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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by kittykat1(f): 6:09pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. what part of this sentence is hard for most advisers to understand? okay let me retwist d sentence:he is just too perfect dat is why i kept praying to GOD to atleast like him 20% so i dont lose him.


Stop beating yourself. That guy was never perfect. His personal hygiene is atrocious, he is not as intelligent as you want, so how is he perfect.

He may be kind and generous but he doesn't have some qualities you consider basic. Please know your basic likes and dislikes and go for them

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Funjosh(m): 6:10pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
@dyt nd funjosh, basically d biz was/is all abt producing handmade accessories/wears frm home nd sell online(jumia,konga etc) grin.





Lost embarassed
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 6:25pm On Oct 04, 2016
AlPeter:
I have known about the frequency/wavelength stuff since I was about 8 and have always referred to it has part of the personalty vibrations or the persons air. I have always enjoy studying peoples air and have found must to be simply put annoying or irritating. Though there is a recent cause that has been bordering me since 2 days ago. There's this lady in my area that I just couldn't place her vibrations so have hardly have a conversation with her, don't even greet her. 2 days ago I saw someone walking towards me and the person was BLANK. No vibrations, no personalty, no air, nothing! She got close and I realised it was this Lady and that was the reason I have not been able to place her frequency. She had zero, sorry but this has been disturbing me and its kinda scary. Have aany Idea what it means.
I also know about this personality wavelength/frequency stuff, find it is fascinating as a lover of Physics and Neuroscience.

Other than my interest in Physics and Neuroscience, I also enjoy studying the human nature. During my interactions with people, I usually place them in categories, using similarities and differences I can spot from their physique, eye movement, pace of talking, etc.

How do you study and detect people's vibrations?
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by hahn(m): 6:54pm On Oct 04, 2016
gensteejay:

I also know about this personality wavelength/frequency stuff, find it is fascinating as a lover of Physics and Neuroscience.

Other than my interest in Physics and Neuroscience, I also enjoy studying the human nature. During my interactions with people, I usually place them in categories, using similarities and differences I can spot from their physique, eye movement, pace of talking, etc.

How do you study and detect people's vibrations?

Please mention me when he replies smiley
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 6:56pm On Oct 04, 2016
hahn:


Please mention me when he replies smiley
Ok.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by alolatee(m): 7:29pm On Oct 04, 2016
ammyluv2002:
Op, let me share this story

I have a friend from school, we were so close back then in school. She was reserved and homely, but suitors weren't coming. She was so worried about the whole thing to a point, she became desperate to settle down yet no serious guy.

After graduation, she decided to say yes to any guy that comes her. Someone linked her up with this dude and after some months he proposed to her. My friend wasn't interested in the guy's attitude or anything, she just wanted to get married. The date for trad was fixed and they got married, after 3 months she left the guy that she can't live with him. I told her if i were to be her dad,she will remain in that marriage cause i warned her.




My dear, God will bring the right husband at the right time. Don't put your life on hold just to please the people around you. Live your life in all fulness & don't allow such to bother. Yes, you're ripe for marriage but it will come when the time is right , but for now perpare yourself while you pray for the right guy. Work on your flaws to make yourself the right woman, travel if you have the resources. Make yourself very pleasant to the eyes, socialise, dress smart, hang out with friends just live your normal life. Whether we like it or not, God has the finally say in every aspect of our lives all we need to do is to do our part and leave the rest to Him.
please op, never mind him,(dress smart?) dress well.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Tintinnoty(m): 7:36pm On Oct 04, 2016
Seun:
It's not about being choosy; its far better to be choosy and marry the right person. You probably aren't looking in the right places. Be tactical.



what do you mean by "be tactical", can you elaborate pls?
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by proffc: 8:59pm On Oct 04, 2016
seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired

If you trust and have faith in God as much as you have stated here. Then you won't worry yourself. When God is involved, it might take a while for your blessings to come, but when it does, it is usually the best.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by iRepNaija1: 9:12pm On Oct 04, 2016
gidjah:
I hope you do not have a problem with comprehension sir, please read my post and get the dig, she seem to be quite choosy by my view, abi you no comprehend her post?, she is still young and needed to be cautioned, you can't find a perfect partner any where,she seem to be a perfectionism and searching for a man without flaws...na so e dey take start oooo!!a beg read to comprehend next time and stop been picky!

No, you have problem with comprehension, sir. She said she wasn't choosy so why don't you take her word for it instead of assuming that she's lying? What does she need to be cautious about? That if she doesn't mind herself, she'll end up alone? She already knows she can't find a perfect partner. Every person is flawed. OP just wants someone she likes and who she is attracted to, which is something everyone is entitled to. So why don't shut your mouth, take you patronizing attitude somewhere else, and have several seats.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by gidjah(m): 9:12pm On Oct 04, 2016
Flawlessangel:


can i talk to her and invite her for a programme?
you know were we dey live?

