wholesomegrace:


@ imoge2..... does ur lo eat all these foods?
Does she sell pap that water has been added?
Please forward her number?
Which cereal is better to start with, Gerber Rice or Oat?
Thanks sis, sorry for the plenty questions

I just bought o.
Lol.
Tried d pap and ended up drinking it.
Hubby says i will end up drinking all. Lol.

She has even refused d gerber rice.
We r back to milk.... pumped booby n aptamil.
Waiting patiently 4 6months by then i would have consumed all this n get her hers.

The seller is on instagram.
Augustsecrets_toyin
0806 265 6798
She even sells in the UK and USA

Her pap is dried like powder
She even has beans.... peeled n grinded.

Chio.
Am not her marketer o.
Am just awwed at d entrepreneur spirit.

Gr8fulHeart:
@iomoge2. pls sorry to take u back cn u plss post a pic of cantu u use for ur dd. im seeing difff product hence d confusn.thnk

Its always written cantu 4 kids.
And learnt they have almost 5 products under kiddies range.
Lemme look 4 it

Yesitsme, tell her "please I need more help", or even better, let your MIL, start coming. Let your husband tell your mum "thank you soo much for your help but my mum is coming next week because she cannot wait for her turn to play Grandma". Let it be said firmly with a smile. Your husband can ask Mama politely to leave. Postnatal Depression is real and can be aggravated by people, blood or not.

My mum did a lot of work (at almost 70!) and so did my MIL. The Grand Mama is tough so she drove me up the wall and my MIL actually wanted me to leave the baby more with her (she felt I was running too quick to the cries assuming she couldn't handle things). I have a picture of MIL kneeling with a 3 month old strapped to her back at 2 am.

beeejaylere:
other of 4, eldest is in SS2 but she really needs a job.
She is willing to come in and do cleanings or watch over kids till the evenings.
Pls where part of lagos is she? am interested

Let me pm you.
I actually didn't know this was for me o.
Madam you never sabi quote

Onegai:
Yesitsme, tell her "please I need more help", or even better, let your MIL, start coming. Let your husband tell your mum "thank you soo much for your help but my mum is coming next week because she cannot wait for her turn to play Grandma". Let it be said firmly with a smile. Your husband can ask Mama politely to leave. Postnatal Depression is real and can be aggravated by people, blood or not.

If the decision is for her mum to leave she should be the one to mention it to her mum.

These matters can be very sensitive and can be mis-interpreted, even when said with the most polite of ways. we all know many men are a liiiittle bit more direct in their approach and speaking. if it comes from the hubby, it may just end up as " my in-law drove me out of the house".

She knows her mum better and likely to use the right words.

AlphaHandMaiden:


If the decision is for her mum to leave she should be the one to mention it to her mum.

These matters can be very sensitive and can be mis-interpreted, even when said with the most polite of ways. we all know many men are a liiiittle bit more direct in their approach and speaking. if it comes from the hubby, it may just end up as " my in-law drove me out of the house".

She knows her mum better and likely to use the right words.

Well, that would be more appropriate but this is Nigeria, where Husband and his family have more say in marital home than Wife and family. Reading Family section taught me that.
Besides, her mum is going to not take it well if she says it (no nice way to say "please leave, I prefer my MIL". That is how feuds and all sorts of drama start). But if a husband says "my mum is coming", (not a word uttered about her leaving) politely, mama will jejely go. Especially if they have no space and mama will not want to be outshone.
Reasonableness sometimes isn't the best way to attack a situation, no need looking for trouble when you have the excuse of Cultural precedent to take advantage of. Sometimes, I go "oh Grand Mama, tis not I whom made such suggestion but mine husband" and she will mellow and see the reasonable thought behind the words, rather than if I said it and she hears it through the mouthpiece of someone she spent some years thinking was most immature and that she wiped my ars.e and gave me biscuit to shut me up (like all parents do).

