aariwa:
Go to a Jamaican church and find a lady you like,if it works out marry her.They dont believe in divorce and unlike nigerian women they will cook for you,are loyal and respect your role as the head of the family whether you are rich or not.Many people from my hometown did that and it worked out,some even brought their own to nigeria and they are still living together after 30 years of marriage.Follow my advice and come here and thank me after 10 years of marriage

eyinjuege:


Are mixed kids better than full black kids?
Are you saying mixed men/half caste men are better than you?

yomz1e:
[b]You'd be surprise people still do, a man in his 30s who has no legal papers to travel out and don't want to marry oyinbo or Nija girl where he is, will ask his people back home to send a potential Jennifer. when she arrives , he discovers either she's a good girl or proper runs girl turn temporarily good for marriage sake. If the guy can't afford to give her the lifestyle she wants, she hooks up with another guy making money or an ex that's abroad as well....end of marriage. Bro I live abroad, I have seen things unimaginable within the Nigerian community in the last decade. Yes you right tonnes of educated women, have you also seen the rate of divorce in Nigerian communities? Remember education doesn't make you a wise or husband, also permit me to use this analogy, the fruit maybe attractive outside, it's the hidden worm inside you should worry about like you said it's a matter of choice .... Please any single ladies here, my mate his single with no baby mamas.... So msg me and I will send ur pics to him.. And you your credit rating has to be good [/b]
u don turn match maker ni?

Orubebe01:
Just wondering why majority of them always rush back home to marry when there are handful of Nigerian ladies where they reside. Does it mean that none of them are wife material or what.

mikegeo:
Bros lalasticlala. Can you answer this question?

aariwa:
Go to a Jamaican church and find a lady you like,if it works out marry her.They dont believe in divorce and unlike nigerian women they will cook for you,are loyal and respect your role as the head of the family whether you are rich or not.Many people from my hometown did that and it worked out,some even brought their own to nigeria and they are still living together after 30 years of marriage.Follow my advice and come here and thank me after 10 years of marriage

toshmann:


I agree.
The ones in Nigeria are more spoilt. Easy money can get them laid unlike girls abroad. But the hirks abroad dont take no shit from guys. And unfortunately, men dont like marrying competetors but companions. Girls abroad dont understand that the best way to control your man is by being submissive, that way you can ask him anything and he will do it.

claremont:
Naija women living overseas have become more westernized than the westerners themselves. This is why the average Nigerian man living abroad will rather marry a fat white woman than a Nigerian woman living overseas. I have seen and heard situations were Nigerian/African women have ruined the lives of promising young men by formulating fictitious tales of domestic abuse and rape, simply because they want to get hold of his assets.

armyofone:
me too.
Just off the plane and still finding my way around campus tunnel, computer labs, classroom, java/library and the abundant cafeterias on campus etc our brothers doing there PhD were already indirectly talking about marriage and "ring" is ready kinda talk.
Kinda like this one eye never open.
Brothers are cunny.

plaetton:


Spot on.

We all forget that there are things, evolutionarily honed character traits that make men different from women and which cements the social order.

Whereas men and women are and should be equal as human beings, they are not equal in social character traits.

Since the beginning, it's been not just a tradition, but an evolutionarily honed trait for women to marry up and men to marry down.

Call it insecurity, a complex or whatever you want to call it, the bottom line is that a man's ( African, Asian, middle Eastern, or white European) psyche is not hardwired for co-equal long term relationships with women.

Therefore, marrying a co-equal is a form of self-emasculation that modern society imposes on men.

And the consequences? High divorce rates in the West.

So, whether a lady has a great job, her one money, masters or PhD, makes no difference to African men still relish the old hierarchy where the man lies on top and the woman compliments him with her own feminine strengths right below.

Feminity is still a woman's greatest strength.

I find most African women abroad ditch their feminity for masculine attributes, calling themselves " strong women ".

The idea of intimacy and co-habitation with a " strong woman" is very unappealing to many men, Africans and non Africans .

So , at the end of the day, it is simple evolutionary biology at work, that make men, in this particular case, Nigerian men, seek humbler, home-bred women as lifemates.

FvckeDyoBiTch:
The Nigerians in Maryland are nothing to write home about.

