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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by DanjaNinja(m): 12:06am On Aug 07, 2016
blueseacats:
Na that fat de vex me pass, none sense, bros I de vex for this fat matter wetting sef dem de carry fat go heaven? Naija girls go fat like say fat Na evidence of good living.

Trust me, Nigerian girls are not fat. The obesity in america is disgraceful.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 12:07am On Aug 07, 2016
MrTour:
This is because when the women come abroad they lose some of their core values, culture, respect.

When you live with your wife abroad and you have a misunderstanding she doesn't call you "honey" rather she call you names like "oboy", "useless man" grin, its normal. If you get offended about it na you go suffer am.
Most naija guys rather marry the home based naija girls who unfortunately has been waxed well. These naija guys prefer to keep the girl in naija for the sake of losing their marriage to the influence of life abroad.

They rather send £500 every month to the girl and visit once in 6 months but little do they know the engine is being waxed in their absence grin
very true...majority of nigerian ladies in nigeria wit husbands abroad open their legs for every tom,dick and harry to have their kondo shined cheesy.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by NaijainTexas: 12:08am On Aug 07, 2016
Reading a lot of these comments, it seems as if a lot of them are made by people who don't even live or have never even traveled abroad. Just typing inferences because they like to hear themselves express opinion, even if it's not fact. This goes even for the OP.

As someone who's lived in both places, it is NOT true, most men abroad do NOT go home to marry (or vice versa with women). I attend weddings of western-based Nigerians almost every weekend. They are marrying each other in Europe and in the States in droves, don't be misinformed. A lot marry each other because it is easier.

As a matter of fact, those that go back to Naija to pick a spouse are few and far inbetween. Usually, those guys are looked at with a suspicious eye. They are either one or more of these: unattractive, so no one abroad really wants them; not successful; or bad moral character. Trust me, if they were the opposite, they would easily find a good mate right? When you run back to Naija to pick a spouse, it is because the ones in Nigeria will overlook/ignore your bad issues for the romanticized dream of coming to the West and escaping Nigeria. They are easily deceived and are treated poorly when they arrive and eventually, they shine their eyes and see the man for who they are. I know cases of:

-men marrying from back home and NEVER bringing them to the West even after promising to do so
-men having multiple families
-men pretending they're successful abroad only to bring their Nigerian spouses to suffering here in America
-men bringing their new spouse from Naija back to America to beat/control her without the protection of her family
...and so much more.

So I would even make this advice to my brothers and sisters living in Naija to do THOROUGH investigation on any person who feels they need to come back and find a spouse; for you know there is SOMETHING being hidden.

Anyhow, Nigerian marriages are taking place weekly in the West--tons of couples that are compatible because of similar background, educationally and socially. Which "works".

OP, stop it.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 12:08am On Aug 07, 2016
Orubebe01:
Just wondering why majority of them always rush back home to marry when there are handful of Nigerian ladies where they reside. Does it mean that none of them are wife material or what.

It is quite hard to find homely ladies abroad. The demand far exceeds the supply. Majority of them have gone the Western way of life but still expect you as guy to be the father Christmas. They still want to milk you dry. While I was dicsussing with one of them she told me whoever she will marry MUST BE RICH. She also told me her flatmate had made same resolution. Modus vivendi of some of them is parallel to what an average Nigerian man wants.

I am stuck in the valley of decision right now. I'm considering marrying someone in Nigeria rather than here.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 12:10am On Aug 07, 2016
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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by 9jatatafo(m): 12:12am On Aug 07, 2016
I am consulting the book that reveals secret. In 8 days time, my answers will be ready.
Flying out of thread. Bye-bye to Oga Seun Osewa and Lalasticlala.
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by macotrading72(m): 12:13am On Aug 07, 2016
Most of my friends here in japan way go naija go merry vow they will never bring their naija wife to Japan reason because after one or two years here she will start making friends that will enlighten here on things she didn't know which to the guys will jeopardize their beautiful home.
So they marry them and leave them for naija, for Japan for example man and woman dey equal so most of us from naija no ready for that kind competition.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by ezan(m): 12:17am On Aug 07, 2016
abbey621:
I don't know about any other country but the U.S is a demonic country that ends upsucking the life out of most men at the same time make women power hungry. Due to the feminist theory, the democrat controlled government tries really hard to over compensate for what they termed as injustice. From women's rights to gay rights,real men are no longer seen as a priority. To illustrate consider the rankings:

