Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

I am telling you. Pre-wedding pictures, bridal showers and other vain lifestyles have taken over, shielding them from the main purpose of marriage. The Lady must have missed somethings when they were courting, I believe she was not sensitive enough to see the hiding characters of the man. I don't know why they didn't discuss their sexuality and other important matters before marriage. That's why I don't support courtship below 3years.
I pray God help her.

Madam i undestand how much pain you feel
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One thing I. Hate is when you are trying to drag someone out of a bucket of. Water, one decides to. Jump into an ocean,wot a hell to join muslim!!!..my. Dear run for your life pls,..the man your husband. Has many troubles he is battling and feels he can use you to claim happiness at your own risk,.I. Guess that divorce will be better since you have no kid for him to. Deny any parental upbringing from both of you

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

I understand your position on divorce because you are a Christian.

This is my advise to you; divorce him.

There are some issues too weighty to be hidden from someone before getting married like when you know you are impotent and cannot father a child. That is a very big one and he ought to have told you this before you both got married.

On the grounds of this grevious injustice, you can divorce him.

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

You signed ''for better for worse'' so dont come and disturb our peace here.Bullshit!

AngelAhnie:
OK

M?

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

Ishi,they don't.This generation isn't patient enough to wait for God in matters of marriage.
Why would anyone marry someone who doesn't listen to you,gets angry easily,not committed to his faith and is a wife beater?It seems people don't spend their courtship learning about the other person but just having fun.

princeFAD:
@op. If the man lied to you about his sexual status before you married him, then the marriage was based on deceit and therefore cannot be considered a marriage. Then you are free to walk out.

GBAM!

NothingLikeLove, the truth is that there was no marriage in the first place because of this level of deceit.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Walk out of that 'marriage' now that it is still early.

Your biological family means much to me so i feel for them that as at now you don't know what to do.
We are tired of stories of women that lost their lives from domestic violence and your case is even worse.
If you die in this marriage, you will bite your fingers in deep regret even in the spirit world.
Few months later, people will make your husband realise he is lonely and pronto another woman comes in while (God forbid) you rot in the grave.

I am not an advocate of divorce, not in the least.
I am not a female as my response have portrayed.
But i will be very sad if you hang on here and swell the cases of women who have lost their lives because they want to stay or answer married.
What beats my imagination is that there's nothing to hang on to.Not that wealth matters in making marriages succesful but it goes a long way not to make some living hells that they are.
please move on but atva time he is not aware. Get ur things (certificates most importantly) handy as this will help you.
discuss in detail with your biological family (father,mother, siblings) on this and bet me, you will be suprised the immense support you will get from them.
The truth is that when the chips are down, they will be the ones to cry and mourn you and you know grief takes ages to go away if at all it does.
i don't know you and i wish i can get your email so i can discuss in detail with you and possibly relate some real life experiences that started this way, got more than this and eventually led to death because the woman wanted to stay married.
Take a look at your parents and the family that got you to the level you are today.Do they really deserve to lose you?
Do you want to see them cry?
What more can i say my sister?
What more can i tell you?
Please this man may turn violent in future.
Please live for us all.

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

About the will of God just leave that,Everything in life is grace. U may move from one pastor to another, from one mountain to another, the issue is beyond that. All we need to make the right choice is God grace.

thorpido:
Ishi,they don't.This generation isn't patient enough to wait for God in matters of marriage.
Why would anyone marry someone who doesn't listen to you,gets angry easily,not committed to his faith and is a wife beater?It seems people don't spend their courtship learning about the other person but just having fun.

Honestly I just don't understand.

STFUareyouG0d:
M?

I will modify

Divorce him right away plsss

It never ceases to amaze me how some bull$hit story copied from somewhere else and pasted here makes the 1st page, and I thought NLs are quick and smart to spot a fact from fiction.... Anyways like the person above me said bullshit....... ..bet I made you lookup...

my dear sister, your case is so scared because it seems those power that is following him want to destroy him quickly hope u understand me my advice for you is to go with fasting and prayer because u can't fight this physical if truly u are a Christian believer try to speak with God I hope u can brake that bondage may God help u to fight this battle. divorce is not a solution for every marriage problems there are something God want us to know.

