OLAADEGBU:


Like practical tips that will help willing folks to abstain from sex until marriage.

Such as?

Fkhalifa:


we can only strive hard to get close to that purity state before marriage, not many will get that 100% purity...only few will be favoured in this end time.

How do you strive hard? Break it down for us if you don't mind so that others can learn from it.

eph12:


Such as?

Such as not putting ourselves in compromising situations.

obiaguna:


Would be fool hardy to practice abstinence with a Nigerian girl. One low life would be banging her silly and you'ld be day dreaming about your wedding night. Men hit the pum pum at every chance you get. Abstinence is a myth at best. Don't say you weren't warned.

Abstinence may be a myth if you don't add God to the equation. Abstinence is difficult if not possible without the grace of God.

OLAADEGBU:


How do you strive hard? Break it down for us if you don't mind so that others can learn from it.

get busy, be in midst of people, have a hobby like money making,game, participating in religious activities etc that will distract you,if the urge gets too extreme, ease off so as to avoid joining tge several and rampant rape cases on ground.

OLAADEGBU:


Does condom solve the emotional and spiritual baggage that comes with it?

. Bro, chill..B.P is real play safe!!!! I meant it in a sarcastic way, everyone knws d spiritual implications of sex without ones spouse....which is y I run away 4rm it, no matter hw much u preach it 2 some peeps, deu wnt ever heed u but instead bash u...

jezuzboi:


Do You Know That There Are Amazing Answers To Questions About Sex, Courtship & Marriage That You Don't Know? See Here; especially number 5.

QUESTION 1
Should we have sex during courtship?

ANSWER 1
Capital No! That has been the case with many people who have courted for years. They are said to have been married enough before even proceeding to wed. So it is not allowed. Make sure you discuss these things during courtship. Three basic things to discuss during courtship are MONEY, SEX, and FAMILY. Run away from anyone who doesn’t talk during courtship. He or she has something to hide.

QUESTION 2
You said the biological features of a lady should be considered only after marriage. Would it be wrong to want to marry a girl because of her biological features as far as she is spiritually sound?

ANSWER 2
It is not wrong. But it shouldn’t be the primary requirement for marriage because biological features are variables and will surely change with age.

QUESTION 3
Relating the biblical concept of Levites marrying Levites to the present generation, does the idea suppose that as Christians, we are limited to choosing a wife or husband from our religious denomination alone? Or can we choose from any denomination as far as he or she is a Christian?

ANSWER 3
Cross-denominational marriage is not bad. But it is advisable to marry from the same denomination because both parties have acquired the same knowledge about marriage and can easily overcome marital challenges, unlike marrying someone from another denomination who has a different idea of marriage.

QUESTION 4
What if I don’t find a wife or husband among the maidens or gentlemen in my denomination? Do I just tie the nuts with anyone in my denomination?

ANSWER 4
If you are faithful to God in your denomination, He will provide you a suitable spouse; most likely from your denomination. He can also provide spouses from another denomination. That notwithstanding, it is still advisable to marry from the same denomination. Or from any branch of the same ministry because they hold the same orientation.

QUESTION 5
A lot of marriages crash because of sexual dissatisfaction. So how do potential spouses determine whether they are well equipped to satisfy each other sexually before marriage so that they don't marry and have to face issues of sexual dissatisfaction?

ANSWER 5
Read sex books by Christian authors. That will help you understand your body. That's how to you determine all you need to determine before marriage. NOT BY TESTING!

These are marriage principles you must follow if you don't want O.Y.O (On Your Own) to be your case!

Op, abstinence good ooh. We should be discussing about how not to be inconsistently abstinent, as is the case with many. We should also talk about how to remain completely abstinent, refraining from alternate forms of sex.

SIN is SIN no matter what. And never forget that Jesus is coming again. You don't wanna go to hell Cuz of sex and the likes. Thanks.

Aluta Continua. God help us all. Amen!

Amen! This is a brilliant response to questions asked on this thread. You can go ahead to give us tips on how to be 'completely abstinent, refraining from alternate forms of sex' as you succinctly put it.

Fkhalifa:


get busy, be in midst of people, have a hobby like money making,game, participating in religious activities etc that will distract you,if the urge gets too extreme, ease off so as to avoid joining tge several and rampant rape cases on ground.

What do you mean by phrase 'ease off'?

cliquevibes:


. Bro, chill..B.P is real play safe!!!! I meant it in a sarcastic way, everyone knws d spiritual implications of sex without ones spouse....which is y I run away 4rm it, no matter hw much u preach it 2 some peeps, deu wnt ever heed u but instead bash u...

