Would be fool hardy to practice abstinence with a Nigerian girl. One low life would be banging her silly and you'ld be day dreaming about your wedding night. Men hit the pum pum at every chance you get. Abstinence is a myth at best. Don't say you weren't warned.

Icecomrade:
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Stories we get from "Abstinence teachings" on social Media.

1. Help!!! My husband has a small ddick. What should I do?

2. Help!!! My Husband is a 1 minute man. He cannot satisfy me in bed. What should I do?

3. Help!!! My Wife does not like sex, I am tempted to go outside. What should I do?

4. Help!!! My Husband touches me once in 6 months since after our marriage. What should I do?

5. Help!!! My wife cries each time we make love. I am even afraid to touch her. What should I do?

6. Help!!! My husband has a weak eerection. I don't feel his ddick inside me. What should I do?

7. Help My wife is not Good in bed. She lies like a lug of wood. I don't enjoy sex with her . What should I do?


When you refused to check what your buying before you pay, please don't come to me for any silly advice. I have stopped contributing on threads on such topics for a very long time now.

Sexual compatibility is key to a successful marriage.

Be wise + Be smart

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Have you seen an original Perfume been tested before purchase? Do you ask to test a flight before paying for your Flight Ticket? the problem with this generation is the lack of proper communication and Gross Indiscipline. For those having sex before marriage will it make the man marry the girl? Will the fact that he pleases her before marriage mean he will keep pleasing her after marriage? As we fail to trust we have failed to improve. Only machines are tested before purchase, if you feel men and women alike are machines then test all the way. But what exactly do you gain after the immediate pleasure? Sex is worth waiting for.Also the topic of sex should be discussed before marriage.

Do You Know That There Are Amazing Answers To Questions About Sex, Courtship & Marriage That You Don't Know? See Here; especially number 5.

QUESTION 1
Should we have sex during courtship?

ANSWER 1
Capital No! That has been the case with many people who have courted for years. They are said to have been married enough before even proceeding to wed. So it is not allowed. Make sure you discuss these things during courtship. Three basic things to discuss during courtship are MONEY, SEX, and FAMILY. Run away from anyone who doesn’t talk during courtship. He or she has something to hide.

QUESTION 2
You said the biological features of a lady should be considered only after marriage. Would it be wrong to want to marry a girl because of her biological features as far as she is spiritually sound?

ANSWER 2
It is not wrong. But it shouldn’t be the primary requirement for marriage because biological features are variables and will surely change with age.

QUESTION 3
Relating the biblical concept of Levites marrying Levites to the present generation, does the idea suppose that as Christians, we are limited to choosing a wife or husband from our religious denomination alone? Or can we choose from any denomination as far as he or she is a Christian?

ANSWER 3
Cross-denominational marriage is not bad. But it is advisable to marry from the same denomination because both parties have acquired the same knowledge about marriage and can easily overcome marital challenges, unlike marrying someone from another denomination who has a different idea of marriage.

QUESTION 4
What if I don’t find a wife or husband among the maidens or gentlemen in my denomination? Do I just tie the nuts with anyone in my denomination?

ANSWER 4
If you are faithful to God in your denomination, He will provide you a suitable spouse; most likely from your denomination. He can also provide spouses from another denomination. That notwithstanding, it is still advisable to marry from the same denomination. Or from any branch of the same ministry because they hold the same orientation.

QUESTION 5
A lot of marriages crash because of sexual dissatisfaction. So how do potential spouses determine whether they are well equipped to satisfy each other sexually before marriage so that they don't marry and have to face issues of sexual dissatisfaction?

ANSWER 5
Read sex books by Christian authors. That will help you understand your body. That's how to you determine all you need to determine before marriage. NOT BY TESTING!

These are marriage principles you must follow if you don't want O.Y.O (On Your Own) to be your case!

Op, abstinence good ooh. We should be discussing about how not to be inconsistently abstinent, as is the case with many. We should also talk about how to remain completely abstinent, refraining from alternate forms of sex.

