| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 6:56am On Feb 25, 2017 |
obyrich:
After reading this, I knew you are an easy prey for him and his 'men'. Don't go crying about how Igbo men are wicked or dubious after all the warnings here. I am an Ignoman so are many others who have warned you. Better shine your eyes. So you mean he can step foot in my fathers house, introduce me to his whole family mumsci included they all call me, even keep my dp on hid watsapp for months at a time, post my pics on facebook, do introduction with important people and still scam me? |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:00am On Feb 25, 2017 |
obadizena:
Is it in ur best interest to wait later until the critical age of 40, before having babies? He is the one that suggested this! Not me. I was only going along with it pretending so I can gage where his heart/desires are. I was kind of psyching him... like pretending to want a seperate household like i found out he wants thru a feiend. The whole thing is weird cause he was going along like we would live together... but i think it is wen i told him he cant return to naija in 25 years he knew i was trying to prevent any kind of scam i dont know! |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:07am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Admin401:
believing the word of another human being
lol, you are soft. Am I God? I have to at least ask him his intentions? Or I guess you are saying I have to do my own investigation or what? What if I never have access to his cellphone or friends. How else do i know but to ask the man himself... |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by darbeelicous(f): 7:24am On Feb 25, 2017 |
my brother that's true!!
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Typical mbaise people are more dangerous than serpent!.... No offence!firstking01:
A typical mentality of an mbaise guy....op, break up with him now that the hand writing is clear. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 8:18am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
If I have to play the game of having a child first before filing it means something dey very very wrong, abi? Children dont keep a scam artist anyway..... like I said,that's if ur story is true cus you are all her defending him......You will not even get pregnant if he is a scammer.... |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 8:20am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
So you mean he can step foot in my fathers house, introduce me to his whole family mumsci included they all call me, even keep my dp on hid watsapp for months at a time, post my pics on facebook, do introduction with important people and still scam me? Your replies irritate me.....so you feel because he did that small thing,he can't scam you?wake up,guys will even sacrifice his kidney for you and still scam you... |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by TheGreatIYANU: 8:46am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Hi Naira Land!
Hi Naira Land!
So I need to guys to help me out here. I'm confused about my relationship, so maybe you guys can help see clearly?
I met my fiancé at a wedding in Nigeria....
Hi Blessed11, you are truly a blessed one. Your coming to this platform has saved you a great deal of heartbreak and pain in the nearest future. Blessed, the word is DESPERATION. Guys are desperate to leave this country by all means, any means necessary. You mean you saw these text messages - Blessed11:
Two was him asking his friend to send him money to complete d mission in Lagos as he is making road for men.
The third was him flirting with one girl and you're still wondering what your 'man' is up to. THAT IS WHAT HE IS UP TO WOMAN! Please wake up! I know you may be in love, but let me assure you, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage and invariably, a broken heart. Call of the Wedding. Call off the relationship and boot him off your life. He will bring only shame and sorrow to you. PLEASE DONT OVERLOOK THOSE TEXTS! THAT IS GOD'S WAY OF SAVING YOU! That guy would wreck you as soon as you let him fully into your life. DON'T. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 9:58am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Benz4pimp:
Your replies irritate me.....so you feel because he did that small thing,he can't scam you?wake up,guys will even sacrifice his kidney for you and still scam you... He holds a position in d church tot he had a conscience |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 10:06am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
He holds a position in d church tot he had a conscience You mean holding a position in church makes him sane?.....he took up a job in church so as to look good and put food on his table...church business is good business |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by rex444(m): 10:11am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Tell him to take u to his home town next time you are around, meet with his age mates since he is igbo,he must be in one age grade.. source about what he really does,his real parents and all. Just be very careful cos u sound a bit desperate for a husband |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 10:16am On Feb 25, 2017 |
sunshyne20:
@blessed11 sometimes NL can be confusing, as so many people give advice based on their perspective, ideology, experiences & characters.
He may have lied, yes!!! But have thought of the fact that he is being intimidated by your success, and doing all he can to measure up?
Am sure he didn't know you were US based when you guys met.
I think, make him feel comfortable, make him know you love him for who he is and believe in his future.
Not all men are savages..