Ma'm Yesistme ,mamas have said it all,just don't expect much from anyone.some will even come to make you more depressed like my MIL who told me she came to rest not work.she'd watch African Magic Igbo from morning till night,never cooked,never washed,bathed my baby only twice in her 1 myth stay,will not even carry the baby self.I started work but will prepare her breakfast n lunch before leaving with mybaby.
told me that my mum did a bad work by not lifting my ds's buttocks with hotwater(whatever that means),summary my dh told her to leave and we had peace.
do the ones you can do and leave the rest till whenever you can.

iomoge2 pls how do you pump with that camera type, I have It but I don't even get a drop. I don't know how to fit my tips in it

Yesitsme:
frm all the comments,I guess she is wired differently and everyone isn't the same. I have to flow with the way things are, hubby has to endure while doing some stuffs. Thanks everyone.

I know how you feel I hard to literally chase my mum out my home after three weeks of CS because of the same thing it experiencing coupled with the fact that my marriage nearly crashed and i was heading to depression because of her but she is still my mum.I paid her her omugwo money and told her to go home. This made me to have the mindset that am in it alone with my husband(who is afraid of housework )
I took the advice of wonderful mamas in this house,did the once I could do and forget the others.
No matter what as far as she is there you will expect help from her even though people are telling you not to,just settle her and zero ur mind that you are alone.god bless

Ma'am yesitsme sorry about the situation I know it's quite hard

For me, my MIL wanted to come from when I was 34weeks pregnant because I was admitted for preterm labor and she wanted to be here to help with housework and all. I insisted she wait till baby was born.

When my son was born, my mum was with me in the hospital and MIL was in jos. We spent 5days in NICU before MIL came but before then it was my mum who was tying my stomach and that hot water therapy. She equally cooked and tried to clean. Let me also mention that while she was doing this, her elder brother had gone intonation coma the day my son was born and he died 3days later but she put that aside.

MIL came just as we were discharged from NICU and my mum left and she bath baby, dressed him, changed his diapers, carried him when he cried, carried him in the afternoon so I could sleep then she would bring him to me to breastfeed. In fact, if she hears him cry at night like 2am or 3am, she will knock on our door and come and take him from me.

She brought me breakfast in bed! And made sure dinner was ready by 6pm! She equally gave me the hot water therapy. Hers was worse than my mums. Sadly she left after 2 weeks cos of work.

Then my mum returned, she cooked, cleaned, bath baby, carried baby. For my mum when it came to my dh food, I had to be the one to prepare it because my dh is very picky. She would also ask what dh would take to work or have for breakfast then she would help me prep.

After a while, because I was bottle feeding, my mum would take my son and go to bed with him. All I had to do was make sure there was hot water, enough formula, extra clothes in case poop stained his clothes and enough diapers. But I would still wake up to breastfeed at 3am.

My mum was going to work from my house (we live in the same city). So she would bath baby in the morning and at night. Most times I had to do the bathing and cooking and cleaning. Doing all this with a newborn was exhausting! I was no longer sleeping in the afternoon and I was literally a walking zombie. While I was doing all these, dh must take food to work every single day as he does not eat out! And breakfast must be made.

There were days I and my mum took turns. One would sleep, the other would cook. It was tough.

I tell my mum to help me when I need it. In fact I send her all the time! And if I didn't agree with something I let her know!

You should try to talk to your mum but if she does not listen then you have to do this on your own! Trust me you're stronger than you give yourself credit for.

You could do what I do which is, do the things you can and leave the rest. If dh comes back, give him the baby, prepare his food, try to tidy up too then also find someone who you can pay to clean for you.

I don't have a help, but I cook, clean, make sure dh has food for lunch, laundry which I sometimes do by 10pm and still look after my baby.
When dh comes home, I give him baby, I enter bathroom and have some me time! And then I end up going to bed by 1am!

It's not easy, but it'll get better. Try not to put your mind to all she's doing.

Sorry for my long post.

Florena:
iomoge2 pls how do you pump with that camera type, I have It but I don't even get a drop. I don't know how to fit my tips in it

even till now i still put d nips in severally to get it balanced.
The thing i do is make sure d nips is at d middle.
As in placed in d very middle.
Wen i look in, its well balanced n not bent.
I noticed if the nips is bent inside i get littleto nothing.

Then i press n press the pump till the nips is inside almost half way in.
I may then stimulate the other nips n the flow will start.
I also drink water while at it n seat comfortably.

I do not keep pressing the pump.... i only press wen i feel the grip is reducing.
So once set.... it pumps itself.


Lemme know if u understand my epistle.