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:19pm On Oct 04, 2016
interesting thread, op as a muslim all u nid to do is pray and trust in Allah to direct a good man to you. Allahs choice rem is the best and not urs.

work on ur attitude, relationship with others and above all strive hard to please Allah in whatever you do, stay away from sin and ull be shocked how easy and stress free life will be for u

when searching for spouse rem the most important thing to check is the deen and muamalat (how one relates with u and other people) respect understandin, trust

he loves you because of deen and values you have not cos of u being a working class or ass and boobs ( tho is actually okay to love cos of beauty also but they fade thats why SAW stressed deen) and u also shud have feelings of love for him. it would be easier to serve him that way i think ( ur jannah is below his feet)

responsibility shud be next (take care of duties that Allah assigned to him like feeding, clothing, housing, skuling u and kids) altho some muslim men shy away from this responsibilities, u can help out of love anyway. n. b he must not be rich o, just according to what he can afford

someone ealier mentioned compatibility, communication and commitment and i think i go woth him

follow the islamic rules of datin(no kissin bae ohh, no touchin bae also) and ull be good.may Allah guide us all

then neatness 7/10
handsome at least 4/10

remember u cant have it all
my 2 kobo
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 10:24pm On Oct 04, 2016
kittykat1:


Stop beating yourself. That guy was never perfect. His personal hygiene is atrocious, he is not as intelligent as you want, so how is he perfect.

He may be kind and generous but he doesn't have some qualities you consider basic. Please know your basic likes and dislikes and go for them
yeah. so right.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 10:27pm On Oct 04, 2016
gensteejay:

Ok.
mention me too, please
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 10:27pm On Oct 04, 2016
gensteejay:
Ok.
mention me too, please
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by franklynsunny(m): 8:36am On Oct 05, 2016
Am facing similar iss as a man of 33yr of age nw as well?
Am nt reli choosy bt protocol relationship is want I can stand anymore?
Gettin to no a lady bera nw dat am so ready is ma probs
Too busy all day n lonely all nite cos am nt married yet,findin it hard to mingle?
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 8:37am On Oct 05, 2016
seizethaBae:
Thanks sir, but i also heard being too specific while praying isnt too good. Ps; im a practising muslim.

since you are a practising muslim why not try this prayer. all you have to do on a daily basis is to recite chapter 28 verse 24 in the holy quran. this verse is recommended for all muslim to recite all the time if not memorize.
whenever you feel lonely or feels the pain of not having a spouse then you recite the prayer. you could read this many times in any mode of your daily activities. before the prayer after the prayer walking, standing at any where. its recommended you recites the supplication at least ten times before you now ask in a similar way, o Allah you have made every living things in pair. the sincere beautiful and pious pair you you have created for me, please give it to me.
its believed within 4month insha Allah He would alleviate your pains and provide your spouse for you
for more details on this you could like the page "holy Quran the complete code of life" on facebook. my own problem is quite similar to yours. ive started this prayer my self.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 9:47am On Oct 05, 2016
gracias.

afroluxpaint:
since you are a practising muslim why not try this prayer. all you have to do on a daily basis is to recite chapter 28 verse 24 in the holy quran. this verse is recommended for all muslim to recite all the time if not memorize.
whenever you feel lonely or feels the pain of not having a spouse then you recite the prayer. you could read this many times in any mode of your daily activities. before the prayer after the prayer walking, standing at any where. its recommended you recites the supplication at least ten times before you now ask in a similar way, o Allah you have made every living things in pair. the sincere beautiful and pious pair you you have created for me, please give it to me.
its believed within 4month insha Allah He would alleviate your pains and provide your spouse for you
for more details on this you could like the page "holy Quran the complete code of life" on facebook. my own problem is quite similar to yours. ive started this prayer my self.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:14am On Oct 05, 2016
afroluxpaint:
since you are a practising muslim why not try this prayer. all you have to do on a daily basis is to recite chapter 28 verse 24 in the holy quran. this verse is recommended for all muslim to recite all the time if not memorize.
whenever you feel lonely or feels the pain of not having a spouse then you recite the prayer. you could read this many times in any mode of your daily activities. before the prayer after the prayer walking, standing at any where. its recommended you recites the supplication at least ten times before you now ask in a similar way, o Allah you have made every living things in pair. the sincere beautiful and pious pair you you have created for me, please give it to me.
its believed within 4month insha Allah He would alleviate your pains and provide your spouse for you
for more details on this you could like the page "holy Quran the complete code of life" on facebook. my own problem is quite similar to yours. ive started this prayer my self.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:17am On Oct 05, 2016
afroluxpaint:
since you are a practising muslim why not try this prayer. all you have to do on a daily basis is to recite chapter 28 verse 24 in the holy quran. this verse is recommended for all muslim to recite all the time if not memorize.
whenever you feel lonely or feels the pain of not having a spouse then you recite the prayer. you could read this many times in any mode of your daily activities. before the prayer after the prayer walking, standing at any where. its recommended you recites the supplication at least ten times before you now ask in a similar way, o Allah you have made every living things in pair. the sincere beautiful and pious pair you you have created for me, please give it to me.
its believed within 4month insha Allah He would alleviate your pains and provide your spouse for you
for more details on this you could like the page "holy Quran the complete code of life" on facebook. my own problem is quite similar to yours. ive started this prayer my self.
I checked the verse you mentioned and its meaning reads