1. White Women
2. White Male
3. Asian and Hispanic females
4. Asian and Hispanic males
5. Black females
6. Black males.

The above illustrates the real problem black males face in the U.S. A country where shows like real housewives of L.A or Atlanta, Dr. Phil, Oprah and so on. Men are learning to accept their role as number 2 in the house while women are encouraged to take control. This to an African man is a taboo. Imagine not being able to rely on your wife to cook you a good meal or not being able to give your parents or siblings money without getting permission from your wife. Imagine not being able to have an argument with your wife without her calling the police and getting you kicked out of your own home. Our African brothers believe those women back home though they are not perfect are still respectful of the society and traditions to be humble. Of course this theory is not perfect as we have seen a lot of guys coming back home to marry women related to lucifer but as an African man the reward outweighs the risks!

You nailed it...love the rankings too, so true. I may never get married but if I do, she'll be from Africa. I despise Caucasian women, somewhat tolerant of Asian and Hispanic women. It's gonna be an African woman for me or nothing.
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by gbemi514: 12:20am On Aug 07, 2016
They don't know how to cook good African delicacy..... Abi na pizza and burger I go chop for life ni
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 12:22am On Aug 07, 2016
Kassidy90:
The truth is that
dont be surprised that the one on the left snapping wit fone might even be a better cook and more homely than the other one.not all things are clear cut in black and white my broda.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nancy2016: 12:26am On Aug 07, 2016
macotrading72:
Most of my friends here in japan way go naija go merry vow they will never bring their naija wife to Japan reason because after one or two years here she will start making friends that will enlighten here on things she didn't know which to the guys will jeopardize their beautiful home.
So they marry them and leave them for naija, for Japan for example man and woman dey equal so most of us from naija no ready for that kind competition.

You have just explained why some Naija men go home to get married. They don't want to marry their equals. They don't want exposed and enlightened woman who know their rights. All those posters saying that it's because the girls are promiscuous, this shows the calibre of people you guys are. You meet these "gold-diggers" because you don't interact with women of substance. All my friends are educated, independent women with good careers. A lot of Nigerian women are very successful and doing very well for themselves. This sometimes intimidates guys especially those who haven't progressed in life.
Also there are a lot of weddings between Nigerians based abroad.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by kyaagbanairaland(m): 12:27am On Aug 07, 2016
How is a lady wife material. I don't get. Every lady is thesame to me. If a lady truly loves a guy she'll calm down for d guy. Even chronic runs girls end up becoming good wives if they see a man they truly love.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by berrystunn(m): 12:29am On Aug 07, 2016
GloriaNinja:
I think because many Nigerian girls over there don't tolerate bullshit.

Keep thinking...
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by eziokwubundunuwa: 12:34am On Aug 07, 2016
jackpiperr:
Black people have inferiority complex.A black male or black female's biggest dream in life is to marry white and have white friends and live in a white neighbourhood . That is a very big achievement and status symbol to a black immigrant. To send their kids to a white dominated University. A black immigrant may not desire to live in predominantly black neighbourhood or cities such as Flint Michigan or Jackson Mississippi. A black immigrant may rather desire to live in a predominantly white city such as Boise Idaho or Lexington,Kentucky instead of black dominated cities such as Detroit or Birmingham Alabama. A black immigrant may not desire to send their kids to black dominated schools . Most of the black leaders of the BlackLifeMatters have white boyfriends/girlfriends,aspire to live in white neighbourhood and go to white universities. Even Malcom X ,Bill Cosby ,Al Sharpton,and Martin Luther King jnr had secret white girlfriends and lived in White neighbourhoods.
A black may rather chose to condone and be friends with a white trash or white thug such as Eminem rather than with Lil wayne or Wacka flocka

