It seems you have a choice to make:

A. Stay married to a man who obviously has no respect or even love for you.

B. Divorce him and hope you get someone who will love and respect you OR at least have peace of mind as a single mother.

If your choice is B then you need to act fast - get a lawyer and protect the interest of your child. However, if you chose option A then you should prepare yourself for this life. Go and talk to his mother, to find out how she was able to cope with your father-in-laws philandering ways. Your mother-in-law will be the best resource if you choose to stay with this good for nothing man.

Common dear, don't be kidding. Condom is used for so many things. So it's not what u are thinking.

You should be happy he's playing safe






The Lord is Ur strength

He's using it so that he won't get infected with STD or impregnate someone else and give to you.
By the way, this is your own side of the story, let us know his side...

Cheating is the default mode in some men. So for him to use protection, means he loves you enough to sacrifice skin-to-skin pleasure.

Advice don finish here na, nne choose any of them and do what you are supposed to do.. . But as you behave well, may God strengthen you more and more

overlook it abeg, it's only for protection against accidents, suicide bombers, plane crash nd most importantly spray bullets

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

So naa only wallet and you dey para? Condom full all corners of my house and it has not caused any issue with my wife.
I advise all men to have it in the house

Madam at this poinnt na God sure pass ooh take it to God in prayer. He still in the business of answering prayers

Your husband is a yoruba man. Then his behaviour and the response of his family is not surprising.
Good-luck.

adviseseeker:
Per week I meant to write. She doesn't have a job FOR NOW as we both agreed to that. I am my own boss and work from home 90% of the time.

She needs to sit up . But, what is your attitude with her at home? Some times, women respond sexually according to how happy they are in their marriages. Same with men too. So, how do you guys treat each other when not having sex?

@op,
You knew all these and yet, you married him? I guess you were hoping he would change abi?

This is really serious, my advice for you is to start your work back this days a man can not take the responsibility of family alone. By that you won't be depending on him. Try to check what makes him angry with you and correct it and put stop to arguments. Lastly prayer should be paramount.

two yr marriage. am afraid he may break yr heart or marry.overlook or quit.endure till when?HIV.u are still young to this nonsense. no love.ur decision though

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

You need me,send me a pm

adviseseeker:
Per week I meant to write. She doesn't have a job FOR NOW as we both agreed to that. I am my own boss and work from home 90% of the time.

And she doesnt give you enough sex? Something is wrong. If we are always at home together 90 percent of the time ama fvck your brains out mehn....How long have you been married?

Overlook it and also look inwards to figure out what you're not doing right in his eyes but hey looks like you're married to a #YorubaDeamon?

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

Those saying you saw the signs and still went into it have forgotten that humans can't be predicted although ladies this day's fall for cheap things and neglect the core values that would make a relationship work. Op ask God for direction, stop reporting him to anyone, it's bad..be submissive if you were not, and be strong.

Use gun on him

madam please poison the man he Is an he goat.

You are lucky he is even using condoms, best you can do now is seek a divorce or accept his lifestyle simple, you can even try have a more open 'marriage' which will always you two keep more partners but make sure you still take care of your family responsibilities

just overlook it or divorce. i still dont understand y pple r desperate to get married

hmmmmm,

just throw way face and carry stick waka.


men are all the same,

only 0.5 percent are clean

Wow...cant imagine how you feeling,my advice?pray for him and be patient if you can,may God help you

Its wa O. Abeg, both of you need counseling.
Why are peoe acting line they are slow brained? If she and her husband use condoms when being I timate, would she be here wondering g who he is using it for? Abeg make una use small brain add two and two together sometimes Na.

handysuzy:


And she doesnt give you enough sex? Something is wrong. If we are always at home together 90 percent of the time ama fvck your brains out mehn....How long have you been married?

1 year plus

See my thread to understand better.

https://www.nairaland.com/3371723/need-matured-advise-married-nairalanders

How many kids u got? U have any agreement with ur husband about family planning? These question shud be enof to guide u on what u shud do? If no,den what on earth is ur husby doing with condom,and prior to his statements about other chicks. May God guide u

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

please madame try and look inwards, there must be something you are not doing right. if you guys didnt start like this, something must have pushed him out.

@CuteMorriz - Just to draw your attention from the ''Why you should never marry a child raised by single parents'' thread. I believe the poster's husband is a child of regular parenting and his parents encourage his lifestyle.

Peace Out