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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by honeygirl17: 5:49pm On Oct 18, 2016
Goodbye to peace

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by damiloladuke: 5:50pm On Oct 18, 2016
thats not fair

read the next line
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by fr3do(m): 5:51pm On Oct 18, 2016
Ujoan:


What if he daughter's husband doesn't want her in their house.Its his house after all and we all know how Nigerian men think. The woman is afterall his wife's mother not his.

On the other hand, the woman wants to move into her SON's house, the son she bore and nurtured and made a man out of her loins. Abi your friend doesn't think she deserves to reap the fruit of her labour in her own son's house undecided

A lot of men get married and still live with their wives in their parents home, with their parents still alive. So why can't mama move into her son's house

As far as she's not causing any troubles for the couple, I don't see this as a big problem.

Your friend needs to be a little more receptive towards other people.


women dont have loins, the term is only used for men.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by damsyjewel: 5:52pm On Oct 18, 2016
She staying parmanently is a no no

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:53pm On Oct 18, 2016
She should take it to the Lord in prayer, there is nothing God cannot do grin
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 5:53pm On Oct 18, 2016
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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by kingphilip(m): 5:54pm On Oct 18, 2016
Friction doesn't really occur between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all of a sudden

It often emerges from culmination of different but little things that should have been overlooked by a party

For whatever reason a mother-in-law shouldn't be barred from his son's house because his wife and his mother doesn't get along well

It lies on the daughter-in-law to allow her come in, study her and try to get along well

It doesn't cost a thing.. I and my parents get along well than any of my other siblings because I don't talk back at them but hear them out and make dem see reasons of my actions and inactions and thereby curbing any uprising

Again know what she likes and where she usually attacks you from.. Is it about the meal meal or any other thing and try to avoid it.. It doesn't make it a slave rather it saves you from unwarranted talks

Get along with your mother in law and you'll surely enjoy it

Op pass this to your friend and hear testimonies later

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by devour129: 5:59pm On Oct 18, 2016
All these ladies that are always fighting mother in law should never have boys . If you intend to have boys please treat them well so yours will treat you well .

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:01pm On Oct 18, 2016
AfroKnight:
Just look at these ladies. They have forgotten that they will become mothers in law one day. Just look at the nonsense they are saying. Na somebody marry these ones o.

You cannot stop his mother from moving in unless you are evil. She is his mother and they are related by blood and genes. You on the other hand were married.

You can divorce a wife but not a mother. Better respect the bond between a man and his family before marrying him.

The good woman raised him to be a good catch for you but now you want to relegate her.


The man will decide not you. Nonsense.

lol.
I guess women broke outta coconuts.
Why can't a family respect the bond between a man and his wife?
Couples need space!
Why is it always the man's family putting up this superiority complex.
Wasn't the wife born by a woman too?
Once a woman gets married, her family hands off_ they'll even tell her to stay there o...sort out issues, don't come back here. 'but husband's family...mba!

Oh yes, I will become a MIL one day, I love my space so much_ I doubt I would ever be able to manage a lil space in someone else's house. Major reason I rarely do 'holidays'.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying she shouldn't allow her MIL stay but I hate hearing that emboldened line.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by samsam2019: 6:03pm On Oct 18, 2016
sisisioge:
Chai! Fear is already catching me on behalf of your friend already. I think she should tell the guy her concern, if he insists then na gobe be that o.

I think she needs to prepare a sort of armour in anticipation...

Ordinarily, the mother in-law wouldn't think of moving in knowing there is no love lost between her and the DIL if she hasn't been getting her ways with her in the past. The DIL should just be ready to change their relationship asap. No need to fight, no need to talk too much, no need to be rude...na body language! She shouldn't cower for her abeg. Just treat her like another long staying house guest. Maintain your stand and dignity...she no be god biko.

By the way, babes might need to invest in a CCTV o. Just in case things escalate beyond "wetin happen"...a picture speaks more than a thousand words!

Jeez! I don't know why MIL are like this, imagine this poor woman going bunkers just cos mma is coming...can't MILs be civil?
imagine all the nonsenseyou put up here forgetting you'll be old too and become mother in law?



Would you be happy if your daughter in law treats you like a ling staying visitor?



How about you advise her to be more respectful and accommodating insteadof bitching about a woman wanting to be with her son




Nonsense

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by luminouz(m): 6:04pm On Oct 18, 2016
sisisioge:


Babes...as in! They are something else jare. They just wanna be the DIL's contender by force by fire.I remember rescuing my uncle's wife from my Grandma one time. Wetin be her offense? Babe just came from UK, she doesn't fancy meat . Gramma cooked and gave her plenty meats, babe saw and was visibly shaken, she politely told Gramma meats were too much. Gramma insisted she would be offended if the babe doesn't finish it. Babe nearly choked herself downing the whole lot. Babe finished the meat successfully after going beyond herself trying not to piss her mil. Fast forward later in the evening, Grandma reported the babe to her bobo, us and every other fam member that cares to listen that the babe is a glutton! She would be the hole in my uncles purse...jeez! I just scatter ground for her grin

By the way, babe had no idea of the war that went on behind her back.
I like u already! Are u married? grin
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by mizzpweety(f): 6:08pm On Oct 18, 2016
Just passing by
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by skywalker001(m): 6:11pm On Oct 18, 2016
Thunder go fire any wife dat is planning or wil plan to chase my mum away from me... As far as it's not bad for wife's mum to stay wit couple so is not bad for husband's mum... Girls of nowadays ehn

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:11pm On Oct 18, 2016
Ujoan:


What if he daughter's husband doesn't want her in their house.Its his house after all and we all know how Nigerian men think. The woman is afterall his wife's mother not his.