Yesitsme
U r not alone.
The reaction u ggot is d reason i kept quiet.
But in all...i thank God.

Some mothers cant be told u dont like how they r doing sometins.
My mum would flare up n ask u if u trained yourself.
She might even start crying saying u have insulted her.
As in ehn...... You cant even say lets not use powder or allow me breastfeed.... she will say i shouldn't breastfeed too much cos of work....even though i had 4months maternity.....
As in so many things.
I just endured mehn.
My mum will wake me from sleep n give me phone to greet one of her mothers sister brother uncles child.
Chio.

But in all. She was d best that happened.
Cleaning my house
Cooking breakfast n launch.. then me Dinner cos dh eats only dinner.
She cares 4 my girl like kilode

It was just d emotional fights n disgreements.
I learnt 2 ignore some tins n shut up my mouth.

We always had squabbles since time immemorial.....
But wen she left after omugwo... i cried.

I will advise u ignore wat u cannot change
Dont depend on her
Anything she does 4 u. See it as a favour n thank her very well happily.
dont expect too much.

AlphaHandMaiden:


I totally disagree with you.

She is not here slagging off her mum, but she has an expectation which her mum is not meeting. Its only fair to ask others to see if she is being unrealistic with her expectations.

Yes we cant replace our family members because we frankly are stuck to them no matter how annoying they may be. But as adults in yoir own home, you have a choice not to keep accepting crap from someone all because we are related by blood.

Just because as a woman one has a child, does not make one maternal. Once you can accept that you wont get offended by their actions and will be able to make logical decisions.

It is not about comparing mums and mils and it is not about one person choosing their son over you. If you have that mindset, it means your heart is still biased and closed to your in laws because they are not your blood. That is the wrongest approach to have in my opinion.

Both my mum or MIL will take a bullet for either my hubby or myself. And i dont treat MIL any different than i would treat my mum. And i am trated as a daughter to MIL and hubby as a son to my mum, not as an outsider.

Infact there are some things my MIL did to assist me that were my mum alive, i honestly dont think my mum would go that far.
If i believe my mil will do something better than my mum, i will go to her first and not have any sentiments that my mum should do it better purely because she is my blood and it doesnt mean i love my mum any less for saying my MIL is better at xyz task. And its the same vice versa. There are things my mum was better at and my hubby admits it no issues. It doesnt make his mum a bad person or him a bad son for admitting to a clear fact.

For instance, my mum traveled ALOT! Both for conferences and holidays.
If my baby were to have arrived suddenly , i cannot count on my mom to drop everything and come in a heartbeat because she has other commitments that she may not be able to leave except its a life and death situation. My MIL in the other hand is more flexible and has no such commitments and will drop everything she is doing and trek sef to meet you if she feels its faster. Does it mean that one person loves me better... no!


Everyone has their talents and defects... no person is perfect. If yestisme mum is not making her life easy, there is nothing wrong in her complaining about it and even considerig asking her to leave if it helps the general family wellbeing.

If it was her MIL she came here to complain about, from your comments you are likely the type of person to charge and say she should find away to send her away. That one's own mum is always better etc etc.
So why the double standards now because its is her mum, suddenly she is an ungrateful daughter who perhaps did not form a mother-daughter bond when growing up.

Her only benefit is that it is her own mum so she can raise the issue with and complain very well to her mum without the risk that it raises an in-law issue.

Very well said!

Yesitsme:
Thanks for this u spoke exactly what I wanted to communicate. the part u talked abt ur MIL leaving all she is doing to come take care of your baby was same with me. I lost my first baby during delivery last yr, my mum said she was sick and my MIL came the NXT day to take care of me. This baby came as a preemie and it took my mum a week bf she came infact my hubby had began making plans to have his mum around,he felt my mum didn't take the situation serious as I had to bath baby sometimes except for church member who came around sometimes. It was later I got to find out she delayed her coming cos my younger sister having her husband people come around for marriage list of which I knew nothing about (am the firstborn) So u c, my MIL is one in a million, she can take a bullet for me. It's well