About his ex pic, I think you even have yours, but if you don't, it's Because you decided to let it go.
About living in Nigeria, I feel he said that so you wouldn't think he is in for the visa.
About the age, I have a friend 27 marrying a girl 32 and he is so proud of it, that we(his friends) have not say.
Dont just conclude, weigh your choices. It may be true love. This commentary is the most neutral. But ur leaving out the text about him "making a road for men" also you may not understand the living in nigeria bit. In beginning of relationship he said he wanted to just travel back n forth to see me n kids. When I got mad he never mention it. Than I thought like you, & figured he was just pulling my legs. Fast forward to now & we are making plans to find a place for us to live meanshile behind my back he told his friend hes not comfortable being away from nigeria for long that he wants to be visiting me instead. Which I confirmed is what he wants when I tricked him. So, why would he want such a long distance marriage  Why would he in front of my face go along with living with me here permanently when he had such desire Why doesnt he plan If he is scamming why does he consider me his soulmate Why do we talk every single day allllll day if Im just a fake wife Why do all his friends know me as his wife to be Even ones I have contacted thru fake pages disguising my identity! They know me as his wife to be |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 10:19am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Benz4pimp:
You mean holding a position in church makes him sane?.....he took up a job in church so as to look good and put food on his table...church business is good business Do they get paid?? Didnt know. He is a "pw" in Anglican church |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by samblaks(m): 10:31am On Feb 25, 2017 |
u may choose to run for your dear life my sister. He is just a gold digger. when e use u, chop u finish and maate , ur eye go clear. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 10:35am On Feb 25, 2017 |
rex444:
Tell him to take u to his home town next time you are around, meet with his age mates since he is igbo,he must be in one age grade.. source about what he really does,his real parents and all. Just be very careful cos u sound a bit desperate for a husband Hes a transport supervisor for one company in ph of which he is not permanent staff. Then he is a builder on the side. I met his mum and talk to her by phone. He dad is late. I talk to his eldest brother. And all his friends know me and our engagement pictures wine ceremony are all posted on facebook. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by rex444(m): 10:48am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Hes a transport supervisor for one company in ph of which he is not permanent staff. Then he is a builder on the side. I met his mum and talk to her by phone. He dad is late. I talk to his eldest brother. And all his friends know me and our engagement pictures wine ceremony are all posted on facebook. Go to his village my dear for all I know he might also be lying about those people he calls his family members u know....just to be on the safe side |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 11:01am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Am I God? I have to at least ask him his intentions? Or I guess you are saying I have to do my own investigation or what? What if I never have access to his cellphone or friends. How else do i know but to ask the man himself... Yes, do your own investigation, but don't make it obvious. You will be surprise what you will uncover |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by obyrich(m): 11:48am On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
So you mean he can step foot in my fathers house, introduce me to his whole family mumsci included they all call me, even keep my dp on hid watsapp for months at a time, post my pics on facebook, do introduction with important people and still scam me? YES! My inference is drawn from the information you provided. For a guy to borrow money from friends in order to put up an elaborate engagement party with the promise of clearing the way for 'men', is something that borders on fraud. He will wed you, no doubt but will he remain faithful? Will he stick through thick and thin? Use your tongue to count your teeth. Ekwu si go m. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 12:23pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
But he mentioned me to his elders n everyone lnew about me i wasnt hidden Obviously even you know that there's something wrong somewhere otherwise you wouldn't go through his phone. He's lied to you once and when confronted he kept on lying brazenly. Come on girl, being in love is not enough, being from the same tribe is not enough, practising the same religion isn't enough, And obviously in your situation knowing each other's family members and vice versa isn't enough. Also, it doesn't seem like as if he's left puberty. He doesn't have a job and he wants to "buy" you a house in the US? Pipedream 1 He wants to marry you but doesn't want to live with you? Pipedream 2. I'm sorry to be the one to break this news to you dear, you aren't in a relationship, rather you're in a ... 
