

Lol..with ur immatured FTC uh??
Lol cheesy
Op said she wants matured advice and I ain't gat one so I decided to chill and wait for matured advice grin grin grin



Good morning Sir..
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by MzPecs(f): 8:16am On Jul 21, 2016
sleekyonyx:
lol....he's still my boo... we r waxing strong..
Wow! cheesy Good to hear that..




That reminds me, pls do consider my signature.
Have a nice day!
Re: "No Contact Rule" How Effective Is It? by 0ubenji(m): 10:26am On Jul 21, 2016
MzPecs:

Lol cheesy
Op said she wants matured advice and I ain't gat one so I decided to chill and wait for matured advice grin grin grin



Good morning Sir..
Oh...mornin ma'am....u've just dished me the most matured comment today to start my day with...
Do ava nice day ma'am...

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