ModestGal:
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Done.

So, a challenge I face regularly is how to initiate or join a conversation. Sometimes, wrong information might be passed as being the truth in an ongoing conversation but joining in to disprove it seems herculean.

Except the topic is really something I truly have interest in (like movies), I don't join in.

misterh:
So, a challenge I face regularly is how to initiate or join a conversation. Sometimes, wrong information might be passed as being the truth in an ongoing conversation but joining in to disprove it seems herculean.

Except the topic is really something I truly have interest in (like movies), I don't join in.

That's very much how Introverts roll, so don't see it as a challenge per sé. However, when there's an ongoing conversation where a false statement is made, I think it's good to correct that erroneous talk and do so with humility. Although if someone tries to oppose or start an argument, better to just remain quiet and kill the argument before one's energy is drained .

DonOms:


That's very much how Introverts roll, so don't see it as a challenge per sé. However, when there's an ongoing conversation where a false statement is made, I think it's good to correct that erroneous talk and do so with humility. Although if someone tries to oppose or start an argument, better to just remain quiet and kill the argument before one's energy is drained .

Maybe it's because I always preempt an argument, that's why I avoid it sha.

halo to my fellow introverts. me I can ignite conversations and still keep them. But the other person(s) just have to respond meaningfully and interestingly. Else, I will be bored.

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ore291:
quys quick question does being introverted eventually go away,am 17,I study at unilag am in 200l most of my coursemates don't even know me,it annoying am just too quiet.how can I change?

Previous pages have answers to this question of yours but let me help a little from experience.

How do you go about satisfying this urge to be popular? you must love and appreciate your voice. Be willing to contribute to discussions either in formal and informal settings. Also confidence is key in your dealing with others. The fact that you appear unpopular should not make you search for importance. You may not know it and no matter how big your class, you are known by several people who are watching you. Read and engage your studies with all seriousness and watch academic grace lead you into recognition.
Bro, stop the whining if you are indeed whining, it's great to be your personality type and face up with your advantages. Make sure to study hard.

samblaks:
halo to my fellow introverts. me I can ignite conversations and still keep them. But the other person(s) just have to respond meaningfully and interestingly. Else, I will be bored.

I usually experience this when I chat with people online. There used to be a lady who would initiate a chat with me but I would be the one trying to keep the chat going.

Quite tiring uno.

ore291:
quys quick question does being introverted eventually go away,am 17,I study at unilag am in 200l most of my coursemates don't even know me,it annoying am just too quiet.how can I change?

Akposb has answered you very well but I just want to add a few things especially for others who may also have similar questions.

True introversion doesn't exactly go away. If a teenager is inherently ambiverted or extroverted but reclusive and shy(therefore appearing introverted), he/she will likely grow out of it in due time once social skills are learned.

Now, some young introverted people crave being outgoing and full of life but are rather reclusive and private. The craving is normal. It could either be caused by the Popularity Contest Syndrome (simply because more people around are extroverted and it looks like the winning side) or it's just about someone still discovering oneself (here, one tries out a number of options before settling for what is more favourable or convenient).

So, don't let it feel annoying you're too quiet. It's pretty cool to be anonymous and exceptional. I didn't know 70% of my classmates as at 300 Level and I was still meeting new coursemates into my final year.

Take Akposb's advice: Be exceptional in your studies and give it time to settle into knowing people. If you're very brilliant, you'll be known by force anyway. Don't force yourself to change. Just embrace yourself and try to be more sociable as best as you can.

ModestGal:

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Hello modest gal thank you for reaching out to the ninja guy on some level.

[quote author=Coyotejack post=52808918] Hello modest gal thank you for reaching out to the ninja guy on some level.
[/quote Thanks too

[quote author=ModestGal post=52810713][/quote]

has he deactivated his account?

Extroverts have talked me down I need ibuprofen

Sorry oh! *closes door jeh jeh - ly behind herself*

Coyotejack:


has he deactivated his account?

who?The guy?The funniest thing is that I see him so funny that I am nt sure if u ar probably him,i mean you actually mayb him.when he insisted I shld leave him alone,I did,cx it ws getting to an insult kinda,I dnt ask ppl for friendship cx i see it as lowing myself,I dnt evn knw if I could help him,but I jx wanna try.And I see the rest being cold not even reaching out to him.I dnt knw wht hes passing thru bt I jx feel the guy may b suicidal cx he said he wanna fake suicide, Am also thinking he may wanna bury his good side due to mayb disapointmnt from ppl and act wickedly,hes prone to drug abuse,am not a christian,bt checking his thread and seeing dat he jx stop believing in God/christianity makes me believ dat he could go as heartless as killing somone at the long run if hes depression aint taken care of.And the fact dat hes frm delta wher youths are prone to all this cultism stuffs.I will be glad if a guy could reach to him and help him,am sure buried beneath him is a brilliant young man,full of spirit and goodwill.We jx need to help him bring out those happiness,bcx am sure hes sad somehow.So pls if you are reading this honey, try not to see me as not minding my business,and let someone help you bring out those smiles youve been trying to hide

