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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 12:37pm On Oct 04, 2016
Madam witch of d light tongue lol.d book "power of d subconciuos mind" does it talk abt wavelenght frequency bla bla too?

missjo:

I'm terribly sorry,i really would have sent it if I had the eBooks. I read most of them in hard copy.
But I figure you may be able to get them online if you search on Google.

Just search for books by JOSEPH MURPHY. I already listed some of them:
- Amazing laws of cosmic mind power
- Psychic perception - the magic of extrasensory power
- The cosmic power within you
- Secrets of the I Ching

There are many others as well, be sure to read a review of the books to get the one that will most cater to what you need.


Edited:
I just saw a post by cescky. Get in touch with this person, I saw where he/she says they have a copy of 'Power of the Subconscious Mind'.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by missjo(f): 12:38pm On Oct 04, 2016
justiz5:


Was expecting you to mention this book ''Why you behave the way you do''

**Melancholy**
I mentioned Lahaye's work in that comment.i believe this book is authored by him, right?

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ekesol: 12:44pm On Oct 04, 2016
Hello
The most important thing in finding the right partner is having to see it as one thing that come from God.
My name is Solomon, i would like to have your contact details so that we both take it from there.
We can further discuss to know what we want for our selves.
I can be reached at 08068529043.
God willing it shall work foe both of us.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 12:44pm On Oct 04, 2016
Thanks sir, but i also heard being too specific while praying isnt too good. Ps; im a practising muslim.

Peterside7:
As a Yoruba man, I wedded at 44yrs, why? My first two cars were bought by women, yet I was not in love. I read a book by Brian Tracy that helped my thinking and aid my prayer pattern. When you want to ask God for a life partner, be more detailed. Be more specific. The color, height, education, background, character, disposition to life, religion, the values and ethos. Anything and everything you want or desire from your would be husband. Before the book sorry I forgot the title, I borrowed it, got a jotter and took notes. Before the book, I prayed on generic terms. God, give me a beautiful, dutiful, faithful and God fearing wife. For years, I have girlfriends, I even lost count nd forgot some names. But with proper tailoring of my desired wife, I met my wife and we wedded about six years ago and till date, I never cheat on my wife, why? Because I love her more everyday. Before now, I don't keep girlfriends for upto six months. Take my advise, you are still young, feel good about yourself, keep an open mind, pray in a more specific manner, and it will come to pass.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by blazer234: 12:44pm On Oct 04, 2016
Eddodoh:

Some nairaland guys don't have sympathy instead they would complicate her situation.


That's exactly the problem.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by missjo(f): 12:45pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
Madam witch of d light tongue lol.d book "power of d subconciuos mind" does it talk abt wavelenght frequency bla bla too?

Lol,he called me a witch na and I accepted. cheesy

The book talks about using and mastering the subconscious, how to connect to people, be a better person all round.
I can't remember if it mentions frequencies though,but the book will serve anyone looking to grow in human interactions and relations.

This writer here talks a little about frequency/wavelengths
https://www.ntnu.edu/news/on-the-same-wavelength
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by blazer234: 12:50pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
Thanks sir, but i also heard being too specific while praying isnt too good. Ps; im a practising muslim.


You may not like my suggestion. What about you approaching (though subtly) the guys that you like?

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 12:51pm On Oct 04, 2016
you will surely get married.. Everything created is both in good and evil buh still i wish am as lucky as you, getting everything you ask God for.. my dear you've bn asking and He's bn giving so trust me there's a big reason for this, its either its your cross or something. buh all the same, you've still got to pray, ask and remind Him of His promises he will surely answer you someday. please dont let your desperation push you to your death.. and i have this advice, since girls dont love immediately in relationship, try bring closer to yourself like at least 5 or more guys at a time on a friendship or even relationship ground. no matter how hard to get your emotions are, it will surely let loose for one of them just always remember why you bring them closer and tread gently between them.
its always crazy when people you love are not in same shoes with you. i once almost commit suicide for that reason. it has always bn happening to me too.
all the best dear
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by blazer234: 12:52pm On Oct 04, 2016
ekesol:
Hello
The most important thing in finding the right partner is having to see it as one thing that come from God.
My name is Solomon, i would like to have your contact details so that we both take it from there.
We can further discuss to know what we want for our selves.
I can be reached at 08068529043.
God willing it shall work foe both of us.

She isn't looking for husband. She is seeking for advice. Didn't you read her post properly?
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by KevMitnick: 12:58pm On Oct 04, 2016
sconp:
how well do you love social engineering
Nope, I've got no love for that. grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by chronique(m): 1:13pm On Oct 04, 2016
Now that you agree there's a problem and we can identify ourselves,can I move in? Hopefully,we shouldn't have that problem again. grin
seizethaBae:
My broda in d lord grin. i tink am gonna get a freelance P.A to read all my pms. grin. how i wan fish out my husband from hundreds of pms in my inbox sef? i no even bother open am. Interested freelance P.A pls holla at ur girl.

Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:14pm On Oct 04, 2016
would really love to hide behind my computer and start a nasty exchange of words with you,but i wont stoop so low. you know y? i just took my time to read all ur comments on nairaland and it clearly shows how 'crafty' you are picking up arguments. Wish you well son.

Nigayoyo:


Dear, I could have suggested hooking you up with some of my friends but your written English needs adjustment. First try working on that since you also want intelligent guys!

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by JeffreyJamez(m): 1:18pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
oya, u are officially my freelance P.A.*fist bump* I hereby hand over my inbox to you. we must find d one by fire by force oo, 50% OFF I.V abi? no wahala.


Oya na!....who are the kind of people we are looking for... Make we trim the applicants and narrow them down to top 10! grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by JeffreyJamez(m): 1:19pm On Oct 04, 2016
KingTom:
my mail Don crash cry

You better Uncrash it o! angry
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:29pm On Oct 04, 2016
whoooppp whoooppp. Look who is here! grin

Seun:
It's not about being choosy; its far better to be choosy and marry the right person. You probably aren't looking in the right places. Be tactical.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by nopretense: 1:31pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired
u said d guys u dn't like r d ones dat like u, nd d ones u like, do not like u... (wat a world!) judging by this, pple that said u r choosy myt b right afterall. What u dn't knw is, it is beta to b wt smone dat loves u, dan to b with someone that u love. Also, love is deliberate; u can any any relationship work, if u really want to. All you need is emotional intelligence nd committment.
ULTIMATELY, God seems to have been giving you success stories. I like to say God's time is the best. Are you born again? Keep praying, GOD HAS THE BEST FOR YOU. There's nothing like delay in God's agenda, you will have it when the time comes.....
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by mastermaestro(m): 1:34pm On Oct 04, 2016
yetseyi:


1000likes
I just had to log in to quote you for reference purposes grin

Thanks a bunch. smiley
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 1:36pm On Oct 04, 2016
missjo:

You have an ex who you say is PERFECT,still you could not love him.

My diagnosis is that you operate on a peculiar wavelength that isn't common, trust me I know what I'm saying. Every human has a wavelength they operate on. If you were to put on an eye apparatus that is capable of detecting frequencies and sending the visual to your eye,you will understand what I'm saying.

A lot of people operate on similar wavelengths that may have different frequencies,but the catch is that these frequencies can superimpose on each other and blend. Your case is that you have a totally different frequency as well as wavelength from most normal people. Yes you are not normal!

Don't get mad yet,that you're not normal is not bad,it just means you're part of the less than 5% of people in the entire planet who fall under this category. I've met one other guy like that on this forum,cant mention his moniker so he doesn't bite my head off but I follow him. These group of people actually find it hard picking someone to get married to because there is always a fault to be noticed no matter how PERFECT the person is.

I'm going to guess that you're an ambivert,i.e a combination of introvert and extrovert. Another guess is that u like to read anything and everything, and you find that most people do not really understand you even part of your own family. Another guess is that your close friends are very few,as in VERY few and you haven't made new friends in a while. Most of your friends are old friends.
I also guess that you're someone who can have sex with someone and not add emotions to it,i mean just for the fun of it.

All guesses sha,so correct me on the wrong ones.

The solution is this,you should understand that for people like you, love is not what you need to marry. You only need to marry someone whom you would like enough not to see their faults or someone who is on the exact same frequency and wavelength as you,the latter is harder.

Are you into the science field,or do you just see yourself liking anything that has to do with figuring out how things work? smiley
I am in the science field and many traits you mentioned here apply to me. Although I'm a guy, I'd a similar problem with the OP in finding a soul mate. After several years of searching for love, I finally found her surprisingly -- when I least expected.

More often than not, I think people who face this kind of problem tend to detect flaws easily in any potential suitors. I used to do that too.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:38pm On Oct 04, 2016
Thanks for accepting d free job Papi. Not necessarily a certain class of people,i get as i be jare, he might even be a startup with legedes benz sef and i will pick him over a range rover owner. he sha shld not be too fat abeg. shey we should post an email acct where all d applicant can sent their Curriculum Vitae with their picture(s) attached/or a means where we can chat up d prospective d one grin Then we can narrow down to top 10 as suggested.whoop whoop.The search is on!
ps:im well damn serious.

JeffreyJamez:


Oya na!....who are the kind of people we are looking for... Make we trim the applicants and narrow them down to top 10! grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by mastermaestro(m): 1:39pm On Oct 04, 2016
onossnaomi:
thanks for dis,i just hope she will understand dis major point of marriage

Thank you too.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by andyanders: 1:41pm On Oct 04, 2016

Nigayoyo:


Dear, I could have suggested hooking you up with some of my friends but your written English needs adjustment. First try working on that since you also want intelligent guys!