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| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 12:29pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Hes a transport supervisor for one company in ph of which he is not permanent staff. Then he is a builder on the side. I met his mum and talk to her by phone. He dad is late. I talk to his eldest brother. And all his friends know me and our engagement pictures wine ceremony are all posted on facebook. Tonto Dike also had her engagement and wedding plastered all over Facebook. Be wise and run for your life. Don't feel you have to marry him because you're becoming "chronologically disadvantaged"  cos you're not. Don't settle, be patient and the right man will come. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by chigoizie7(m): 1:03pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Hi Naira Land!
Hi Naira Land!
So I need to guys to help me out here. I'm confused about my relationship, so maybe you guys can help see clearly?
I met my fiancé at a wedding in Nigeria. He was the best man I was the maid of honor. We are both igbo but I am American born & raised.
After the wedding we exchanged numbers. And he chatted me as I flew back to the States up until today 10 months later. We have talked everyday, 3x a day.
Two weeks after the wedding he started saying he loves me. And I was abit thrown off by it. Soon within the first month he mentioned marriage. This threw me off, but enticed me as I want to marry being in my 30s.
In one of our earliest convos, he mentioned buying us a house since Im now his responsibility but he will leave it for me and come to visit. Since hes not sure he likes yankee. This unfuriated me & I ignored him for 2 days. What kind of marriage would that be? He said he was just joking n I forgave him.
So fast forward 7 months later... he has stated his intention to marry me to my uncle after coming to see me in Lagos on a visit I made.
We did the wine engagement ceremony in my uncle house. I met his whole family: Mom, Sister, Brother, his Boss... everyone knows about me. And chats me everyday. My picture has been on his dp the whole 9 months. He sent texts showing me off... and posted my pics on fb. He contacted my uncle to do the introduction and spoke to my Dad & Mom. He calls me his soulmate... and says he will have a broken heart if I leave him.
So here are the problems: He lied about his age. Told me he is 32 (I am 32) but I found out thru his ex he is 29. I confronted him and took 5 months and silly made up stories before he came clean that he is indeed 29. I even called his Mom to verify. He told me his Mom was lying! But today he confesses he is 29.
Next issue: when I went to Lagos to see him, I searched his phone. Wrong I know! But I saw three texts that confused me: one was him asking his friend to save his ex gf pics of him and her and one of her awards. Two was him asking his friend to send him money to complete d mission in lagos as he is making road for men. The third was him flirting with one girl.
Next issue: he keeps mentioning marriage but doesnt ask where we will live, wat he will do for living here.. or any real plans. Im the one making all d plans.
The last issue: we got into an argument about some of the texts I saw on my lagos visit. One of his friends called him to ask him why we are fighting. He told him a very different story! That we are fighting because I want him to live in America, but he cant live there since he has his job in ph. Mind you all he has no job he is an errand boy and does construction gigs. He told his friend that he wants to just be visiting me instead. I was so confused because I was getting ready to file for him, choosing a place for us to live, and looking into job sectors and schools for him!
So I called him to pretend thats what I want. And he agreed! Saying that I can live in America and him in Nigeria for awhile and I can have babies later like 40 he said.
Naira Landers!! Am I missing something? Or does everything seems okay and I'm overthinking this guy? Please be honest and neutral!!!!
So I need to guys to help me out here. I'm confused about my relationship, so maybe you guys can help see clearly?
I met my fiancé at a wedding in Nigeria. He was the best man I was the maid of honor. We are both igbo but I am American born & raised.
After the wedding we exchanged numbers. And he chatted me as I flew back to the States up until today 10 months later. We have talked everyday, 3x a day.
Two weeks after the wedding he started saying he loves me. And I was abit thrown off by it. Soon within the first month he mentioned marriage. This threw me off, but enticed me as I want to marry being in my 30s.
In one of our earliest convos, he mentioned buying us a house since Im now his responsibility but he will leave it for me and come to visit. Since hes not sure he likes yankee. This unfuriated me & I ignored him for 2 days. What kind of marriage would that be? He said he was just joking n I forgave him.
So fast forward 7 months later... he has stated his intention to marry me to my uncle after coming to see me in Lagos on a visit I made.
We did the wine engagement ceremony in my uncle house. I met his whole family: Mom, Sister, Brother, his Boss... everyone knows about me. And chats me everyday. My picture has been on his dp the whole 9 months. He sent texts showing me off... and posted my pics on fb. He contacted my uncle to do the introduction and spoke to my Dad & Mom. He calls me his soulmate... and says he will have a broken heart if I leave him.