SIN is SIN no matter what. And never forget that Jesus is coming again. You don't wanna go to hell Cuz of sex and the likes. Thanks.

Aluta Continua. God help us all. Amen!

Olaadegbu being open-minded? Who knew the day would come? I was beginning to think you were a robot because no human can stay so close-minded.

Was the Holy Ghost abstinent even without marriage?

Is SEX not part of KNOWING somebody?
Why should it be THE DEFINING FACTOR IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR ANYONE?

Dis nor be Adam and Eve era o!

Hmmmmm! Do as I say Religion, not as I do!

Even the Poor Yusuf(Mr. Mary) never even saw Mary's underwIre! Yet a Saviour was born ever so ejaculately! The ODE husband was the only ABSTINENT MUMU for sure!

Irony of hypocrisy!

Dun even get me started! I dun like Religious Dummies!

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage.
Those who claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.
There must be some exceptions though.

not true...

Can someone please tell me more about this name I always see on nl.... Lalasticlala. Is he a real person or just a lizard?

abbeyfel:
Am sorry to ask this, but are you a virgin yourself?

It's a personal question

lilyqueen:


It's a personal question

Maybe I should have asked privately. my bad..

abbeyfel:
Maybe I should have asked privately. my bad..

Lol

jezuzboi:
Do You Know That There Are Amazing Answers To Questions About Sex, Courtship & Marriage That You Don't Know? See Here; especially number 5.

QUESTION 1
Should we have sex during courtship?

ANSWER 1
Capital No! That has been the case with many people who have courted for years. They are said to have been married enough before even proceeding to wed. So it is not allowed. Make sure you discuss these things during courtship. Three basic things to discuss during courtship are MONEY, SEX, and FAMILY. Run away from anyone who doesn’t talk during courtship. He or she has something to hide.

QUESTION 2
You said the biological features of a lady should be considered only after marriage. Would it be wrong to want to marry a girl because of her biological features as far as she is spiritually sound?

ANSWER 2
It is not wrong. But it shouldn’t be the primary requirement for marriage because biological features are variables and will surely change with age.

QUESTION 3
Relating the biblical concept of Levites marrying Levites to the present generation, does the idea suppose that as Christians, we are limited to choosing a wife or husband from our religious denomination alone? Or can we choose from any denomination as far as he or she is a Christian?

ANSWER 3
Cross-denominational marriage is not bad. But it is advisable to marry from the same denomination because both parties have acquired the same knowledge about marriage and can easily overcome marital challenges, unlike marrying someone from another denomination who has a different idea of marriage.

QUESTION 4
What if I don’t find a wife or husband among the maidens or gentlemen in my denomination? Do I just tie the nuts with anyone in my denomination?

ANSWER 4
If you are faithful to God in your denomination, He will provide you a suitable spouse; most likely from your denomination. He can also provide spouses from another denomination. That notwithstanding, it is still advisable to marry from the same denomination. Or from any branch of the same ministry because they hold the same orientation.

QUESTION 5
A lot of marriages crash because of sexual dissatisfaction. So how do potential spouses determine whether they are well equipped to satisfy each other sexually before marriage so that they don't marry and have to face issues of sexual dissatisfaction?

ANSWER 5
Read sex books by Christian authors. That will help you understand your body. That's how to you determine all you need to determine before marriage. NOT BY TESTING!

These are marriage principles you must follow if you don't want O.Y.O (On Your Own) to be your case!

Op, abstinence good ooh. We should be discussing about how not to be inconsistently abstinent, as is the case with many. We should also talk about how to remain completely abstinent, refraining from alternate forms of sex.

SIN is SIN no matter what. And never forget that Jesus is coming again. You don't wanna go to hell Cuz of sex and the likes. Thanks.

Aluta Continua. God help us all. Amen!

Lovely

Abstinence before marriage is possible for very young (17, 18 see 20). Beyond this age it is very difficult, they masturbate, which is also a sin I think. To observe this principle, it must be married early.