She is ur mum doesn't mean she should make u unhappy by not assisting with chores n omugwo tins.prior to my delivery i decided n discussed with hubby dat his mum should come for omugwo first,since she is stronger,after she leaves my mum can now come,by den i would hav been strong 2do things myself,family members n friends nearly crucified me o,but i took my stand because i know it's me dat will suffer if i listen 2dem.Had cs,mum inlaw landed 3days later,loaded with almost evrytin frm d village,she pampered me ehn,i barely touched dd,xcept 2 breastfeed her,i even left dd twice n travelled,she pounds yam 4 me almost everyday,she is in her 60's,b4 we wake in d mrng,breakfast is ready,house is tidied,bath water 4us is ready,she kept shouting at me 2take tins easy dat it is Cs i had so i should carry my body like egg till properly healed,dat shis dia 2help me with evrytin,d list is endless o,she stayed for 4months +.
The very day she left,my mum came,hhhm!Dat was wen i knew dat stress n chores can make one go crazy,but i had already prepared myself ahead,i bathed dd for d 1st time myself,was doing evrytin myself n had 2 cook special meals 4mum 3times daily ,did evrytin in d house myself,got 2 a point had 2 appoint her 2 sum light chores in d house,(she has health issue,so doesn't nid much stress)she is trying now n everybody is happy unlike b4 when i do her cooking,serving,laundry,cleaning n other things.
So my point is u no ur mum better,if she cannot 4 any reason do d things dat omugwo demands,pls let her go so dat sum1 who can wil come,den mayb later she can come.
Pls try n establish dat bond,it mayb hard at dis stage in life,but its very important,i understand where u r coming from.

Yesitsme before you take any decision, talk to your mother.
Perhaps she doesn't want to seem too poky.
Tell her you need her help.
She might not know she is doing anything wrong. In her mind now she is doing omugwo.

My mom was better than my MiL.
My MiL that was struggling to carry baby......
For some weird reason, she liked disturbing baby to cry.... ,mom said she was checking out the tongue or so, but as the baby grew, she was a really good sitter.
I found out she did better with them older.

All this good mum and mil's stories are sweeting me o. Lol, but in all, I still endure for my LO so that he can start creche at a later time. These experiences i believe will make us better mums and mils when we ourselves are ready for omugo tins

Abiagirl777:
Ma'm Yesistme ,mamas have said it all,just don't expect much from anyone.some will even come to make you more depressed like my MIL [b]whro told me she came to rest not work.[/b]she'd watch African Magic Igbo from morning till night,never cooked,never washed,bathed my baby only twice in her 1 myth stay,will not even carry the baby self.I started work but will prepare her breakfast n lunch bnefore leaving with mybaby.
told me that my mum did a bad work by not lifting my ds's buttocks with hotwater(whatever that means),summary my dh told her to leave and we had peace.
do the ones you can do and leave the rest till whenever you can.

Nearly fell off my bed laughing

Mama cent come and kee hersef oh!!!

Chai we wives don see something!

babythug:


Nearly fell off my bed laughing

Mama cent come and kee hersef oh!!!

Chai we wives don see something!

I don laugh tire, i never do my work for office this morning, oya more mum and mil stories to calm us down abeg

tnk u iomoge2.

We too got her food.i love her spirit mehn n the way she writes so funny. Pristine loves her rice like mad.she has finished dt one since.na beans remain. The pap not so much.maybe becos i still make her normal brownpap.

For the mother in law tin. The both of them tried for me.infact i never knew i had a child till dy both left .my mum left when baby was 3months plus and my mother inlaw continued till baby was 6months. They both too much.although my mum took over my kitchen completely.i was just eating n sleeping and clubbing with my husband .
But i had to resume.market n cooking when MIL came but everyother tin she took care of. I just pump n kept for baby n sashed away to work.

Yestime i guess u dont have a close bond with ur mum.but u can kindly tell her how u feel.if she still dont change.look for help o.before depression sets in. God help u.

iomoge2:


I just bought o.
Lol.
Tried d pap and ended up drinking it.
Hubby says i will end up drinking all. Lol.

She has even refused d gerber rice.
We r back to milk.... pumped booby n aptamil.
Waiting patiently 4 6months by then i would have consumed all this n get her hers.

The seller is on instagram.
Augustsecrets_toyin
0806 265 6798
She even sells in the UK and USA

Her pap is dried like powder
She even has beans.... peeled n grinded.

Chio.
Am not her marketer o.
Am just awwed at d entrepreneur spirit.

