OludolamiWasen:


My thoughts too. I know someone who says his son should have a clear definition of his future by 18years. He says from 18, he will start telling the child that it won't be long before he withdraws completely. He said he will try his possible best, all within his power in bringing him up but he plans to hands off once he clocks 18. OP's dad might be reasoning that he wants his sons to be independent.

Legalbeing:

Even when i scored jamb cut off mark, wrote post utme scored below wit the option to change course but i was told the money left is for me and my wife..

NevetsIbot:
how about this? Since i completed my ssce, Dad stopped handing me money. Any cash I spend now is my hard earned money. I can sponsor myself to do somethings now. I'm about to start another venture now.

See? I havn't had it rosy also. I appreciate dad for it.

Ion mock people... I was just trying to make the issue light and brighten your face with a smile or two tonight.

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

delpee:


I thought so too but when you consider that two sons are out to unknown places, a parent should be concerned. You can make a child sit up and work for his money without going this far. They are adults that can be spoken to such that they understand the issue at hand and key into the proposed solution.

We've seen cases of children abandoning their parents in old age and giving the excuse of having fended for themselves while the parents enjoyed. I believe that it's wise to have just the number of kids you can cater for.

@Op
Maybe there's something missing in your story though. Hope we're not judging wrongly based on incomplete information.

frenzyduchess:
you missed the part where i since I was born, the man even wanted me aborted self, well, I don't appreciate my dad for nothing, he was and is still as useless as the p in psychology to me, I have reserved all my appreciation for my God sent mother

kimbra:
Your father is the most selfish human on earth. You should as well relay to him to keep aside money for his burial arrangement, 'cause if I were in your shoes, I won't spend a penny from my hard earned money in his burial. Even your mum isn't helpful, they suit each other for a couple.

NevetsIbot:
i saw that part. I always try to omit any part I believe is very sensitive about others but seeing tat you brought it up, i'll pass my view.

Your ultimate revenge on him will be making it big time. He can have the bride price like your culture demans but that's all he's getting. No more! He might feel sorry for all he's done sooner or later, be ready to forgive him... No! Forgive him now and melt that grudge in you. Simply enjoy life to the fullest. The fact that someone is your father doesn't mean your fate is tied to him.

SalamRushdie:
You are 21 go out and hustle ....dude by 25 I bought a car for my my mum. ..I really like your dad he has tried ..I left my dad's home at 11 and I haven't spent 3 weeks there till today

frenzyduchess:
I hold no grudge against him o,there are things he did I can't even say here, but i had self therapy, and realised he wasn't even worth it,its just this year that i decided to make my self scarce, i used to call him once in a while even though he has never called me since I was born,I even doubt he has my number stored in his phone, so why should I even allow such a person ruin my joy,its just so unfortunate that one doesn't choose their parents ,I will never choose my father,and I pray I never get to marry a man like him

bencarson007:
. Your parents are delusional... As parents, it is their responsibility to nurture you guys to success... Afterall, you did not beg to be born... Which kain mofos we have as parents these days eh ? I can't abandon my kids until they stand firm... That makes me a TRUE FATHER

lollarj:
I showed this thread to someone just now and we immediately started laughing....
Unless there is afamily curse or hes hiding a terminal medical diagnosis, your dad is a COMEDIAN and a asshole too !

stagger:
OP, I bought my first car at 25. Paid my first rent at 26. By 29 I was married.

Wake up!

bencarson007:
. Your parents are delusional... As parents, it is their responsibility to nurture you guys to success... Afterall, you did not beg to be born... Which kain mofos we have as parents these days eh ? I can't abandon my kids until they stand firm... That makes me a TRUE FATHER

NevetsIbot:
Really sorry dear. Glad you're moving on now. The goal in life now is to be happy. I hope it didnlt affect you socially?

dingbang:
Lol to me your father is the most straightfoward person on planet earth.....

Nina4u:
so you mean that if he don't got a job at 45 years of age its your responsibility to have him live in your house eat your food and by clothes for him..and give him an allowens.. Pay for transport and everything else? Is your head correct?

frenzyduchess:
i had a depressing childhood, even contemplated suicide in secondary school then, had a secluded social life,it even affected my relationship, but hey that's the past.some pains run too deep that your nerves don't react anymore, I just wish i could have gotten help earlier.we seriously need to embrace therapy in this country, a lot of people had troubled child hood and are walking with one psychological disorder or the other,I am just lucky I got over mine,not everyone is that Lucky, some try to bury it only to be triggered by a small situation

NevetsIbot:
That's sad. Well.. Ion wanna put too much of my personal life on social media.... I've got a lot to share with ya buh..... Let's just leave it at that and move past this sad topic.

The night's cold here. I bet it is there.

bencarson007:
. You are an idiot... Who mentioned age... If you can't make ur kids stand by 30, then you have failed... And for insulting me, is ur brain paining you or is ur sense finished... Did I insult u or do I know u from somewhere b4? We get beef b4 or ur brain don wash ? I merely stated what I will do as a father... E no concern you so make u just shut up there b4 thunder fire you...

chibuzorAbia:


Sorry to be rude but you are talking like an idiot! Go and hustle for yourself else hunger and poverty will hammer your life. Olodo! Your mates are already out there doing for themselves.

frenzyduchess:
the rains are here, cold nights will be frequent, but i have seen colder nights I thought I will freeze thanks to jos

Nina4u:
hahahahahaha thunder abi? You are funny and no I did not insult you so if you took it that way I apologize.. I was asking if there was an age bracket how far and much ur suppose to support your kids..

NevetsIbot:
lol.. Don't tell me Jos is cold.... Always thought the north was all sun and no rain. Lol

Efewestern:


lolz.. I was thinking am the only one here observing the comment.. some even said they made millions at 18, in Nigeria?, where 18yrs are still struggling to write jamb?, I wonder what they benefit lying to others.

21 yrs old man in Nigeria is still an undergraduate, only few graduate at 20 or 19, so how do you expect a 21 yrs old guy to make millions, unless you are advising him to do yahoo yahoo.

The op can learn a good hand work. so before he gets to 26 he might master it, 27 he can fend for himself.