On the other hand, the woman wants to move into her SON's house, the son she bore and nurtured and made a man out of her loins. Abi your friend doesn't think she deserves to reap the fruit of her labour in her own son's house undecided

A lot of men get married and still live with their wives in their parents home, with their parents still alive. So why can't mama move into her son's house

As far as she's not causing any troubles for the couple, I don't see this as a big problem.

Your friend needs to be a little more receptive towards other people.
the woman never talk wetin she dey fine. The son can still take good care of his mum from the mum's House. I will not allow it. If as a man my mum is staying with me, I expect her to get along with her daughter in law. If there trouble between them, they settle it themselves otherwise I will kick both of them out of my House

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by fluxbush(f): 6:13pm On Oct 18, 2016
AfroKnight:
Just look at these ladies. They have forgotten that they will become mothers in law one day. Just look at the nonsense they are saying. Na somebody marry these ones o.

You cannot stop his mother from moving in unless you are evil. She is his mother and they are related by blood and genes. You on the other hand were married.

You can divorce a wife but not a mother. Better respect the bond between a man and his family before marrying him.

The good woman raised him to be a good catch for you but now you want to relegate her.

The man will decide not you. Nonsense.
When I see comments like this from supposed adults,I marvel. So the wife fell from the sky abi or was plucked from a tree? Your mother will be the one to continue the family name,okwaya?

Even the bible you guys like to quote says a man will leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Nowhere did it say the mother and his sisters will pack their bags and Ghana must go,and move into his home. Traditionally sef, why will a woman leave her husband's compound and obi unattended to? Una never talk wetin una want.

When 'men' are ready to be men,please let us know. Enough of this emotional blackmail with your mothers. We also have mothers, fathers,siblings and grandparents.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Greenbullet(m): 6:13pm On Oct 18, 2016
WHAT RUBBISH, WHY WILL A MOTHER IN LAW MOVE INTO A MATRIMONIAL HOME ,IS IT A FAMILY HOUSE, NO WAY I WILL NOT TAKE IT!!! PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIEND TO TELL HER HUSBAND THAT IF HIS MOTHER MOVES IN ,SHE WILL MOVE OUT BECAUSE SHE CANNOT BECOME A SLAVE IN HER HUSBANDS HOUSE.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by malachytochukwu(m): 6:14pm On Oct 18, 2016
Crazy ladies everywhere. All they pray about is to have their mother inlaw dead without knowing that in the nearest future they would be mother in laws too.
nnamdibig:



Don't mind all these end time daughter in laws abi daughter of jezebels.








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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by jasysandra(f): 6:18pm On Oct 18, 2016
AfroKnight:
Just look at these ladies. They have forgotten that they will become mothers in law one day. Just look at the nonsense they are saying. Na somebody marry these ones o.

You cannot stop his mother from moving in unless you are evil. She is his mother and they are related by blood and genes. You on the other hand were married.

You can divorce a wife but not a mother. Better respect the bond between a man and his family before marrying him.

The good woman raised him to be a good catch for you but now you want to relegate her.

The man will decide not you. Nonsense.
I totally agree with you. A mother will always be a mother and as you are already one yourself, you should treat other mothers just as you want to be treated. If you think she hates you so much and wants to break your marriage, why did you even marry her son in the first place cause you said it yourself, she never wanted him to get married. The truth is, we see most of these things before marriage but we tell ourselves, we can handle them. You can't handle this one by stopping a woman from coming to stay in her sons house, you will end up being the bad person in the story. Let her in and leave the rest to God.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by chubbygal(f): 6:20pm On Oct 18, 2016
I say noooooo

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by luvablesam(m): 6:20pm On Oct 18, 2016
In African culture(all Nigerian tribes represented), it is the prerogative of the younger family members to take care of older family members just as in Europe n America the younger generations put their average or poor parents into foster care. Mama has a right to want to stay with her Son, but since the son knows how frosty mama n wifys relationship is should consider other options to see how mama n wify can be happy.

Borrowing cultures when it suits our selfish aims should stop.

Parents deserve to be with their kids till whenever is convenient.