I think you need to grow up herein. In her position and state of mind, she abbreviated and shortened her message she passed herein. If you cannot understand or accommodate that, you can stay off her post.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by 2funkyy(f): 1:42pm On Oct 04, 2016
From most of the comments am reading here guys are saying you are playing hard to get, while ladies are saying be patient he will come,but these things are easier said than done, truth is you cant date who you don't like (except with conditions), and patience is really hard when everyone around you is constantly telling you 'go and get married you are getting old oh'.
I am of the same age with the op and i understand to an extent, what she is going through cos am going through the same thing. i am not even picky my sis even tells me my standards are too low yet its hard to connect with guys that like me and hard for guys i like to connect with me.

The way i see it there are several ways to things in life,there is just no one way to anything,everyone has their own story what worked for you might not work for someone else, so to each person their own destiny.l pray and hope that i meet the one am destined for.

op i sent you a message,kindly reply will like to be chatmates wink

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Flawlessangel(m): 1:43pm On Oct 04, 2016
sisisioge:


I have actually just signed up in a monastery tongue

lmao, i see you have a good sense of humour, am sure when a guy gets to know the real you, he would fall head over heels in love with you
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by JeffreyJamez(m): 1:43pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
Thanks for accepting d free job Papi. Not necessarily a certain class of people,i get as i be jare, he might even be a startup with legedes benz sef and i will pick him over a range rover owner. he sha shld not be too fat abeg. shey we should post an email acct where all d applicant can sent their Curriculum Vitae with their picture(s) attached/or a means where we can chat up d prospective d one grin Then we can narrow down to top 10 as suggested.whoop whoop.The search is on!
ps:im well damn serious.


Not only pictures.... A 2 min video clip too.(to know how serious they are)... And when we get the Top 10...they will answer a set of 10 psychological questions to determine thier level of intelligence........ and of course, Sanity! grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 1:43pm On Oct 04, 2016
Spirit of Pride detected.!!! cool
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by andyanders: 1:45pm On Oct 04, 2016
Seun:
It's not about being choosy; its far better to be choosy and marry the right person. You probably aren't looking in the right places. Be tactical.
Seun, you nailed it. She is gonna find her right man if she gets herself to the places.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 1:46pm On Oct 04, 2016
Flawlessangel:


lmao, i see you have a good sense of humour, am sure when a guy gets to know the real you, he would fall head over heels in love with you

cheesy cheesy thanks Angel.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:47pm On Oct 04, 2016
im so sorry to hear abt ur friend,may her soul RIP. what abt d baby? it is well. will surely let u guys know wen i find him. grin
dovelike:

Your write up brought tears to my eyes. I am 21 but seriously considering becoming a career woman...I don't know if Christians are allowed undecided
Let us know when you find him kiss kiss
Or when you find a balance

My married friend died recently during childbirth. I stopped trying to impress people..the pressure ladies are in though...beginning to dislike guys...stopped eye contacts grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:48pm On Oct 04, 2016
okay,i will
2funkyy:
From most of the comments am reading here guys are saying you are playing hard to get, while ladies are saying be patient he will come,but these things are easier said than done, truth is you cant date who you don't like (except with conditions), and patience is really hard when everyone around you is constantly telling you 'go and get married you are getting old oh'.
I am of the same age with the op and i understand to an extent, what she is going through cos am going through the same thing. i am not even picky my sis even tells me my standards are too low yet its hard to connect with guys that like me and hard for guys i like to connect with me.

The way i see it there are several ways to things in life,there is just no one way to anything,everyone has their own story what worked for you might not work for someone else, so to each person their own destiny.l pray and hope that i meet the one am destined for.

op i sent you a message,kindly reply will like to be chatmates wink
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:50pm On Oct 04, 2016
you are the right guy for d job. *fistbump*
JeffreyJamez:


Not only pictures.... A 2 min video clip too.(to know how serious they are)... And when we get the Top 10...they will answer a set of 10 psychological questions to determine thier level of intelligence........ and of course, Sanity! grin
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 1:56pm On Oct 04, 2016
y not kuku tell me to go on a date with almost 200 guys that sent pms, mayb we shld hand over d 'ultimate search' to u sef, they will post a 2min video clip and u will scrutinise for me.

onossnaomi:
U CAN C Y SHE IS AVIN DIS MAN-ISSUE NOW.thank u so much 4 ur reply to her
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by brainzbee(m): 1:57pm On Oct 04, 2016
my sister i understand ur predicament. i dnt hv much time to write bt all i cn tell u is that, u need to go for counselling. perhaps i cn help u cuz counselling people on areas were they have challenges is wat i do..dnt think of money as a challenge. if u re interested call 07036179367.

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