Nigeria is 170 million and growing.

We don't need more children, especially at the rate that Nigeria has been growing.

If it's that important for the OP to raise children then adopt a child. There are plenty to choose from.

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

He beats you.

He has converted to Islam.

You know Bible said the only criteria for divorce is infidelity. Were men beating their wives in bible times ? Bible also says thou shalt not kill. Beating leads to death and has happened severally. Better stay alive than dead.

Nawa o.

An0nimus:


Not seen him in a while too. not even on the Arsenal thread

Well, someone needs check up on him to find out if he's OK.

Vincent41:


for the fact he has converted to the most Peacefull Religion on earth,Run for ur life cos he must either kill u or behead u for their foolish god.......islam is evil,run and divorce him!!!

Stop saying what you dont know about a Religion. Never you say Islam is Evil

thorpido:
Ishi,they don't.This generation isn't patient enough to wait for God in matters of marriage.
Why would anyone marry someone who doesn't listen to you,gets angry easily,not committed to his faith and is a wife beater?It seems people don't spend their courtship learning about the other person but just having fun.

Bros you didn't read the part op said "During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out."

It's not about not listening or consulting God before marriage. It's about being able to stand temptations. We've seen many men of God with marital problems that's led many of them to divorce. We are not infallible. We are humans

Men are dangerous. The can pretend for as long as possible just to get what they want.

From op's post, she sounds like someone who is closed to God and must have prayed over it before getting married to him. But now that things aren't working fine, are we gonna blame God?

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mmsen:
Nigeria is 170 million and growing.

We don't need more children, especially at the rate that Nigeria has been growing.

If it's that important for the OP to raise children then adopt a child. There are plenty to choose from.

Ridiculous!

driveiwe:
I for once haven't supported divorce, but on this matter i totally concur you divorce him,also my dear sister it seems he doesn't work and u the bread winner of the home, then divorce make hungry beat am wella.



And to all ye brothers who wouldn't allow their wives to be happy and blissful, u can't spoil pple's joy and expect to be happy.

I totally agree with you.

this is strong.
Know your partner very well before getting hooked up. Divorce is not an option. its your cross so carry it. nobody force you to marry. this is why i embrace long courtship and serious observation before getting married.

My advice to Op is to try tobe tolerance, am sure there are three sides to the story. All will be well in your unnionism. Ire oh

AngelAhnie:
I will modify

Maybe I should change mine to F. Can't stand me and you being same gender

FlawlesRebirth02:
Open family meeting for him head(mtesshhhh what a Rubbish )...if he dosnt changed after that.... threaten hem with a divorce

you english is terrible...but your face is fine...so i ll ignore your grammar...

If you had test run him with a marathon sex, you would've known better.
Now you've married an impotent-mohamedan, if i were you, i'd just RUN!
#SexBeforeMarriage

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

This is what you get when you jump into marriage with a total stranger..You met a man today and in less than a year you got married to him.Did you seek Gods face before going into marriage with himDid you consult your pastor before taking that decisionAbi you just saw a handsome man and jumped into marriage with him like you ladies always do..So what do you want us to do now..Tell you to divorce himGod forbid..I won't be a party to that cos I don't want to go to hell for giving som1 a wrong advice..marriage is for better for worse..carry your cross and find a solution to your marital problems.Its time to run to God and seek his face for ur marriage.It is well with you

AngelAhnie:
Divorce him ASAP! He is a deceitful person...

He is even giving you attitude (going by your story) as an impotent man.. He is should be licking your assss for marrying him and of good before too



STFUareyouG.0d

Yes my angel

lamideee:
Just divorce him and move on,the fact that he didn't even tell you he was impotent b4 u got married is a good reason to give him a red card. My sister don't waste your time with him. Imagine he even beat you on little things.

Have you married?? She asked for advise not mislead..
Even if she eventually dump the nigga, what assurance that the next nigga is saint..

STFUareyouG0d:
Maybe I should change mine to F. Can't stand me and you being same gender

Hahahaha...you guys started it all

Change yours lemme crush my you, my gf