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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by firebaby(f): 2:54am On Jun 06, 2017
Talk2Bella:
Hate is a strong word, I don't believe someone can dislike u to the point of hate, they might just not like something about you.

some people you can never please, while some just needs a lil bit of oiling.

back to your question yes I can if he isn't a mummy's boy and of she stays far away from us but I'd always love her, buy her things love her as I'd love my mother but from a distance with hope that one day she would see I love her kid genuinely and her too.

maybe then just maybe she can start loving me



If you buy her the world it won't change her hatred for you

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by firebaby(f): 2:58am On Jun 06, 2017
nkemdi89:
Due to her hatred towards the lady, some mother-in laws don't mind going diabolical either they kill their son or render him useless so that you won't enjoy him. It's a big NO.


Hmmmm
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by tabithababy(f): 3:32am On Jun 06, 2017
Never. Marriage is not by force

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by begwong: 4:44am On Jun 06, 2017
Why not? You are marrying the man and not his mum!
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by emzeezlee(m): 5:15am On Jun 06, 2017
OchoL:
No matter how good or bad your MIL is, be assured that she won't live forever. Focus on your own home.
ahn ahn eyin buru gan oo..so it is naw you that will leave foreva abi
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by gondon(m): 5:33am On Jun 06, 2017
dumo1:

Ichie may you live long. You are a truly wise man and may you impart wisdom and knowledge to your children through Christ who strengthens you. Amen.

I greet you.
After marriage, my mum CAN NEVER be my first mum. Remember its always good for mothers to accept a lady once she is introduced, Bcoz failure to do so and after d whole struggle and she finally enters; 85% of d ladies will do a payback game.




Today is my mother 51st Birthday.

Likes plz

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by TinaAnita(f): 6:57am On Jun 06, 2017
ugofr:
do not ever make the mistake of discussing ur home affairs with anybody, you will be surprised by future actions though some will be unintentional but trust me, you might be ashamed.


You have a point but I don't think mother in-law is just anybody. She knows her son better than I and she was there for him before my arrival. I don't want to start seeing a mother in-law as an intruder as it would affect my relationship with her negatively. Point noted

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by toprealman: 7:13am On Jun 06, 2017
AngelicDamsel:
Wetin consign mi wid her? Na she I wan marry? Shebi she go die leave us............................







Wait ooooo, Karma na mumu o... What if my own son come marry girl wey I no approve like 'I get only one child( son ) and e wan marry barren woman because of love'









Honestly......................








I no go marry u if ur mama say no , simple!
You must be a horrible person! What do you mean by not allowing your son to marry a barren person? Are you GOD? I pity your future DIL.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by Nobody: 7:15am On Jun 06, 2017
Yes, if only we move far away, like another state or country.bsome MIL have no particular reason they hate their DIL ,they just hate the idea of another woman having the attention of their son

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by stuffs4me(m): 7:34am On Jun 06, 2017
nkemdi89:
Due to her hatred towards the lady, some mother-in laws don't mind going diabolical either they kill their son or render him useless so that you won't enjoy him. It's a big NO.



Gerarahia!

People are talking about real life experience, you as here telling us some nollywood movie you saw.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by joyfullyjoyous(f): 7:36am On Jun 06, 2017
Of course I will still marry him then try as much as possible to be nice to her in my own ways. I Will put her in my mum's position and will always see her that way cos according to the law,she is also my mum so all she does won't affect me too much emotionally. If she's my biological mother and she hates me won't I try to win her love? I will be respectful,kind and also make her realise how much her son means to me. Sure,at the end,I may end up being her favourite daughter-in-law.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by olasaad(f): 7:45am On Jun 06, 2017
OchoL:
No matter how good or bad your MIL is, be assured that she won't live forever. Focus on your own home.


and who told u u are going to leave longer than her.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by Nobody: 7:48am On Jun 06, 2017
joyfullyjoyous:
Of course I will still marry him then try as much as possible to be nice to her in my own ways. I Will put her in my mum's position and will always see her that way cos according to the law,she is also my mum so all she does won't affect me too much emotionally. If she's my biological mother and she hates me won't I try to win her love? I will be respectful,kind and also make her realise how much her son means to me. Sure,at the end,I may end up being her favourite daughter-in-law.
How will your own mother hate you?
My sis, it's better your MIL loves and accept you rather than forcing a relationship with her. For how long will you cope? If you have a personal experience(maybe from Aunt or friends), you will understand that it's better your MIL accept you and not a forced relationship. Marriage is a long thing and guys/men don't joke with their mum!
OlujobaSamuel:
huh.....
there is a yoruba proverb; aya/oko buruku se ni, ana buruku ni ko su won(you can have a bad wife/husband but do not try have a bad inlaw)
A very powerful proverb. It's better a lady marry from a family that loves her to avoid stories that touches the heart. I pray and wish for a MIL that I will call my 2 mum, my second family which I can run to.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by MrNice001(m): 7:52am On Jun 06, 2017
Really I see often "a mother in law hates a daughter in law". It had same for me I have a girlfriend for a long time. She and my mum know each other very well. To my disappointment, my mum strongly hates with red eyes toward my girlfriend despite my engagement already successfully, but my girlfriend stays with me never being jittted in.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by Oluwatoyeen(m): 7:55am On Jun 06, 2017
Love conquers all
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by PeacenLove2: 9:36am On Jun 06, 2017
Women please don't marry such a man. Save yourselves!!! Rrrrrrrrrrrun!!!! cheesy cheesy cheesy