Women should learn to get along

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by striker9(m): 6:22pm On Oct 18, 2016
Tell your friend to bring her mother too lol....tag team Fuji house of commotion.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:24pm On Oct 18, 2016
Loisemm:
How many of you would not mind your mother Inlaw who just retired and is not sick or needing medical attention come and live with you and hubby permanently?!
My friend's mother Inlaw is planning to do this. My friend is not comfortable with it at all but has resigned her mind to it.

The mother Inlaw often visits them and spends weeks and months with them even though she does not get along with the wife. The wife told me the mama never wanted her first son to marry and would have preferred he continues to bear children outside wedlock. He had a child before marriage. They have children of theirs now.

Sincerely, I can't undastand the rationale behind a mother moving into her son's house without invitation or permission. Is it fair?

Note -she has a married daughter o. Is it not better for her to live with her daughter if her and her daughter in-law dont get along? This lady now has strong cause to believe the mama is out to break her home. Would she now be receptive to her coming to live with them permanently?
Take it as part of Mama's retirement benefit from the son.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by notoriousbabe: 6:24pm On Oct 18, 2016
Mama wan follow chop the thing wey her pikin dey chop for the other room wey mama no belong.

Op na wetin be your own wey you carry the matter for head?abeg leave mama make she gbadun herself jo afterall the place is called workshop
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by sonnie10: 6:25pm On Oct 18, 2016
OP, what if you are this daughter in-law but want us to believe its your friend?

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Familyfirst: 6:26pm On Oct 18, 2016
Loisemm:
How many of you would not mind your mother Inlaw who just retired and is not sick or needing medical attention come and live with you and hubby permanently?!
My friend's mother Inlaw is planning to do this. My friend is not comfortable with it at all but has resigned her mind to it.

The mother Inlaw often visits them and spends weeks and months with them even though she does not get along with the wife. The wife told me the mama never wanted her first son to marry and would have preferred he continues to bear children outside wedlock. He had a child before marriage. They have children of theirs now.

Sincerely, I can't undastand the rationale behind a mother moving into her son's house without invitation or permission. Is it fair?

Note -she has a married daughter o. Is it not better for her to live with her daughter if her and her daughter in-law dont get along? This lady now has strong cause to believe the mama is out to break her home. Would she now be receptive to her coming to live with them permanently?
If she has agreed to it,complaining is not what is needed now but to seek wisdom and pray.
Mothers in laws that do not want their sons to get married are doing it for commercial sake,they want to control the man and his bank account. Fighting your husband will not win his mother,mama will be too happy to see you fight.
Seek wisdom. Get books,attend marriage school. I will advise you to be part of online family and relationship forum like familyparliament.com

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by sisisioge: 6:26pm On Oct 18, 2016
samsam2019:
imagine all the nonsenseyou put up here forgetting you'll be old too and become mother in law?



Would you be happy if your daughter in law treats you like a ling staying visitor?



How about you advise her to be more respectful and accommodating insteadof bitching about a woman wanting to be with her son




Nonsense
Yes daddy.
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by GENTLETEE(m): 6:27pm On Oct 18, 2016
For what now?
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:27pm On Oct 18, 2016
'Note -she has a married daughter o. Is it not better for her to live with her daughter if her and her daughter in-law dont get along?'


see selfishness?

In the North especially amongst the Muslims this is seen as an honour for you to take care of your Mum in your House.

Personally there is nothing that will make me happier than taken care of my Mama in my House. truth is there is nothing on earth that is more valuable to me than my Mother.

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Ishilove: 6:28pm On Oct 18, 2016
Use prayer pursue am comot

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:31pm On Oct 18, 2016
No comment expect my response in 35 years time.


fluxbush:
When I see comments like this from supposed adults,I marvel. So the wife fell from the sky abi or was plucked from a tree? Your mother will be the one to continue the family name,okwaya?

Even the bible you guys like to quote says a man will leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Nowhere did it say the mother and his sisters will pack their bags and Ghana must go,and move into his home. Traditionally sef, why will a woman leave her husband's compound and obi unattended to? Una never talk wetin una want.

When 'men' are ready to be men,please let us know. Enough of this emotional blackmail with your mothers. We also have mothers, fathers,siblings and grandparents.
Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by RZArecta(m): 6:31pm On Oct 18, 2016
That's búllshît

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Re: Her Mother Inlaw Wants To Move In Permanently by Nobody: 6:33pm On Oct 18, 2016
A man should leave his parents house and cleave unto his wife,and both shall be joined together as one.

I can see two face , pretentious lying ladies here just for face dress up. They won't survive a minute under the same roof with their mother in law but are here singing praises.

"Permanent" move in is something to consider, because i know no human being is ever too sweet. Things are going to get twisted in the long stay.

He is her son but that is not a ticket to interfere like that in their life. During her time , she lived with her husband without such interference; now is his son's own with his wife.....she should give them that space too.

She can stay in her house with someone to stay with her , like a grandchild of any. Paying a visit is better , even if it means a month or more than permanently, especially when both doesn't get along.

There are mother in laws that are so cute like grand ma's but there are some that will make you feel you need a prison break.

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