Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

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This is totally beyond me
In the meantime, before pursuing the divorce option, why don't you both go see a marriage councillor and hopefully everything goes right. If not, then you'll have to bail out of that marriage.

Open family meeting for him head(mtesshhhh what a Rubbish )...if he dosnt changed after that.... threaten hem with a divorce

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Ife ne eme oooo..

Your answer is in your last paragraph... Just like they say, knowing the problem is half the battle. This dude now knows his problem but refused to solve it... WhT a heartless being he is by the way are you sure he isn't hiding something else

He doesn't make you happy, changed religion and is forcing you to change too... Na wa oooo... Which kin life

Nne run for your life ooo, i usually don't recommend divorce but i think you have a case here and that might be your option..

Dont worry about what people will say.... Always remember that whatever you do in life, people must talk so do what's in your best interest and let them talk...

All the best dear

Cheers!

I for once haven't supported divorce, but on this matter i totally concur you divorce him,also my dear sister it seems he doesn't work and u the bread winner of the home, then divorce make hungry beat am wella.



And to all ye brothers who wouldn't allow their wives to be happy and blissful, u can't spoil pple's joy and expect to be happy.

You are educated. √
You work and earn your money. √
He's insecure, so you are attractive. √

Please don't let him drag you down. I honestly believe you'll rot waiting for him to change. Time doesn't wait for anyone, go for a divorce. Start a new page, move on.

FlawlesRebirth02:
Open family meeting for him head(mtesshhhh what a Rubbish )...if he dosnt changed after that.... threaten hem with a divorce

Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

Hmmmm

Nextime you will have an argument plz record secretly all the conversations u both have...
This can be use as a proof to everything u need in the next step.

Arrange a family meeting to discuss everything and If he denied such allegations, you can let them listen to ur arguments.

There's always 2sides of the coin. Play urz well and have some receipts to back u up.

Never threat him or blackmail him tat if he doesn't change, u will file a divorce. Instead, Serve it to his plate

My dear u are not his slave so set urself free frm the stress till he comes to senses

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

.then call ur famz and his together and tell them everything he's bin doing

Hi,

He does not deserve your trust since he hid a very crucial detail from you from the onset. He deceived you into marrying him knowing he cannot father a child. He also beat you up. He has a temper issue. He does not trust you. He does not want to get cured of the impotency.

Get d'hell away from him before you end up dead!!!

Jolsnow:
You are educated. √
You work and earn your money. √
He's insecure, so you are attractive. √

Please don't let him drag you down. I honestly believe you'll rot waiting for him to change. Time doesn't wait for anyone, go for a divorce. Start a new page, move on.

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NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

for the fact he has converted to the most Peacefull Religion on earth,Run for ur life cos he must either kill u or behead u for their foolish god.......islam is evil,run and divorce him!!!

Cc crackhaus, tv01. Me, I'm on sabbatical. And where the hell is pickabeau1? Hope he's still up and running?

I need a stiff drink.


Op sorry, the answer I have for u does not tally with my religious beliefs so I have nothing to say.

Run for ur life...

Vincent41:


for the fact he has converted to the most Peacefull Religion on earth,Run for ur life cos he must either kill u or behead u for their foolish god.......islam is evil,run and divorce him!!!

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Kai,sorry ehn,may God help u and shown the way,u seem blind with what ppl pretend and portray Islam to be,as for u that ur husband has converted to Islam Alhamdulillah for him,but he Shld not force u because there is no compulsion in Islam,it is not compulsory to become a Muslims,OK?don't be carried carried away with what ppl say,just sit down and think and may God help u

Let him try Kegel

Just divorce him and move on,the fact that he didn't even tell you he was impotent b4 u got married is a good reason to give him a red card. My sister don't waste your time with him. Imagine he even beat you on little things.

OP are u looking 4 FP? Ok

an abusive husband, impotent and doesn't want to seek cure, decietful, irresponsible, not caring and a beater.

which advise do you need again to know you married the wrong man

During the divorce process, please don't stay alone or with him. Move in with someone , it could be a family member or a friend for the main time. Report his threats to your nearest police station and don't forget to tell those closest to you about the threat.

Victims are at higher risk of severe or/and death sef when they are about to leave or after leaving their oppressors.

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

Are you an oloriburuku?

Vincent41:


for the fact he has converted to the most Peacefull Religion on earth,Run for ur life cos he must either kill u or behead u for their foolish god.......islam is evil,run and divorce him!!!

Jesus! fasting is ova che?

dare2differ:
Are you an oloriburuku?

behave yourself.

Divorce him ASAP! He is a deceitful person...

He is even giving you attitude (going by your story) as an impotent man.. He is should be licking your assss for marrying him and of good behavior too



STFUareyouG0d

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You have just told us his own part alone.

what about your part (part b)

See if a man dont have money and he can not satisfy you
on bed is very worst.

I am talking because I have been there.

I know how i felt when I did not have money
I cant even have good S e x with my wife.

You need to be patience.

You are just new in this game.

Do not nag

do not pick some calls that will make him feel you are
see someone else

Recommend a solution for him

Talk to him calmly even when he shout on you.

Go and read the book I attached to this post
and do what you have there in the next
40days.

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To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same.

He has low sperm count....He is financially poor......and the best thinq he could do is to convert to a Muslim.........his village witches don table hin matter

Madam....I think Divorce is okay........if anytin will not allow yhu make heaven....do away with it