I got it.

OLAADEGBU:


Abstinence may be a myth if you don't add God to the equation. Abstinence is difficult if not possible without the grace of God.

Well said brother .

OLAADEGBU:


Why did you say a low rate of heart break is not correct for those who abstain?

abstaining from sex doesnt mean u cant get ur hrt broken

OLAADEGBU:


The individuals involved.

End of discussion. Thanks

OLAADEGBU:


Such as not putting ourselves in compromising situations.

I thought you were on about something new. Is this not part of the abstinence message?

KingEbukasBlog:


Well said brother .

Thanks. Remain blessed.

miketayo:


abstaining from sex doesnt mean u cant get ur hrt broken

True that. But it wouldn't be as bad as when sex has been involved.

Ghost447:


End of discussion. Thanks

You are welcome.

OLAADEGBU:


True that. But it wouldn't be as bad as when sex has been involved.

hmmm it all depends on the person's personality. some virgins gurls can be so emotional.

eph12:


I thought you were on about something new. Is this not part of the abstinence message?

Yes it is. Give us more tips that will make abstinence easy to practise.

miketayo:


hmmm it all depends on the person's personality. some virgins gurls can be so emotional.

They should rather thank God that they still got their chastity intact.

OLAADEGBU:


Is it alright for the man to 'get it' while the lady abstains?

The ideal situation is that they both do Abstain from Sex

Abstinence is better for developing a more intimate connection with a person

solasoulmusic:


The ideal situation is that they both do Abstinence is better for developing a more intimate connection with the person

Would it still be acceptable for ladies if the situation is not ideal?

OLAADEGBU:


Yes it is. Give us more tips that will make abstinence easy to practise.

There are no easy ways out of this. Sex is thrown at our faces at every turn. Self discipline is key.

OLAADEGBU:


Would it still be acceptable for ladies if the situation is not ideal?

Not Ideal as per what ...you have to give instances i personally in my life would rather remain faithful cause Thats what God wants

can you elaborate on what you see as not ideal ...

solasoulmusic:


Not Ideal as per what ...you have to give instances i personally in my life would rather remain faithful cause Thats what God wants

can you elaborate on what you see as not ideal ...

If follows that the situation that is not ideal would be when one or both partners do not abstain.

eph12:


There are no easy ways out of this. Sex is thrown at our faces at every turn. Self discipline is key.

Thanks for raising that point, but would self discipline be enough? Is that the message that we should preach?

OLAADEGBU:


If follows that the situation that is not ideal would be when one or both partners do not abstain.

This is very common. However we are all different and some attain a higher level of spiritual wisdom before others. That person has to live with that and the insecurity that comes with that

having sex recklessly is just evidence of lack of discipline and self control

your job is to love them and still be faithful in the end we will all face judgement

solasoulmusic:


This is very common. However we are all different and some attain a higher level of spiritual wisdom before others. That person has to live with that and the insecurity that comes with that

having sex recklessly is just evidence of lack of discipline and self control

your job is to love them and still be faithful in the end we will all face judgement

How will you go about teaching this message of abstinence in this hook up culture? Is it enough to say that you don't abstain at your own risk?

OLAADEGBU:


How will you go about teaching this message of abstinence in this hook up culture? Is it enough to say that you don't abstain at your own risk?

I don't go about teaching it

I just live it simple I am not God so I can't change a person however I can stay away from anyone that does

OLAADEGBU:


Amen! This is a brilliant response to questions asked on this thread. You can go ahead to give us tips on how to be 'completely abstinent, refraining from alternate forms of sex' as you succinctly put it.

Follow this link to see how I practically stayed clear from all forms of sex.

https://www.nairaland.com/2175592/ogechi#31242557

OLAADEGBU:


For you and your likes, abstinence will be unrealistic without God but with God all things are possible.

What do you mean for me and my likes? My likes are honest with ourselves, we are not hypocrites like your likes. How many of your likes were virgins when you got married? How many of your types did not engage in pre-Marital sex before marriage? If virginity tests can be carried out for men prior to marriage, i am sure 99% of your likes would fail the test.

As i said, it is impractical if not impossible for a man marrying at a ripe old age of 35 and above never to have engaged in premarital sex. Same for a lady marrying at 30 years and above.

charix:


Olaadegbu being open-minded? Who knew the day would come? I was beginning to think you were a robot because no human can stay so close-minded.

What do you mean being close minded? How and why do you think I was close minded?