You came out blunt bro. Even Wacko had to metamorphose at his prime. It all has to do with humiliation we suffered during slavery which we are yet to get over. In black nations mixed or colored people are admired and called white but in white nations they are avoided and called blacks.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by washbaba11(m): 12:34am On Aug 07, 2016
There's a man for every woman wherever u go in the world... Don't be fooled if she's nigerian or not
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by DozieInc(m): 12:36am On Aug 07, 2016
peter1994:
In America: I think it has something to do with a believe that they are often spoilt by the Gender equality thing (won't be loyal)

In Europe esp. Italy, Poland, Spain and Germany, There is a believe that our ladies do all sorts of illicit Jobs including Asset Marketing / Commercial sex work (Ash)

Those in Asia Any Single lady wen get mind to go Chinko fit do anything o smiley

True, the men didnt travel to America, Europe or Asia for marriage, they went for " hussle " and thats always at the back of their mind simple.
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by lebesgue(m): 12:49am On Aug 07, 2016
Chei. This thing dey pain our men o. I can feel the anger through my screen. All is well.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Blessograo(f): 12:51am On Aug 07, 2016
Cos they know any lady in Nigeria will dall for them as long as they have something that looks like a visa in their passport even if it's fake and if they have $0.5 as long as the dollar sign is on it. But the ladies Abroad will hustle to get money and they don't want to be intimidated. Another thing is who doesn't prefer his pounded yam to daily French fries? So women in Nigeria and Nigeria n women abroad are like Homemade cupcakes to industrial cupcake. One has no coating but so tasty and the other has a sweet outer coating but tasteless but at the end of the day all na cupcake, besides it doesn't happen in China wink

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by dapsonlou(m): 12:55am On Aug 07, 2016
There are more Nigerian men than Nigerian women Abroad, so the Doctors lawyers pick and choose and leave the remnants for everyone to fight over. A girl from Ajagunle will be forming butty because guys are Rushing her. It go's to their head and they start acting up. If you pick a Wife from Nigeria, get her pregnant before taking her. Only desperate guys will date baby mama in Yankee.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by lee007(m): 1:09am On Aug 07, 2016
Very Simple.......They tend to change fast when they get abroad and start making life miserable for thier poor husbands.....it's not generalization but the incidents of such behavior is very very high......from personal experience Nigerian women these days are a BIG RISK abroad. QUOTE Me!
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by yomz1e(m): 1:11am On Aug 07, 2016
Totally wrong argument, the people that run back home to get a wife are people who migrated abroad at a later stage in their lives. They are not use to the lifestyle and exposure of women abroad. They go back to village to pick a docile wife or ask their parents to do arrangie marriage. That being said, when the village woman now comes abroad, her eyes open and starts expressing her feminism , which now confuses the guy so he can't cope and can't Kofi-olomideizthe woman so the marriage collapse. grin
Also if you grew up abroad and you've never visited your country, it will be difficult to go back home to pick a wife cos of the culture difference , and what it all comes down to is love, respect, communication and no 3rd parties ( especially parents) there are good women here if you search well and don't go show urself.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by orgasticdance: 1:13am On Aug 07, 2016
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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Blessograo(f): 1:20am On Aug 07, 2016
With what I read here, the ladies in China are totally different and well cultured.
Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 1:31am On Aug 07, 2016
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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nyceguy92: 1:44am On Aug 07, 2016
Uniqueness01:
They don't get married to Nigerians abroad because they have GF or Fiancee in Nigeria hence they always come back to Nigeria to marry...

Hope I am correct

Well said, sis..
I was looking for who will mention this most important reason..

Most Nigerian men overseas already have high school or university sweethearts or very close female acquaintances they admire.
They all keep in touch one way or another so it is easy for the men to "fall back" on them when the time comes to marry.

Besides, our culture and tradition is very rich and lovely and most of these men grew up in them before travelling abroad.
So they prefer those ladies who have not lost those cultural and traditional values through over-Westernisation.