So here are the problems: He lied about his age. Told me he is 32 (I am 32) but I found out thru his ex he is 29. I confronted him and took 5 months and silly made up stories before he came clean that he is indeed 29. I even called his Mom to verify. He told me his Mom was lying! But today he confesses he is 29.
Next issue: when I went to Lagos to see him, I searched his phone. Wrong I know! But I saw three texts that confused me: one was him asking his friend to save his ex gf pics of him and her and one of her awards. Two was him asking his friend to send him money to complete d mission in lagos as he is making road for men. The third was him flirting with one girl.
Next issue: he keeps mentioning marriage but doesnt ask where we will live, wat he will do for living here.. or any real plans. Im the one making all d plans.
The last issue: we got into an argument about some of the texts I saw on my lagos visit. One of his friends called him to ask him why we are fighting. He told him a very different story! That we are fighting because I want him to live in America, but he cant live there since he has his job in ph. Mind you all he has no job he is an errand boy and does construction gigs. He told his friend that he wants to just be visiting me instead. I was so confused because I was getting ready to file for him, choosing a place for us to live, and looking into job sectors and schools for him!
So I called him to pretend thats what I want. And he agreed! Saying that I can live in America and him in Nigeria for awhile and I can have babies later like 40 he said.
Naira Landers!! Am I missing something? Or does everything seems okay and I'm overthinking this guy? Please be honest and neutral!!!!
1st of all, u are a sister, ( Agu adiro egbu agu ibe ya). |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Krak(m): 1:12pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Hi Naira Land!
Hi Naira Land!
So I need to guys to help me out here. I'm confused about my relationship, so maybe you guys can help see clearly?
I met my fiancé at a wedding in Nigeria. He was the best man I was the maid of honor. We are both igbo but I am American born & raised.
After the wedding we exchanged numbers. And he chatted me as I flew back to the States up until today 10 months later. We have talked everyday, 3x a day.
Two weeks after the wedding he started saying he loves me. And I was abit thrown off by it. Soon within the first month he mentioned marriage. This threw me off, but enticed me as I want to marry being in my 30s.
In one of our earliest convos, he mentioned buying us a house since Im now his responsibility but he will leave it for me and come to visit. Since hes not sure he likes yankee. This unfuriated me & I ignored him for 2 days. What kind of marriage would that be? He said he was just joking n I forgave him.
So fast forward 7 months later... he has stated his intention to marry me to my uncle after coming to see me in Lagos on a visit I made.
We did the wine engagement ceremony in my uncle house. I met his whole family: Mom, Sister, Brother, his Boss... everyone knows about me. And chats me everyday. My picture has been on his dp the whole 9 months. He sent texts showing me off... and posted my pics on fb. He contacted my uncle to do the introduction and spoke to my Dad & Mom. He calls me his soulmate... and says he will have a broken heart if I leave him.
So here are the problems: He lied about his age. Told me he is 32 (I am 32) but I found out thru his ex he is 29. I confronted him and took 5 months and silly made up stories before he came clean that he is indeed 29. I even called his Mom to verify. He told me his Mom was lying! But today he confesses he is 29.
Next issue: when I went to Lagos to see him, I searched his phone. Wrong I know! But I saw three texts that confused me: one was him asking his friend to save his ex gf pics of him and her and one of her awards. Two was him asking his friend to send him money to complete d mission in lagos as he is making road for men. The third was him flirting with one girl.
Next issue: he keeps mentioning marriage but doesnt ask where we will live, wat he will do for living here.. or any real plans. Im the one making all d plans.
The last issue: we got into an argument about some of the texts I saw on my lagos visit. One of his friends called him to ask him why we are fighting. He told him a very different story! That we are fighting because I want him to live in America, but he cant live there since he has his job in ph. Mind you all he has no job he is an errand boy and does construction gigs. He told his friend that he wants to just be visiting me instead. I was so confused because I was getting ready to file for him, choosing a place for us to live, and looking into job sectors and schools for him!