Seriously, it's disaster in the making. I wouldn't unless the relationship improves and there's genuine hope for more improvement along the line. Otherwise, it will be wiser to let go for the benefit of all stakeholders especially the poor innocent children. They deserve a happy home. A bad mother in law will guarantee 100% life of misery. Wife is unhappy, husband is unhappy, the children certainly won't be happy.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by PeacenLove2: 9:44am On Jun 06, 2017
firebaby:




If you buy her the world it won't change her hatred for you

Especially if she is like some women who just hate other women for no specific reason at all. No matter what you do, sorry, she won't change her feelings towards you. We have seen many instances. Many times, the MIL succeeds in getting rid of the woman. So avoid the heartache and dodge that bullet. Some terrible MIL are great mothers to their sons so you don't expect much help from the poor boy. It is what it is.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by PeacenLove2: 9:51am On Jun 06, 2017
Padiga:
You underestimate the power some women have over their sons and their ability to make life a living hell for a hated daughter in law.


This has nothing to do with school cert.


Women are wicked, not to talk of women with grudge.


Some. Some women are wicked. I can testify.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by Adesolomon2014(m): 9:55am On Jun 06, 2017
OchoL:
No matter how good or bad your MIL is, be assured that she won't live forever. Focus on your own home.

Kilode, u wan kill her b4 her time ni, assumin she lives xo xo long nko o?
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by Adesolomon2014(m): 9:57am On Jun 06, 2017
The MIL hating my wife is different from my family as a whole hating her. Putting myself in my wife shoes, I will try as much as possible to reduce any rift btw dem.
As she(my wife) is to me, so is my mother to my father.

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by itzneek(m): 10:18am On Jun 06, 2017
Hadez:


What love? You r not a woman so you cnt understand


He may not be a woman but he is absolutely right. I am an only son. My mother 'DID' not approve of my wife. In fact, she and my 2 sisters no attend our wedding. But 2 years and one Baby after...... She can't stop calling 'Her Wife' on phone like kilode

I no even know wen last I see her missed call sef

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by nkemdi89(f): 10:26am On Jun 06, 2017
stuffs4me:




Gerarahia!

People are talking about real life experience, you as here telling us some nollywood movie you saw.
Mumu what do you know about life?
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by fippycbk(m): 10:44am On Jun 06, 2017
stuffs4me:




Gerarahia!

People are talking about real life experience, you as here telling us some nollywood movie you saw.

I was about to say same.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by fippycbk(m): 10:45am On Jun 06, 2017
nkemdi89:

Mumu what do you know about life?

He no insult you na. grin
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by multicolored(f): 10:52am On Jun 06, 2017
No,I will not.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by nkemdi89(f): 10:52am On Jun 06, 2017
fippycbk:


He no insult you na. grin
The ode think say him go dey behind him typing pad dey spew rubbish, make him no cross my part again o .
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by AngelicDamsel(f): 11:14am On Jun 06, 2017
toprealman:
You must be a horrible person! What do you mean by not allowing your son to marry a barren person? Are you GOD? I pity your future DIL.
Just an example, don't take it too serious.....

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Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by fippycbk(m): 11:26am On Jun 06, 2017
nkemdi89:

The ode think say him go dey behind him typing pad dey spew rubbish, make him no cross my part again o .

He no insult you sha.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by addictiv(m): 11:49am On Jun 06, 2017
I am blessed to have my mum. She no just send, she is the only person I know that forgives people before they offend her. She has never for one day called me to talk d wife talk...If I get married, my wife go flex where my mama de. As long as am happy, she is okay. But for my dad, future wifey has to prove herself to get into his good books.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by kamkechi(f): 12:21pm On Jun 06, 2017
Hadez:

Love conquers your mother inlaw maltreatment?
that is if you survive it in the first place.
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by kamkechi(f): 12:24pm On Jun 06, 2017
fippycbk:

He no insult you na. grin
gerarahia no be insult?
Re: Will You Still Marry A Man Whose Mother Hates You? by firebaby(f): 1:05pm On Jun 06, 2017
What about the MIL DAT didn't say anything and pretends a lots until you got married to the son....she later told some pple DAT shebi she wan marry ni....? She go show am...mil saying DAT behind the wife back.....so many DIL 90+% can testify DAT there mil are nothing to write home about especially the one that add diabolical means to it ..... it's only God that can save some one from such... My only advice is for any one who want to get married and sees it afar should run....cos all those mil no dey use only mouth hate they get leg wey long....only God can save the Dil and especially as someone has said if the son isn't mummy's boy you are really good to go....old adage "ni pe...." Ana buruku lo se ni....omi buruku ni o she fe.....may God continue to help us....and please once you get married stay faaaaaaaaarrrrr!!!!!! away from where she lives.....and prayer too tnx

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