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Have you seen an original Perfume been tested before purchase? Do you ask to test a flight before paying for your Flight Ticket? the [/b]problem with this generation is the lack of proper communication and Gross Indiscipline. For those having sex before marriage will it make the man marry the girl? Will the fact that he pleases her before marriage mean he will keep pleasing her after marriage? As we fail to trust we have failed to improve. Only machines are tested before purchase, if you feel men and women alike are machines then test all the way. But what exactly do you gain after the immediate pleasure? Sex is worth waiting for.Also the topic of sex should be discussed before marriage.[/quote]

@Emboldened. I find your analogies very funny.

You pay for a what you perceive to be a good perfume, you dispose if it doesn't meet your expectations. Maybe you won't bother buying that brand again when you exhaust it.

You take a flight today nd their services don't meet your expectations, what do you do next you opt for another airline.
Did you think properly before bringing this analogy into marriage which is supposed to be life lasting?

What would have lack of communication resolve before marriage ? Tell your partner how much I want sex they do not have any idea about?
Or after marriage. Tell your partner to increase his ddick size or find energy to have sex twice a day?

I highlighted prevalent sex problems in marriage, did you address any of it?

No you just wrote another grammar that is no solution.

Seun:
Nobody practices abstinence before marriage.
Those who claim to be abstinent, if you investigate, are often doing everything except penetration.
There must be some exceptions though.

Oga seun can lie o, all in a bid to discredit Christians, that there are no true ones. If the bible says abstain then it must be obeyed. There are those who abstain and they are those who try to be unlike hypocrites. In this your post you just labeled everyone as hypocrites. Meanwhile a living witness is present here. Baba make you dey do this thing small small na. Haba.

abdulkayus:



Seun, dont say on what u dont have much knowledge on. There are a lot of ppl who do not even hug, kiss or romance talkless of sex during their courtship. Many are practising full celibacy and more will still continue. Cos the world is morally depraved shouldnt mean that we shld move castigate the right thing.

How about the mind, the few might have visualize it one way or the other. And according to the bible that ........?

Abstinence means don't touch that fruit at the Centre of the Garden until I say so. It's no longer Hypocrisy that we abstain, but continued Disobedience and outright flouting of the laws of Care, as in love yourselves as I love you that we don't abstain. Abstinence is Discipline to avoid insatiable rush and recklessness to crush Time. Time therefore, is the Essence of The Word that was with God at the Beginning. Abstinence is a Word of God. And I know that Atheists won't like that.

A thought provoking question...please find below my take (Christian perpective).

"Is Abstinence Before Marriage A Realistic Message?"

Yes and No

Yes, to those that are really the children of God (truly born-again, John 1:12), and are focused on obeying God's Word, (I.e., the Bible). Sometimes they are exposed to sexual-related temptations, but because their innermost desire is to please God, the grace to escape helps them out.

No, because the Word of God does not make any sense or meaning to any mortal man except that fellow allow the Holy Spirit to re-format the fellow's mind by the instrumentality of the Word of God. (Romans 12:1-2)

"Many people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching?"

"Many people" is not everybody. And just because some people are not adhering to this godly counsel doesn't mean people are not obeying. The Bible says that we can do nothing against the truth but for the truth. And since the Word of God says marriage is honourable in all and that the future marital bed should not be defiled, hence God would judge (Hebrews 13:4) and so, it should be taught.

Look at this scenerio:if you are presented with an unripe orange to eat/take, and very certain my brother that you would reject it. Why? Because it is unripe and the taste being acidic and sour would destroy your taste but and ultimately every other good you have love to eat. So why not take the unripe orange anyway since orange is a good nutritious fruit and people would always want to take it.

Check my signature, I have a detailed write up on this topic..

"Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic but it is instead old-fashioned and outraged!"

Seriously, who are the "many" that have made such declaration as you pointed out. Many of such "many" personalities have died. So why should we base out destiny and well being on such declaration that has no foundation? (and does not last). The Bible refers to such declaration as "grass" and "flowers" that does not last and the Bible says, " ...yes all people are like grass. Grass dies and wildflowers fall. But the Word of our God continues forever." (Isaiah 40: 9 -8, Easy-To-Read Bible Version.).

