Please I news inputs on how best to get this done:

My husband has decided to pay my bride price after we did our Court Wedding several years ago. The truth is we married when we had almost nothing so we just didn't want to be burdened with financial pressures. I am an orphan and my husband is from a very humble background.

I am Yoruba, hubby is Akwa Ibom
I am from a large family with many very rich and comfortable peeps but we all don't relate well cos our parents never really brought us together with them when they were alive.


We are meeting the eldest member of my family soon but I want to ask for your opinions on how to go about the ceremony? Cos my extended family is saying they will accept however way I and my husband want the ceremony done.
I believe they said that since the funding will not come from any of them, other than I and hubby.

Please for those that have done bride price paying ceremony (if there's anything like that), can you please advice me on how to go about it?

I do not want something too poor or too expensive. Just moderate but I need to know the basic things we should have.

The Nxt 5 ppl to Comment might have something to say about this but as for me #NoComment

Congrats. Meanwhile culture varies and as such I recommend u visit ur people as to ascertain what's the current price and requirements. Secondly I assume you have someone among the family members so dear to you... pay the person a visit and discuss it. You're better off than making enquiries here unless you aren't ready to settle your people.

Your people are supposed to provide a list for that. There is nothing like go and decide, there are traditional procedures. Have you collected any list from them yet? Many people are not invited for bride price ceremony, just a few members of your husband 's family . Except you want to celebrate your traditional wedding on same day.

Modified:

Thanks all. I and hubby only have just visited the most senior person in my family residing in Nigeria. All others are permanently based abroad (I don't even know them sef)
and we are going to repeat the visit, this time with my hubby and his family members. On same day, the list will be given.
We intend to do the bride price paying ceremony and little engagement ceremony alongside. Only close relatives will be present, maybe less than 30 people sef.

Thanks for all your contributions

Marriage and his wahala, This is one of the reasons i don't like getting marriage, All the stressed attachment to it.

Best way to go.....

Never imagined what an after-marriage bride price paying ceremony would look like before. I am Tuning in to learn.

HML

You are from the west and with my little understanding yorubas dont demand much, even the bride price is mostly return back because they believe they dnt sell their child......




SOME LISTS
Tubers of Yam maximum 10



Bag of rice


Salt



Box of cloth.....which you already have.


Sugar


Groundnut oli


Palm oil


Fish

Kola

Fruit

Coconut



make others add their own........



NB. experience from wedding attended so far.....




ire ooooo

he should go with a bank draft of #6.3 trillion i.e naija budget hahahaahaaa

If you guys did the right thing in the first instance, I dont think you'll be here asking this sorta question.

What's tha business?

Hmm

Mummy TOlu/Imaobong . Do ur thing Quietly without attracting those pipu with broken teeth from village/nearby .Make dem nor com eyes u Say u don arrive(shey o get mi ).heartfelt congratulations Iya Abiye

First of all, photoshoot... Please do a post related to ways Nigerian Men react when they are finally given #TheList

Dear OP, to be serious, are you scared already when they haven't even requested for anything?

Let me tell you the best way to go about it... Your husband should buy white sweet chalk... Shebi ma calabash them dey call am... Then lick it for three days alongside sugar...

Anything he tells them, they will Concur... I swear down... If he add red oil, na finishing be that... they will be the ones to sponsor the wedding...

Why Is The Bedroom Always Darker Than Other Rooms?

Oya, on a more serious note... accept however way
could possibly mean that they don't send you at all, especially if you consider the fact that you aren't closely bonded to them. They just want your man to do the right thing and bounce... In order words, be done with you... Rightfully.

Hence, you have nothing to fear, your husband should just be loyal, give what he can, and bounce... They don't send you anymore... They probably had given up sef based on the fact that you court-married several years ago.

Anything you give them is bonus... No need to shiver.

You know what to do and you are asking us, well I will not take paracetamol for someone's headache

You are in a wrong place. Go out and meet your Yoruba friends and church or mosque members for this

I paid my long term gf bride price last weekend. . Her request was below 50k

]The Nxt 5 ppl to Comment might have something to say about this but as for me #NoComment :-
U never marry ?]

OK na..

Lukmann1:
Marriage and his wahala, This is one of the reasons i don't like getting marriage, All the stressed attachment to it.

Your English teacher didn't try at all. Your grammar alone has disqualified you from marriage bikonu!

Stating the part of Yorubaland you come from, will help in some people providing relevant input.

Hmmmmmmmm
]I paid my long term gf bride price last weekend. . Her request was below 50k[/quote]

Women and marriage

You are suppose to contact the elders of the family to know the necessary requirements before that day. The whole thing still bother on you. You are the only one that can make it easy for your hubby. Plea with the elders of the family on how you want things to be done since your parent are not alive.

Who did this

You cant say for now, if its going to be moderately expensive or expensive until you see the list. On the other note, u should discuss it with the senior family member on how the ceremony would be and the reasons.

Vickyrotex com say something . Abi Nah to dey go Party u Sabi

epmmiks:
]The Nxt 5 ppl to Comment might have something to say about this but as for me #NoComment :-
U never marry ?]

do we still have pple like dis in Nigeria? If u ask him now, he will say he is a graduate. I tireooo