ModestGal:

who?The guy?The funniest thing is that I see him so funny that I am nt sure if u ar probably him,i mean you actually mayb him.when he insisted I shld leave him alone,I did,cx it ws getting to an insult kinda,I dnt ask ppl for friendship cx i see it as lowing myself,I dnt evn knw if I could help him,but I jx wanna try.And I see the rest being cold not even reaching out to him.I dnt knw wht hes passing thru bt I jx feel the guy may b suicidal cx he said he wanna fake suicide, Am also thinking he may wanna bury his good side due to mayb disapointmnt from ppl and act wickedly,hes prone to drug abuse,am not a christian,bt checking his thread and seeing dat he jx stop believing in God/christianity makes me believ dat he could go as heartless as killing somone at the long run if hes depression aint taken care of.And the fact dat hes frm delta wher youths are prone to all this cultism stuffs.I will be glad if a guy could reach to him and help him,am sure buried beneath him is a brilliant young man,full of spirit and goodwill.We jx need to help him bring out those happiness,bcx am sure hes sad somehow.So pls if you are reading this honey, try not to see me as not minding my business,and let someone help you bring out those smiles youve been trying to hide

PS I ain't him let's clarify that , the same reason u reached out to him ,is why I was Lauding u , cause the first thing that came to my mind was that he was suicidal, then I saw the his post where he said it went a downward spiral after something happened to him that he didn't want to share , my shock was that it was only u that picked interest, and the self taught psych analyst was no where to be found , but I have been away then I came across ur conversation and I tried to reach out but he has deactivated, and I recalled u were the one that conversed with him last thru this medium,so I tot U made some sort of breakthru. I pray he overcomes.

Coyotejack:



PS I ain't him let's clarify that , the same reason u reached out to him ,is why I was Lauding u , cause the first thing that came to my mind was that he was suicidal, then I saw the his post where he said it went a downward spiral after something happened to him that he didn't want to share , my shock was that it was only u that picked interest, and the self taught psych analyst was no where to be found , but I have been away then I came across ur conversation and I tried to reach out but he has deactivated, and I recalled u were the one that conversed with him last thru this medium,so I tot U made some sort of breakthru. I pray he overcomes.

I thought anyone could be him bcx he loves changing his name,i reached out to him on mail,bt he actually shunned me and told me blantly that i should mind my business and should not even reply the mail. He said something that got me thinking **There's no need bothering yourself about my prob. There's
someone out there more important who needs your assistance, not a
person like me. I don't deserve it. Adieus.***
why will he think he doesnt deserve someones help?
I stop replying him cx i dont want him to feel bothered and am not even sure if that gmail account is not even a fake one he jx opened to reply me.
I will try to still reach out to him, pls help me call out our psycho self taught analyst to say someting in the matter,shld we leav him alone or not, I hv read too many suicidal stories that I dnt currently think theres someone clinically depressed not prone to suicide

ModestGal:

I thought anyone could be him bcx he loves changing his name,i reached out to him on mail,bt he actually shunned me and told me blantly that i should mind my business and should not even reply the mail. He said something that got me thinking **There's no need bothering yourself about my prob. There's
someone out there more important who needs your assistance, not a
person like me. I don't deserve it. Adieus.***
why will he think he doesnt deserve someones help?
I stop replying him cx i dont want him to feel bothered and am not even sure if that gmail account is not even a fake one he jx opened to reply me

Okay I see
You can only help somebody that wants to be helped.
Happy Sunday

Coyotejack:



Okay I see
You can only help somebody that wants to be helped.
Happy Sunday

I hate that ideology,dont happy sunday me pls.Everyone want to be helped in beneath,no matter what you think

ModestGal:

I hate that ideology,dont happy sunday me pls.Everyone want to be helped in beneath,no matter what you think

Hehehe
MISS ,u just said that you don't want to pester him when he declined ur request for friendship...
If he keeps on strangling the efforts people extend to help him or to bring him out of his dark place , what are you to do, I never said you should give up. Afterall we both know the importance of friendship. But there's so much a single entity can go , it takes two to make this stuff work, if he doesn't want all I can do is pray cause I am a strong believer in it.
Every body wants to be helped beneath, u say, but he said it outright that he doesn't care by refusing. I am sure u and I know him thru this medium and this medium alone .
Again Happy Sunday

Coyotejack:


Hehehe
MISS ,u just said that you don't want to pester him when he declined ur request for friendship...
If he keeps on strangling the efforts people extend to help him or to bring him out of his dark place , what are you to do, I never said you should give up. Afterall we both know the importance of friendship. But there's so much a single entity can go , it takes two to make this stuff work, if he doesn't want all I can do is pray cause I am a strong believer in it.
Every body wants to be helped beneath, u say, but he said it outright that he doesn't care by refusing. I am sure u and I know him thru this medium and this medium alone .
Again Happy Sunday

ok,thanks

spoke to a lady in church today, and I was just stammering, me that is not a stammarer