So I called him to pretend thats what I want. And he agreed! Saying that I can live in America and him in Nigeria for awhile and I can have babies later like 40 he said.
Naira Landers!! Am I missing something? Or does everything seems okay and I'm overthinking this guy? Please be honest and neutral!!!!
So I need to guys to help me out here. I'm confused about my relationship, so maybe you guys can help see clearly?
I met my fiancé at a wedding in Nigeria. He was the best man I was the maid of honor. We are both igbo but I am American born & raised.
After the wedding we exchanged numbers. And he chatted me as I flew back to the States up until today 10 months later. We have talked everyday, 3x a day.
Two weeks after the wedding he started saying he loves me. And I was abit thrown off by it. Soon within the first month he mentioned marriage. This threw me off, but enticed me as I want to marry being in my 30s.
In one of our earliest convos, he mentioned buying us a house since Im now his responsibility but he will leave it for me and come to visit. Since hes not sure he likes yankee. This unfuriated me & I ignored him for 2 days. What kind of marriage would that be? He said he was just joking n I forgave him.
So fast forward 7 months later... he has stated his intention to marry me to my uncle after coming to see me in Lagos on a visit I made.
We did the wine engagement ceremony in my uncle house. I met his whole family: Mom, Sister, Brother, his Boss... everyone knows about me. And chats me everyday. My picture has been on his dp the whole 9 months. He sent texts showing me off... and posted my pics on fb. He contacted my uncle to do the introduction and spoke to my Dad & Mom. He calls me his soulmate... and says he will have a broken heart if I leave him.
So here are the problems: He lied about his age. Told me he is 32 (I am 32) but I found out thru his ex he is 29. I confronted him and took 5 months and silly made up stories before he came clean that he is indeed 29. I even called his Mom to verify. He told me his Mom was lying! But today he confesses he is 29.
Next issue: when I went to Lagos to see him, I searched his phone. Wrong I know! But I saw three texts that confused me: one was him asking his friend to save his ex gf pics of him and her and one of her awards. Two was him asking his friend to send him money to complete d mission in lagos as he is making road for men. The third was him flirting with one girl.
Next issue: he keeps mentioning marriage but doesnt ask where we will live, wat he will do for living here.. or any real plans. Im the one making all d plans.
The last issue: we got into an argument about some of the texts I saw on my lagos visit. One of his friends called him to ask him why we are fighting. He told him a very different story! That we are fighting because I want him to live in America, but he cant live there since he has his job in ph. Mind you all he has no job he is an errand boy and does construction gigs. He told his friend that he wants to just be visiting me instead. I was so confused because I was getting ready to file for him, choosing a place for us to live, and looking into job sectors and schools for him!
So I called him to pretend thats what I want. And he agreed! Saying that I can live in America and him in Nigeria for awhile and I can have babies later like 40 he said.
Naira Landers!! Am I missing something? Or does everything seems okay and I'm overthinking this guy? Please be honest and neutral!!!!
The bolded. Sounds like Confraternity lingo. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 2:01pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
This commentary is the most neutral. But ur leaving out the text about him "making a road for men" also you may not understand the living in nigeria bit. In beginning of relationship he said he wanted to just travel back n forth to see me n kids. When I got mad he never mention it. Than I thought like you, & figured he was just pulling my legs. Fast forward to now & we are making plans to find a place for us to live meanshile behind my back he told his friend hes not comfortable being away from nigeria for long that he wants to be visiting me instead. Which I confirmed is what he wants when I tricked him. So, why would he want such a long distance marriage Why would he in front of my face go along with living with me here permanently when he had such desire Why doesnt he plan If he is scamming why does he consider me his soulmate Why do we talk every single day allllll day if Im just a fake wife Why do all his friends know me as his wife to be Even ones I have contacted thru fake pages disguising my identity! They know me as his wife to be Thanks for your compliment in the first sentence. I am not saying I know all, (but I am sure you can relate to jargons, slangs and colloquial used by different people of different class, and diverse relationships). When I speak with my friends (military in nature), we could talk for about 3hours and no body there would understand/comprehend what we are saying. They may hear us talk in English, but those words we said were coined by us at a particular time of our life and experience, not even other military guys would understand. So I think, just picking that statement might not tell you the exact meaning of what he said, you may just be out of context. Because I am not understanding how "making road for men" & "not moving abroad" relates. If he wants to make road(in YOUR CONTEXT) then going abroad would be a perfect option. Please you may just have a comprehension issue and it's already causing you trouble where there is none. Like I said, take your time and think this true, take out all the possible options and be left with the truth(which I think he loves you). Also, life has taught me to face my challenges eyeballs to eyeballs and fight to win. You can't continue running, sometimes you fight. Like a saying "you cannot, connect the dot looking FORWARD, you can only connect the dot looking BACKWARD, but you just need to have faith, that somehow the dots would be connect as you go" Take care, I am praying for you. #greatlove |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 2:12pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Hmmm, most of you guys telling her to run. Where is she to run to?