However, Nigerian men who were born and grew up abroad do marry girls who share similar birth place and upbringing.
They think alike and have little knowledge of how we dey do things for Naija.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Kc3000: 1:51am On Aug 07, 2016
Gone are the days that most Nigerian men will go home from America to find a wife or even ask the family to find them a wholesome girl in Nigeria. These days, whatever madness you're trying to avoid in America, it's also there in abundance back in Nigeria. You better deal with the one you see before you, at least you might be familiar with her type of drama. To blindly go and import wahala that's possibly just trying to escape the mess in Nigeria is quite the risk.
My cousin went to Naija for a couple of weeks, came back talking about he found a girl he wants to marry. They start communicating and a few months later he hears some funny stuff about her. So, my guy took up the issue with her, and next thing we heard was that the babe and her mom went to fight the person they thought was informing my cousin...for trying to scatter her runs.
What the heck! My guy couldn't believe it was the same chick he's been talking to, her sister that we know here at church is such a nice person. Well, he confronts her about her conduct...na then true colors show! The babe straight up told him that if he annoys her, she can organize guys to kidnap his popsie in Nigeria. grin grin My guy snapped back to reality.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by nijanigga: 1:55am On Aug 07, 2016
just as you can't compare farm chicken with agric chicken, so is marrying Nigerian woman abroad versus Nigerian woman in Nigeria.But in everything with humans there are exceptions,make no mistake ,there is too much pressures abroad, I have seen happily married couples with kids emigrated abroad that ended up splitting.Some Nigerian women are greedy and covetous, when a woman start comparing her hubby with another hubby , problem is brewing,you will usually hear " if you see the kind house dem dey live" or the type of car they are driving, man! yawa don degin dey gas be that.
And some men are not honest, here is a taxi guy came home to marry lavishly, so the wife is expecting big deal when she finally come over, but see Mr lavish living in a 500 square foot apartment,New york is even the worse, with roaches and rats in the apartments.Some women will tell their husband I wanna go back home. Home ke! we're together in this shit. With so much pressure not much space in the house and nobody cares about you, you can't easily relate to anybody,if you sometimes greet somebody you don't know, the person will be like, are you crazy? then you remember CHAI! deariiisssssssss god oh!

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Naturalized(m): 1:57am On Aug 07, 2016
Nyceguy92:


Well said, sis..
I was looking for who will mention this most important reason..

Most Nigerian men overseas already have high school or university sweethearts or very close female acquaintances they admire.
They all keep in touch one way or another so it is easy for the men to "fall back" on them when the time comes to marry
.

Besides, our culture and tradition is very rich and lovely and most of these men grew up in them before travelling abroad.
So they prefer those ladies who have not lost those cultural and traditional values through over-Westernisation.

However, Nigerian men who were born and grew up abroad do marry girls who share similar birth place and upbringing.
They think alike and have little knowledge of how we dey do things for Naija.


Story of my life, I live in North America and while there are lots of Nigerian Ladies around with reputable families here and back home, some of us are (were always) attracted to ladies we've known from back home before we left, and see no reason not to go back for those ladies provided things work out. I have lots of good looking Nigerian females here but for some reason, If I had to make a choice between my female acquaintance in Nigeria and the ones here, I will pick the one back home over them, not so much for the location, but because of what I see and what I want.

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by Nobody: 2:05am On Aug 07, 2016
daretodiffer:
Your mother doesn't sound good at all

One more reason why People dislike Mudslims...

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Re: Why Is It That Nigerians Abroad Hardly Marry Nigerian Ladies Over There? by lepasharon(f): 2:09am On Aug 07, 2016
yomz1e:
Totally wrong argument, the people that run back home to get a wife are people who migrated abroad at a later stage in their lives. They are not use to the lifestyle and exposure of women abroad. They go back to village to pick a docile wife or ask their parents to do arrangie marriage. That being said, when the village woman now comes abroad, her eyes open and starts expressing her feminism , which now confuses the guy so he can't cope and cant beat the woman so the marriage collapse.
Also if you grew up abroad and you've never visited your country, it will be difficult to go back home to pick a wife cos of the culture difference , and what it all comes down to is love, respect, communication and no 3rd parties ( especially parents) there are good women here if you search well and don't go show urself.

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