Thanks sisto, i got it from instagram yesterday and will get one of her bundles to try. We wanna start solids at 5 months. It took the pediatrician to advise we start @ 5 months for my mum to keep quiet. My mum has almost turn it to fight cos i haven't given him cereal and ogi since he clocked four months.

Gr8fulHeart:
tnk u iomoge2.

.see all d kiddies range

iomoge2:

.see all d kiddies range

Pls is it working.pristine is loosing her back hair becos she sleeps on her back.we dont wash with shampoo everyday.jus weekly but we cowash with oliveoil conditioner every night and jus pour water in the morning.
The hair is still soft n curly but it is turning punk as her back side is getting patches.pls help

Let me add my own,
My mum will do every thing and anything,
but my MIl will take the baby and watch african magic yoruba things,help me bath the baby.
but you will serve three square meals daily.

My SIL, also prefers my mum to her mum,
her mum will even advise her to call her MIL
cos she is busy with her business, she will just pop in and out.
they both leave in the same state.

No one is born perfect, just use wisdom to use other people's strength to your advantage.

rofemiguwa:


Pls is it working.pristine is loosing her back hair becos she sleeps on her back.we dont wash with shampoo everyday.jus weekly but we cowash with oliveoil conditioner every night and jus pour water in the morning.
The hair is still soft n curly but it is turning punk as her back side is getting patches.pls help

i love the way you take time to arrange your girl's food
i wish to do the same.
1. but i see lots of cereals in the pix above- how do you know which to take per day.
2. how do u make the mashed rice please? any sauce, salt etc

i still go over your list and try to do same.
Am COPY mama rofemiguwa's style.
sorry about your sister.

Good day mamas!
Please I need your help, my baby of four months pooed this morning and I notice some greenish particles on her poo. Please what could be the cause of it? and what could be the treatment?

Pls help a first time mama







cc Mummy iomoge2 and other Sabi mamas

it could be a sign of under feeding,may be breast is not enough again

rofemiguwa:


Pls is it working.pristine is loosing her back hair becos she sleeps on her back.we dont wash with shampoo everyday.jus weekly but we cowash with oliveoil conditioner every night and jus pour water in the morning.
The hair is still soft n curly but it is turning punk as her back side is getting patches.pls help

Mine is punk... like her fathers hair cut

But i noticed d differnece as the bald spot is having hair now.
Then i reduce the laying on back.

U can try it or get palm kernel oil. I got some yesterday.
Cos even that their baby oil is not 4 hair.... its 4 body.

iomoge2:


Mine is punk... like her fathers hair cut

But i noticed d differnece as the bald spot is having hair now.
Then i reduce the laying on back.

U can try it or get palm kernel oil. I got some yesterday.
Cos even that their baby oil is not 4 hair.... its 4 body.

.

She has bin using coconut oil from day one.it started when MIL started placing her on her back to sleep.prior to that.my mom placed her on her tummy and sides.

Will buy their product den.i even got sebamed shampoo.that one is worse dries her hair like mad.thank God na weekly shampoo tinz.her hair for don strong kakaraka.

babyboom:


i love the way you take time to arrange your girl's food
i wish to do the same.
1. but i see lots of cereals in the pix above- how do you know which to take per day.
2. how do u make the mashed rice please? any sauce, salt etc

i still go over your list and try to do same.
Am COPY mama rofemiguwa's style.
sorry about your sister.

Thanks.my baby is not a cereal fan so we try out different brand for flavor.she doesnt have sweet tooth.she hates banana,sweetpotatoes. Her best fruits r avacado,agbalumo and orange.the gehl is so local.hehehehe.

So i read labels.any cereal with sugar u can be rest assured she wont take it.so the cereals r just manily one dish per day.so she takes gerber today,cow n gate tomorrow,cerelac d next like dt.

For her creche pack.
The cereal is normally the first. Then mashed irish potato n egg yolk .next. Den pap.then avacado for snack.then d grinded brown rice from august secrets.i normally make it with. Little palmoil,crayfish,ish and ginger.
U can buy brown rice n grind ursef with ur drymill blender.