Should we all run because, we feel otherwise? This is her story, naturally because this is what she came to say here, she might be to biased(not like its her fault, but her subconscious mind controls her heart) as she tells us the stories.
Please lets be objective and analyze from both views, NL comment has broken more relationships, than mending.
You tell them you love someone abroad=savage
You love uneducated = you are dumb
You love someone older = for the money
You love herbalist = money ritual
Forgetting that, Explorers and Co met and married here.
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I just hope blessed11 fights this and win, we can't continue running cowardly at every challenge if not, we might not win. Because no victory without a battle and life is a WAR. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by coolestofall(m): 2:18pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
sunshyne20:
@blessed11 sometimes NL can be confusing, as so many people give advice based on their perspective, ideology, experiences & characters.
He may have lied, yes!!! But have thought of the fact that he is being intimidated by your success, and doing all he can to measure up?
Am sure he didn't know you were US based when you guys met.
I think, make him feel comfortable, make him know you love him for who he is and believe in his future.
Not all men are savages..
About his ex pic, I think you even have yours, but if you don't, it's Because you decided to let it go.
About living in Nigeria, I feel he said that so you wouldn't think he is in for the visa.
About the age, I have a friend 27 marrying a girl 32 and he is so proud of it, that we(his friends) have not say.
Dont just conclude, weigh your choices. It may be true love. @ Blessed11. I don help u spot ur guy, na him dey use dis moniker. Him dey try convince u 2 stay. On a serious note, if u love d guy n u want 2 go ahead with marrying him, do this: Don't work his papers 2 America. Leave him in Nigeria in d mean time. Secondly, tell him u want a prenup. If e can live with those terms, then u can go ahead with previous plans. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 2:24pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
coolestofall:
@ Blessed11. I don help u spot ur guy, na him dey use dis moniker. Him dey try convince u 2 stay.
On a serious note, if u love d guy n u want 2 go ahead with marrying him, do this:
Don't work his papers 2 America. Leave him in Nigeria in d mean time.
Secondly, tell him u want a prenup.
If e can live with those terms, then u can go ahead with previous plans. If I were the guy as you said, I would have married her long ago. Why waste time in marrying someone as tender and understanding as she. But I am humbly here in the Northern (Hemisphere) in Nigeria. I just don't want her to give up. She should FIGHT. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by naijareferee: 6:51pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
the dude is acting smart... using reverse psychology on you. like telling you he does not want something in order to make you beg him to want it. who ever prefers naija to any where outside Africa will probably be in the elite league. and how do you know those he introduced you to are his relations. how do you ascertain you are talking to his mother. don't be desperate my dear... have an open mind ... and beautiful things will happen to you not the scam you are presently in. and I guess... he has not asked you for cash... nor presented any problems to you...Lol... he needs to put up that appearance to complete the scam... good luck |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:19pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
sunshyne20:
Thanks for your compliment in the first sentence.
I am not saying I know all, (but I am sure you can relate to jargons, slangs and colloquial used by different people of different class, and diverse relationships).
When I speak with my friends (military in nature), we could talk for about 3hours and no body there would understand/comprehend what we are saying. They may hear us talk in English, but those words we said were coined by us at a particular time of our life and experience, not even other military guys would understand.
So I think, just picking that statement might not tell you the exact meaning of what he said, you may just be out of context. Because I am not understanding how "making road for men" & "not moving abroad" relates. If he wants to make road(in YOUR CONTEXT) then going abroad would be a perfect option.