"So he watered (their flocks) for them, then he turned back to shade, and said: "My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!""

Can you explain how the verse is related to the problem at hand? It's unclear to me.

P.S.: I am also a Muslim, might recommend the prayer to a lady I know who is much more older than the OP and also single. This is why I need the explanation.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:23am On Oct 05, 2016
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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:24am On Oct 05, 2016
@afroluxpaint, don't bother with the explanation. I understand the verse now after reading it again. Thanks.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 10:29am On Oct 05, 2016
seizethaBae:
I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.

Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.

There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired
. Well all you need is GRACE sis,don't rush into marriage,take your time and I am sure in due time you will meet the right man.I just want to ask is it that you don't have admirers and toasters?I am sure you do and who knows one of those might just be the One.what's your circle like?do you socialize?attend events and places?maybe you need to re-evaluate your social life that way you will be at peace with your self regarding the whole marriage issue.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sconp: 4:34pm On Oct 05, 2016
KevMitnick:

Nope, I've got no love for that. grin
but you do know what your username represents
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by humilitypays(m): 4:46pm On Oct 05, 2016
seizethaBae:
where have u been bro? I AM SO PRINTING THIS PIECE. you have no idea how much dis comment will change my perception. you have no idea. Thanks so much. this is exactly what i need.

You are welcome, and don't worry, sooner than later, as you work more towards improving yourself as every man's dream woman, naturally, u will cross path with the right one. But plz don't ignore or underrate any guy that comes your way, smile more often and be friendly/lively.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by KevMitnick: 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2016
sconp:
but you do know what your username represents
Yep I do.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 5:05pm On Oct 05, 2016
gensteejay:
@afroluxpaint, don't bother with the explanation. I understand the verse now after reading it again. Thanks.
alright. but the supplication starts from "Robi ini lima anzalta ilaiya min haeri fakkir" not complete verse
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 5:08pm On Oct 05, 2016
gensteejay:

I checked the verse you mentioned and its meaning reads

"So he watered (their flocks) for them, then he turned back to shade, and said: "My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!""

Can you explain how the verse is related to the problem at hand? It's unclear to me.

P.S.: I am also a Muslim, might recommend the prayer to a lady I know who is much more older than the OP and also single. This is why I need the explanation.
you are to recite the supplication from the verse. Robi ini lima anzalta ilaya min haeri fakiir
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by afroluxpaint: 5:12pm On Oct 05, 2016
seizethaBae:
gracias.

note! you are to recite the supplication from the verse. "robi ini lima anzalta ilaya min aeri fakir."
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 8:06pm On Oct 05, 2016
afroluxpaint:

you are to recite the supplication from the verse. Robi ini lima anzalta ilaya min haeri fakiir
Yea, I know the prayer. Thanks.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ade002: 8:43pm On Oct 05, 2016
Maybe its a personality thing. Try taking the 16 personality test.(Google it). I suspect you are INTP. You may have problem with Felling .Most INTP live in their heads. Can come up with the perfect idea or dream wonderful things but will contribute nothing to achieving it.
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by AlPeter: 3:24pm On Oct 06, 2016
missjo:

Lol,i completely understand how scary it can be when you can't get a reading from people.LOL. It used to give me that feeling that they might be ghosts in human form. embarassed

To be honest,it might actually be a ghost or spirit-being, these group usually don't have any cellular vibrations that fan emit frequencies. BUT THIS IS JUST AN EXTREME ASSUMPTION, lol. grin
The other explanation is that she's someone who has mastered the act of complete cellular control,its a tough thing to master but I hear there are people who may have been born with the ability to master it.

Why don't you try talking to her one of these days. use her words, body language, and facial expressions to gauge her personality.
ok thanks will try that.

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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by haggai247: 4:12pm On Oct 09, 2016
sisisioge:

Thank u sis.
am a guy with a penis sorry

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