fastgyal:
Your dad is simply trying to shy away from his responsibilities. The only time he's permitted to make this statement is if he has fulfilled what he owes you all(education). Maybe you guys ain't making he happy and he decided to act this way. OP are you in school? and as for you elder brothers. . .has he settled them at a point in time and they didn't yield anything positive?

am a proud Ssce graduate. Non of my sibling attained Nce not to talk of Bsc or any as such.

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

Same here bro,
If I start my own story eeeh

The best decision he could have taken is not to have children at all,
so that he can enjoy his life.

So u bought car under ur papa roof?? abi u bought a car while living at someones mercy

stagger:
OP, I bought my first car at 25. Paid my first rent at 26. By 29 I was married.

Wake up!

obowunmi:


Your FATHER should NOT be having children if he had no intention of taking care of them. Seriously, children need guidance and support. No wonder suicide rates amongst young people are so HIGH.

should not be having hmm Yoruba English

luwathobi:
should not be having hmm Yoruba English

are you lost?

kimbra:
Your father is the most selfish human on earth. You should as well relay to him to keep aside money for his burial arrangement, 'cause if I were in your shoes, I won't spend a penny from my hard earned money in his burial. Even your mum isn't helpful, they suit each other for a couple.

The OP is 21, and his brothers are older.

They're old enough to make their own ends meet. They're grown ass men.

Nigerians love slacking off and blaming others for it.

frenzyduchess:
if it were possible I would,but our stupid culture will not permit it ,it just makes me angry when I think of it

what if I adopt you

It might be a simple ploy by your parents to make you guys brace and take responsibility for yourselves. Mum's don't usually support things like this, so I suspect something.

We live in a crazy where confusion has taken over many minds. It is difficult to convince a person lost in his own thoughts, in his own world.

SalamRushdie:
You are 21 go out and hustle ....dude by 25 I bought a car for my my mum. ..I really like your dad he has tried ..I left my dad's home at 11 and I haven't spent 3 weeks there till today

easy for you to say... I am 20 and most of the jobs outside now are based on connection , I tried to stay away from my friends because most of them are into yahoo , I took a teaching job that only pay 13k per month

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

try get a job and pay your own way.. There is plenty people that work and go to school.. Ur 21 u should have been out of the house long time ago..

Your dad noticed that you guys are being overdependent with the understanding of your mum they both decided to awaken the sleeping giant in you guys.

You'll have to face it. Its your cross and I pray you will come out of it stronger and become useful to yourselves and the society at large.

I can't fathom why a Father would do this to his son.
A Man who thinks he will die very soon then vacate his responsibility should not have any business bringing children to the world.in the first place, he should not give birth at all and enjoy his Life to the fullest. As a Father your job is to train your child to the highest possible level; this will be an advantage to him/her in Life.

Legalbeing:

am a proud Ssce graduate. Non of my sibling attained Nce not to talk of Bsc or any as such.

That's bad. your dad owes you your education at least you should attain a BSC. maybe you guys should try organize a family meeting and discuss the issue on ground

Selfish poor man

KELVIN086:
i think your father just wants you guys to be strong and independent , in the long run you would come back to thank him.

My thoughts too. I know someone who says his son should have a clear definition of his future by 18years. He says from 18, he will start telling the child that it won't be long before he withdraws completely. He said he will try his possible best, all within his power in bringing him up but he plans to hands off once he clocks 18. OP's dad might be reasoning that he wants his sons to be independent.

it's funny! but some thing similar happened like this in my street, true life story I dey yarn u.
d man sold his own house, for about 18m some yrs back. rented a flat with his wife n children, bought one tokunbo jeep. eating his money anyhow from one eatery to another. The man didn't last up to two years, he died.
some said it has to do with cult n all that. good thing some of his children are doing well now. but it wasn't easy for them at a point

NevetsIbot:
what if I adopt you

bring the adoption papers so i can sign

I think he's having a kinda mid-life crisis.
Plus your dad is myopic...what's enjoyment and happiness to him really.
Is it sex,food,drink or what?
If he can't see happiness in raising his children as his legacy, then he is really quite a failure.

Funny enough his type end up living long to regret their actions.
Take it up as a challenge on yourself to show him what true happiness is really in future.

blingxx:


easy for you to say... I am 20 and most of the jobs outside now are based on connection , I tried to stay away from my friends because most of them are into yahoo , I took a teaching job that only pay 13k per month

Sorry if I sound insensitive there but I was only trying to tell him at 21 his dad didn't owe him nothing again except prayers and he should try and be like like you who is 20 and already has a respectable job

DON'T MIND YOUR DAD HE'S BANGING MY COUSIN HARDER THAN HER MAIN BOYFRIEND.

frenzyduchess:
bring the adoption papers so i can sign

..... I wish.

Yoshy:
It might be a simple ploy by your parents to make you guys brace and take responsibility for yourselves. Mum's don't usually support things like this, so I suspect something.

Yes o. Mum no go gree lailai. They must have discussed it and agreed on this method to get you guys tough.

Dude, you're 21 for gods sakes, be a man.

At 18 you should be on your own.

let him book coffin and keep.

NevetsIbot:
..... I wish.

do I then take it that you were mocking me ,you think its funny to joke about people's situation?

softiebae:

selective for some igbo men, they believe as a male child you should start taking care of yourself when you become an adult

I would have thought such father should have set the male child on a good standing... Education wise and whatnot.

Tell him the president of this country is 72 and still kicking, probably aspiring for 2019





Death has nothing to do with age or illness

nkemdi89:
That's social media for you, almost everyone behind their qwerty pad forming independence, funny most of them are still under parents roof collecting daily stipends . unfortunately you exposed yours.

lolz.. I was thinking am the only one here observing the comment.. some even said they made millions at 18, in Nigeria?, where 18yrs are still struggling to write jamb?, I wonder what they benefit lying to others.

21 yrs old man in Nigeria is still an undergraduate, only few graduate at 20 or 19, so how do you expect a 21 yrs old guy to make millions, unless you are advising him to do yahoo yahoo.

The op can learn a good hand work. so before he gets to 26 he might master it, 27 he can fend for himself.

OludolamiWasen:


Yes o. Mum no go gree lailai. They must have discussed it and agreed on this method to get you guys tough.

You get my point. It's actually a good thing to brace up, get used to start taking care of yourself.

frenzyduchess:
do I then take it that you were mocking me ,you think its funny to joke about people's situation?

how about this? Since i completed my ssce, Dad stopped handing me money. Any cash I spend now is my hard earned money. I can sponsor myself to do somethings now. I'm about to start another venture now.

See? I havn't had it rosy also. I appreciate dad for it.

Ion mock people... I was just trying to make the issue light and brighten your face with a smile or two tonight.