Coyotejack:


Hehehe
MISS ,u just said that you don't want to pester him when he declined ur request for friendship...
If he keeps on strangling the efforts people extend to help him or to bring him out of his dark place , what are you to do, I never said you should give up. Afterall we both know the importance of friendship. But there's so much a single entity can go , it takes two to make this stuff work, if he doesn't want all I can do is pray cause I am a strong believer in it.
Every body wants to be helped beneath, u say, but he said it outright that he doesn't care by refusing. I am sure u and I know him thru this medium and this medium alone .
Again Happy Sunday

hey,hw are you, the guy said I should greet you,i contacted him

Coyotejack:



PS I ain't him let's clarify that , the same reason u reached out to him ,is why I was Lauding u , cause the first thing that came to my mind was that he was suicidal, then I saw the his post where he said it went a downward spiral after something happened to him that he didn't want to share , my shock was that it was only u that picked interest, and the self taught psych analyst was no where to be found , but I have been away then I came across ur conversation and I tried to reach out but he has deactivated, and I recalled u were the one that conversed with him last thru this medium,so I tot U made some sort of breakthru. I pray he overcomes.

Hello Coyotejack,
If I'm not mistaken, you were referring to me when you said that bolded part. First, I'm not a self-taught psych analyst. I was asked if I was a psychology student and I replied saying I was a self-taught Psychologist and Philosopher.

Secondly, having studied psychology to some level (and on top of that philosophizing), I know that different problems have different solutions. And I'm almost certain I know what he (NinjaX) needs and it's not someone online trying to talk him out of anything. He is not suicidal and he won't kill someone else. If anything, he is very smart. I won't say anything beyond this about him. And the truth is, "although everyone needs help, help cannot be given by anybody." (You may want to read that quote again and deeply to understand)

I'm glad you later said this below, meaning you will understand my point.

Coyotejack:
Okay I see
You can only help somebody that wants to be helped.
Happy Sunday

charley94:
spoke to a lady in church today, and I was just stammering, me that is not a stammarer

It's kinda normal. Such things as speaking to the opposite sex you may have a crush on (or find attractive) can make you stammer if you're shy. You'll get out of it as your social skills and confidence improves.

If you want to do something about it, always take a breath if you're talking to someone like that. Also, it is important you don't go all practicing a speech..nah, it doesn't help shy people. Always try to start talking about an existing situation (like talking about the sermon or asking her about what you may have perceived she's interested in). Above all, just try to improve your conversation skills by deviating from routine when talking to people who may be obliged to answer you. For example, complementing a fast food attendant about her smile, having a quick chat with a security at the entrance of a bank about his/her day, speaking to that pretty usher in church about how you can change seats...the list is endless but the point remains practicing makes perfect.

ModestGal:

hey,hw are you, the guy said I should greet you,i contacted him

Okay

Wow! I thought I was alone on this. I sometimes berate and taunt myself for not being like others. I find so many things people yearn for so boring. The truth remains that it's hard for people to understand me. I had issues with my uncle I stayed with cuz he used to say that I was always on my own. Never relating my problems to him... Never carried him along or shared some gossips with him. On my part I felt he was a nosy parker who minds others business that concerns him not.
Well, this is me.
1. I am jovial; yes, very jovial.
2. I hate crowd, and I hate socializing with many people at the same time. Need I say that I am equally claustrophobic.
3. I have few close friends. My best friend in SS2 is still my best friend now, after 11 yrs.
4. I am partly extroverted because I play a lot, joke with people, flow easily with ladies etc. but deep within, it takes lots of energy.
5. I battled and currently battling confidence issue. Don't like speaking in the public but my profession gave me out. I hate preaching on the pulpit but my contributions in our fellowship didn't help me. The first time I was called on, I saw myself picking words like a kid.
6. I like thinking. I like staying alone. I like doing things myself. I hate wild parties.
7. I don't usually show much excitement or exuberance. Sometimes, my smile could mean, "damn! this is so awesome!".

I love myself so much. I am different - I know, but that makes me awesome.

Hey guys, I love this thread . I belong to the first category, I hardly mixed with a lot of people and I've basically had the same friends since secondary school and university. Howeverost of my friends are out of my state and my life is now work and home. Social life is almost non existent. I hope this platform can change that for me.
Name: osho , occ: lawyer.,

I know some of you may ask why I don't talk a lot because I am a lawyer, don't worry I can talk for hours when it comes to that.

Personality: let's just say I'm the kind of person that will rather sit at home, buy fuel, drinks, meat/pizza and binge watch a show. Rather than go to the club or bar to sit down.

My work schedule can be crazy sometimes, so weekends I just want to chill out...

Male or female potential friends can contact me via whatsapp on worry

Modestgal

Gracious007:
Modestgal

hi

ModestGal:
hi

Hello. I am back as promised.

Gracious007:

Hello. I am back as promised.

ok,thanks deary

Help me check this out**Vanceastro**,or this thread, depression,signs and how to help