Loud mouthed, foul mouthed, Use feminism to hide their stupidity_ and above all they are not appealing...They are as fake as Lai Mohammed...if not faker

Blessograo:
With what I read here, the ladies in China are totally different and well cultured.

adorablevic:
They think most of d girls are spoilt....and so dey comeover here looking for fresh ones not knowing d ones over here are worse

Mcjai:



Spot on. Presently dating one and i can tell you that Jamaican women are good wife materials.

waltinnovers:
Majority of Nigerian girls or ladies over there are runs babe, they fvck to live, and they don't hid it and these guys know very well what they are doing, so if they finally one to marry, the will come back here even though the ones here do fvck, it be seen as a local fvck still have some respect internationally but international fvcker don't have any more respect. They are it is finished as Jesus said.
Ka Chineke mesieee okwu
Saalam

chachanga:
[b]Boys will date, wine&dine even impregnate these ladies but still run back here for good old "home-loving" when marriage issues arises.

Apart from insane "family pressures" from home, it seems most, are, at heart still just akpu & ewedu boys when the chips are down .
Bone the Brooklyn swags & the Cockney accent; our socio-cultural source-points did do a few numbers on us in setting some future marital expectations &agendas for us also .

So, the situation gets further worsened when the said ladies too don't seem to realize that some changes do occur, but only trans-'generationally' and not instantaneously. So as for ur expecting Naija guys to fit the bill of your newfound, "enlightened" or "postmodern man concept, U go jonze tire !

Not many are comfortable with the extreme liberalism, feminism and women's rights practised and available to our sistahs naturalised abroad but they'll date & screw u just d same , only to dump u later or marry home-based Chichi, Enoh or Bola behind ur back!

Hence, You either get ready to search till you find that ur one-in-a-million guy OR you adjust your expectations and start learning to cook more than Chinese Noodles because if u do marry an Ewedu boy or his Akpu counterpart, my dear, you will cook.
And Cynthia, stop praying for your Mother-in-law to die . (the old woman probably attends MFM Church &she's got a few "Back2Sender" prayer-bullets for you too, in case u decide to be an assassin)!
I may be wrong sha but the fault goes both ways.

Girls: Don't nurse "unnecessary" expectations just because dat guy dey folow u do UK Masters.
Boys: Stop screwwing and "partying-hard" with those ladies if you know you'll use it to judge them later! [/b]

Bisjosh:


How?

GloriaNinja:
whatever.

GloriaNinja:
whatever.

Kingzy4pep:
You mean Nigerian ladies over there don't exhibit the attitudes being mentioned here?

Sijo01:
They marry the ones that do legit hustle i.e the ones with decent jobs not the ones that turned in between their legs to their workshop

DICKtator:
They travel abroad, start growing wings and are no longer submissive.

If the guy does anyhow they call police

When they divorce him ,they get all his stuffs

They become overexposed and carefree
They lose the African woman identity Fela spoke about

Not all though, some are just cool and virtuous.
And some of those that marry from Nigeria,they prefer leaving their wives in Nigeria so they don't have stories that touches to share!!!
Not all though,there are always exceptions to every case.

yomz1e:
I disagree bro, no woman wants a wasteman, everywoman wants security for herself and children, why do you think the rich marry rich? besides if she wants more , she's sees the potential in you to be greater. Those kind of girls you mentioned are everywhere white or black and maybe you too go show yourself as a big boy when you 1st met, and now you can't keep up with the big boy status , so don't blame the girl blame your own decision making. The fact is women are more enlightened , empowered and self achieving, so any wasteman feels threatened and can't keep up with them. atleast one thing you said is right , go Nija go marry. Good luck

busomma:
I am writing from point of experience having lived here in America for 29yrs. When it was time to marry 21yrs ago it was trendy to marry from Nigeria based on the false notion that real men marry real Nigerian girls cos of the difficulties in bringing the women down here to America. That trend has since shifted to "smart guys" marry Nigerian ladies in America for the simple fact that when Nigerian ladies arrive America,in a space of 3yrs,they tend to be more difficult to deal with than those that knows how the society functions. That's why there are so much cases of divorce among Nigerians in the U.S. Nigerian women in America are no worse than their Nigeria - residing counterparts. It's a matter of choice.

mikolo80:
form hero, die lonely with no husband

Naturalized:


Story of my life, I live in North America and while there are lots of Nigerian Ladies around with reputable families here and back home, some of us are (were always) attracted to ladies we've known from back home before we left, and see no reason not to go back for those ladies provided things work out. I have lots of good looking Nigerian females here but for some reason, If I had to make a choice between my female acquaintance in Nigeria and the ones here, I will pick the one back home over them, not so much for the location, but because of what I see and what I want.

Blessograo:

I've not seen any.