chachanga:


I took pains to quote y'all because you people made sense die; unlike some other talking airheads.

It's not always about the other partner having trust issues. In a marriage, the two people are supposed to demonstrate high degrees of maturity and sense of responsibility, after all, you're probably preparing for Parenting and transfering your values to a whole bunch of "mini-"you's", right?
It stands to reason then that marriage is supposed to be "serious business for matured minds", right?
So, what happens to assisting and safeguarding your spouse from "their" inner demons and long strings of "Furrk-And-No-Pay" groupie FWB's & "edible caterers"? See, chatting crap is easiest when folks aren't the ones on the hot-seats so I wasn't surprised to see folks who would want high levels of fidelity later on in their marriages not demonstrating the necessary willingness to step up and deploy the appropriate amounts of guts and common-sense needed to help their spouses, if the need arises!

Changing the SIM shouldn't be more of an issue if it came from a mindset of care. Is it everyone who gets married who's 100% in their right minds? Yo ladies, what if your own E-Money's a recovering sexxx-addict? What about the compulsive-behavior dudes? The addictive gamblers, AA-drunkards, druggies, Kleptos who were willing to get help?
What about those who, weren't even willing but, had someone with enough "tough-love" to stand with them while handing them enough ammunition to kill off their inner demons? R'Kelly/Kirk-Franklin I-Need-An-Angel anyone?

Even sincere people who know they've got questionable past lives and wouldn't want the seedy messiness of their pasts, getting into and, fouling up their newly-achieved blissful utopias have taken such initiatives by themselves, to let such bygones be bygones, instead of some id10t with a broken-screen iTel phone to come and wreck them with sexts and other embarrassing sturvs.

But, it's sad that some spouses, women inclusive, love walking the "danger-lines" toying with the sh!tty relics of their past lives. They hold on to past garbage and use it to threaten the safety of your present life and future happiness, while still claiming love; which kain love, kwa?
Which furrking love are you claiming to have for your spouse when you can't even make up your mind about moving forwards with them, without your seedy past lives dragging you backwards? If YOU DON'T HAVE THE SINCERITY AND COMMON SENSE TO BREAK OFF THAT SIM YOURSELF, YOU'RE A FAKE; AND A JOKER WITH A RING!

So, me I don't see why pple go dey form "maturity" while being just st00pidly apologetic. Dem dey fall hand dey demonstrate "mumu-ish" political correctness. See, If you were not ready to get married and stay faithful, why go through the charade of tying the knot and requiring the exclusivity binding with marital vows?
OR, why not simply go for the open relationship types. Sit your spouse down and script out a prenup that'd allow you both to dey 'chop your kponmo' per time when the need arises ?

Personally, If I'd done all that 2go/Badoo bangbros-furkfesst kinda shyt that'd make my spouse nervous and I was getting hitched, mehn, I'd cut y'all off pretty quick so fast your heads would still be spinning when your arrsses hit the floor if that would make my queen happy and safe but people? People just be forming nice!
Ok o, just remember that "People forming nice and allowing furrkked up sheit is what's being getting them shot to sh!t since 1805, mtccheeww !

Bros, you try o; make sense die.
How persin go marry a "repented-olosho" wey hin nor go padlock am?
Marry Aisha wey no fit say no and you still dey allow her to visit her old "parade-grounds' alone ? You don ready to father bastard be dat.

Trust is very important in marriage. If you have been in other relationship before settling down and you feel they could be a hindrance to your marriage, you don't need need to wait for your partner to change your sim card, you yourself should do that to avoid unnecessary suspision

He is right, she's his property now

The rate at which some ladies answer calls, you will be wondering if they're GLO customer care

Change yourself rather than to change your sim.

Whatever will make ur marriage last, please do it.....

Yes so that u can avoid all the guys u ve slept with in the past from bothering u. Some people can never stop bothering u

It's not that necessary bcus there ara many people ways again that she/he can reach. It's only God can save it.

wetin concern me

My candid opinions any marriage that will require the change of sim is already in a mess and big trouble for lack of trust.

Not a big deal if he trusts her.I don't even understand this their situation sha but I've friends who changed their sim after marriage (some did it personally) because they usually get a lot of phone calls, attimes mostly from the opposite sex.
He said she gets called almost 5-5 minutes,though I'm sure it's an exaggeration but it can be really annoying...just sitting with your wife and she keeps getting calls (maybe even irrelevantly) from the opposite sex;even you as a woman wouldn't like that if your husband was to be receiving calls from the opposite sex like that,not because you don't trust him ..you're just being jealous.
If I'm to be in that situation,I'll change my sim even before he does.

We always attribute almost everything to trust;him feeling uncomfortable doesn't mean he doesn't trust his wife,he maybe just doesn't like it.I wouldn't either...I can't stand my husband receiving too much calls from ladies.
Infact even if it isn't from the opposite sex,it's just not proper for you to keep being on the phone when we're together.Some people make too much phone calls,at the wrong and right times.Same thing with social media.

