Please I Need Advice From Real Men And Sensible Ladies On This Issue


My girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down.

She is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude.

She has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Person go deh worry hmsef coz of kpekus weh full everywhr.......

Truth is bitter bro but how long do you expect a 29 year old woman to wait. Forget about love, ur not ready to settle down. The lady is not getting any younger so allow her to move on while you get a new, younger girl that can wait until Jesus comes

please assume you are the lady..will u b able wait that long at 29 when suitors are trooping in??
she has told u she will remain with u regardless of ur income becos she loves and believes in u but it seems u want to personally oversee the wrecking of the ship u are boarded...if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

blackboot:

my girlfriend of 2 years is about to leave me. the signs are everywhere. i am not financially stable for now but i love her so much. my income is small(30k) a month and i am planning seriously to get a better job before settling down. she is 29 and already worried because she has a very good paying job and a lot of pressure is coming for her to settle down. family and friends are worried why she is still single and alot of other guys have been coming for her. a read a chat with her and her friend on her phone one time and the friend was telling her to leave me for another rich dude. she has been very patient with me but its like her patience is running out since she is getting close to 30. she said she is ready to marry me the way i am that we will manage our income together till i get a better job since her income is better. she also said some families dont even earn half of what she earns and they are fine, she said she cant wait for me anymore that she wants to settle down but am scared because i feel a man should have enough before settling down and i want to be a real man. should i go ahead and marry as she suggest since she has a good job or i should beg her to be patient till i find another job so i can be a better husband. i dont want to loose her, i believe she is my wife and i told her from the first day i met her. pls how can i handle the situation. matured advice please.
NB. we met during nysc and she was lucky to get a very good job before me

Stop complaining...na you hol yourself. You don't need to make millions to get married.

Blessedward:
please assume you are the lady..will u b able wait that long at 29 when suitors are trooping in??
she has told u she will remain with u regardless of ur income becos she loves and believes in u but it seems u want to personally oversee the wrecking of the ship u are boarded...if u are destined to be rich u can't evade that as long as u remain faithful to her.

hmmmm,so what should i do

youngest85:
Person go deh worry hmsef coz of kpekus weh full everywhr.......

hmmm, this is more than just kpekus ooo , after investing in a relationship for almost 3 years, everyone knows you and her, we are use to each other, its more than kpekus my dear.

There is no seriousness in you

EastGold:
There is no seriousness in you

how do you mean?

You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

You have a point

So she wan marry you and you no wan marry yet?

She has tried, she gave you her word and from her actions currently do you think she will change and start bullying you with the money?

The wedding expense, who will pay for it?

blackboot:


how do you mean?

You are not ready to get married.


I did my wedding 9 months after losing my job, I had nothing, I mean nothing, we had no honey moon, on Monday, I went outside to hustle, today we are fine

blackboot:


hmmmm,so what should i do

though we can't always have same plight..but if I were u I would buy her idea that is if u TRULY LOVE her.
that word FAITHFULNESS to her should be ur watchword if u have to make a unique point to her and achievements.trust me on that.only a number of ladies would make such mature suggestions to their men amidst distractions and pressure..
but then...the real perseverance to break bounds and hit cash with reasonable and planned decisions with her begins with u to prove her right in taking such a bold step of maturity.
SOMETIMES REGULARLY PAID JOBS ARE LESS FASHIONABLE FOR A MAN THAT WANTS TO BUILD A HOME tho u have to start from somewhere..my humble opinion tho.
happy married life in advance!!!

blackboot:


hmmmm,so what should i do

You say she has a better job and she is willing to support you.What else are you waiting for?If you are waiting till you start earning hundreds of thousands,then let her go and marry someone else.
You don't have to have an expensive wedding.Just do something lowkey and live your life.
Have this discussion with her on how you can get married but have a very lowkey ceremony.

Go ahead and marry her since you both love each other and she is ready to submit to you sacrificially even though she earns more.

Take your job hunting serious too, you will get a better job with time. If the job does not come fast, think of a side business you can do to support your salary.

All the best.

If you dare marry her and she starts feeding you.. While it must last for a while, it means

1. You are a pu. Ssy
2. She must use am abuse you someday
3. She go tell ur kids u are useless and irresponsible
4. She can only do it for d tym being... She will get tired soon and perhaps start...... Fill. In. D. Gap


This is a voice from d street... #streetAdvice

pls go ahead and get wedded IF AND IF ONLY u hv d trust in her dt she won't change negatively overnight. ladies are many BUT wives are......

Ogbeni..b serious,she's willing to settle down with u but u re not due to flimpsy excuse as far as I am concerned!,I knw a couple who married with just 10K salary of his wife alone wyle d husband was jobless,lived in face me I slap u,But today,D husband is a top Govt civil servant in lagos,has 3cars,travels anywhere he likes in d world for summer.so baba appt ur humble begining.Just b focus focus pray to God that things changes even b4 d proposed marriage event will take place.besydes,we c situatns where d husband to b looses his job some weeks b4 d wedding day,what abt dt
So in a nut shell,Go ahead with ur plans with her,live up to ur responsibility,dont bank much on her salary to fend for d Family and u will b amazed aw God works
Meanwyle if u re afraid because of d wedding ceremony,My broda do disturb ursef,just convince ur wife to b to av a low cost celebration,cos d fact remains dt 70PERCENT of those who attend ur wedding are ppu u u even knw,so y disturb ursef on feeding ppu u av not even come across in ur life.

If you are waiting for improvement of salary, you won't marry.

I have realized that spending in marriage isn't based on salary. At times, what I spend monthly is severally beyond what I earn..

Bro, pls don't wait till all is rosy,since she earns,give it a shot..then hustle hard.

Some people married for less of what you earn.

Not dump bir make do with the available ,person wise up

Let her go. The marriage won't even work anyway.
Without money, a young marriage is just a time bomb waiting to explode.

Abeg, give me the girl number since you nor ready...

Vickywa26:

You never one day get sense I know you too well.

For the lady to have said all these things means she loves you. You're just being afraid of the future which means you don't even believe in yourself. You're a man and don't act like a woman. Before I forget Marriage come with blessings if you believe it, you can pertake of it.
#Don't loose what you have in your palm, you might not meet her type anymore till rapture. A word is enough for the wise...

Yieldings:
You say you're not financially-stable and thus, not ready for marriage. That's your intuition speaking. Never ignore your intuition. She might be saying you will manage your income together when you get married, but that might change when you do get married and more financial responsibilities or obligations arise. Finances are always a huge cause of marital issues.

As a man, you should get married when you know you're ready, not when your girlfriend or anyone is pressuring you to marry her.

She says she can't wait for you anymore, then let her go.

I just love you.....bitter truth

Walk away

2 years no be beans. You must have gotten used to each other. I think there's no cause for alarm. Simply let her in on your fears. Tell her your greatest fear is whether she can tolerate being the breadwinner pending whenever u get a better job and watch her response.

Not only does she loves you, She also sees a brighter future ahead of you amidst uncertainties... She loves you for who you're...

Grab her with both hands.... She's your wife

lofty900:
Truth is bitter bro but how long do you expect a 29 year old woman to wait. Forget about love, ur not ready to settle down. The lady is not getting any younger so allow her to move on while you get a new, younger girl that can wait until Jesus comes

U mean till Jesus comes b4 he go get new job
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