A wise child of God would pitch his/her tent with such proclamations from the Word of God. To build one's life around the declaration of mere mortal men no matter how brilliant, is asking for trouble (as we can witness with the troubles in most marriages today).

Listen carefully to this:

" In Christ all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are safely kept...I tell you these things so that no person can fool you by telling you ideas that seem good but are false. Be sure that no person leads you away with false ideas and words that mean nothing. Those ideas are worthless ideas of people in the world." (Colossians 2:3,4,8. Easy-to-read Bible version )

And lastly, you asked: "Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's hook-up culture?"

Bros, for peace to reign in our lives (including marriages ) we MUST adjust to the instructional manual of The Manufacturer (God Almighty), which the Word of God and not the other way round.

No matter the "hook-up culture" that you pointed out, abstinence before marriage is reasonable and healthy because the Word of God support it.

In conclusion, irrespective of what the "many" might have said or are saying, sex before marriage is not beautiful. HUMANS CANNOT FIND TRUE JOY BY BREAKING GOD'S LAW.

Marriage is not just a good idea; it is God's idea and for us to enjoy it and be fulfilled, we must take side with God's Word and not man.

Check my signature: by His grace I wrote extensively on this subject called abstinence from sex before marriage

Stay blessed and prosperous in Jesus name.

op u are a fool. if u are a loose cannon dat does not mean everyone is like u. i am 20. and have never done the madness u tink is normal to u. grow up

OLAADEGBU:


"Is abstinence before marriage a realistic message?" Most people are going to have sex anyway, so why bother even teaching abstinence?

Many in the modern culture have declared that sexual morality is dead, that abstinence isn't realistic, but it is instead old-fashioned and outdated. Is abstinence before marriage even reasonable in today's "hook-up culture"?

Suggested answer:

http://www.gotquestions.org/abstinence-before-marriage.html

onionsoup:




IT IS VERY POSSIBLE
I AM A WITNESS TO THAT AND IT PAYS A LOT TO ABSTAIN

Can you share with us why it pays a lot to abstain?

themall:


three churches and Christian organizations still insists on it

Can you name these churches and organisations that insists on abstinence before marriage?

bg0074real:


You do Ges.. Lol.
But on a serious note. Everybody is not doing it. Don't be fooled! I for one is practising abstinence

Thumbs up for your commitment.

obiaguna:


Would be fool hardy to practice abstinence with a Nigerian girl. One low life would be banging her silly and you'ld be day dreaming about your wedding night. Men hit the pum pum at every chance you get. Abstinence is a myth at best. Don't say you weren't warned.

Are you speaking out of experience or hearsay?

OLAADEGBU:


Can you share with us why it pays a lot to abstain?

You can hear it all offline

onionsoup:


You can hear it all offline

Don't be shy, share it with us so that we can learn from your experience.

OLAADEGBU:


Can you name these churches and organisations that insists on abstinence before marriage?

No 1: Deeper Life Christian Ministry

Abstinence is the best and most reasonable way

it is easy for ladies to abstain. Most of d guys saying it, i wish i can meet one of u cos out here is diff....99% of guys want sex




its annoying

yinkhar:
it is easy for ladies to abstain. Most of d guys saying it, i wish i can meet one of u cos out here is diff....99% of guys want sex




its annoying

sisi you were only fortunate to have been biologically made up that way, had it been you came as a man, you would have understood how uneasy to abstain from even mere hugging and other current taps

Just thank God for your gender,even the religious and the disciplined battles it secretly.

Jamean:


and I put it to you that some people are so committed to abstinence that they don't even embrace/hug each other, talk less of kissing or pre-intimacy. It's just like saying it is impossible to be great and affluent in life without been through formal education at any time in life, and that if you investigate they probably dropped out of school at some point.

The fact that it seems impossible to you doesn't mean people have not totally abstained in the past even till this present terrible end time.

Ok bye.

he went to modify his post, you for leave am na

Thanks for letting us know that he later modified his post. He knew that his initial statement could not be true.