Highly unnecessary....

Will the man change his sim too?

rowanMama:
Well,some newly weds do that but IMO, if the lady has to change her sim the man should do same too.

Chai!! !!
See gender equality for my own house and na me marry U the woman o, no be say na U marry me... . Anyways, some men can leave a lot for God.
Ka Chineke Mezie Okwu.

Why will your phone be ringing every 5minutes? You be MTN customer care agent ni?

I won't even marry you if I notice such behaviour in you.

I can't come and go and have hypertension because of some broad.

What if she has attended so many job interviews and expecting a call from any of them?

ihedioramma:
it is good . if you have boys/girls friends befor you marry is good to change it because of problem with your wife or husband .

Some girls keep toasters as friends, because the guy is playing nice and cool, and any guy that have interest will always play cool,

Some have over 200 numbers in there phone list... Both girls and boys... The important number in that list is not upto 7, but yet she still keep them save

('Ladies)There some people you need to cut off when you get married especially old toaster you call friends and some girlfriends too. Ex-boyfriend, nightstand, crush, etc

Ladies, how will you expein a text message. Stating
''Am missing you baby ''
I feel like holding you close,
I cant wait to see you again, please forgive me.
Can you come over please we need to talk. Am really sorry.

From a stupid Ex. After much highness.

Change sim or not is not the issue here

Anybody that her phone rings by the minute encourages it, change sim and after a while they will start again
My phone use to ring crazily cos I liked it, yes it made me feel important but right now my personal line hardly rings cos I don't really appreciate petty talks, gossip or cheap attention...... yes most regular calls boils down to gossip

Firmlogger:
what dah heck?
So,if your friends and families are calling you and it isn't going through,you will tell them,you married?

Haba!

You posted a topic, why not allow people react the way the feel? have you ever see where complainant becomes a judge in the same case?

For me I support it because such instance has destroyed so many marriage, only for the woman to start crying like an orphan telling you it's the devil's work as if devil do give phone.

yes if she was a runs girl before the wedding.

mekani:
My candid opinions any marriage that will require the change of sim is already in a mess and big trouble for lack of trust.

Ask her age??

Some girls think like kids... They dont understand there row, some still keep old toasters as friends.

Receive useless calls.. Keep useless numbers on there phone list.

You only need to correct that, because she dont understand, and also dont know what she is doing

She need you to guide her,

The way people easily change SIM makes me feel that from the onset, their SIM(number) is as worthless as gabage and mainly used for cheap boyfriend-girlfried runs.

I still don't know what on earth will make me change my SIM number that I have used to register for all my official and unofficial activities to include but not limited to my banks, emails, online and offline applications, my Google accounts, Facebook, in fact on everything that might require me someday to verify my account with my number.

So tell me how will you start going one after the other updating all these if you are the type that changes number?

My phone number is like my passbook to success and opportunities. Unless your SIM is mainly used for boyfriend-girlfried runs or illegalities then changing your number can be as easy as it is to those who do so every now and then.

Haba.. That's extreme ahbeg, why would you change my sim card after marriage fah.. So, i should lose contact with my loved ones cuz i wanna please husby... Mo gbagbe nih

correctyourself:


You posted a topic, why not allow people react the way the feel? have you ever see where complainant becomes a judge in the same case?

For me I support it because such instance has destroyed so many marriage, only for the woman to start crying like an orphan telling you it's the devil's work as if devil do give phone.

Seriously Are you for real?

steppin:
Not advisable....you can always blacklist unwanted calls.

pls how can one blacklist and unblacklist a contact.... Thanks

Not necessary even if you block all her other forms of communication like fb,twitter etc the oloshoish wife will still be oloshoing except she repent and learn to comport

The Woman should realize that she is now Married, circle reshuffle is what she needs..

pearlejiro:
switching sim cards would be better option...(husband takes the wife's and vice versa).
That will accommodate any possibility of missing important calls...
And most importantly and effectively...kill any thirsty demon wanting to put asunder.

worst.

Firmlogger:
what dah heck?
So,if your friends and families are calling you and it isn't going through,you will tell them,you married?

Haba!

Very easy, just send them your new line.

aren't u going to gv odas the new number abee na only d husband go get am.....if no den be prepared to keep changing sim card every month

Changing sim card is far rediculous.. IF YOU TRUST YOUR WIFE WHY CHANGE SIM CARD? for me changing sim card is not the best thing to do

excel101:
Very easy, just send them your new line.

I guess you don't have a serious Google account, that you used your phone number as recovery option. I now see why people often have avoidable problems with most of their online and offline activities that requires registration. If you don't know, my phone number is my account number on some of my activities. you see changing SIM as easy as you think, maybe cos your phone number has not gone far. My phone number is like my passbook to success and opportunities, so I have not seen that thing that will make me change my SIM number. Doing so can easily jeopardise my businesses and activities. It might even make some of my clients think am fraudulent