So i switch it up.sometimes i make mashed noodles or spaghetti. Or yam.
She likes rice n ofeakwu too.thats banga.and coconut rice.
I normally make her own sauce.tomatoes,titus,scentleaf,ginger,garlic,carrot,greenpepper,pepper,salt,spring onions,crayfish salt.all grinded together.and fried in sunfloweroil.which wat we use at home.
So when i make her noodles or spaghetti or yam.i jus remove some n put ontop and mash mash.food is ready.

After creche.she suck breast.join us to eat what ever we r eating for dinner.
Bed time.suck breast all tru the night.

Following morning routine continues.hehehehe.

I mostly work around family food sha.
Cos i pack lunch for hubby too.
So if ayam making spaghetti.i jus pull out hers n add her sauce.
Like dt like dt.

rofemiguwa:


Thanks.my baby is not a cereal fan so we try out different brand for flavor.she doesnt have sweet tooth.she hates banana,sweetpotatoes. Her best fruits r avacado,agbalumo and orange.the gehl is so local.hehehehe.

So i read labels.any cereal with sugar u can be rest assured she wont take it.so the cereals r just manily one dish per day.so she takes gerber today,cow n gate tomorrow,cerelac d next like dt.

For her creche pack.
The cereal is normally the first. Then mashed irish potato n egg yolk .next. Den pap.then avacado for snack.then d grinded brown rice from august secrets.i normally make it with. Little palmoil,crayfish,ish and ginger.
U can buy brown rice n grind ursef with ur drymill blender.

So i switch it up.sometimes i make mashed noodles or spaghetti. Or yam.
She likes rice n ofeakwu too.thats banga.and coconut rice.
I normally make her own sauce.tomatoes,titus,scentleaf,ginger,garlic,carrot,greenpepper,pepper,salt,spring onions,crayfish salt.all grinded together.and fried in sunfloweroil.which wat we use at home.
So when i make her noodles or spaghetti or yam.i jus remove some n put ontop and mash mash.food is ready.

After creche.she suck breast.join us to eat what ever we r eating for dinner.
Bed time.suck breast all tru the night.

Following morning routine continues.hehehehe.

I mostly work around family food sha.
Cos i pack lunch for hubby too.
So if ayam making spaghetti.i jus pull out hers n add her sauce.
Like dt like dt.

Coool!! Am already salivating with d combi. I no ur gal will b orobo by nw. Thanks to mummy...

rofemiguwa:


Thanks.my baby is not a cereal fan so we try out different brand for flavor.she doesnt have sweet tooth.she hates banana,sweetpotatoes. Her best fruits r avacado,agbalumo and orange.the gehl is so local.hehehehe.

So i read labels.any cereal with sugar u can be rest assured she wont take it.so the cereals r just manily one dish per day.so she takes gerber today,cow n gate tomorrow,cerelac d next like dt.

For her creche pack.
The cereal is normally the first. Then mashed irish potato n egg yolk .next. Den pap.then avacado for snack.then d grinded brown rice from august secrets.i normally make it with. Little palmoil,crayfish,ish and ginger.
U can buy brown rice n grind ursef with ur drymill blender.

So i switch it up.sometimes i make mashed noodles or spaghetti. Or yam.
She likes rice n ofeakwu too.thats banga.and coconut rice.
I normally make her own sauce.tomatoes,titus,scentleaf,ginger,garlic,carrot,greenpepper,pepper,salt,spring onions,crayfish salt.all grinded together.and fried in sunfloweroil.which wat we use at home.
So when i make her noodles or spaghetti or yam.i jus remove some n put ontop and mash mash.food is ready.

After creche.she suck breast.join us to eat what ever we r eating for dinner.
Bed time.suck breast all tru the night.

Following morning routine continues.hehehehe.

I mostly work around family food sha.
Cos i pack lunch for hubby too.
So if ayam making spaghetti.i jus pull out hers n add her sauce.
Like dt like dt.

Coool!! Am already salivating with d combi. I no ur gal will b orobo by nw. Thanks to mummy...

Jennykoko3009:


Coool!! Am already salivating with d combi. I no ur gal will b orobo by nw. Thanks to mummy...

Coool!! Am already salivating with d combi. I no ur gal will b orobo by nw. Thanks to mummy...

Not really.she is jus healthy.her foods are portion controlled.dy r normally not more than 120ml. She loses interest fast.so jus small small den every. 2 to 3 hrs