Please you may just have a comprehension issue and it's already causing you trouble where there is none.
Like I said, take your time and think this true, take out all the possible options and be left with the truth(which I think he loves you).
Also, life has taught me to face my challenges eyeballs to eyeballs and fight to win. You can't continue running, sometimes you fight.
Like a saying "you cannot, connect the dot looking FORWARD, you can only connect the dot looking BACKWARD, but you just need to have faith, that somehow the dots would be connect as you go"
Take care, I am praying for you.
#greatlove Thank you dear for your encouragement... I have to be honest and say that the friend he texted: im making a road for men ... I axtually found the friend on fb and asked him about that text! The friend said he will tell me d meaning.... he said that it simply means that when my fiancé goes to america he will come back and help them. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Nobody: 7:31pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
Blessed11:
Thank you dear for your encouragement...
I have to be honest and say that the friend he texted: im making a road for men ... I axtually found the friend on fb and asked him about that text! The friend said he will tell me d meaning.... he said that it simply means that when my fiancé goes to america he will come back and help them.
It's ok dear. It's well, just think through your actions. Lets assume, you said to your younger sibling, "when I get married I would bring you to stay with me" does it mean you are a sycophant? Nope.. MA, buddies are buddies. But all the best, just do your thing. Please do ensure you tell us how it ended, so we could be inspired by you. I am not your finance as someone quoted me and said, I don't even know you from Adam, just a concerned friend-to-be. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:52pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
sunshyne20:
It's ok dear. It's well, just think through your actions.
Lets assume, you said to your younger sibling, "when I get married I would bring you to stay with me" does it mean you are a sycophant? Nope..
MA, buddies are buddies.
But all the best, just do your thing.
Please do ensure you tell us how it ended, so we could be inspired by you
I am not your finance as someone quoted me and said, I don't even know you from Adam, just a concerned friend-to-be. Lol! U dont even write like him! His writing insnt clear. I updated the situation with my decision!! |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:55pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
naijareferee:
the dude is acting smart... using reverse psychology on you. like telling you he does not want something in order to make you beg him to want it. who ever prefers naija to any where outside Africa will probably be in the elite league. and how do you know those he introduced you to are his relations. how do you ascertain you are talking to his mother. don't be desperate my dear... have an open mind ... and beautiful things will happen to you not the scam you are presently in. and I guess... he has not asked you for cash... nor presented any problems to you...Lol... he needs to put up that appearance to complete the scam... good luck Lol you didnt read the story well. He told me i should file for him and we will live here in US. But behing my back he told his friend he wants to stay back in nigeria n be visiting me instead!! Lol thats his mother. He is always with her on sundays she was at d brother wedding and he ive seen her pics on d brother fb... im sure its his mom. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 7:58pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
naijareferee:
the dude is acting smart... using reverse psychology on you. like telling you he does not want something in order to make you beg him to want it. who ever prefers naija to any where outside Africa will probably be in the elite league. and how do you know those he introduced you to are his relations. how do you ascertain you are talking to his mother. don't be desperate my dear... have an open mind ... and beautiful things will happen to you not the scam you are presently in. and I guess... he has not asked you for cash... nor presented any problems to you...Lol... he needs to put up that appearance to complete the scam... good luck He asked me for cash once, wen I came to Lagos for our second in person visit. He said he needed it for his uncle. When i got upset he said I failed the test. That he was just testing me. |
| Re: What Do You Guys Think Is Going On??? *UPDATE* by Blessed11: 8:02pm On Feb 25, 2017 |
coolestofall:
@ Blessed11. I don help u spot ur guy, na him dey use dis moniker. Him dey try convince u 2 stay.
On a serious note, if u love d guy n u want 2 go ahead with marrying him, do this:
Don't work his papers 2 America. Leave him in Nigeria in d mean time.
Secondly, tell him u want a prenup.
If e can live with those terms, then u can go ahead with previous plans. Anything I mention he goes with it! Told him I want a pre-nup he said fine. He only had reservations with me getting a lasyer. He said I was wasting money. Had reservations about 5 kids. But he said I had the final say. |
